Comments by "Smoking Crab" (@smokingcrab2290) on "Psychology with Dr. Ana" channel.

  1. Some people you just cannot do this with. I tried so hard to understand my ex wifes perspective and I realized it's not my job to dive into her psyche and try to understand her. She didn't want to be understood. Every time I showed empathy it was just me giving her a blank check to manipulate me with. She'd do everything from rage at me, stonewall, or pull the whole "you should just know" or "you figure it out without me telling you" crap. And then over time (especially after our divorce) I realized it's not my job to understand her. It's her job to make herself understandable to me if she wants genuine resolutions. Some people are just such wretched relational partners they cannot be understood, and making amends is impossible.
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  2. Women have taken a narcissism label way too far. Everyone is a narcissist for pretty much any reason now except themselves
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  3. All modern women do this. Every girl I've ever dated does this, my mother does this, my ex-wife did this. And it is a huge cultural problem because men are always branded as the ones being responsible for a woman's feelings. So if she abuses the man he is to blame, and if he responds in defense, he then becomes the abuser in her mind because he is ultimately still responsible
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  4. My wife did all of this. And I know I was not the abuser because I actually would apologize for my behavior. She never would apologize for hers. It was a constant attack on breaking down my psyche.
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  5. Just means you care about whatever you're doing more than the company of the people. You have different priorities.
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