Comments by "marriage causes divorce" (@marriagecausesdivorce7540) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. I wish I knew this 10 years ago. Young millennials and Gen Z don't know how lucky they are hearing this type of practical information before they make any costly lifelong mistakes.
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  2. I think the fundamental problem with this video is that if she is disrespecting you she doesn't want to be with you. She doesn't disrespect her boss because she wants her job and the money. Disrespect is the first step on the journey to the end of the relationship.
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  3. The problem with this video is that it can only be understood by reasonable and logical people. The other 50% of the population will have a meltdown if they have to take accountability for their failures. I expect plenty of shaming and disingenuous comments if this video goes viral.
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  4. Great example. Just to extend it slightly. There are also lots of other boats and other women around. The woman chooses one captain and one boat, and the journey starts. But the woman can see all the other captains, boats and women storm off head. All of a sudden the woman starts to get angry at her captain and regrets her choice. An empty boat with a new exciting captain pulls up at night and she jumps onto the new exciting boat taking at least half the fuel and money with her. The first captain's boat stops and begins to sink, and she sails off into the sunset with the new guy and the money and the fuel. This is pretty much the state of modern marriage today.
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  5. If there were no problems with divorce law, alimony, division of assets, legal fees, child custody, parental alienation, heated co-parenting, biased family court judges, etc these RP channels would go extinct. The reason these RP channels are doing so well is because millions of men are suffering and can relate to the content.
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  6. "You can do anything to a woman, except bore her"
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  7. Genius episode. Husbands are taller because women select taller men. Husbands earn more because women select richer men. Husbands live longer because women select healthier men. Women do not make husbands taller, do not maker husbands richer, and do not slow down the aging process in husbands.
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  8. The human courtship ritual is very a delicate dance between talking but not talking so much that you out her off. Working hard and being ambitious, but not so ambitious that you don't have time for her. Being a dominant alpha male but still being emotionally vulnerable. Being intelligent but being stupid enough to marry. Good luck, gentlemen.
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  9. "Men value love while Women love value" and "Men are in love. Women are in business" are phrases often used in the manosphere. In reality, these phrases may actually relate to the biological fact that men are just trying to access mating opportunities with women, and women are just trying to ensure their own and their kids survival.
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  10. Avoid ABCDEF people (Argumentative, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable, Emotional and Fatherless). They will so much drama and chaos into your life long term. Some people need a therapist not a spouse.
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  11. This is why marriage is so dangerous and why women generally push for marriage. Marriage is essentially the transfer of power, leverage and wealth to the woman. She no longer has to fear her man leaving because she has the power, weight and venom of the divorce courts in her favour. If anything, he has to now fear her.
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  12. I feel bad for Chad and Tyrone sometimes. It must be hard being inundated with numerous options, each option competing against the other, trying to give him the maximum amount of unforgettable pleasure, and whatever he decides, all the options that he throws away will always yearn to be with him (alpha widow).
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  13. Let her monkey branch. Let her be another man's problem. When she monkey branches, you know you have dodged a bullet and the next guy will be saddled with your former, burnt out, disgruntled employee. The only issues comes if you were married and have kids with your disgruntled employee, then you are going to get taken to court and lose the money, house and kids. RIP husbands.
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  14. "i don't play games" = I chased after Chad and Tyrone in my 20's. I gave myself completely to them and got nothing in return. I'm now traumatized, in my 30's and running out of time. I want a stable, dad bod, beta provider who I can marry without a pre-nup so I have the leverage. Take it or I'm moving onto my next target.
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  15. 7:25 such an important point. It is better to know ASAP if the woman you are dealing with gets Aggressive, Bossy, Combative, and Disagreeable (ABCD) when things don't go her way. If she goes ABCD when you say "no" or disappoint her, expect her to take your money, house and kids in divorce. ABCD women are divorce material. And if you ignore the red flags, guess what 9:27
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  16. “There are no solutions. There are only trade-offs.” Thomas Sowell
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  17. It is happening very slowly and quietly, but more and more men (particularly divorced men, men who are related divorced men, sons of divorced men, etc) are realizing the juice isn't worth the squeeze. It is not worth getting into a relationship/marriage where the money, house and kids are treated like 1st class citizens and the husband/father is treated like a 2nd class citizen. Not just by the wife but also by Karen the divorce judge who will take away his money (alimony/child support), house and kids away from him. Relegating him to renting a tiny apartment/moving back in with his parents, and seeing his kids on the weekends (assuming the kids have not already been turned against him).
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  18. She has to have genuine burning desire for you. And the only way she is going to have desire for you is if you have value, e.g. good looks (genetic value), good money (resource value), good emotional connection (psychological value), and good lifestyle/frame (social status value). Mate attraction and retention boils down to value.
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  19. I think that people that are emotional and start trauma bonding at the beginning probably have avoidant/anxious attachment styles. Its a bit like the shooting star analogy. The stars that burn the brightest, fizzle out the quickest. Ideally, both you and your date should be emotionally stable and have secure attachment styles.
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  20. Orion has managed to reach enlightenment by avoiding the well trodden path of marriage, divorce, losing his house, losing his kids, being on child support for 18 years, etc. By avoiding the classic traps and traumas of life, and maximizing on the right areas like health, wealth, meditation, education he's heading towards nirvana.
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  21. In a marriage, who generally moans/complains, threatens divorce, and has the better IG. In nearly all marriages its the wives who have the power. They can go to divorce court and take a husband's money, house and kids. Marriage is one of the quickest ways a man can neuter himself. You're giving your wife a shotgun to use against you at any time in the next 50 years.
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  22. She's planning to get back out there on the sexual market place. It is interesting to see how earlier some people start planning for divorce.
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  23. "You are never destroyed by anyone except yourself." - Friedrich Nietzsche. Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. The 5 stages of grief (1. denial, 2. anger, 3. bargaining, 4. depression and then finally 5. acceptance). Time is a great healer for our emotional wounds. On a different note, the value of others book is a masterpiece.
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  24. Online is over taking real life. Hence Amazon (rather than stores), Google (rather than libraries), OF (rather than divorce), work from home (rather than offices). Kids who have seen their moms struggle as single moms and/or dad getting financially destroyed in divorce/ child support/ custody, are growing up and opting out of this BS.
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  25. When the disrespect starts, its time to leave. Disrespect shows 2 things: 1. she is not emotionally stable and is going to do negative behaviours, e.g. moan, complain and harass you. 2. the reason she hasn't left is because she hasn't found a better financial replacement yet (but the clock is ticking). Your only power is to walk away.
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  26. Probably the 5 major types of value men have to offer women are: 1. physical looks/genetics, 2. financial, 3. compatible psychological/personality, 4. interesting lifestyle, and 5. status. If you lack in one of these departments you will have to compensate in other department, e.g. ugly rich guy, or short funny guy, etc.
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  27. Marriage is a mating strategy for high value but low attractive males. I had to pay the price of marriage, to get physical intimacy, but ended up losing my money, house and child, 7 years later in divorce. Chad and Tyrone are playing life in easy mode. They don't have to jump over the marriage hurdle in order to get what they want.
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  28. Given that women tend to date hypergamously, e.g. they prefer older, wiser, more knowledgeable, more exciting, more interesting, more dominant, and more wealthier guys, it makes sense for the woman to step into his frame. Consequently, it is the job of the man to cultivate a frame so superior it is worth her while to leave her frame.
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  29. Women know how to get men. Look attractive, be nice, and give out physical intimacy. The problem women have is to trying to lockdown the perfect man. A Chad who is monogamous, a bad boy who will be a good dad, a rich guy who has lots of free time, a confident guy who is not cocky, a masculine guy who is emotionally vulnerable.
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  30. Its impressive how logical and sensible women can be are in terms of their ability to assess and choose based on value, benefit and hypergamy. Its sad how illogical, emotional, and delusional men can be in terms of thinking they will buck the divorce trend, get married without a prenup, and thinking "she loves me for me".
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  31. For men in their 20s, there is nothing they want more than a relationship. But for men in their 30s and 40s in this RP space, getting that wife or baby momma has become the single biggest mistake of their life. You'll regret if you do approach her. You'll regret if you don't approach her. Just remember, she's not your girl, its just your turn.
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  32. This is so true for women with an anxious attachment style. Silence drives them crazy. But drama, chaos and toxicity makes them feel alive and loved. Sick but true.
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  33. All men pay. But Chad and Tyrone get the biggest discount. The scarcity-minded beta male will have to pay the most, i.e. marriage. The scarcity-minded beta male will also lose the most, i.e. his money, house and kids in divorce. Chad and Tyrone get the best treatment (same night lay) for the least amount of investment.
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  34. The psychology of thinking versus doing. Some even say 1 hour of doing is better than 10 hours of thinking. I think of it like a feedback loop. Action > Review > Improve > Action. In business I think this is called the "fail fast" principle.
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  35. Summary: Chad and Tyrone pay the least but get back the best treatment because they are attractive. Husbands pay the most and get back the worst treatment because wives are not attracted to them and have such unrealistically high expectations. Conclusion: just be a Chad or Tyrone. And if you are not a Chad or Tyrone, do not get married, because you put yourself at risk of being severely punished for not meeting her expectations.
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  36. All men pay. Beta male husbands pay the most. Chad and Tyrone pay virtually nothing other than wasting their time. The average punter or "John" pays by the hour or until completion. Regardless of how each of these guys pay, they are all paying one way or another. You have to pay to play. This is how the game works. There is a cost to doing business.
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  37. I can relate to reason 2, i.e. a lot of low value men, will think all they can get and all they deserve is a train wreck, and that they should be lucky to even get a train wreck. If you are a young thirsty man with zero options, it is extremely difficult to have standards and turn down a train wreck. Its sounds opportunistic and desperate but it is true.
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  38. Women are not mad at the advice, i.e. the way to a man's heart is through his trousers. Women are just angry that you are revealing their grift. Women are just angry that you are revealing their true strategy because it reduces their leverage and power. They have been rumbled and exposed.
