Comments by "Harry Mills" (@harrymills2770) on "Alexander Grace" channel.

They're dysfunctional women. One good woman - and they're getting harder to find - and you'll change your tune. We focus too much on the sex part, when that part is the easiest part of all to get right, between two partners trying to please one another. What's tougher is finding a woman who meets you halfway on all the other stuff. It's also tough for women to find a MAN who'll meet 'em halfway. Fact is, 2 people who are truly teamed-up have it GOOD. Plenty to eat, household tip-top, with time for lots of fun. Add children to that, and it's a lot more work, but if you're a TEAM. the rewards outweigh the demands, especially after those kids grow up and you can relate to them as adults.
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They look like girls in their late teens or early 20s in the year 2019. They're adults by law, but not much else. They don't know much, yet, and much of what they know just ain't so. Most boys (er, young men) their age are very much the same, if not worse. In an earlier day, the world was simpler, and kids their age were better-equipped to strike out on their own.
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Crazy double standard. Women's magazines over the decades RIFE with "psychology of men" and "how to find a man" articles. It's only natural that both sexes want to maximize their success, however they define it. But women are willfully denying the fact that they've manipulated men for millenia, with THEIR weapons. When women see men doing the same manipulations, from their side, that women do, women don't like it. Women LOOK for men they've made gaga with their looks. And they extract favors from them, all the time, and that's OK, right?
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I've never written one of those profiles for myself. How do they go? I'm very smart. My genitals are above-average. I won the state decathlon. I quit MENSA because they were too stupid. How'm I doin'?
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Women's biology makes them more selective by nature. They're risking a whole lot more in an encounter than a man typically is.
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Yes. It's not so much that SHE is necessarily bonding, but that she believe that YOU are bonding to HER. ALL the cosmetics. ALL the romance novels and fairy-tale love that women seem to love so much? Meh. It's all about getting buy-in from us men. We're the sentimental and delicate flowers, who must be wooed by sugar and spice and everything nice. It's the women who take us smelly, hairy apes into their beds who are the real tough guys!
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He's overweight. He can't win this.
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Mr X : Human behavior does not lend itself to propositional mathematics. It's not a truth-value-of-1-or-0 thing. It's nuanced, multivariate, and not all the contributing factors are perfectly understood, let alone present in every instance of either promiscuity or unhappiness.
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I've never gotten to the hugging and kissing part with a woman who didn't want to go all the way, at least not since I was a teenager, where it's understandable. But women who'll cuddle with a grown man and not expect things to matriculate to sex are fools and dangerous to themselves and others. If you don't want sex, then keep things at arm's length and when in doubt, say "I'm not interested in sex." If you're in a strange town, and feeling down, look for women's support groups. And beware of the lesbians there who'll probably want you know what, too.
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He's just being selfish, like all us lifelong-learner types. How do you refine or expand your understanding of something without trying to articulate it and leave yourself open to criticism?
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When I was 30, I had a fling with a 35-year-old woman. If anything, I was the one who was kind of bummed when my infatuation was met with eagerness only when she wanted sex. I was her boy toy, and I was way more hooked on her than she was on me. I got over it, pretty quickly. I think much may depend on whether the woman has children, and how well-provided-for they (and she) are, outside any casual relationships she might have. If she's hit her marks on the traditional indicators of biological success, chances are good that the sex part is just for the pleasure and the rush, and lives in a separate compartment in her brain from her general happiness. Not getting the boy-toy sex is more or less like not getting a piece of chocolate for dessert. She'd LIKE it, but she's not devastated without it.
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I think it's way easy for most men who have a job and some self-respect and confidence, to hook up. I think the big issue for men and women is finding partners who are actually functioning, well-rounded adults. Men have the advantage of being a little hypogamous. A woman doesn't have to be a college-educated professional in order for a man to feel she's worth his time. If she's just a good woman with adult living skills, he can be quite happy with her, even if she doesn't challenge him, intellectually. Some men even prefer it that way. Most women end up despising a man who can't keep up with her, intellectually. All that being said, I don't necessarily believe that the guys on Tinder are getting the raw end of the deal. When I was into clubbing, I quickly learned that you just have to set aside fear of rejection and proposition every woman you WANT to proposition. None of the "No"s matter. You're all about the first "Yes," because that's all you need if you're looking for a night of sex. The math is easy. It's a lot like the kid who knows it doesn't matter how many times Mom says "No," if she eventually might say "Yes," and so he keeps on nagging her even if he doesn't get his way, because the ONE time she relented and said "Yes," out of exasperation. In the club scene, the player flips the question. 9 out of 10 women will say "No," so you just gotta ask at least 10 women, and you score every time you go out. You've just to be brazen and absolutely shameless.
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We all want someone to love us, and most of us look to trade up the minute someone does.
