Comments by "marriage causes divorce" (@marriagecausesdivorce7540) on "The Diary Of A CEO" channel.

Some people are marriage material. Some people are divorce material. Some people are lifelong monogamists. Some people are serial monogamists. Some people are monogamish. Some people are polygamists. Some people are asexual. There is no one size fits all despite what society tries to push regarding marriage and kids.
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Marriage is far too dangerous. It is so dangerous you need a pre-nup to make it semi-safe.
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I used to think mental health, psychological therapy and trauma wasn't real. Then I lost 70% of all my money and assets in my UK divorce despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 child. Trauma and all its side effects is a real thing and will drag you down unless you do something about it and come to terms with losing everything. Great podcast topic.
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I lost my money, house and kid in my divorce. Never again. Can't believe 86% get remarried???
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@lahicks9773 You are partially correct. I would agree that my divorce is a product of (childhood experiences) having an avoidant attachment style. But your last sentence is completely incorrect. Losing my money and house to someone who is richer than me and being stuck in an injustice loop has definitely made my trauma and psychology a lot worse. You just simply don't understand what I have been through in a messy 2 year long divorce.
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@dylanr1316 if you have no purpose or calling in life why would any sensible woman want to be in a relationship with you? you are putting the cart before the horse. get the purpose/calling first and then invite a woman on the journey. and definitely get a pre-nup if you decide to marry,
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I'm in the 14% too. Marriage was the most financially reckless thing I have ever done. It is essentially legalized theft. I lost 70% of everything despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 kid.
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It seems that humans are serially monogamous, i.e. most will move from one relationship onto another. I don't think everyone is wired to deal with the monotony of being in a relationship for 50 years with one person. If people are wired towards novel seeking, new chapters, new people, thrill seeking, serial monogamy, etc that is OK.
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@dylanr1316 Raising kids/being selfless is one good trait. But you need a lot more than that to have a healthy relationship, e.g. looks, money, emotional connection, fun/exciting lifestyle, leadership, etc. Being purposeless is going to result in divorce long term.
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@dylanr1316 I haven't assumed anything about you. I don't know you. I am just saying you need more than wanting kids to have a successful relationship. And being purposeless is an unattractive trait.
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2:17:25 I think Steven is wrong here. In the UK fathers pay child support too and the wife can use the child maintenance service or family court to apply for modifications/uplifts. Kyle Walker (English footballer) has been to court twice about this. Also Steven is wrong to confuse this with divorce. Unmarried fathers pay child support too.
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@russkiy6ot why do you assume privilege? its probably because I have a personality/mental health disorder which means I struggle to understand and read other people's thoughts and feelings. lots of people drown out their own trauma/issues by throwing themselves into work or into the online world (avoidant attachment style). throwing yourself into work or the online world because you struggle to understand others doesn't necessarily make them privileged or self-centered. its obvious you don't understand anything about me and have just made an entire baseless comment.
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@russkiy6ot why do you assume its privilege? rather than a disorder that makes it difficult for me to understand and empathize with other people's emotions? not everyone deals with traumas in a healthy way, some people thrown themselves into work so they don't have to think about and process their emotions. maybe its your privilege and self centred nature that stops you from realizing that.
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I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in my UK divorce despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 child. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing I've ever done. It's legalized theft. Once you get married, you lose all power over your money, assets, home and child (who ends up being used as leverage).
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@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 water is wet. obviously marriage with the right person is great. the problem most people have is finding and predicting the right person to be with for the next 50 years.
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Marriage is not a healthy and secure environment. Around 50% of marriages end in divorce/unhappiness. Marriage is so financially dangerous people have to make it safe by getting a pre-nup. Fortunately, marriage rates are falling so fewer people will have to suffer.
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Marriage was grand. Divorce was 100 grand. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing you can do. It is legalized theft.
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