Comments by "Jim Werther" (@jimwerther) on "Where is Diana Duve? | Full Episode" video.
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@julieuk5855
Thank you, again, for another thoughtful comment.
My grandfather came to the US from Europe in the 1930s, leaving behind his wife and children, which was their agreement; there was no other way to escape the Nazis. He then worked as hard as he could for a year, after which he was able to afford to bring my grandmother and their children over.
Less dramatically, my father-in-law moved 1600 miles away within the US a year ahead of my mother-in-law and their only child still living at home, a boy studying in high school. They joined him a year later.
Those two examples, along with that of your own family, are entirely different from the situation described in this video. They either were temporary separation of a family under desperate circumstances, or involve a far more minor situation.
Lena? She left behind a child, 12 years old at most but quite possibly younger, to pursue her own romantic goals. I find that very hard to swallow. While I did not feel compelled to make mention of it in direct response to the video, I read the OP's comment here and decided to chime in. I'm sorry, but who willingly moves 6000 miles away for their own gain and leaves behind her young daughter? Not someone who should be lauded as a Mother Of The Year candidate. So yes, the roses being thrown to Lena here in this thread sticks in my craw.
I am entirely unaware of the Windrush scandal. Perhaps that is well known in the UK, but not here.
Like you, I enjoy making "friends" in unplanned ways such as is occurring here. Hi, Friend! I am on the east coast of the United States, five hours behind you.
All the best, Jim.
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@julieuk5855
I appreciate your comment and your viewpoint.
The first sentence of your most recent post reads, "...but that was not the focus of the documentary". True! But my comment wasn't in response to the documentary, it was in response to the OP, who is blown away by the love Lena had for her daughter. Me? Color me skeptical. Because Lena picked up and moved 5700 miles for a man and left her young daughter behind. Who in the world does that?? I wouldn't. You wouldn't. The OP wouldn't. That is absolutely not motherly (or fatherly) behavior, don't you think? Yes, I am using conjecture in saying "mail order bride", but that is hardly an idle shot in the dark. Lena looks several years younger than does her husband Bill. 48 Hours, in deep sympathy for the mother and stepfather, somehow entirely glossed over the entire episode of how they met, and only made a passing reference to Diana joining her mom and stepdad at age 13. How long did she live in Moldova after her mom left her behind to chase a man? We aren't told. Anyway, if Diana and Bill had met innocently in advance, don't you think 48 Hours would have told us about it? They didn't because, I suspect, she was a mail order bride.
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@laceyrugg
Nowhere did I use the word "abandoned" or "abandonment". I responded to the OP, who wrote of this mother's overwhelming love for her daughter, by noting that Lena moved 6000 miles away and left her preteen daughter behind, which really doesn't fit the narrative, now does it? Now, as far as why Lena came to the US... This episode does everything it can to paint Lena in the most sympathetic light possible, yet entirely avoided the question of why Lena moved here - without her young daughter - to begin with, which leads to the very strong suspicion that Lena at that point put her own needs far ahead of those of her young daughter. You know what a young girl needs? Her mother. You know what she doesn't need? To live with whomever while her mother moves across the world to marry someone, thus leaving her child behind. You know what else a little girl doesn't need? She doesn't need to only be able to reunite with her mother and her mother's husband - who little Diana had never met - by having to move to a new country, across the world, without knowing one word of the language spoken in that country.
So yeah, sorry, Lena doesn't exactly win Mother Of The Year in my book. And no, I would not have mentioned any of this in response to the video, but when someone posts, "I love how deeply and completely this woman loved her daughter 💗", I found that to be rather over the top. And so I responded.
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