Comments by "" (@MayaTheDecemberGirl) on "Is Korea Really the 'Most Depressed' Country in the World? | Street Interview" video.

@toncholina Exactly. The countries in Europe are different. And there are countries that are still really safe, while others are not. Also saying that in the whole Europe there's nothing to do in the evenings, it's just a joke. And even if it's just about Italy or the UK, it's also very hard to believe that there are no ways to spend time in an interesting way (I think that many people would say just the opposite).
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For most people actually the most important sources of happiness in life are good relations with those people that are close to you, like family, partner, friends etc.
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@twotec-9s Of course. But one should also be realistic about this, because there are no relations with others with completely no problems, ever. So it's important not to expect that a real everyday life is some kind of utopy, with being on cloud seven all the time.
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I've seen recently a video (of a YouTuber from my country that lives in Korea since years) about so-called "flex" culture in South Korea. It was similar like You write above, about much materialistic attitude in the society, concentrating on brands, feeling obliged to buy many new things etc. It's sad, because all this stuff cannot really make no one happy, and doesn't really matter at all, if one has a cloth or a handbag with a brand or not.
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A psychiatrist should definitely listen to You, to be able to give any proper diagnosis at all. And it's also not so easy to prescribe the right medications, because some people may for instance feel bad after some of the medicines and such doctor should meet a patient more times to check if it's the right medication and if there's no need to change this. And also it is said that treatment with medicines given by a psychiatrist should be combined with appropriate therapy, given by a psychologists usually. And a psychiatrist should explain this to You and give You proper advice on that. But it's really not always easy to find a good doctor, I think that not only in Korea.
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@twotec-9s Actually, I've checked earlier the expression and there are two - "cloud nine" as well as "cloud seven" (the second one, as I google it, meaning completely happy, perfectly satisfied, euphoric etc.). So if the two expressions are mixed with each other, then on many webpages also. In my mother tongue there's also an expression like this: " to be in seventh heaven".
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Because people are interested in the world, how people live in various countries, what they think and why. It's always interesting to discuss various issues with various people, from different countries. Exchanging opinions helps also people to better understand each other, to find more about each other. It also enables people to have wider perspective, to see more than just the end of one's own nose. Although I love my country, I cannot understand people who are closed, not interested in the world and xenophobic. And also nowadays plenty of people travel, so they also want to know more about countries they go to. That's obvious.
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@user-cnksi223 Wow, what a bunch of ignorant fake stereotypes, and what an attitude. Europe is not a country nor a nation. But a whole continent, where there are a lot of nations and countries with completely different history (since many centuries or thousands of years), traditions, languages, culture, landscapes, food, even appearance etc. So there's no such thing as "European pride". And You write that according to You Europeans (generally) treat Asians not good enough, when You Yourself having such a ridiculous attitude towards millions of people, towards more than 40 countries in Europe, that are so diverse, it's just a big joke. In fact, it looks like You are extremely xenophobic and nationalistic. And someone really must be completely blind, or spending whole time sitting in one room maybe (not going out, when being abroad), to say that people in the whole Europe don't have any nightlife, no social or cultural life. LMAO. When such nations as for instance Italians or Spanish and many, many others as well, are famous for they liveliness and very sociable nature, and for having rich social and cultural life. And there are so many various concerts, theaters, galleries, art, cultural life, sightseeing places etc., not mentioning pubs, clubs, and similar. So it's just ridiculous. What's the point at all to travel to other countries with such a horrible attitude, and in fact hate towards others, being just some of xenophobe and nationalist, not being able to see anything else. Yeah, and really, in Europe there are no shops opened 24-hours a day, it's an Asian invention. LMAO. And in my country in fact there live Koreans, quite a lot, some even decided to stay here for good - I watch for instance a YouTube channel of a YouTuber, who lives since many years in my country, and also his Korean parents are living with him since many years (I think that more than for 25 years already), and he has so many, only very positive comments - so really, very bad treatment, indeed (and there are many more examples like that). But they are just nice people (not having such hateful attitude like above). I really never met such an enormous xenophobe earlier.
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@alexandrakim4567 Parents shouldn't put too much pressure on their children's life, to the extent that makes their children completely unhappy. After all, it's not their life, these are not they who would live that life, but their children themselves. And often parents really want the best for their children, but despite that they are not able to see everything and properly understand how the world is changing. For instance, parents often want their children to have respectable and stable proffessions, like becoming a doctor, a lawyer, an accountant etc. But if someone really hates such proffession, and would like for instance some more creative or even artistic one (and are gifted in this direction), they will be always unhappy and hating their job. The same with other life choices. So really, parents shouldn't put such pressure as deciding about their children whole life, not taking into account what the children want. It's not their life. But probably not in all societies it looks like this, there are for sure differences.
