Comments by "The E Guy" (@theeguy9022) on "Inside the brains of psychopaths | Kevin Dutton, James Fallon, Michael Stone | Big Think" video.

  1. We are always aware of our choices even if we're unsure of why, for instance in my younger years I would know that I want to talk to someone, even if I was unsure of why. Later on I would learn a bit more about myself and with the help of others I could better recognise when I just want to get near a weak person, whenever I'm trying to get them to open up or whenever I'm simply bored out my mind. My partner has taught me to play harmless games with others, like giving hints or making puns about the parts of them I find distasteful, it means they won't notice and I can satisfy myself without anything significant. Boredom is a constant struggle, we're always craving more stimulation and when you lack a large range of emotions it's hard to get it from many things.
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  2. I didn't know for quite some time, I knew I was different but I didn't notice my lack of emotions since I'd never known anything else, yet I figured I was stronger in some way since others seemed to be consumed when they cry. In the end though I found what I was and no I didn't care, it was actually nice to know and to see the divide between me and others.
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  3. We know when we are telling a lie, unless they are also a pathological liar. There will be no signs however as we experience no guilt or shame when doing so, for us it's no different to reading of a script as a professional actor, it will feel completely natural
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  4.  @Badass_Brains  That's a fun idea honestly. People live in this assumption that they know how to see us, or in general that they're more capable than they are, but really how much do you know about the people that sit next to you? and does it really matter?. You could sit next to sweetest soul and then next to me, and I'm sure it would end all the same with each of us getting back to our lives. Perhaps it's just a side effect of no fear, but I can assure you there are less people that want to hurt you than you'd think.
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  5. They are certainly amazing pawns to have, shame how few you seem to get in a run though
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  6. Two years late, but yes. Is the food still warm?
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  7. Bored, so so terribly bored, what else would you expect?. Ultimately though I come to videos like this to go through the comment section and attempt to share my views, experiences and education others on my disorder, and why it isn't how it is often seen
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  8. Agreed, this is why I don't like this test but for the sake of it we can pretend it's true.
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  9. Inexcusable is a strong word, the excuse is obviously that it was something we wanted to do. Even still nobody is innocent, and at the very least most of us end up learning to patch things up when we're done, others simply run away out of fear or guilt for what they've done. It's a good idea to have a firm mindset with us, but understand that it's inherently flawed
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  10. It means they got a bizarre hair cut. The question however probably means you read into things a little too much
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  11. We are often rather intelligent people, so yes we use logical reasoning to find an optimal outcome that most often involves nobody being hurt. Morality though even when taught to us simply doesn't matter, I for one was taught it at a young age due to a Christian upbringing, and yet I feel no shame or remorse regardless of what I do. The reason we may harm another is largely because we have a constant boredom in us, we crave stimulation and often times the best way to go about this is to lie and play with others, though we learn to do this in a harmless way in most cases. Helping others when I have nothing else to do is not an idea I will really understand, unless I respected you then I'd hold no weight to your request to do such a thing and I'd more likely use this information to earn your favour while you're around. If you however were to offer me something providing I can give you proof that I have helped a number of people, then I would be more inclined to do such a thing.
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  12. They must have something against that person in particular then. Personally I'd be more than happy helping someone get a raise if it takes more money out of the idiots in charge, maybe we could even cut a deal for the assistance. No point denying something when you can go along with it while adding a few of your own terms
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  13. "Psychopaths fear being exposed more than death itself" this is.....well to say untrue would be an understatement. A fundamental part of us is that we are almost if not entirely fearless, people have found me out before, and in all honesty it's nothing but a small nudge to get things back to normal, just a "Ha, yea people say that sometimes, doesn't really bother me though, oh right, is your car fixed yet by the way?".
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  14. That's certainly a nice view of it, but understand that it's not any emotional love. Our love is an investment of time, effort and other such things that we value. Relationships were incredibly difficult for me at first as I found that I could have someone easy enough, I could make them feel amazing and that excited me but it never lasted, they'd always feel empty afterwards and I'd typically substitute it with gifts. Essentially with a psychopath you have to understand that we cannot provide that deeper feeling of love or compassion, all we can do is listen and watch, give you the things you want and hope that it might make you feel better. It's nice to be loved though, even if I don't understand it fully it's nice seeing the way they let themselves be vulnerable with me, it must be so comfortable.
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  15. That would be a stupid choice, there is much to be gained from saving these five people. Honestly even if we hated each other it might be fun to save them, maybe I'll have the pleasure of seeing them be forced into thanking me
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  16. There'd be no point in doing such a thing, a mind like mine is a rare thing and it shouldn't be thrown away when a perfectly good fix to the problem is next to me
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  17. That I'm on your side of the glass
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  18.  @jerrycraughsnotch  And as a Patrick Bateman what do you think they'd do?. Do a little dance and swing at someone with an axe?