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  39. I think this video perfectly exposes women's true nature and the way they see relationships. Women want financial security (i.e. marriage) and kids. In order to get financial security (i.e. marriage) and kids they know that they have to unfortunately deal with a man. So, in their 30's, they starting threating "don't waste my time", i.e. give me financial security and kids, or I'm leaving. Sad but true.
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  40. You don't necessarily need money to get women but you better have something to compensate, e.g. confidence, humour, intelligence, chaRIZZma, looks, potential, ambition, pipe game, status, etc. And if you don't live up to your potential or ambition she will punish you for it in divorce and child custody court.
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  41. If you have to convince her and game her, she is not worth the headache. Self improve, be your best self, and let any willing buyers come. Be an employer and review / accept applications from women to come work for you. Don't be desperate. Set the frame and terms of the relationship. Take it or leave it attitude.
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  42. Mic drop at 2:00 . The relationship is the prize for a man. The relationship is a means to an end for a woman, e.g. she actually wants kids, to build an empire, have great IG pics, have a luxury lifestyle, etc. This psychologist is nailing it. OMG. It all makes sense now.
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  43. I wouldn't be surprised if Bond gets cancelled for being toxically masculine. He fights rather than sitting down and talking things out, he is polygamous rather than monogamous, he obsesses about work, he's a perennial Batchelor and heart breaker, etc. I would love to see James Bond take on a divorce judge. I think that would be one fight where he loses.
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  44. I think this is where the phrase "the juice isn't worth the squeeze" comes from. Imagine working like a donkey just to win the approval of a depreciating asset. Is it really the job of a man to keep the woman in a constant state of happiness?
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  45. "not everybody wins, not everybody lives happily ever after, a decent adulthood requires the willingness and ability to successfully compete in the game of life" - Dr Orion Taraban.
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  46. This is why "The Wall" is important. Without The Wall, women could end up never making a decision about who to reproduce with. But as women approach The Wall their hand is forced and they have to decide: 1. be single and "happy" but pine for Chad, or 2. settle downwards with a beta provider who they'll end up divorcing in 10 years time.
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  47. I think the transactional nature of female friendships, e.g. listening to a friend moan and complain about her husband and in exchange you get that friend to come to your baby shower, is what makes them more consistent than male friendships. A bit like an employee needing to turn up to work to get that money.
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  48. I think this PhD has a few other videos explaining the many women don't want relationships. They want what the relationship can provide, e.g. money, kids, home, etc. This fact explains why many women want marriage and why they also want divorce (i.e. extraction of the money, house and kids from the husband).
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  49. This underlines the importance of choosing someone who is mentally and emotionally calm and stable, and who can handle the truth. It also underlines the importance of not getting married, because marriage introduces complacency and boredom into the relationship, and makes it difficult to tell the truth without getting financially punished.
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  50. This reminds me of an Alain de Botton lecture on the psychology/philosophy of love. A lot of people don't know how to love. People love too optimistically and expect everyday to be perfect. When, in reality, things like love and marriage will often mean a lot of sadness as the person you fall in love with will never be as perfect as you wished they were. It is interesting that a lot of people are good enough to marry, buy a house with and have kids with, but are not good enough to prevent divorce proceedings. In situations like this, what were really the motivations of the marriage in the first place?
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  51. I guess the conclusion here is don't date masculine women. Date women who are less aggressive and combative and disagreeable, and who are more calmer, tolerant and peaceful. Problem is, the women you marry in your 30's in a different beast to the women who divorces you in her 40's. So, I guess another conclusion is not to give up control/ power/ leverage, e.g. do not get married, or get married with a pre-nup, or don't have so many kids you get screwed on child support, etc.
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  52. 1. Thought: I got screwed over in divorce, and lost my money, house and kid. 2. Emotion: Regret/anger at getting married. 3. Adaptive Behaviour: Never getting married again. 4. Run this emotion through the regret/anger-specific protocol to confirm behaviour and allow the emotion to fade with time. W Dr Taraban.
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  53. Always remember, she is not your girl, its just your turn. Most guys are too low value, live in scarcity and have oneitis which is very unattractive. This video is also excellent reasoning of why marriage can be so dangerous and divorce rates can be so high. She now has the leverage and power, and will probably misbehave as a result.
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  54. Relationships require sacrifice. If one of the parties thinks they are above sacrifice and only wants the benefits, either that party will never get into a relationship because they are delusional, or any relationship they get into will be short term as they will end up highly dissatisfied. Relationships are not for everyone.
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  55. Alexander Grace is a great person to interview. Would have been great to hear more about his view on the difficulties of long term relationships, especially when juggling kids, etc. To some extent, getting the girl is the relatively easy part. The hard part is keeping the girl and navigating things like boredom, novelty, changes in power dynamics after kids, etc.
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  56. “There are no solutions. There are only trade-offs.” Thomas Sowell. Applies to human mating and reproduction just as much as it applies to economics. Educated women who refuse to settle will find themselves single and childless. I think this is what is driving the decline in marriage and birth rates. Educated women want it ALL.
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  57.  @evaphillips2102  Actually, 2nd marriages have a higher divorce rate (60%) than first marriages (50%). And 3rd marriages have a higher divorce rate (70%) than second marriages (60%). So women just move from one set of problems to a new set of problems. There's no such thing as the perfect man who is going to solve all her problems. Even if there was a perfect man who solved all her problems, she would then complain she has no problems and is now bored.
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  58. 8:34 loneliness, unfulfillment and undiscipline are not diseases. Maybe simple lifestyle changes likes getting more exercise, cutting down on alcohol, giving up smoking, eating healthily, socializing, and working towards a fulfilling goal would help.
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  59. Nice guys who give her everything normally finish last. While some women will keep going back to the bad boys because they are addicted to the emotional rollercoaster of the highs and lows (i.e. disappointment). Do not be boring as this will not excite her and leave her feeling dead inside. Feminine love is consumptive so keep feeding her that spice.
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  60. Couple's therapy is a bit like taking an elderly dog to the vet and expecting the vet to breathe new life into the elderly dog. Sometimes its kinder just to move on and stop letting everyone suffer. People need to have healthier and more realistic expectations of relationships. Some relationships are not meant to last forever.
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  61. I was that beta provider nice guy who paid a premium (i.e. marriage) in order to smash, and ended up losing my money, house and kid in divorce. I wish I was a Chad or Tyrone. And I wish I knew all this stuff 10+ years ago.
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  62. Most of the time, average men are applying to work at "Physical Intimacy Inc" where the women is the CEO. Men are generally applying to just be the plumber because they want to lay pipe. The women will always be the CEO as she has IG, she has lots of DM's and options, and the family courts will give her the money, house and kids on divorce.
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  63. One detail I would add is things like religion, cultural traditions, Hollywood, etc tips the scales in women's favour. Because of religion, cultural traditions, and Hollywood, even a lot of guys go into dating wanting marriage as this is what they have been socially conditioned to want. Thank God for people like Dr Taraban to help even the playing field.
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  64. If you are a beta male, in the first 7 years women are not paying, they are actually lending. But once you're married with kids, expect her to want more of her currency while refusing to give you your currency because she has the leverage, power and backing of family court. If you refuse, expect her to recover this loan as part of the divorce settlement.
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  65. Wrong. Women don't approach because they want to maintain leverage. They don't want to seem desperate. They want to be viewed and treated as the prize.
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  66. The longer a relationship goes on for, the more problems it will encounter, e.g. boredom, someone deteriorating / improving, cheating, mental health problems, arguments about the kids / family life, etc. Solution: stop expecting romantic relationships to last 50 years. It is just unrealistic in this day and age. "She's not your girl, its just your turn".
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  67. Maybe I am wrong. But in my experience, many women (particularly those with an anxious attachment style) love the drama and chaos. They feel most alive and loved when things get toxic. Some even want to see the man lose it so they know they have to power to manipulate and control him, and send him to jail if necessary.
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  68. This is such a great point. Getting a relationship, marriage, and wife can end up making you extremely poor, sad and alone. Many of the most lonely people are actually husbands with a aggressive, bossy, combative and disagreeable wife.
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  69. Just to be clear, even if you do have good looks, money and status, and you also are a good lifestyle and emotional fit for her, you can still end up divorced 7 years down the line, as women reserve the right to change their minds once you have bought her the diamond ring, house and given her kids. She'll probably get emotionally bored and want to move onto a new exciting guy. RIP non-MGTOW's.
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  70.  @santafilipina9020  For some reason, women tend to love these narcissitic, bad boy types. My only reasoning is that its a demonstration of higher value (DHV). There is obvious evolutionary benefits to women who mate with a male who is of a higher value. Its genetics.
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  71.  @CalinGilea  if you are married with kids, it is almost impossible to leave a venomous wife unless you want to receive her fury in divorce court. So many men have no idea that they have thrown away their biggest trump card by getting married.
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  72. 💯% nailed it. Disrespect if a sign that she no longer sees any value in you hence the disrespect. Its the first step on the journey to the end of the relationship.
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  73.  @HelloWorld-cq1sq  women want excitement in their 20's. "Girls just wanna have fun".
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  74. 8:18 I think the attachment style reason given here is the single best explanation as to why a women with a low body count represents a better mate choice. Its great to hear Dr Taraban going into attachment styles. I do agree that a powerful climax is important but, for me, secure attachment style is fundamental for LTRs.
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  75. The PsycHacks sauce tastes so good. Pause. Creating is very important for sure. RIP whoever sent PsyHacks an angry email about this content. This guy is the best red pill psychologist on You Tube.
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  76.  @TheKarlslok  I think Jonathan is saying focus on being the best version of yourself for you and your own purposes (not for a woman). I don't think Jonathan is saying marry, co-habitat or have kids with women (unless you are prepared to take that risk of being financially and emotionally ruined after a few years).
