Comments by "Harry Mills" (@harrymills2770) on "Aba N Preach" channel.

  1. People are mad about gender roles that developed because men and women recognized they needed each other's help.
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  2. This coat I'm wearing is "Dry Clean Only." That means it's dirty.
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  3.  @flacsmada  The advice I was given by an older guy who was a big player was "You're gonna get rejected 90% of the time. So just ask 10 or more women." This was back in the '80s, and his numbers were a bit off. "Success" rate was probably more like 20% than 10%, just brazenly walking up to women and asking. But that's kind of the point of being a player. You just have to get over the fear of rejection. Once you do that, you can pretty much hook up on every excursion, online or in person. Even a 5% success rate on Tinder is tremendous success rate for the amount of $$$ and time invested. You make it sound like 5% is BAD, but consider how many times you can reach out through your 'puter from the comfort of your home in an hour. That's WAY less work than going out to a club and buying bar drinks at bar prices. This "Tinder is rough for men" nonsense is a bunch of made-up shit. Of COURSE women can hook up EASIER. It's ALWAYS been that way, in the clubs or online or anywhere else. But any guy who's not afraid of failure can pretty much get a date just by being persistent. It also helps if you don't always ask the prettiest girl at the table, because she's used to the attention and her friend will really dig being chosen over her super-model GF.
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  4. So do the boys, nowadays.
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  5.  @Zedd550  Nah. She's put in some effort to look good, and she does look good, from the cleavage up. She's obviously young, ignorant and arrogant. She's unlikely to find a man patient enough to bring her out of it.
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  6. They prob'ly all gettin' paid.
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  7. Something similar: Intimidator, inquisitor, aloof and "poor me" are the 4 control dramas. It relates more to trying to change the other person's behavior with little dramas you replay over and over and over and over with your partner.
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  8. @KUPO-Kutak-Poly Hindi Yup. It was the only way to get a handle on heroin in their country. When you make drugs a crime you just drive up the price and make them profitable for thugs. Decriminalization cut the drug lords off at the knees. They won by surrendering.
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  9. @Adriana Ghencea Plenty of ignorant people work fulltime. Most of us get jobs so we can stay ignorant.
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  10.  @njux1871  Maybe it's the metro-sexual vibe he gives off with the hair and the eye makeup...
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  11. RussiaGate was the same thing, imho.
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  12. It's definitely satire, but the fruit hangs so low, you don't have to make any of this shit up.
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  13. You could look at it from the other side. The immigrant leveraged their sex appeal to get a green card, professing love, etc., and then when the time comes, they aren't really interested. This looks like a pretty clear-cut case of the guy preying on the loneliness of a frumpy, middle-aged woman to get what HE wants. It's not like the woman is lying about what SHE wants. I see at least one, maybe two lies, here. First, the woman is lying to herself if she thinks that guy is in love with her. Second, the man is lying to her, if he says it's all about how much he loves her and not about getting a get-into-America-free card. He probably tried to pretend as long as he could, and just couldn't fake it any longer. I get the power dynamic concern that Aba's all upset about, but sex is ALSO power. These are two people trying to use the power they have to control the other person. It sounds like the sex power won, with the man getting divorced and continuing to live in America. Finally, what kind of woman brings a much younger man into a home with her teenaged girls?
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  14. She's got a lot of book smarts, but she still hasn't put it all together. Bright, like Candace or Ben Shapiro, so you get fooled into thinking they're more widely read than they are. Give 'em 'til 40, and they'll be better scholars, but basically she's a lot like a graduate student, halfway between what she was and what she's going to become. If all 3 of those kids keep reading, they'll all be quite formidable intellects by 40 or so. I just have no idea of her taste in men. The way she talks, they all fooled around on her. That's probably more likely with her, because she probably sets her sights pretty high, would be my guess. As well-read as she blossoms out and shows, in spots, you gotta figure she's spent a lot of hours with her nose in a book, while all the other kids were out playin' and figurin' out the peckin' order.
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  15. She's a product of society.
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  16. You guys understand free-market capitalism! There's a transactional morality that is in force, because if your product sucks or you over-charge or anything ain't right, you get no return customers. Without return customers, your business fails.
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  17. No-fault divorce and shared custody causes the least harm to the kids. I'd argue it's even less harm than staying in a bad marriage "for the kids." When the folks ain't gettin' along, that's no good example for the young'uns.
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  18. Preach's dad reminds me of my uncle. Didn't land the dream job, but it paid OK and it was steady. He left his work at work, and he spent his free time with his family. His family returned his love. If it was a holiday, they'd all make a pilgrimage to Dad's door. My dad made a similar sacrifice, one year away from graduating with a chemical engineering degree, my oldest brother came along, and Dad became a lab chemist, instead of a chemical engineer. But Dad never gave any real indication that he liked us very much.
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  19. Actually, Republicans bring up MLK, Jr. more often than Democrats. No surprise. They had to fight the Democrats to end slavery and Jim Crow, too.
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  20. You gotta stop people at the door, because otherwise, they might find out that Jordan Peterson makes a lot of sense, with a unique blend of experience and scholarship into human nature and human progress. What lifts us up to something better than we see, now, and what drags us back into serfdom. He's not even that political, except for his extreme skepticism about socialist promises, which puts him on the wrong side of a lot of indoctrinated people.
