Comments by "christine paris" (@christineparis5607) on "Do People Take Advantage of Your Generosity? This is Why" video.

  1. I started this thing with some friends ten years ago of consciously doing one good deed a day...I forget why, but it became a habit to the point that I HAVE to do at least one a day. .it calms me down, for some reason, so I don't care what someone thinks about it...I feel calm, they, hopefully, feel ok, and it isn't hurting anyone. I'm not talking about throwing 100 dollar bills at people, just things like helping someone carry something, go in front of me in line, reaching something they can't reach, or buying coffee for the person behind me.... Sometimes I get carried away and do stuff I can't afford, really, but it all works out, and I can honestly say that I have been extraordinarily lucky most of my life. I mean REALLY lucky, way beyond what I deserve... I think the attitude is what matters, I have no investment in being "paid back" and don't care if people are mean or nice in return. Besides, extreme generosity causes people to feel embarrassed and resentful...that why I never, ever lend money. If I can help, I GIVE it, otherwise I don't. That way no one feels beholden or upset. It's a lot better for friendships... I don't do anything I don't want to. I just say no and people learn not to harass me, because I'm completely beyond being embarrassed into doing something. If they bug me, I just tell them politely to get fucked, and they stop....
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  2.  @Saracinderallasushis  I hear you, and toughness IS survival. Life is a battle, most of the time. I know it's hard to see yourself honestly, but people usually tell me I'm fearless. I'm not fearless, but I never back down when it comes to standing up to the crap life dishes out. I have seen people killed, had two people point a gun at me at point blank range, volunteered in hospice and survived cancer and some serious accidents, my boyfriend died of cancer, my husband had a horrible accident that left him permanently injured, and hardest of all, imo, I've been married for over 30 years, which involves going through some nuclear winter disagreements and "take no prisoner, give no quarter" battles! Like most people, if you live long enough, a lot happens to you. I tend to stand up for other people and especially animals. I know a lot of people think kindness and compassion are a weakness but I think it's the opposite, that it takes strength and courage to step up when you could easily walk away. I read this somewhere, but I consider it a pretty accurate description of myself, "Look, the thing is, I'm a nice person. If I'm acting like a bitch to you, you need to ask yourself why". I AM generally a nice person, but I have no problem going all Samuel L. Jackson if the situation warrants it...and there are ALWAYS situations that warrant it.
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  3.  @fairysnuff-000  😘😘😘
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