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  77. I am pretty sure 50% of the population is about to shame Orion for being "emotionally unavailable" or having an "avoidant attachment style" for talking about an office/man cave. Its a fine line between being co-dependent (spending an excessive amount of time with each) vs interdependent (spending a healthy amount of time with each other).
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  78. We need more videos like this. Good solid practical tips. Men need to try to create excitement and wonder in their relationships. Don't just confess your undying love and beg for marriage after the 1st date. She'll get bored of you, the stability and security real quick. You've to know how to play the game of love. Its kinda annoying but necessary.
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  79. Nothing to gain but everything to lose (money, child support, house and kids).
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  80. The fact you had to make compromises means that it wasn't equal. She was in the employer position.
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  81. Even if you are a Chad or Tyrone, you will always be put in the placeholder boyfriend or placeholder husband category. Once she has extracted your value (e.g. cute babies, marriage without a pre-nup, good D, etc) and once she is bored, she will move on. She is not your girl, it is just your turn, gentlemen.
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  82. Time is a great healer. Start striving for new goals while in your trauma and then hopefully that ends the chapter on your trauma and starts a new chapter of success and happiness.
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  83.  @carefulcarpenter  The days of 50 year marriages have long gone. Unfortunately, times have changed, and many people just see marriage as a way to get babies and financial security on divorce. Its sad but true. A lot of these millennials will be lucky to see 15 years of marriage let alone 45 years. No wonder marriage rates and birth rates are at an all time low. In the UK 50% of marriages have gone extinct (there used to be 400k marriages/year in the 1970s but now there are only 200k marriages/year). Marriage will go the way of the floppy disk and VHS tape.
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  84. This is a supply and demand issue. There's lots of single/childless women but very few high value men (HVM) worth being with. If women can spot a HVM before he becomes a HVM (i.e. spot potential) they will need to fight off less competition. They may also need to accept a HVM will exercise options and probably not want to get married.
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  85. On the one hand, men will begin to learn about these issues if more guys were willing to talk about their divorces, child custody battles, losing the house, etc. However most guys are too ashamed to talk about their loses (renting a tiny apartment post divorce or moving back in with their parents). However with things like the red pill, manosphere, MGTOW, etc there is a glimmer of hope that some men will learn before it is too late. Although this will take time as ultimately guys are hypnotised when they see beauty.
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  86.  @hdshjs  a lot of traditional people and religious people work based on this custom. You must be married first. I am surprised at your shameful outburst.
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  87. In order to avoid the trap of boredom and complacency, it makes a lot of sense to avoid marriage and co-habitation. Marriage and co-habitation is just asking for trouble because this creates stability and security which then in turn creates boredom, complacency and resentment.
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  88. 1. Aim for a lofty goal, e.g. starting a family 2. Do it on your terms, e.g. don't get married or get a pre-nup 3. Take your time, e.g. don't worry about age 30 as being a deadline. It takes as long as it takes to build yourself up, find someone, vet someone, etc. Enjoy the process
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  89. This is what Orion's book is all about. You have to offer more value (a lot more value) to her than she offers back (hypergamy/Briffault's law) and she needs to be happy with the value proposition on offer. If you are good looking, she will probably give you a discount on the amount of value you have to offer.
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  90. 💯% facts. you will be all over tiktok, along with the gym bros who are checking out the gym bunnies.
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  91. Great point. This is probably why simping back fires long term. Simps pedestalize women and the end up losing their money, house and kids 10 years later in divorce.
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  92.  @Kenny-Ross  the dark truth is that many wives see marriage as something to get 1. babies and 2. financial security from. The husband is normally number 4 or 5 on the priority list after the wedding party, diamond ring and honeymoon. Unfortunately no one tells us this before marriage/kids.
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  93.  @SoloRenegade  divorce laws. Once the husband and wife are married, she holds all the cards and has all the leverage. She can take his money, house and kids. He can't do the same based on the laws.
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  94. Low value male lifecycle. 20's: Ignored by women. 30's: Finally get married and have kids because your a nice guy provider. 40's: Get destroyed in divorce and lose your money, house and kids. 50's: Try to rebuild your life and finances while being in custody and child support battles. 60's: Finally get to live your life on your terms :)
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  95. Thank you so much, Dr Taraban. You should have a million subscribers. Everyone needs to hear your message. You are so right, talking can potentially make things worse as talking can become a punishment. 6:20 "Good relationships are about enjoying who your partner is, not about changing them into who you want them to be".
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  96. This comment from Khan is actually better than the actual video. If she is making you wait, she isn't interest. She just wants to get other things out of the guy, e.g. marriage, financial security, child support, babies, etc. Women will generally be intimate with an alpha on the first night but won't marry him if he is not a good financial bet.
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  97. Marriage creates security and stability. Security and stability creates boredom and complacency. Boredom and complacency creates divorce. Marriage causes divorce. Do not get married, people. Your spouse will not be grateful and will take your money, house and kids in divorce. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. Not your spouse, just your turn.
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  98. This is 100% correct. A woman often creates an unrealistic (or perhaps delusional) lifestyle in her head and then gets extremely angry and frustrated at her husband if he doesn't live up to those expectations. Either way, it is a win-win for her. If she gets the lifestyle, then great, she's won. If she doesn't get the lifestyle, then she will divorce him and take his money, house and kids, which is another win for her.
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  99. 💯% nailed it. Disrespect only seeps in when she doesn't want you anymore. This video should really be on why disrespect if the first step on the road to the end of the relationship.
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  100. This is probably the best comment I have read. It gets to the heart of the issue. If she is being disrespectful she probably doesn't even like you in the first place (maybe she just likes your income or car). Unfortunately, its time to cut and run rather than suffer in a nightmare marriage.
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  101.  @aygwm  So true. Briffault's Law (1927) is real. Women mate and date for hypergamous gain. Where there is no benefit for her there is no relationship.
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  102.  @summersday7894  menopause is menopause. Ovulation failure is ovulation failure. Whether they admit it or not is irrelevant.
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  103. In other words, a man who is a 10 needs to find a woman who is a 1. It sounds rough and sounds like a bad deal but hypergamy is on steroids in 2024. Even the 1 out of 10 women think they are 10s.
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  104. This is a really good point. If there were no problems with divorce law, alimony, division of assets, legal fees, child custody, child support, child support modifications, parental alienation, heated co-parenting, these RP manosphere channels would die. The reason these RP manosphere channels are doing well is because millions of men are suffering and can relate to the content.
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  105. This comment is actually better than the video. If she is making you wait, she isn't physically interested. If she is making you wait, she is just financially interested and trying to determine if he will financially invest in her and how much money she can get out of the relationship.
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  106.  @Atashireality  You don't understand the concept of The Wall. The Wall is about her comparing the amount of male attention/interest she gets at 35 years old versus the amount of male attention/interest she was getting at 20 years old. Its not about comparing apples with oranges.
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  107. the juice isn't worth the squeeze. take it from someone who lose his money, house and kid in divorce. she is not your girl, it is just your turn.
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  108. It ultimately depends on what the woman is looking for. If she is untraumatized (say younger, lower body count) she will probably look for love rather than money. However if she is traumatized (post-wall, higher body count) she will want to "cash her chips in" and settle for the money of a nice guy beta provider and divorce him 5 years.
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  109. it is such a shame I have learnt all this stuff after my divorce (where I lost my money, house and kid). the problem is, I would have never believed this video before my divorce, because I thought women were special, and amazing, and heaven-sent.
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  110. As Dr Orion alluded to at the start of the video, marriage causes sexlessness. Marriage provides a woman with too much comfort and security, i.e. marriage is not conducive to intimacy. If you weren't married and she was worried about losing you, she would jump on right away.
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  111.  @davidedeh8448  She would never dare disrespect Chad or Tyrone, consciously or unconsciously. She genuinely desires their warm embrace and will give them the most supreme treatment. She will give them her mind, body and soul.
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  112. I guess this is why marriage is so problematic. The problem with marriage is that it makes it almost impossible for the husband to negotiate because marriage is a one-sided legal contract, e.g. the wife can take the money, house and kids on divorce. Wives don't need to negotiate. Imagine, trying to negotiate a car purchase where you as the buyer have no leverage because the courts will always support the seller! The buyer (i.e. the husband) will continually get screwed over.
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  113. exactly what i was thinking. it was such a savage take down of old women but so mild mannered at the same time.
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  114.  @fiveleavesleft6521  "And then if he's stupid enough to get married he loses all leverage by having the sword of Damocles hanging over him with biased divorce laws." 💯. Great comment. You absolutely nailed it. 🎯. Most guys only realize this when they are getting divorced and losing the money, house and kids. The only reason guys are getting married is that they don't realize this can happen and/or think it will never happen to me. lol
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  115.  @canelareina3795  its an invalid comparison. Those relationships are a completely different kind of relationship. The most similar type of relationship would be employee-employer where the employee is scared of losing their job hence the respect.
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  116.  @thecounselingcouch68  married men live longer because women chose healthier men. the women are not genetically engineering the men to live longer.
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  117. You will regret it if you don't approach her (you will be alone). You will regret it if you do approach her (you will be divorced). You can't win. lol
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  118. 💯% nailed it. You only really know your partner when you see her in arguments and other stressful situations.
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  119. Divorce court, and losing your money, house and kids, and getting zero'ed out is extremely rough.
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  120. W MGTOW. No divorce. No loss of assets. No child support. No alimony. No child custody battles. No false allegations. No legal fees.
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  121. Most guys demonstrate lower value and start simping out of control. It is an easy thing to do, especially if you are a low value simp. Dr Taraban is right. You need to demonstrate higher value and act with indifference. This will come naturally if you actually are a high value alpha chad.
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  122. So true. They always want more. They are never satisfied. Its always "what have you done for me lately".
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  123. I think this is the heart of the issue. She doesn't really like the guy himself. She just likes what the guy can provide, e.g. kids, child support, alimony, 50% of the assets, etc.