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  21.  @crawfishking3762  People take your "Give me a break" the wrong way. Not the best way you could've made that point.
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  22.  @BeardMan01  Sarcasm font and other features would make comments too much fun.
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  23.  @papalangham  I can see wanting to ride with the women, but I don't think a biological man should accept any prizes for winning. Just too much of a biological advantage going against biological women.
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  24. Antifa act the same way, only more hostile.
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  25. In the midst (wake?) of #metoo, nobody's bringing up the fact that MEN are more afraid to report rape and abuse than women are.
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  26. "Honestly, I TRIED for Sagittarius, but Momma kicked me out!"
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  27.  @Turgz  I can imagine people noticing different traits being stronger or weaker in people born at different times of the year. It may have originally been a "science" based on observations of a population over long periods of time. My sign and my rising sign seem to fit me to a 'T.' So maybe there's something to it, as far as birth horoscopes go with personality. Remember Chinese medicine was very far advanced for its time, and the treatments they devised were based on centuries of trial and error. The theories they came up with to EXPLAIN why this medicinal root cured that particular ailment were pure fantasy, but the metaphors used may have been in large part a mnemonic device, in the form of a story, in which the herb of a particular name and description defeated the dragon in your belly. They were still doing science. Their theories were predictable and replicable, and so they stood for centuries. That's science!
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  28. I just wish all black and white people understood the amazing progress blacks were making between WW II and the 1960s. They were gaining ground on whites in every arena except maybe ice hockey, which is understandable, because it's a pretty weird game and they make it cold, on purpose. The economic, educational and political-representation gap between blacks and whites was shrinking every year, until Democrats began their war on poverty (after losing the Civil War and the Civil Rights War). After the Great Society kicked in, the POLITICAL gap continued closing, but somehow that didn't trickle down to the PEOPLE. The conversation I'd like to have is "How do we help our disadvantaged, without creating more problems for everybody down the road?" I think charity starts at home, and we're all upside-down when we look to the feds to bring the free money (for which we end up paying double or triple), instead of looking to ourselves and our own community. If you ain't got it at the grassroots level, there's nothin' the feds can do from the top down. It's just really hard to break away from the feds, because they can print money. LOCALLY, you KNOW how much you can afford and what makes sense for you, locally. Helping your neighbor isn't something you should hand off to some stuffed-shirt in coke-bottle glasses getting his jollies from a spreadsheet in Washington, DC.
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  29. Yup. America's a melting pot, where we see just about everything from all around the world. Learning something from everybody is being demonized by a bunch of self-righteous pricks with too much time on their hands and not enough real stuff to worry about. If all you wanna do is go around crying and offended all the time, there's always someone more than happy to give you something to cry about. I know good people when I see 'em, because of the way they handle themselves, and I respect good works. Cultural appropriation is a bunch of BS.
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  30. The girl's running a control drama on you, partly because she's hurt and partly to see if it works. I'm not all New-Age, but there is a good New-Age book called "Celestine Prophecy" that has a lot of good pop psychology in there, in between the mystical hippie-tree-hugger bullshit. I don't go into auras, but I do recommend finding an old tree and sitting with your back to it, or putting a hand on it and contemplating its long life, there. It's very refreshing, welcoming, and humbling. The book breaks down control dramas into 4 types: Intimidator, inquisitor, aloof, and poor me. People who want to control you will slip into one of those 4 roles. Inquisitor is using questioning to get you on the defensive. Intimidator is pretty obvious. Poor me at the other extreme is a way of getting energy by getting people to feel sorry for you (martyrs/victims). The "aloof" is where you try to get the other person to chase after you by pulling away from them. Anyway, it's a pretty good book in some ways. Its main thesis is summed up by a weird metaphor. A complete person is an "O." An incomplete person is a "C." Two C's together, back to back make an "O." It says that there are people STUCK at "C" who think that a mate would make them an "O," when the only way it's going to work is if both partners are already an "O" going into the relationship. If both people have their shit together, then being together is pretty much all good. And if things go bad, the relationship doesn't ever go negative, because both partners are autonomous and will simply leave a bad situation. There's some good common sense in that. And the "C" versus "O" metaphor isn't perfect. Like Preach and his wife being opposites. They're both C's, according to this description, but they capital-C Complement each other, so everything's covered. Dad cut the grass. Mom liked sitting out on the lawn, barefoot, with that grass between her toes. She liked spreading a blanket for a picnic, and he made the picnic spot. Mom had her space of peace and beauty. Dad got cold beer and fried chicken in the shade at the end of the day. So that "O" and "C" thing has its limitations. But even with their complementary skill sets, I get the sense that Preach and his wife are both pretty much O's, emotionally. Heh. If you're into crystals and mystical stuff, you'll REALLY like TCP. The main takeaway for me was the 4 kinds of control drama. I described them well enough that you don't have to even read TCP. You've got the only thing I found useful in it. Breaking it down into those 4 kinds of control dramas makes it easy for you to understand when the conversation's going sideways and this person, whether they realize it or not, is trying to control you, and you can decide not to participate in that drama. With or without a "good-bye," that person is getting your silence and absence. You LET their words be the last that are spoken between you.
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  31. They're saying they need a white man's sloppy seconds.
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  32. Trans movement is cancelling women at every opportunity. It's very sad. You should hear the lesbians on this subject!
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  33.  @brallantp.2812  That's a fucked-up kind of culture.
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