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Yeah, people 100 years ago were nothing but well and happy (it's of course irony). Especially in the times when there was great crisis (by the way, even called "Great Depression"), when so many, in various countries, were unemployed, couldn't find any job, had no sources of living, were hungry and even starving, were living in poverty and bad conditions, when plenty of people were even committing suicides because of that. And in the result it was also one of the factors that allowed such parties, as the Nazists in Germany, to win the elections, which, as we all know, led to the world war. So it was really so great then, people had no severe traumas, where not suicidal (irony again). And in some countries in that times were numerous acts of genocide committed, like for instance in the Soviet Union, especially when Stalin cane to power. So all that times were really such a "paradise".
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Money alone cannot make anyone happy, it is just an illusion.
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@ns-4438 Probably problem with low birth rate is more complicated. After all, all the developed countries, where the standard of living is higher, face such problem. But not also them, because I've recently read that even some South American countries, like e.g. Chile, have low birth rate. However in South Korea it's said to be the worst situation about this. And I've also recently watched an interesting video about the potential reasons of such a low birth rate in South Korea - at the above mentioned YouTube channel of a woman coming from my country who got married and lives in South Korea (it's: "Pyra w Korei"). She mentioned more reasons, economic and societal as well. It was interesting. But the solutions are not easy. Definitely, just giving people money, like social benefits, will not really cause a change. In my country some years ago such social benefits were introduced, but it didn't really helped much (although we still have higher birth rate than South Korea). For instance, important is also an issue of being able to have a flat (which is big enough), appropriate work-life balance, ability of women to combine work with having children (not being forced to leave their job and just stay at home, not being able to come back to work after having a child), costs of education of children and many other factors. So it's a complicated topic, not just one-dimensional.
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 @forlua9211 Work-life balance it's generally a concept supported in the EU (so definitely not only in Scandinavia or Germany), even it's mentioned directly in some of the EU directives.
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@twotec-9s Exactly. Totalitarian regime, total control over people's life in every aspect, starvation, concentration camps, genocide etc. Few weeks ago there was even a case in the world's news about young teenagers being sentenced for many years of hard forced labour in the labour camps just for watching South Korean dramas. So it's real paradise, indeed. And whole nation being turned into puppets of a crazy dictator, having absolute power over their lives. Leaving in constant fear, it's so good, really.
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As a Catholic, You really shouldn't think and pay much attention to such things as curses etc. Just believe in God's Mercy, which is greater than anything. Do You know the Chaplet of the Divine Mercy (and saint sister Faustina Kowalska and her diary about the Divine Mercy)? You shouldn't also think too much about the past, past decisions, past events - it's something You cannot change anymore. The only time that belongs to us is present. And what matters is not if we succeed in everything and don't make mistakes, but what our real intentions are, if they are good. If we wouldn't make any mistakes and were ideal, we wouldn't be humans, but some kind of cyborgs. And also about suicide - of course no one should commit such acts, because everyone's life is a gift, is worthy and precious and we should cherish it. However, even if someone committed suicide, nowadays in the Catholic Church we still can pray for such person's soul. Because we don't know what the mental state of such person really was, if it didn't affect one's ability to use his free will (and it also matters, when talking about sin, what were the intentions and if there was free will really, because mental disorders can much affect this, so in such cases it's not such person's fault). And also we don't know what were the last moments of such person - as saint Jean-Marie Vianney was saying: we don't know if someone in his last moments, with his last breath didn't manage to ask God for help and forgiveness. So definitely we shouldn't think that such person's soul cannot be saved and that it is already hopeless, because God's Mercy is greater. We shouldn't despair. And such mental disorders as depression are not rare in modern societies, many people suffer because of this much, so it's important to have proper understanding of such issues and for sure not to stigmatize anyone because of such suffering of him. Especially in cases when in people's life there's no real work-life balance, much stress and pressure, these are all risk factors, that make it easier to get sick. After all, our mind is part of our body and it can also get sick, and can need proper health care. We shouldn't blame ourselves for that, that's for sure.
