Comments by "antonyjh1234" (@antonyjh1234) on "A Psychologist's Thoughts On Love and Marriage-Orion Taraban, Psy.D. (Part 1)" video.

  1. Which relationship in your life is not transactional?
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  2. Are you resentful because you realise the transaction of your life has to be upheld by you or are you resentful because you realise your wife is doing it for her own good and not purely for you?
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  3. Dear judgement call, do you have any point or is it just a blanket statement to denigrate people who gain something from this "success"
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  4. If a woman has the chance she will turn you into her slave is true in how many marriages and how many times have you seen any relationship that wasn't transactional insofar as "true love" means?
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  5. But you have played exactly the same game as your husband, the transaction is that it is mutual effort. If he or you didn't play the same game it would not have worked right?
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  6. But you're single right?
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  7. An issue with this is if a female offers/ is ready and you say no, it means to her you aren't interested and is a turn off/ pride hurt, just because your attitude around sex might be different and good relationships can be lost.
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  8. Humiliating for who is what I would like to ask, just females or do you feel the humiliation for men as well? Both parties have to offer something don't they or what is the point, it is humiliating for men who realise they are there to just fulfil a role, no matter how their feelings which they can't express honestly. I will believe in equality when males are told they can all stay home and the wife is the main bread winner but is not a job the very thing that men must have before finding a decently intelligent person to marry? I think the humiliating thing for men is they must compete in a dominance hierarchy to gain the attention of a female that promotes this system and then men get told all the time they aren't good enough because they aren't competing enough, and for what? To fulfil another persons goals of what a "good" husband is supposed to mean. A mate of mine is 42, corporate, and hasn't had sex with his wife for over a year, she spent 8 grand over xmas for family and friends and then told her husband crying that he we have to cut back so he has spent 22$ on himself over the last three weeks, she spent a thousand dollars in one outing to not one but two different escape rooms in one day, with parking at 80 bucks a pop, for her niece, sister, daughter and herself and then was too tired after xmas to go to work so took the day off...where does the humiliation lie when the man realises, "hey this might not be a mutual relationship" and that what I believed about true love was only a myth because no other marriage he has seen is any different. The humiliation should be greater for the female but men never see this acted out on, not in my experience of the way females are these days and what they mistake true love for. True love to a lot of men is they should be able to take the person no matter what they do, that a happy wife is a happy life and they give too much which then they lose respect from the wife because they can be trampled upon. Maybe the best thing for marriages these days is to treat it like a job and if the partner isn't meeting expectations fire them and get one that does meet your needs. marriage these days seems like a union at a workplace, once you are in then hard to get fired. add: maybe being a little more humble is what is needed.
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  9.  @Yomel123  So you don't want to know both sides of the story before you have an opinion? Men didn't raise the prices, females wanted to work, meaning more money entered the economy which of course raises prices, womens lib is what increased the money supply.
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  10. The price reduced to the point of worthlessness, for you. For them that's the price for you. You wanting to pay more could work against you. @stronkworks 
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  11. Would a female be more prepared to say no, than a man? @Poochiepoochie54321 
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  12. What more is there than you receiving a benefit for all the relationships you have?  @Vestu 
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  13. It could be said that females are cold blooded manipulative money hungry whores, but no-one blames a wild female budgerigar for only breeding when there is enough seed. The issue is what you call a game, men who believe in honour will lose trust in you and when social media shows all the seed out there, normal relations are almost impossible because of what females are prepared to do to get the "prize"  @Poochiepoochie54321 
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  14. So the sex after waiting months wasn't worth the wait? Didn't you just make him "pay" for a long time?
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  15. I'm not talking money but quite clearly transactional in the form of do you get anything out of the relationships you have? @exnihilo415 
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  16.  @Yomel123  ask any man in or out of a relationship if he sees it as a job to be in a relationship with someone who thinks trying to put someone down that they have never met over the internet is an easy one. "You have to keep the missus happy" or "happy wife, happy life" You don't think these men don't think they are working when they say this?
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  17.  @Yomel123  I'm talking facts and now you want to give me your feelings, well that's wonderful for you but if you don't even bother to listen to the problem then how will you know both sides? You've offered nothing and then because of what you think, men result in being the problem, instead of the problems men are trying to tell you what they are and that's females and how they act. None believe in feminism, I'll believe society has changed once men staying home, females being bread winners is considered normal but how many of you want to clean drains. The issue is you are upset men don't give you want you want and then it's the mans fault for your wants when females don't offer what they used too, also men being off the fields has changed society has adjusted that and the womans place in the home but seriously what have you offered to a man once in a relationship that was of a benefit to him other than you being there?
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  18.  @Yomel123  Why are you on a podcast relating to love and marriage?
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  19. You're not against casual sex if the cost is low? There are plenty of females who just want their hole filled.
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