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He's the kind of guy women don't swoon over. Since time immemorial, that guy's ticket to a relationship is showing he's a good guy and a good provider. For her part, she knew what was up after the first date. She wasn't attracted, but she wanted free stuff and support from a stranger. So she played him along. When you're a free woman in her majority and you're giving the guy tongue and cuddling with him, going to movies and holding hands with him, don't play dumb. You know full well what his agenda is, and in today's free society, his expectations aren't unrealistic, unless he's with a woman who'll fake attraction just to cash in on his good will and support. The question I would ask is "What are you doing alone and needing help in a strange city with no friends? You set yourself up for these situations. And if you're not willing to trade your affection for the support of some stranger, what else are you offering to make it a 2-way relationship rather than just a "me-me-me" thing with no strings?
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@DrTrickyBacon : Saved me the trouble. Starts out pretty cogent and then has to blame everything on the Jews. Thing is, you see Jews in all walks of life, and for cultural (THEY WORK HARD AND VALUE EDUCATION), they're over-represented near the top of many/most hierarchies. Being human, they make the same mistakes as other elite assholes. Correlation = Causation to many people who aren't very deep thinkers, et voila! We have an entire group of people to single out and blame for the human condition! How wonderful! How gray and grim and demeaning to all people.
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Dammit. Sorry. I should've read one comment before shouting.
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Audio's for shit.
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Good stuff. There should be more stuff like this, from other people, everywhere across the planet.
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I think it's more to do with whether work is a giant pain in the ass or not. And if you're getting good things done and enjoy working with the people around you, life is good. If work sucks, it makes a man feel oppressed.
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This wasth all well understood thousands of years ago. That's why the institution of marriage was invented. Basically, don't just jump in the sack because you're hot and bothered, but choose your male partner wisely, lock him down in a marriage, and the next generation is better off. Those traditions persisted, because they perpetuated the population of people who followed the way. We in the 20th and 21st century had a keen appreciation for the traditional, but had (and still have) no clear idea how to operate in the absence of those traditions. And whattaya know? Those who stick to the traditions continue to have bigger families and raise better kids, in the embrace of stable relationships. We teach our girls a hodgepodge of tradition and rejection of tradition, but give them no real plan for living their lives and accommodating children in that framework. What we have, now, is a lot of girls who don't know what a good man is, and either don't have children until much later, fewer children, or no children at all. So even if this "new way" is "better," it's losing in the demographics and won't be expressed in future generations, BECAUSE IT'S ANTI-DARWIN TO BEHAVE THE WAY THEY ARE.
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I didn't quite say that right [sic]. We knew enough to reject silly traditions, but we never thought through the consequences of operating in the absence of silly traditions. It is natural for a better understanding to come along. But it's just enough to expose the flaws in the old, and never enough to set up something more self-sustaining and beneficial. This is where our political scientists have really let us down. We see all around us processes that are self-sustaining and good, but we don't think that way in our policies. We treat symptoms, without understanding the complex interplay of chance and human nature. We solve problems and incentivize future problems at the same time. Like the simple farmer who uses pesticide unwisely, creating a chain reaction of negative feedbacks that ruin his soil and his crops and all the life in his vicinity, including his own. And it was all because he went batshit crazy about worms in his tomatoes at the dinner table one evening.
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Short man can't help being short. A fat woman can eat less or exercise more.
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Women have generally been very uninhibited and without shame when it came to their own sex toys. Men have always been a little more repressed. There's always been a social stigma. I can see girls having a giggly conversation about their vibrators, but a man can't admit he even masturbates. I wouldn't be surprised if that double standard extends to women's attitudes towards men, and they will think and not hesitate to say how what they're doing is sick and shows that they're unable to find a REAL woman.
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@Faster Master Blaster : The main reason for a man to join with a woman for the long haul is to raise children. Sexbot can't replace fatherhood.
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I was too lazy to do much else but teach. Seeing the lights go on keeps me going. Happily work overtime, if the time is with engaged students. Because it's not really work. It's all fun stuff. Hate the bureaucracy, and how institutions are adopting these weird corporate ways that relate very little to the learning. More about feelings and how efficiently Information TEchnologies are running, rather than how well they're supporting the creative enterprise of teaching better and better. I built up huge archives of short math lessons to sit right next to everything else I do. Had to go around the institution to really do it. Was flippin' classes 'cuz I could, before it was cool. Capability is there. So of course have tailor made videos on demand for when kids get stuck. Was viewed with suspicion. I just want 'em to master the skills, and as efficiently - quickly - as possible. Asynchronous learning is the wave of the future. Be more efficient at learning and there's more time for socializing, rather than make everybody receive content at the same time at the same pace, at the whim of the person standing there lecturing. Bleah. Nah. When #37 troubles you, bring up video #37, at home, at midnight, when YOU'RE workin' on it...
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OK. My IQ just dropped 50 points listening to this.
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