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  124. I hope one of the big red pill channels picks up on your work/channel. Your channel is dropping so many facts but from a PhD psych perspective. I have been through a marriage and divorce, and I 100% agree that if the wives get bored the relationship is dead as she is no longer feeling anything. I also 100% agree that the wife should be the adorer but this is hard to achieve in reality because men have been brainwashed into the adorer role by Hollywood, TV, media, etc. Also, to be the adored, you can't be lazy, you need to be someone worth adoring. Men should really put more effort into being adored (rather than adoring). Your work could actually save so many marriages.
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  125. People, including myself, need to learn to relax, forgive, let go, and move on. 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Letting go of the hate is great for your body and getting rid of stress hormones. You only get one body and mind, take care of them. Don't be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
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  126. Men are in love while women are in business. Men value love while women love value. Most guys think exactly like you. Its not until divorce court when your losing your money, house and kid do you realize you have ruined your life.
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  127. In other words, happy wife happy life? Alternatively, ideally you want to find someone who is agreeable and where there is conflict/disagreement, this can be handled in a mentally and emotionally stable way.
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  128. They ultimately still win either way. Even with a low value guy, on divorce they will get the money, house and kids. So they still win. The low value guy is left with nothing, while she walks into Chad's arms with the money, house and kids.
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  129. I guess this is why evidence, data, statistics, etc from credible sources is so important. At least then, you can compare your own individual feelings (e.g. I FEEL LIKE marriage is a great idea, etc) against what is actually going on in reality (e.g. there's a 40% chance of divorce in the USA, or 50% chance of divorce in the UK, etc).
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  130. Great insight at the end. I too have noticed that men tend not to disrespectfully question or cause drama and chaos. They seem to have a more avoidant attachment style. While women do tend to disrespectfully question and cause drama and chaos. They seem to have a more anxious attachment style.
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  131. My understanding is that women are increasingly out competing men, e.g. education, higher salaries in their 20's, dominating the intake of the professions (e.g. law, medicine, PhD research, etc). While men are being consumed by their screens, e.g. OF, P Hub, YT, gaming, etc. I can only see this gap continuing to increase as more and more women prefer to be single, focus on their career, and not have to worry about children, etc. We are already seeing this trend in Japan.
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  132.  @uhnborhn5032  this is exactly what happened in my divorce. my ex-wife was stashing away and hiding a bunch of money over the years. divorces just don't happen. they are usually planned out.
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  133.  @James-pl5uc  chance of car accident and chance of divorce are completely different numbers.
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  134. Understandable. But the whole "she loves me for me" thing is a bit blue pill. Briffault's law states that women mate and date for gain. They only enter into relationships where they can extract benefit from the man.
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  135. Getting into the relationship is the easy bit. Maintaining the relationship over a 5, 10, 15 year period is the difficult bit. As Orion says, online is beginning to overtake "in real life" as the easier/stress-free/happier option.
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  136. Women are generally not going to use talking as a punishment for Chad and Tyrone. Women are only going to use talking as a punishment or weapon for a short, ugly, broke guy. In other words, if she is using talking as a weapon or punishment, she is trying to change you because she doesn't really like you.
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  137. Nothing is ever good enough. They always want more.
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  138. RIP older women. Got to be one of the most savage take downs on youtube. Older women are "expensive" and "depreciating". Remind me to never mess with or criticize Orion.
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  139. s/o cappy. that guy is a legend. as he says, "do not get married".
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  140. the red pill is not about men hating women. The 2 main components of nearly all red pill content are 1. self improvement to become more appealing to women, and 2. how to minimize the risks that come with relationships, e.g. divorce laws, pre-nups, unequal property division, alimony, child custody battles, legal fees, false allegations, common law marriage, biased judges, marriage being short term, etc. The problem is that laws and judges are extremely unfair and unfortunately many men go into things like marriage without realizing how dangerous and damaging it is. The red pill allows men who have been badly burnt by the system, to share their experiences, so that other men in the future don't get screwed over by making silly decisions. Although the guys who have been destroyed by the system can't save themselves, it's too late for them, they can help to save their sons and other guys about to make the biggest mistakes of their lives.
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  141. Rollo Tomassi / The Rational Male said he would like to interview you (even on a remote basis) in his latest live stream (around the 50 minute mark). Not sure if you would be interested in doing this (?) but if you are interested, the offer is there. Would be great to hear you both discuss relationship goals, exchange of value, love in marriage, hypergamy, evolutionary biology, evolutionary psychology, how to maintain a stable marriage, etc.
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  142. 💯% facts. She is not your girl, its just your turn. She will eventually start moaning, complaining, and will take the money, house and kids on divorce.
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  143. this is 💯% the best strategy. however, most guys only realize this once they get divorced and lose their money, house and kids in divorce, and end up single, broke, lonely, homeless and depressed.
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  144. Are you nice to be around, or do you moan and complain at him all the time? If you moan and complain at him all the time, he probably doesn't want to be around you and would prefer to be left alone in peace. I think Dr Orion did a video on this recently.
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  145. Great video. Many women prefer guys based on looks. These good looking guys have many options and therefore have never had to bother with catering to a women's emotional needs. It is the fact that many women go for looks and that this incidentally comes with bad boy behaviour. Although, even if the good looking guy was a nice guy, I am sure many women would still be able to find something to moan and complain about. For example, maybe they would say the nice guy is boring and dull and doesn't make them feel anything/feel any emotion.
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  146. All men pay. The John in the parked car pays a lot lizard. The married man pays his wife with a diamond ring, house, alimony, and child support. In fact, married men pay a lot more than The John. The issue is, women no longer need men now they've jobs and divorce can keep the woman paid but without the headache of the man.
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  147. women have been rumbled. bravo, dr taraban.
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  148.  @RShaun  if you want a relationship you have to accept the whole thing is a risk and can massively back fire. If you want a relationship you have to make your best guess and hope it works out for the next 50 years. All you can do is de-risk, e.g. not get married, or get married with a prenup, or only have 1 kid to minimize child support payments, etc.
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  149. best comment. if a girl genuinely likes you, she won't care if you are just meeting up for coffee or a park date. she is just glad to spend time with you. guys, spending loads on 1st dates are just compensating for a lack of personality and attractiveness.
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  150. long relationships tend to be lose-lose for men. if it doesn't work out you could end up losing your money, house and kids in divorce. if it does work out, she will end up moaning, complaining, causing drama and chaos, and you lose access to other women. the juice isn't worth the squeeze, gentlemen.
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  151. MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Wallets
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  152. I think the core essence of a person does not change, e.g. optimistic, pessimistic, extrovert, introvert, neurotic, etc. But I think you can slightly change within your limits, e.g. someone slightly pessimistic / introverted, can become more pessimistic / introverted after a bad divorce, etc. I think there is a lot of truth to "a leopard never changes its spots".
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  153. “There are no solutions. There are only trade-offs.” Thomas Sowell
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  154. there is no such thing as a "high value man". just ask bill gates, jeff bezos, elon musk, brad pitt, johnny depp, tom brady, dr dre, kanye west, tyrese, etc etc and all the other divorced millionaires. babies and child support and wedding rings are high value, not the man.
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  155. I hate to say it but what your mom / dad have is slowly going extinct. Relationships now are becoming short-term value exchanges. If you want to deal with a woman you have to accept the risk, vet her for around 3 - 5 years, make sure she is calm, patient, agreeable, mentally and emotionally stable, and get a pre-nup. Also, maybe consider only having 1 kid to minimize the child support risk.
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  156.  @TookAHikeNowWhat  your insightful comment is 100% correct. In my parents and grandparents day they had things like religion, shame and unemployed/unemployable wives which meant that divorce was pretty much impossible. However, now that religion and shame have gone, and women have high paying jobs and there are pro-divorce laws, it is a miracle only 50% of marriages end in divorce. I think a 50% divorce rate is pretty low, all things considered. I think millennials and Gen Z men would be wise to quickly accept the fact that the days of 50 years marriages have long gone, and that marriage is an outdated and unsuccessful institution. I think this is slowly happening. Hence the ever decreasing marriage rates to all time lows.
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  157.  @steveunderhill5935  You're taking the example too literally. Obviously, in real life, women go through the menopause and therefore can't rebuild.
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  158.  @dANbRnL  I would never get married again after my divorce. And I hope my son never gets married. Marriage is just a way for the wife to get 1. babies and 2. financial security at the husband's expense. The whole thing is biased against men because she will get custody and as a direct result he will lose his money and house. It's insane when you think about it. But I would rather be a married guy with a prenup than a married guy without a prenup.
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  159.  @Aright231  I don't think I said Chad would take her seriously. She will always be recreational use only.
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  160. I have been saying a similar thing for quite some time now. Not everyone is marriage material. Not everyone has enough mental stability or tolerance of another person's imperfections. If you get married to someone with low tolerance and quickly gets angry about another person's imperfections the marriage will end in divorce after 5 - 10 years. It is really that simple. The point about people changing and being different every 10 years is another excellent point. The person you marry is not the person you divorce.
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  161. Seems to me like human beings are serially monogamous, i.e. we move from one partner to the next during our lives. If more people realized this, i.e. its normal for one relationship to end and another relationship to begin, potentially this could help people to accept nothing is forever and to enjoy each relationship while it lasts.
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  162. So true. I guess the difference is the prossie is cheaper and more adventurous in order to secure repeat customers. Wives are extremely expensive. Trust me, I lost my money, house and kid in my divorce. Plus on 10+ years of child support.
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  163. If a man manages to avoid the family courts, then he should be able to achieve success and happiness, e.g. have more time/money to invest in himself, his health and his career/business. However, once a man gets dragged into the family court system and loses his money, house and kids, it is very mentally and financially damaging and very difficult to overcome the injustice. Leonardo Di Caprio is a great role model for guys, i.e. focus on your purpose and enjoy multiple short term relationships.
