Comments by "Jake Johnson" (@ElectronFieldPulse) on "" video.
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This has all gotten so ridiculous. Sex is an observable characteristic which usually coincides with gender roles because of how society has developed to maximize the utility of the two sexes. Only recently have people tried to claim a gender opposite of their sex in any significant number.
When people say he or she, they are referring to their subconscious grouping of people based on their physical characteristics first and foremost. That is why people feel weird when seeing a masculine person wearing a dress. They intuitively understand that the person has an XY chromosome pair, but their presentation does not match what they are used to seeing. It is also why there is far less controversy or internal conflict with transwomen that pass well, people are able to sustain the idea that the person carries the primary characteristics which define femininity.
We need to be honest about how language has evolved. Gender roles have changed over time, but primarily masculine and feminine pronouns have referred to the physical characteristics which denote XX or XY chromosomes. The gender expression just validates the basic utility of these words.
I get it, we live in a society which now allows you to freely choose your gender expression. But that does not mean you can decouple pronouns from their primary function as they have evolved in our language. People have to actively try and use pronouns which subvert their original meaning as they were initially understood, and that is fine. But let's be honest, these pronouns were always about physical characteristics which made it clear if a person was a biological male or female.
The problem is that trans people often base their identity on their gender expression and lend it far more importance than is normal in our society. They need to understand how these words evolved in the first place, it has always been about discerning between the two sexes, therefore they should not be offended if people use pronouns which match their estimation of their sex. Sure, ask them to use different pronouns, but understand you are asking them to redefine the basic structure of language they have understood since they were infants, so some people might object to that. If you can't handle that, then you are far too sensitive and unable to deal with the reality of how language has evolved over time.
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