Comments by "Guinness" (@GuinessOriginal) on "Good sex explained in 9 minutes | Dr. Emily Nagoski" video.

  1. I’ve yet to meet a woman that doesn’t want me to already know how to pleasure her. Asking a woman what she likes immediately turns her off you and makes her think you’re less of a man. Every girl I’ve asked that question of has resulted in an argument with them having a go at me telling me I should already know.
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  2.  @parus_1671  given the number of women I’ve been with and the huge differences in their backgrounds and personalities in find that difficult to believe. In my experience, and you are right this is only in my experience, women want a man who knows what he’s doing, and the moment you let that illusion slip and admit you might not, their admiration of you declines rapidly, and nothing is a bigger turn off for women than not admiring a man.
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  3.  @DrRodolfo.Medeiros  usually, in fact almost always, whilst in the act. As in, tell me what you want.
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  4.  @DrRodolfo.Medeiros  you have a healthy relationship, congratulations. In my experience, I’ve asked the question many, many times, and have almost always been met with wall of silence or “you should know”. When it comes to women, I’m very confident, since I’ve been told since an early age I know what I’m doing, and have always been told I’ve pleased my lovers, and I’ve had my fair share. But most of them haven’t liked the question, and have been uncomfortable answering. Maybe they don’t know, or maybe they didn’t until they met me, or maybe they’re just used to having it done to them and are too embarrassed to say in case they think it’s too dirty for me. Or maybe as they’ve said, they think I shouldn’t have to ask and should already know. Either way, it’s caused some friction in the past when I’ve asked.
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  5.  @ClaireAKokE  thank you for your comment though, it’s interesting to hear everyone’s different opinions. I think I just attract terrible women or at least have chosen quite a few bad ones and not managed to keep the good ones I was lucky enough to find.
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  6. Finding a pathway to pleasure sounds suspiciously like grooming to me. On a side note, all the women I’ve slept with who’ve been great in bed have been absolute psychos, and the ones who haven’t been absolute sweethearts. Not a coincidence, I fear.
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  7.  @DieFarbeLila88  I’ll be honest, there’s not usually time for that. Women move fast.
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  8.  @ClaireAKokE hmmm that’s an interesting take. That might be true for one or two, or possibly a few, but I have to say that in the main, most of the women I’ve been with I’ve been pretty experienced, and haven’t been afraid to show that at all. And in fact it’s been those women the most who have ridiculed me for asking and thought that as a man I should know already. That’s only my experience obviously, but without being boorish in have had quite a lot.
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  9.  @healingfear  I’ve tried many different approaches with many different women. I’ve had plenty that didn’t like me asking, because they perceived that as me not knowing and not having experience and this being less of a man. The common theme from all of them was that a real man would already know and they aren’t arrested to a little boy they have to teach. But sure, it’s definitely all my fault and can’t possibly be any fault with them, because they’re women and we all know no women have faults.
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  10.  @DieFarbeLila88  lol no they expect you to know, that’s your job as a man
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  11.  @DrRodolfo.Medeiros  I’m not arguing with you but women have unrealistic expectations in my experience.
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  12.  @katherinefotopoulos9244  bless you. My time had past for that, I had my chance and unfortunately wasted it. I’m not going to find a perfect match, all the good girls get snatched up when they’re young. I’m well aware of my failings and am only ever really interested in pleasing my woman, hence why I’ve asked, but like I said, I’ve often been judged less of a man for asking, the perception being that if I was a real man I wouldn’t need to ask. That’s happened on many occasions. Clearly I’ve made lots of wrong choices in life.
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  13.  @JaseekaRawr  you know what Jaseeka, you might be onto something there. Thinking about it, despite being traditionally leftwing myself, most of the women who I’ve attracted, certainly most of my girlfriends, have largely been right wing. Ok, where do I go to find leftwing women? They’re in for a shock ha ha. In terms of your situation, as a man, sometimes we really like it when our woman makes it very clear to us that she wants us sexually, and is willing to manipulate us sexually to get it. Tbh, it’s an absolutely huge turn on. This is why men like women dressed up and being seductive; they love being teased to distraction and told that women want them. In this context, you can request/ command a man to do anything, and not only will he love it, he will love the feeling of being powerless to resist. I don’t think women are always fully aware of the power they can potentially wield over men at certain times, if they use and play on their femininity and natural seductive charms. There are certain times when a man is going to find it almost impossible to refuse a woman, and as a man, I can say most of us absolutely love those moments. There is no better feeling in the world than our woman making it clear to us she wants us to have her, and not giving us any choice in the matter by being so seductive we can’t possibly so anything except act on her wishes. That’s my truth, anyway. I’m pretty sure it’s the same for most men.
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  14.  @Dan_Dropper  yeah, this is where you’re wrong. I don’t have a type, in fact I find the idea rather ridiculous. It’s like being in a sweet shop and only ever eating the same sweet. The issue I’ve found is that women love the idea of being with a “real” man, and once they’ve decided you’re it, they don’t want anything to get in the way of that idea. Obviously it’s different if they don’t think they’re with a “real” man, personally I find the whole thing rather trite and tiring really. Female projection is huge; they are never satisfied.
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  15.  @katherinefotopoulos9244  where to find these women you speak of! They sound like Greek goddesses
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  16.  @DieFarbeLila88  almost every woman I’ve ever been with has exceeded every expectation I’ve ever had when it comes to that. And I’ve been with quite a lot. So no worries there. Women are super talented.
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  17.  @thomaskositzki9424  yeah let’s see where you are when you’re 70 😫
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  18.  @patmaurer8541  right…so asking isn’t allowed? Got it. I’m just supposed to know, or find out. No middle ground at all.
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