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  164.  @tomaszsosnowski9279  Yes. Absolutely. Completely agree. My original comment was just in relation to the average guy. If Chad or Tyrone pulls up, they have all the leverage, and it is a completely different game (as described by Dr Taraban). However, Chadrone is the exception, rather than the rule.
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  165. Its 💯% facts. I was the nice guy beta provider and ended up losing my money, house and kid in divorce. My wife now lives with Chad and Tyrone in my old house, in my old bed, and with my son, and they get the best treatment.
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  166. Legendary user name. Conclusion, do not get married. Marriage is just the transfer of leverage, power and wealth from the man to the woman.
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  167.  @voyageFN  once the investment phase is over (i.e. the women has the diamond ring, house and kids), bedroom fun is shut down. once the investment phase is over, she has all the leverage and power in the marriage and divorce court.
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  168. This is the best comment. Men in general don't receive any job applications because we are not the employers. It's the women's inbox and DM's that are flooded with application. Women, like employers, are the selectors and have the power because they take the greater risks in pregnancy.
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  169. I guess, from a women's point of view, the ideal situation is to obtain the maximum money/resources without having to deal with the man himself. I guess this is why divorce is so popular and wives, in general, tend to file for divorce.
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  170.  @Kenny-Ross  RIP Kevin Samuels
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  171.  @suefleming  Or just not get married in the first place if it is so risky and dangerous.
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  172. Marrying a single mom = using another man's tooth brush. Don't do it gentlemen. Do not give Chad and Tyrone's leftovers your commitment. Chad's trash is not your treasure.
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  173.  @fromgermany271  I can never understand why men marry for a second time. Makes no sense to me. Once is bad enough.
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  174.  @sammakwela  1. dont get married. 2. if you want to take the risk of having kids try to sick to only having 1 kid to reduce future child support payments and custody battles. and 3. vet your girlfriend very carefully for at least 3 years before having kids. make sure she in not an Angry, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable and Emotional (ABCDE) woman. if she is ABCDE run, it will never last and there will be a huge custody battle in the future. your girlfriend MUST be mentally and emotionally stable.
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  175.  @kylemacdougall8355  women don't test chad and tyrone. Chad and Tyrone get her best treatment. Chad and Tyrone get her mind, body and soul. If she is testing you, it means she is unsure of you, unsure that you are good enough, and is assuming the power position and seeing if you are up to standard.
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  176.  @kylemacdougall8355  this is the problem with a lot of guys. they see things like "i'm still in the running" as a prize or medal. being "still in the running" is a big L. There should be genuine burning desire. Not a relationship because she is settling for 2nd or 3rd choice because her biological clock is ticking and she couldn't lock down Chad.
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  177.  @Khan-rz8qi  interestingly, husbands pay the most. Paying for the diamond ring,, house, car, losing 50%, alimony, child support, legal fees. Husbands are paying into the $$$hundreds of thousands for a depreciating asset.
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  178. So women, who might tend to see themselves as victims in a bad relationship, need to start taking accountability for their water being dirty. And men, who tend to just want peace and quiet, need to start anxiously walking the tight rope of being hard but not too hard (as well as having good looks, money, status and lifestyle). When you put things like this, it is a miracle the divorce rates are only 50%.
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  179. Founder equity = marriage, and employee salary = girlfriend. I would argue that marriage is a terrible idea regardless of being a founder or employee. Very few founders or employees want to stay with a company for 50 years. And some leave on very bad terms where there is no pre-nup in place. Founder = in the right place, at the right time.
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  180. Accountability and apologizing is their kryptonite.
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  181. She is interested in the guy she is making wait. Its just that the interest is purely financial rather than physically. Its the beta side of hypergamy.
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  182. She kept begging you for marriage in order for you to give her the diamond ring, house and kids that she always wanted. And even if the marriage failed, she would be able to keep your money, house and kids through the divorce courts. Marriage (even a failed marriage) is a win-win situation for the wife.
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  183.  @metatron8386  Best comment. This is so true. It is never just half. After factoring in legal fees, child support, etc she has pretty much cleaned you out. Facts. If men knew about this, more men would never get married.
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  184. Guys in terrible marriages are lonely as are divorced guys who just see their kids every other weekend or who barely see their teenage kids as they are too busy or have been turned against the father. I think being alone is actually quite common regardless of relationship status.
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  185. Marriage is an agreement between husband and state that the wife will have all the leverage and power in the marriage, and that she will get the money, house and kids on divorce.
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  186. Its like saying every man should easily be able to be the 4 M's: muscular, mature, money, and macho. Unfortunately, men and women are lazy and will rarely become the 4 M's or 4 F's. We are much more likely to be lazy, default to factory settings, and just type stuff from the comments section.
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  187.  @Edelwiess1066 I didn't say "old geezers" and I didn't say "dominated". "Older" is not the same as "old geezer". "Dominant" (i.e. confident) is not the same as "dominated". Fake News.
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  188.  @sole008  agreed. in a knowledge economy it makes sense to prioritize education and career over having money-hungry babies.
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  189. Sounds like holders are agreeable avoidant introverts. While sniffers are disagreeable anxious extroverts. A bit like oil and water. Opposites may attract initially, but long-term opposites will probably fall out, especially over the timeline of a 50 year marriage.
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  190.  @Pride0FTh3Lion  The problem is they see it as settling downwards after being alpha-widowed by Chad and Tyrone.
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  191. Guys relationship goals are physical intimacy. Women relationship goals are financial security and babies. Both parties can behave reprehensibly in achieving their goals. If you are a low value guy with a scarcity mindset then you are going to have to pay up one way or another if you want a woman (e.g. provide babies, child support, financial security aka marriage). If you are a high value guy with an abundance mindset then you can move onto the next women if the current women doesn't measure up. Consequently, its important to know who you are (leader or follower), what your woman really wants from you (gold digger? child support digger?), and understand the divorce/ child custody/ pre-nup/ child support system in your jurisdiction.
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  192. a man will sacrifice his life for his family. a woman will sacrifice her family for her life.
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  193. 💯% facts. You see the game so clearly. Even with a high value man, they will eventually get bored of him or get angry that he is successful/busy and unable to do the housework. You can't win- even as a high value man.
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  194. Best comment. He is an alpha with a double bed. She genuinely likes the alpha but would never marry him. Probably because his finances aren't great or because he is a bit of a cheater. You 💯% understand human mating and reproduction. Great comment.
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  195.  @susangarrard2753  the red pill is not about men and women hating each other. The 2 main components of nearly all red pill content are 1. how to attract women/self improvement to become more appealing to women, and 2. how to minimize the risks that come with relationships, e.g. divorce laws, pre-nups, unequal property division, alimony, child custody battles, legal fees, false allegations, common law marriage, biased judges, etc. The problem is that laws and judges are extremely unfair and unfortunately many men go into things like marriage without realizing how dangerous and damaging it is. The red pill allows men who have been badly burnt by the system, to share their experiences, so that other men in the future don't get screwed over by making silly decisions. Although the guys who have been destroyed by the system can't save themselves, it's too late, they can help to save their sons and other guys about to make the biggest mistakes of their lives.
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  196. The only long term thing men get in return is the risk of losing their money, house and kids in divorce. Its a sad reality the no one will accept.
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  197. This is actually a great comment. Women no longer need men. Hence the declining marriage rates and 50% divorce rates. There's also declining birth rates too.
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  198. Looks like men and women are happy with online rather than IRL. Hence the declining marriage and birth rates. It makes sense when you think about it. Women probably don't want to be single moms. And men don't want to lose custody and pay child support. Online seems to be the better and safer system.
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  199. Are you accusing women of lying about their reasons for leaving? How dare you (Greta Thunberg voice)!!! Seriously though, I love your line "I feel bored, I'M TOO UNIMAGINATIVE TO HAVE FUN BY MYSELF and you're not being exciting." Absolutely brilliant line. RIP to those millennial husbands in marriages.
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  200.  @Margriet101  Good point. The makeup can't be for the current husband as you are already married. It must be for the next guy.
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  201. This guy is a legend. He deserves a Nobel Prize. Love is the ultimate unconditional sacrifice. It is so rare it is essentially a work of fiction. Whereas relationships / marriages are just business or a transactional exchange of value, e.g. men provide resources, good looks and emotional support, while women in return provide physical intimacy. Orion really gets it. His videos are mind blowing.
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  202. best comment. " if the employee unilaterally decides to quit, he may be forced to pay her salary for years" = alimony. lol
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  203.  @monforttransport  100% agree. I learnt this the hard away after losing 70% of my money and assets (including my house) in my UK divorce. The divorce has left me financially ruined, homeless and alone. I would have been better off just to have not got married in the first place. The problem is, with things like IG, wives can see that their lives are not as amazing as other people's lives, and then they are going to get angry at the husband for failing to provide that same lifestyle. Sad but true. I now just see marriage as a wealth transfer mechanism (it doesn't really have anything to do with long term relationships).
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  204.  @seemoretoys5944  she will be gone to divorce court and the judge will make you pay for your bad behaviour. Divorce judges even punish good men.
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  205.  @edheldude  latest trends show religion, marriage and birth rates are all in decline. I don't think any of these trends will reverse. I think most Western countries in the future will go down a Japanese route, i.e. anime, AI girlfriends/OF, video games, etc. Lets see if my prediction is right in 10 - 20 years time.
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  206. This comment is 💯% facts. People are getting jealous of each other's highlight reel.
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  207. "what do men get out of relationships?" ....... erm, loads actually. Men get headaches, moaned at, complained at, shouted at, hen pecked, drama, chaos, regret, arguments, bossed around, stress, etc.
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  208. The black pill is real: looks, money , status. However I would also argue personality and lifestyle are important too. Even if you do have looks, money, and status (e.g. Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Tom Brady) she will eventually get bored and take the money, house and kids on divorce.
