Comments by "Adam" (@Adam_Mi) on "DOPAMINE - What It Is, and How To Beat It" video.

  1. Eureka!! 22:39 Pain correlates with pleasure. "Increasing the pain from an activity actually increases the pleasure you get from the activity". This is why I seek to experience emotionally painful porn in order to have a more exaggerating feeling of pleasure during orgasm. It makes sense now! Actually I might be wrong. Dr K suggests to increase pain to feel more dopamine. What happens if I am experiencing too much pain so I'm experiencing too much pleasure, in something I don't actually like (findom)? Maybe I'm forcing myself to feel more pain to avoid the feeling of emotional pain, that I have from being judged for being in a relationship. I basically taught myself that I find something I shouldn't find painful (initiating a relationship) as painful because of high anxiety. But I've taught myself something (porn/findom) that is painful to me is not painful because I associate it with the high levels of dopamine which is an incorrect experience of an orgasm that is just not required. It's like the dopamine release from findom is way too high because it emotionally causes me a lot of pain. This justifies why findom becomes addictive. This puts it into the light that too much of a dopaminergic release damages me because I go against my true identity. I have to value myself over pleasure and I think the best way to do that is by learning to love myself and my life through new experiences alongside journaling/mediation/therapy. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
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