Comments by "Lisa Culton" (@LisaCulton) on "Why successful MEN CHEAT: the ring of power corrupts all who touch it" video.

I think that successful men (and successful women) are more likely to cheat because of they may be with a spouse who has not grown as much as they have (if at all) and they are seeking fulfillment from like-minded partners. The attributes that make a person successful are also what could be driving a wedge between them and their spouse who is comfortable with the status quo.
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@KatharinaKaschka Maybe those apprentices, secretaries, prostitutes, etc. have the right mindset and ambitious attitude and are on their way up in the world and that's attractive to successful men. Speaking for myself, I've had very successful (sometimes married) men striving for my attention when I was young and working in restaurants or in retail - fast forward decades and now that I'm very financially successful in my own right, I still have all sorts of men (sometimes married) competing for my attention. It's all about mindset, shared values, physical attraction and how a woman makes him feel.
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@KatharinaKaschka Many men and women stay extremely fit into their 50s and beyond and appreciate having a good-looking partner on their arm when they step out (eye candy). Women are not as fixated on appearance as men - this is a known fact. Women want a man who is wealthy and treats her well, no matter what her particular circumstances are. Wealthy men are a turn-on for women. Again, you're judging people as if you're a mind-reader. I used to do a lot of modeling and acting jobs in the past in addition to working in retail and fast food, but that doesn't mean that I was or am somehow intellectually stunted and incapable of becoming a medical doctor with an international career. For my part, I still look great and successful men of all types don't seem to be deterred by my age (50+). A fitting example here is Jeff Bezos. He left his wife for a very beautiful, accomplished (TV journalist, helicopter pilot, business owner, mother), woman who is 50+. Obviously, he found her to be more suitable to what he wants in life.
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@Nerobyrne I was wondering the same thing.
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@KatharinaKaschka Having a positive mindset and attitude are much more involved than educational attainment or financial/business success. Shared values may include maintaining a fit attractive body, enjoyment of sex, freely enjoying a luxury lifestyle, good communication and conversation, "fitting in" with their circles/being interesting, willing to learn, etc. Unless you know what these people do or talk about behind closed doors, all you have to go on is media portrayals of ditzy exotic dancers and so on. How could you know if a person's husband or wife has been a "driving force" in their success? Maybe that person is a boring, whining, complaining, naysayer who have let themselves go, does nothing towards personal growth, is a cheapskate and withholds sex. You simply can't know.
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@KatharinaKaschka A shared value could be that one person loves to have arm/eye candy and the other person enjoys being arm candy (and loves the attention from the man and other people). Facts. I personally enjoy dressing up and looking good, no matter if I'm in the market for a man or not. I'm not taking anything personally, just speaking from experience. If you are a good-looking, good-natured, interesting woman of any age, you will have successful men (married or otherwise) falling all over you, and it's because of what Dr. Orion says in the video - the men perceive you as "better" in some way than the woman with whom they are in committed relationship or marriage. So, actually, there's nothing to challenge, because the point is that successful men are after "more women/better women". If anything, these men are more often choosing younger women because they may have a better body than their wife who has gotten fat or otherwise let herself go. On the other hand, he may choose a woman of his same age who has maintained her fantastic body. The point being that she is "better". As we know, the bulk of women nowadays, from their teens to middle age don't take care of themselves and are overweight, not attractive at all. The really good-looking women are few and far between in all age groups.
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@KatharinaKaschka Some people are indeed looking for a person who is just as beautiful as they are, others are interested in having a beautiful object or being a beautiful object, but that's beside the point. The point is that if a successful man perceives a woman as better in any way (and he's willing to have an affair), he will go for it. Depending on what the man's perception of "better" is, age, looks, and other things like that may be irrelevant. Some are going for plainer looking women who make them feel special whereas their "beautiful" wife makes them feel like a loser. Some are interested in spending time with a woman who likes to play golf or ski with him because their main squeeze won't. Again, it's what the man perceives as "better". They will even try poaching married women if they feel she is better in some way. Take my word for it.