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  209.  @Bookooky  marriage doesn't cause longevity. marriage is correlated to longevity. correlation does not mean causation. generally speaking, women will choose to marry fitter, healthier and richer men. fitter, healthier and richer men tend to live longer than unfit, unhealthy and poorer men. marriage is just a piece of paper, it wont affect a person's biology. diet, exercise, and medical care will affect a person's biology. fitness, diet and medical care improves longevity (not marriage).
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  210. Listening to people like Dr David Buss and The Lead Attorney, both seem to agree a very important personality trait in the wife is calmness, peacefulness, patience, tolerance to stress, emotional stability, agreeableness. If your wife is aggressive, bossy, combative, disagreeable you will end up in a high conflict divorce.
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  211. 💯%. They would never dream of disrespecting their boss or Chad. Because they really want the income and Chad. They only disrespect things they no longer want as a way of pushing that thing away, to make room for Chad.
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  212.  @earx23  she will hold onto the relationship until she has secured a financial replacement.
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  213. Try telling simps to hold the line. Simps can't help it, they have to put women on a pedestal. However it will ultimately back fire when they lose their money, house and kids in divorce.
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  214. You absolutely nailed it. When you get married you hand over all the leverage and power in the relationship over to your wife. As she is able to take the money, house and kids on divorce. This means the husband will find it very difficult to exercise any control or ability to walk away. A lot of young guys screw themselves over at the very beginning of a marriage (unless there is an iron-clad pre-nup in place which kind of levels the playing field).
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  215.  @annesmith9181  my point is that it makes more sense for men to have children outside of marriage due to the financial risks. Having kids inside of marriage no longer makes any sense as the mother is financially rewarded by the family courts to breakup the family. In the UK 51% of children are now born outside of wedlock. I believe the figure is 40% in the USA. My prediction is that these %'s will continue to increase as marriage becomes less and less common, as marriage is probably the worst financial decision you can make as a man.
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  216.  @sammyb1651  W Sammy B. Flawless victory. And then add the child support on top, legal fees being paid by the husband, ex-wife getting at least 50% of the assets, maybe some alimony on top. It is no wonder women celebrate and party after divorce, while men consider deletion.
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  217. Someone give Dr Taraban a Nobel Prize. What more does he need to do?
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  218. Or, better yet, don't get with an ABCDE (Angry, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable, and Emotional) woman in the first place. If she starts trying to press buttons, she's clearly bored and trying to create some drama and chaos. Punish her behaviour by withdrawing your attention and showing her the door. She's not your girl, its only your turn.
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  219. A lot of low value men think they are getting a great deal when they finally get a women to marry and be physically intimate with. However, the low value men don't realize there is a 50% chance he is going to lose his money, house, and kids on divorce. Congratulations low value men, you just played yourself. You were just a means to her end goals.
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  220.  @neetea2  to learn, to change my mind if I am wrong, to teach my son, to share my understanding/experiences with others, etc etc
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  221. CGA is the 🐐. The inventor of: "apex predator", "the marriage wheel", "investment phase", "there's always another bull in the ring", "GUMPs", "hope strategists", etc etc. CGA knows all. There's no one who knows the game better than CGA.
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  222. Single women have loads of single women and divorced women friends. They are perfectly fine being single and childless. In fact, the % of single and childless women is expected to continue to increase going forwards. The only thing they will miss is male attention once they hit the wall.
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  223. Its all Jermaines fault.
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  224. Van Cleef bracelet-wearing women are the biggest red flag. s/o Fresh Prince CEO
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  225. Wrong. She will divorce him after 10 years and take the money, house and kids.
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  226.  @commentarytalk1446  I see what you are saying. But you are talking about the minority of people. Most people either 1. don't get married, 2. do get married but get divorced, 3. are in unhappy marriages.
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  227. 💯% facts. once you have given her the diamond ring, house and kids, you are screwed. because she has all the leverage and value now.
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  228.  @ourdivinemouseoverlord3308  I don't think red pill relates to politics, etc. My understanding is red pill relates more to male/female psychology, human behaviour, evolutionary biology/genetics and how these topics effect husband/wife selection, marriage, divorce, child custody, alimony, child support, etc.
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  229.  @liz9284  the point I am making is about "disrespect" not "not having respect". It's pretty sad to see so many people comment on here, use manipulative tactics and shaming language to play the victim, rather than having the emotional regulation to actually take accountability for their actions.
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  230. Family laws can be minimized to some extent. 1. Choose a woman who is mentally and emotionally stable, i.e. calm, peaceful, agreeable. 2. Don't get married. And 3. only have 1 kid to minimize any future child support. I messed up on 1 and 2, and have pretty much ruined my life.
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  231. I kinda agree with this. I think it is much less of a problem if the husband starts doing well as the wife has more spending money which will probably make her happy. And normally women choose husbands who they see potential in, and therefore are happy when the husband realizes his potential. It may back fire if the husband spends too much time working and then starts to neglect her. Its a fine line between working hard, but not working too hard.
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  232. During my marriage, my wife would treat her friends better than she would treat me. This type of disrespect is the beginning of the end of any relationship/marriage. Once she starts placing her friends/bosses above her husband this is inevitably going to cause resentment with the husband as he is paying all the bills, looking after the kids, doing the shopping/housework, etc not the friends/bosses. The problem with long term relationships/marriages is the man can't fall off. If he does fall off, then there will be lots of moaning, complaining and disrespect.
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  233.  @rosihantu1  you ranked red pill 3rd?? Damn. I would definitely put red pill above purple pill. One of the main sayings in the red pill is "men are in love. women are in business" or "men love idealistically, while women love opportunistically". I would say both red pill and black pill are realistic and understand female nature, but red pillers make adjustments, while black pillers are doom and gloom, and go MGTOW.
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  234. This is a fundamental problem with relationships. As the husband you end up being responsible for 2 people's happiness. And if you don't change and live up to expectations, the inevitable divorce where you lose your money, house and kids will comes around (or she will at least threaten it). It is a lot to do and it is very risky.
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  235. Single high value men can go to other restaurants. But imagine you are married or imagine you are fat, broke, and boring, then you won't be able to go to other restaurants. I guess what this video is saying is do not get married and also do not be fat, broke and boring. Solid advice. But if you are already married, you're screwed, especially if you don't have a pre-nup. A pre-nup allows you to go to other restaurants without being broke!
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  236. @MonessaLeigh chad = good looking guy
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  237.  @rayrwyr  Thank you. Now Orion's video makes much more sense. Self improve and this may have the beneficial effect of causing dread within her.
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  238. Leonardo Di Caprio? Is that you? I loved you in The Reverent and Inception.
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  239. 💯% facts. If you see your dad lose his money, house and kids in divorce, why would you want to repeat that BS when you grow up.
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  240. @@DOA-fg4ze 💯%. Hence the declining marriage rates in multiple Western and Eastern countries. If the marriage rates keep declining long term, marriage will eventually go extinction. It is just all downside risk for men. The red pill is shining a light on this, that previous generations didn't really understand.
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  241. Best comment. All the simps who are pedestalizing women are going to regret it when they lose their money, house and kids in divorce court 10 years later.
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  242.  @greentruth89  word salad. What do you mean by put down our ego to humble the court? There is no god in divorce court. Only biased divorce judges.
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  243.  @annesmith9181  generally speaking, married couples earn more than unmarried couples. Consequently, it is the money (rather than the marriage) that is giving children from married couples an advantage. For example, if two Harvard educated people have kids outside of wedlock, those kids are likely to do better than the kids of two married criminals. Marriage is purely imaginary, it is just a piece of paper and a wedding ring. I think one of the reasons marriage is becoming less and less common is because kids of divorce then get nervous to marry after seeing their parents fight over the kids, money, house, child support, alimony, etc for decades. In other words, the divorce laws/divorce judges are eating and cannibalising marriage across the generations. As more and more kids are born into divorce, it reduces the number of people in the next generation willing to take on the risks of marriage (this applies to both genders, e.g. daughters scared to marry after seeing their mothers having to chase their lazy fathers for money, or sons scared to marry after seeing their fathers lose his wages, house and kids).
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  244. I lost my money, house and kid in my UK divorce (i.e. my car has broken down and my leg is broken to continue the analogy) so I am just going to watch the drama and chaos of the traffic from a safe distance in an ambulance. Good luck to those in the traffic.
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  245. 💯% nailed it. Marriage and co-habitation is just asking for trouble at this point. Just ask all the guys who lose their money, house and kids on divorce. Or boyfriends currently getting divorced/sued by their girlfriends, e.g. xQc, Israel Adesanya, etc.
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  246. I lost 70% in my UK divorce. Losing 70% is also common in USA divorces. For example, if there is a $100k marital pot, it would get split 50-50 in the States, but the judge could get the husband to pay her 10k for lump sum alimony and 10k for ex-wife's legal fees, so the split would be $70k to her and $30k to him. I'm not sure why people keeping saying men only lose 50%???
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  247. Accountability is their kryptonite (kevin samuels). As coach greg adams says, it's all jermaine's fault, its always jermaine's fault.
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  248. Most people need a therapist not a partner or lover. Most people are carrying around psychological attachment wounds from childhood, divorce, a bad breakup, etc that mean they are chasing completely the wrong people (e.g. gold diggers, bad boys, drama and chaos, etc). W secure attachment style.
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  249.  @scottmccomish1173  Preach. Alone not lonely.
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  250. Never get married unless you are happy losing your money, house and kids in divorce.
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  251. I think marriage is going extinct for this reason. More and more people are realizing relationships are a short term thing, and in a long life, it makes sense to divorce and change or upgrade in partner (or maybe even downgrade in partner if they find this easier and less stressful).
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  252. i think better advice would have been for dr. taraban to say just go for low cost dates, e.g. coffee, for walks, going to the park, etc. that way any money you waste is not a lot and the woman you date is not expecting a lavish and luxury lifestyle. never lead with your wallet, because she will just treat you like an ATM cash machine.
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  253. Marriage is grand but divorce is 100 grand.