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  19. It's hard to look at yourself, just as it is with anyone so we often have shortcomings that another can exploit. There is also taking advantage of the things we consider to be below us, for instance a psychopath may refuse to lie because they believe such a thing is only needed by others, so these things can be exploited though they should not be relied upon
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  20. If we were in a situation where they are feeling the need to do this then it must be a stressful one for them, so I suppose the first moves to make would be to show them that I'm not a threat, maybe stub my toe and laugh it off as an accident, just to show we're on equal ground. In the end though it hardly matters how they feel, but it would be annoying for them to do something stupid and it pisses me off when people would assume something like that from me. We're all human, it's just that I don't see you as one
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  21. It's not often a good choice to make sadly, it would be nice to be honest about such a thing but it really tampers with chances. It may seem bold coming from someone like me, but is it really a fair game if the person will now create artificial signs that aren't there?
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  22. If the warlord presents as a psychopath then yes. All psychopaths are people, but not all people are psychopaths
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  23. Dam, the secret society of psychopaths must be keeping this secret technique from me!. Sadly no, I do not sleep well
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  24. You're either born one, or perhaps it may be possible with some brain damage. There are also some pieces of tech in the works to manipulate how your brain would respond to certain stimuli
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  25. Last I checked I had all my organs in here, same brain and same names. Personally, I'd say you're more of a monster than me, you'd declare me less than human without even getting to know my story and reasoning, even I'd give you that honour. No need to take it from me though, you could take it from my friends, which as a human, I do often have
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  26. Most of us have a trait called cognitive empathy which is essentially just that, we study and learn to adapt an emotion which eventually becomes a "mask".
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  27. There is no need to worry, though I will tell you that even as I too don't often think about harming others, the very act of worrying makes it almost a certainty you are not one of us. It's nice to hear that you're a friendly one though, hopefully time has treat you well
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  28. Respect and trust are two things that are of crucial importance to us, now to clarify, you will not earn either of these on an emotional level, this is an entirely cognitive process and it depends on the person. A powerful line from my partner for instance was "If I treat you as less than human, how can I be surprised if you act that way?", I gave them my trust in knowing what I am, they gave me their vulnerability, so it's in this situation that I feel comfortable and that I'd like to keep this person close. I do not feel loneliness, but there are very few I can trust with what I am, so it's a wonderful outlet to talk about these things with them and even more so when I get to involve them with my passing hints for fun, it's a small secret we can both have fun with. So when it comes to the others, I'd say dealing with psychopathy is as easy as staying firm, remember that you have selective empathy for a reason, you do not have to care for everyone and you do not have to play the games presented to you. If you're friends or even lovers with one then remember that everything that is between you two is either entirely or almost void of emotion, do not be surprised when they do things that might seem utterly cold or if they fail to realise something they've done is vile, if you're their lover it might be a good idea to gently bring to their attention what they are, then you can propose a "mask-off" time so to speak, which you may not like but it would be good to help them rest and be more pleasant in general.
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  29. Agreed, but people seem to assume we go through life with a brain that looks a kid and just goes to c r i m e s
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  30. We can be prone to having inflated egos, but these typically span from genuine beliefs of superiority rather than as a defensive mechanism (as narcissism often is).
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  31. This test as mentioned already would only matter in the real thing. The important thing is the absolute lack of remorse, the clarity of the decision, so it's actually not a half bad test
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  32. We are most often just as smart as others, if not more so. This is not a result of any natural increase but the result of ambition and desire to get towards the things we want. When it comes to violence, it it unlikely to come from me as we do not take things personally, but if it does come about then it's most often going to end with some lasting injuries.
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  33. "I find it funny that someone like you is also the one to teach me so much about learning to love myself and to finally let go of all these things, I know you don't care but thank you" My nature is to exploit yes, but so is the nature of a therapist, a friend and a lover, everyone is out for themselves and it's simply how we go about these things that matters. It may not pleasure me quite the same way but I also love to alter someone for the better. To stay honest, I don't care for whoever my kind has killed or hurt, but I am not those few just as most of my kind are not. I'm no distortion of anything, I just don't care for this strange game of weakness you all play.
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  34. If it's my child then it's slightly more complicated. If I still have a good relation to the mother then I want to keep that relation, so saving the kid is important. If the five know that this is my child then they likely wouldn't support me in a legal battle for what I'd done, so chances are I'd save them and of course there would be some personal preference towards them, the effort put into them cannot be wasted but this is going purely of a logical view
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