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@KatharinaKaschka It doesn't matter who replies. People are going for something more / "better" when they decide to have an affair and there are many aspects to what a particular person feels is better. Young, beautiful wives and girlfriends get cheated on all the time. Mature, good looking women also get cheated on all the time. But, I will re-iterate - when very successful men are looking for a new partner or wanting to have a long - term affair, they are seeking to fulfill unmet needs and have more compatibility with the affair partner. It goes deeper than simply age/youth/looks. Men looking for one-night stands are driven by looks/physical attraction.
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@KatharinaKaschka You seem to be very much invested in this topic. I'm assuming it's because your man is "running the streets"? Girl... Let it go.
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@adiosmiamigo How did I form these opinions? I did it not only through reading, but from over 50 years of experience in life and a few marriages (which is something that I believe that many viewers of these videos have not experienced). Because I am in the age group of older men, I can tell you that many express that youth is not the most important factor in choosing a life partner at this point in their lives (age 50+, grown or nearly grown children, post-divorce, looks fading). They want someone with whom they have shared values and interests and who will be with them to the end. They don't want a 25 year old woman (beautiful though she may be) who is going to divorce him when he's 70. Men do not want to be alone.
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@briann5001 Yes, you get it. As you mentioned, you are somewhat "older", at least you are probably older than most who are commenting here and with age, comes shifting priorities. Yes, we all love admiring beautiful bodies and faces, but at some point reality kicks in. If it were true that men are only attracted to, date and marry very young women, then every divorced woman in her 40s and 50s would remain single forever, but the ones who want to get remarried have plenty of options and do remarry.
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@adiosmiamigo They do prefer younger/prettier/beautiful bodies, but that is definitely not the only factor involved when choosing a mate. Not only that, a preference doesn't entitle you to or give you a guarantee of receiving that person or thing that you prefer. I prefer new Rolex watches, but there are none to be had at the authorized dealers, no matter how much money I wave around. 🤣
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@adiosmiamigo Anyway, let us know how it works out for you non-billionaires out there at age 55+ trying to get an 18 -24 year old young woman to go out with you, much less marry you and move into your small apartment or bland suburban home. You can preferences all day long....
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@adiosmiamigo Oh, I'm still married (to the current husband). But that doesn't change the facts that I'm out here, I have the experience and I know what's up. And what's up is that I have just as many successful men chasing me now at age 50+ as I did when I was in my 20s or 30s. Actually, I get much more attention now than I did back then, particularly from men in their late 40s to late 50s. I know a lot of men want to fool young women into thinking that they will become invisible to men after age 30, so they'd better lower their standards and settle, but that's just nonsense. A good looking woman has immense options to age 60 and beyond, in spite of the reported male preference for women aged 18-24. Those are the facts.
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@adiosmiamigo Anyway, do not take your frustrations out on me because you can't get a woman.
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@adiosmiamigo Good looking women will always have plenty of options. If you let yourself go, most likely not. Those are the facts. Men will try to poach you away from your husband. Yes, y'all are out here doing that. I don't need to read anything that is trying to convince me otherwise. Men's actions speak for themselves. I've already reproduced, as have the majority of men in my age group and they are generally not looking for women for reproduction when they themselves are 45+ and already have children. You haven't asked any questions, so I'm obviously not answering any questions. I also have no need to "verify" anything. The facts and truths are already out there.
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@adiosmiamigo Oh, I know what I'm talking about. Go ahead and use your knowledge to get a woman and stop worrying about me. But, I have the sneaking suspicion that going in circles with me is the most discussion that you've had with a real, live woman in ages. Anyway, gotta go. Good luck and God bless.
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@adiosmiamigo 1) All that any woman needs to do in order to keep her husband is not divorce him. 2) a paper published in 2015 with the title " In Sickness and in Health? Physical Illness as a Risk Factor for Marital Dissolution in Later Life"
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@jedic5071 uh huh. So Why to beautiful and handsome spouses who are sexy by every standard get cheated on? Because the affair partner is giving them something that they aren't getting from their spouse (and remember, most of the time, people who are having sexual affairs are also having sex with their spouses). hmmmm
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