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  254.  @melenico4512  💯% agree "Many need counselling not relationship."
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  255. listen up single dudes. women love value (not the high value man). do not be the next divorce court victim.
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  256. Chad and Tyrone don't have to pay anything. They are both living in my old house, with my ex-wife and my child. I paid the most and got the least. They paid the least and got the most.
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  257. Wrong. Women refuse to make the offer in order to maintain the leverage and power in the relationship. Women want to be seen and treated as the prize. They want to be pursued and wined and dined. Women will only make the offer if she is dealing with Chad, Tyrone or Chadrone.
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  258. OMG. This episode is enough to turn anyone MGTOW. Relationships, particularly marriage, seem like too much hard work and almost destined to fail at some point over the typical 50 year marriage. Imagine how hard you have to work and how much effort you have to put in to keep a 50 year marriage going. (My wife's friends always got her best version.)
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  259.  @thevigilant6884  Clans? I am talking about 2023.
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  260. 💯% facts. PsycHacks is pretty much a more academic/psychological version of Fresh and Fit. They both pretty much agree on virtually 100% of the issues.
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  261.  @peripheralparadox4218  they are worlds apart in delivery but not in content. content wise the both say exactly the same thing, e.g. love has no part in marriage, men love idealistically for the women while women love opportunistically for babies and financial security, relationships are transactional and based on exchanges of value, in relationships it preferable for men to be masculine while women be feminine, etc. I get the feeling you are new to the space and have not followed PsycHacks / Fresh and fit for that long.
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  262.  @verb0ze  i'm pretty sure the research shows people from lower economic backgrounds have worse psychological and life expectancy outcomes. life and optimal survival really is all about money, money, money.
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  263. Not just a bank/financial security, they also see you as a way to make cute babies who they will get custody of (but you get to pay for them and her via child support).
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  264. OMG!!! GOAT-level screen name. Recreational use only. LOL!!! Also, your comment is based AF. Chad and Tyrone have smashed and dashed, and now the beta provider has to come along with the diamond ring and clean-up the mess.
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  265.  @davidehl323  It is great to hear that very slowly, more and more guys are finally realizing the juice isn't worth the squeeze, and that marriage is a horrifically biased and one-sided contract that rewards one party while financially ruining the other party.
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  266. My guess for Orion's top 4 non-negotiable criteria: 1. she must be mentally and emotionally stable (secure attachment style), 2. beautiful, 3. genuine burning desire, 4. she does not want marriage or is willing to sign a prenup.
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  267.  @tomate8942  W incels. No child support, no child custody battles, no alimony, no loss of your house, no loss of 50%+ of your assets, no legal fees, no drama and chaos, etc. Incel boys we up.
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  268. The delusion is real because of all the SIMP's in the DM's, and because Chad, Tyrone and Chadrone are smashing them on their girls trips.
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  269. This is counter intuitive but it does work in practice. I remember when I left my wife, she actually started to communicate with me and allow me to see my child, rather than giving me the silent treatment and hiding my child away at relatives' homes. As a man in 2023, pretty much the only power you have is to know when to walk away before tempers flare. Assuming you have actually been adding value while in the relationship, your absence should be missed pretty quickly. And if you are so hated and your absence is not missed, it was definitely the right decision to walk away.
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  270.  @cosmictreason2242  Wise words. If his sack is empty, he won't be able to cheat in the first place. Although men seem to suffer from "The Coolidge Effect".
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  271. Exactly. This happens all the time in divorce. A man can enter the marriage rich, but leave the marriage poor. The reasons wives want marriage and the reason wives want divorce is because they enter marriage poor but leave it rich.
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  272.  @lorrilewis2178  A wife would leave the marriage rich compared to the husband in the UK. In the UK she would be award with around 70% of the money, assets and home equity. Many men in the UK do feel aggrieved losing their house and money which is why marriage is going extinct in the UK. There used to be 400k marriages per year in the UK (now there is only 200k marriages per year in the UK). Even wives of billionaires get divorced (Melinda Gates, MacKenzie Scott who has now just finished her second divorce, etc). Some wives will just never be happy regardless of how good their life and marriage is. Many wives just divorce on the basis of boredom.
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  273.  @tancreddehauteville764  The judge was extremely biased. The problem with UK divorce is that the judges have full discretion and power, and are very biased. The cost of appealing could have been up to £30k and the appeal judge could have given my wife 75% and spousal support. Theoretically, an appeal could leave me much worse off. I didn't want to risk losing 75% and end up on spousal support too. I paid for the house, not her. Although, she went from full time to part time work after the birth, and had a student loan to pay. I should have complained and reported the judge to the Government but missed the 3 month deadline. Our divorce was very messy as she had hidden all her money from her job.
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  274. The problem here is that men and women portray fake versions of themselves initially on a date. Men and women love bomb each other. However women start to wonder why the guy is falling off once he has got some physical commitment. It is not that the guy is falling off, it is that she is really seeing the guy for who he really is and she is angry she got tricked. Guys, also see a similar thing once the women has got the ring, house and kids, because at this point she no longer needs to put on a front as she now has everything she wants, has all the power and leverage in the relationship/marriage/divorce court.
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  275. Better to live alone and happy with your money and house, rather than to get married and divorced and lose your money, house and kids.
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  276.  @karabomothupi9759  Typing old and tired English Language. Have an original language for once in your life?
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  277. it's kinda a good thing that women are ruthlessly logical. it means they breed with the best men and the winners, and then humans evolve to become better, as weak men's DNA dies off. it only becomes a bad thing in divorce court when they are stripping you of your value, i.e. you losing your money, house and kids.
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  278.  @Khan-rz8qi  You nailed the major two emotions. The biggest two emotions are stress and humiliation. Stress because of all the money and time you are losing to the wife, and lawyers. And humiliation losing the money, house and kids, and having to rent a tiny flat or move back in with your parents. Do not get married.
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  279. Love vs limerance vs relationships. Completely different things which are often confused.
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  280.  @CFChristopherB  depends on what you mean by punishment. you don't need to be married to have a child custody battle. lmfao. lololol. typical.
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  281. Another benefit is you don't lose your money, house and kids in divorce. 👍
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  282. 4 big facts: 1. Women are complaining (about shortage of high value men). 2. Women are having to settle for low value men (these men will probably end up losing their money in child support, house they live in, and custody of their kids in the inevitable divorce process). 3. Once women have the diamond ring, house and kids, they begin to think why on earth am I still in this relationship for? I've already got everything I needed from this relationship! I already have all the value (child support, house and kids). 4. MGTOW - Men Going Their Own Way / WGTOW - Women Going Their Own Way / The juice isn't worth the squeeze.
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  283.  @Priceyyyyy  For anyone getting married in 2023, getting destroyed financially in divorce court is a choice. Marriage is extremely dangerous, but you can do things like get a prenup to make marriage safe. As you say, kids and child support should be the only things to worry about. However, choosing a wife who doesn't moan, and complain all the time, and is mentally and emotionally stable should help to reduce the risk of this.
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  284.  @katiez688  I think this depends on country. For example, in the UK around 50% of marriages have gone extinct in the last 50 years, e.g. there used to be 400k marriages/year in the 1970's but now there are only 200k marriages. This extreme drop probably relates to the fact that there is no pre-nup legislation/laws in the UK. I think the marriage extinction rates are a lot slower in the USA (only a 20% drop in the last 30 years) because I believe in the USA richer people can use pre-nups to protect themselves. In countries where there is a culture of pre-nups (e.g. USA) I don't expect the marriage extinction rates to be as severe as the UK (where I am from).
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  285.  @Stassis  my parents are still married and my ex-wife's parents are still married. There was no history of divorce in either family. Consequently, I just grew up thinking divorce was for extreme situations (alcohol, gambling, job loss, sterility, DV, etc). I didn't realize divorce could happen to normal people like me as well. It wasn't something I was exposed to unfortunately. At least my son will know not to get married.
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  286. Such a great comment because its so true. I left my UK marriage with much less than what I started with and put in. My wife got 70% of all the money and assets, the house and custody of our son. I just got 30% and visitation.
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  287. This information is fine at the START of the relationship BEFORE marriage and kids. At this point the high value Chadrone has all the leverage and options. However, AFTER marriage and kids, she has ALL the leverage, and this high value Chadrone will need to cook and clean for HER to prevent losing the money, house and kids in divorce.
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  288.  @rejectwokeness1314  wow! That is one hell of a red pill. Kids are a way to ensure their own survival.
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  289.  @danielstokes2088  A man will sacrifice his life for his family. A women will sacrifice her family for her life.
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  290.  @rebekkagasmi9451  you obviously haven't heard of divorce and in the situation you describe police should be involved too.
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  291. I think there are 2 types of angry red pill/manosphere guys which PsycHacks seems to acknowledge at 9:15 . The angry divorced guys who wished they knew this red pill stuff before marriage / child custody battles etc and who are angry with family law and angry with family law judges, versus the angry virgins who are angry with Chad and Chad's side chicks / concubines. I think the angry divorced guys have legitimate grievances, whereas the angry virgins just need to swallow and digest the red pill.
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  292. Human mating and dating is a game with winners and losers. If you want to be a winner you have to get good at playing the game. Building up your value and not making costly mistakes like marriage (risk of losing money and assets) and kids (risk of alienation and child support) with emotionally unstable, disagreeable women.
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  293.  @whatsupbudbud  I partially agree with you. If your wife is cheating on you, most likely she has fallen in love with someone else, and is ready to mate switch to another guy. In that instance, there is no saving the marriage. However, if the husband cheats, maybe it was just a moment of weakness?
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  294. Facts. A lot of children from the 1990s have seen their parents get divorced and the fallout from all of that. Why would these children (who are now adults) want to take the risk. The juice is not worth the squeeze.
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  295. @Mandy Mikulka I think Dr Taraban's point is that women shouldn't use talking as a way to punish a man, e.g. trying to change a man, or moaning and complaining at the man for being himself. Talking shouldn't be used as a weapon. Dr Taraban makes a very important point and if people listen to him, I am pretty sure they will live much happier and satisfying relationships.