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@rellg.2607 Don't worry too much. Just put Your trust in God and His Mercy, especially in hard moments, in everything (although it's also not always so easy to have deep faith, and everyone experiences such moments in his life). Best wishes to You.
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 @IsaacsHome-vv1hz It also depends on how many people suffering on mental disorders, such as depression, go and seek proffessional help and are diagnosed at all.
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 @user-cnksi223 There are many countries in Europe where women are generally safe (unlike some other European countries). I am a woman and live in a country like this (in Central Europe).
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@IsaacsHome-vv1hz For sure, taking some antidepressants only will not solve all the problems. But sometimes people are in really bad condition that they need that. And it should stay under constant control, so that the medicines really suit individual person, if they shouldn't be changed, if there's a need to take them durther etc. I've heard that taking medicines prescribed by a psychiatrist should also be combined with an appropriate therapy provided by a psychologist. And also such factors as for instance appropriate work-life balance are important.
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@user-cnksi223 Well, I feel safe in my country. And I really don't understand what You're writing about Asian women seen as easy targets for crime in Europe - how are they different from other women? I don't understand all these racial distinctions, and I've never seen such. And for sure, in every country there are places that are safe, but there are also those that are not (there's no country with all the places being completely safe, for instance one cannot be really safe in places where people are drunk or take drugs, that's obvious). In Europe the less safe are countries with a lot of immigrants, coming for instance from muslim countries.
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Definitely, there are many countries and societies where there's much, much worse to live in. But it doesn't mean that such countries as South Korea or other modern, developed countries shouldn't have appropriate policy aimed at solving the issues of mental health andvwell being of their citizens, especially appropriate access to proffessional psychological and psychiatric care and public campaigns to provide proper understanding of such mental disorders as severe depression, neurosis, traumas etc. So that people were not stigmatized, but could receive proper help on time and so that they are able to seek for such help.
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@林奥-d1j My comment was about all modern countries, not only South Korea, definitely not even only Asian ones. And the fact is that it's just the reality of many societies, in some more, in some less. It's very important, if a society cares about its members, to be aware that mental health care should be part of health policy. Because brain and its functioning, including human mind, is a part of body, and health is not only about physical aspects, but about mental health also. Many factors may influence mental health, such as constant severe stress, overwork, various traumas, depression, for instance after death of close person, various addictions (which is not only about physical aspect, but also psychological) etc. And often, if such disorders are not dealt with properly, it may lead even to suicides, in all generations, because it concerns not only middle aged, but even children or teenagers, and sometimes even old people. So it's just important to be aware of this, in every modern society. And people, not in so rare cases, complain for instance about no work-life balance, strict working culture, long hours of overwork, no possibility to go on a longer leave, or even at all on any leave etc. So it's not also good to just ignore such problems and to pretend they don't exist, because they do. And such issues should be addressed by appropriate health care policies, in particular in countries that have a problem of decreasing birth rate and aging society.
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@林奥-d1j LOL. Your statement that "whole world is Korean" is so exaggerated. Of course, in many countries there are fans for instance of kpop, but these are definitely not about all people, only some of them, usually those the youngest, and also not all of them. Just like there are many fans of many other music genre, other kinds of music, other bands. After all the world is very diverse. And music, as well as films, dramas, movies also.
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Very. So much "happiness", while starving, living under constant terror and totalitarian control, being sent to concentration camps and camps of forced labour (even young teenagers for watching South Korean kdramas) and so on.
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Such attitude really doesn't make sense. Because no matter how much we try and how much we work, there will be always someone who is somehow better than we are and who has more. And often no matter how hard we try, we can't achieve certain things, because of many factors, that often we completely cannot control, so it's not our fault at all. So it's really not reasonable to compare all the time with the others.
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@alexandrakim4567 But the reality changes and now they face new issues and problems that need to be addressed properly, like in other modern developed countries, for instance such problems as people not willing to have kids, low birth rate, lack of appropriate work-life balance, mental disorders leading to higher suicide rates (and with a low birth rate, every such life taken is a huge loss and results in costs that the whole society will somehow have to incur) etc.
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I think that it's actually like this, that a psychitrist mainly gives You medicines, and can also give You, as a doctor, sick leave days. Of course, he should first listen to You to give some diagnosis. But he does not conduct psychoteraphies. This is a job of a psychologist. So it is said that, for instance in case of depression, really effective can usually only be the combination of these two, so medicines given by a psychiatrist and therapy provided by appropriate, acknowledged psychologist.
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