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  296.  @33Jenesis  Even if you get married, you will still probably end up alone, poor and depressed via divorce. And you will probably only see your kids once a week or for the whole weekend, every other weekend. Marriage is no longer a guarantee of family for men.
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  297.  @tigerbear3038  what he is saying is a 5/10 man should date a 3/10 women. that way the 3/10 women feels like she is getting a good deal and should therefore be less likely to divorce.
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  298.  @whocarescrapsa  "The fact that I don't have alimony or child support to pay tells me they have all been a resounding success! " 💯% facts. Nailed it. As long as you are not losing 50% of all your assets and resources, paying for yours and hers legal fees, no alimony, no child support, no child custody battles, no parental alienation, and no heated co-parenting with the kids bouncing around between 2 homes, it is a BIG WIN.
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  299. Unfortunately women's beauty is a depreciating asset. So as a man you are essentially getting less and less with time. Poor long term cost/benefit outcome. Women, like baby tigers, are short term only.
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  300. You are not going to make it if you lose your money, house and kids on divorce. Trust me. You are only going to make it back to your parents home empty handed.
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  301. facts. why should married people act like they are unmarried in order to create drama and instability? just don't get married and create stability in the first place. i feel sorry for the kids who have to deal with all this.
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  302.  @hassassinator8858  my best 3 pieces of advice. 1. chose a woman who is mentally and emotionally stable, is not always moaning and complaining about others, can handle disappointment, can handle the word "no" and who says "sorry". 2. don't get married or at least get a pre-nup. 3. try to minimize the number of kids you have unless you are happy to pay lots of child support.
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  303. In some ways, the argument is flawed. Why reward someone just because they were a founder at the right place and right time. And why punish someone who happened, through no fault of their own, who came later in the journey. Rather than rewarding someone based on a timeline, just get a pre-nup or do not marry in the first place.
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  304. There is no such thing as a high value man. There is only high value kids, high value child support and a high value lifestyle all paid for by a nice guy beta provider. The nice guy beta provider will be treated like crap by the wife. While Chad and Tyrone get rewarded.
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  305.  @derekgedarro3891  the cognitive dissonance is real. Great spot.
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  306.  @goldmidwest  the problem with most men is that they are completely unrealistic. a 50 year lifelong marriage for millennials / Gen Z is a completely delusional expectation. it is more realistic / healthy to have 5 x 10 year relationships with 5 different woman, than 1 long hellish 50 year marriage, where she can shout and scream at you, because you gave her the ultimate stability and security. you just have to accept that people get bored, people change, and new people come into our lives.
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  307. a man will look at a woman and think "no one is perfect". a woman will look at a man and think "i can do better". take the red pill, gentlemen. it will set you free.
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  308. Marriage is a contract where the man enters his feminine behaviour and the woman enters her masculine behaviour because she has all the power and leverage to destroy him in divorce court.
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  309.  @MidAthlete  nailed it. Who will look after me when I am old? I barely get to see my son now I am divorced.
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  310. "I dont play games" = I only play 1 game. Do as I say and give me marriage, kids and financial security while I still have 1 more year of beauty left, or get lost while I am still pretty enough to secure another beta provider.
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  311. What is draining about relationships with nice guys? Would the relationship be less draining if you re-directed some of your time into other things, e.g. your siblings, your parents, your friends, your career, etc? Why would you become a mother to your nice guy partner? Are women's emotional / romantic expectations realistic or too difficult for most men to achieve? I think women put too much pressure on themselves to have a Hollywood-level relationships. I think our parents / grandparents generation had much more realistic and balanced expectations of what a relationship should be.
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  312. The intimacy never goes, she is just redirecting it to Chad and Tyrone.
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  313. You are the voice of reason. At the end of the day, women, like employers, have their inbox flooded with a bunch of potential candidates. Women, like employers, may try out a man but will let him go (divorce) if he is not doing his job. If the man/employee does his job, he will receive payment (physical intimacy). Women will always be the employer (unless you are a Chad or Tyrone who is capable of receiving job applications).
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  314. @@bernardbutler3720 I think, at the individual level, there are some people who can make a significant change. However, I think the more interesting question is what happens in general to most people. I think, in general, most people remain the same core genetic person but just change slightly based on the spectrum they are already sitting in. When I think of close family members who I have known over decades they are still all broadly the same people and do not change radically. This seems to be the accepted belief within psychology. I also think it becomes harder to change as you get older: "you can't teach old dogs new tricks".
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  315.  @user-ut4zw6so6o  how does it even the playing field when only one of the people is at risk of paying both sets of legal fees, losing their home, losing their kids, paying child support, paying alimony, etc? There is a reason most divorces are filed by women. They are more than happy to break up a family. It is ruthless to break up a family for no good reason other than you are bored.
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  316. 💯% nailed it. A lot of this stuff just seems to be genetically wired in humans, in the same way different breeds of dog are wired to behave in a particular way. I think humans massively over estimate how special we are. I recently watched a chimpanzee documentary and they pretty much had the same emotions and behaviours as humans.
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  317. Go out and find someone. Just make sure you are her both have a secure attachment style. And get a rock-solid bullet-proof prenup if you are going to get married. You may also want to minimize the number of kids you have to minimize any future child support.
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  318. @Mandy Mikulka There is a great lecture on You Tube from a famous British philosopher called Alain de Botton on the meaning of love. And he said something like, real love is loving someone despite them having imperfections and flaws. I guess the point he was making is that all successful marriages are imperfect because all husbands and wives are imperfect, but their love is so strong they find a way to get along and tolerate each others imperfections and flaws. I guess the key is finding the right person whose imperfections you are happy to put up with (because ultimately, no one is perfect, and therefore, to some extent, everyone who wants to be in a long term relationship will need to settle and get used to the other person's imperfections and flaws).
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  319.  @dinos9607  I disagree. I think the 2 most crucial factors are 1. mental stability, calmness, patience and tolerance levels of each person. Marriage is monotonous and boring so you need someone who is mentally stable, calm, patient and tolerant to endure the monotony and boredom of marriage. 2. survival. in my parents and grand parents day, marriages stayed together because both spouses needed each other to survive. now the family courts are biased to wives, and wives generally have jobs, they don't need a man once the man has bought them a house and given her kids. Marriage has got very little, if anything, to do with ethics. If anything, you can use ethics as a reason to justify divorce, e.g. a wife will say divorce is ethical in order to get a boring and unambitious husband out of the family home.
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  320. The partner succeeding needs to show compassion and let the other partner grow in their own time and speed. However many people who rather just break up and upgrade partner. Not all relationships will be lifelong traditional 50 year marriages. Its difficult to predict how people will behave 10, 20, 30 years in the future.
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  321.  @FedPut  I agree. I was going to mention that but I didn't want to make my original comment too long. But you are right. She will eventually become dissatisfied if you are deficient in one area.
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  322. End game for men is: 1. unhappy marriage, or 2. divorce and losing the money, house and kids.
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  323. W junior college. W 5 stroke special.
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  324.  @schmetterling4477  Agreed. Guys also choose women based on looks too. And this is also guys downfall too. They choose on looks rather than other traits such as peacefulness/supportiveness and then the guy is surprised 10 years don the line when he is in front of Karen the divorce judge fighting for his money, house and kids.
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  325.  @schmetterling4477  The problem with the "chose wisely" argument is that is fails to take into account changes in people's emotions, feelings, love fading, etc. The women you marry at 25 years old (young, free, single, slim, etc) is very different to the women you divorce at 35 years old (older, fatter, 2 kids, sleep deprived, post natal depression, been through miscarriages, surgeries, career stalled, etc). So even if you do chose wisely, events outside of your control mean you can still end up divorced. It is not a case of "chose wisely". It is more a case of chose "low risk" or not chose at all (MGTOW).
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  326.  @paulb7207  Did you even listen to the video? The video was nothing to do with stay at home moms, single earner households, etc.
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  327. guys, do not lead with your wallet. i lead with my wallet and it worked short term, but long term, I lost 70% of my money and assets in my divorce, including my house. leading with your wallet is great short term but it will come back to bite you long term. i was financially ruined in my divorce and am now stuck on child support for 10+ years.
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  328.  @Xenozillex  they can also try to get the prenup thrown out like dr dre's wife or tyrese's wife.
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  329. Taking calculated risks where potential pit falls have been mitigated is generally much better. E.g. marrying without a pre-nup vs. marrying with a pre-nup. Or having 1 kid (maximum child support bill just for 1 kid) vs. having multiple kids (larger child support/child custody bill). Or rushing into marriage vs. taking your time. Or quitting your job and starting a business with no savings vs. staying in your job and building up your savings and business on a part-time basis first, etc.
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  330.  @Gizziiusa  wrong. the woman you marry is essentially the same woman that you divorce. however in divorce you finally see the REAL her without all the acting.
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  331.  @charlottegyseman5667  most (not all) serious romantic relationships are an exchange of value. typically, the man wants physical intimacy and kids while the woman wants financial security and kids. I know what I am saying sounds crazy but if you look at the relationships around you that is what is essentially going on even if we do not described it as such. Because having kids is so important to most people (not all) in serious romantic relationships, the burning house will inevitably represent her ability to ovulate healthy eggs. in your nun example, the nun shouldn't give up her celibacy if her celibacy and vows to God are more important to her than having kids. however, your example is an insignificant exception not the general rule for most people.
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  332. Moral of the story: do not allow a rat to enter your life.
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  333. 💯% facts. i had to lose my money, house and kid in divorce, before I took the red pill and began accessing this stuff. i would have never believed it before my divorce. as the saying goes, a man will sacrifice his life for a woman. a woman will sacrifice her man for her life.
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  334. The video is actually about what to do if the intimacy is cut off after marriage (not before marriage).
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  335.  @danielademide  you should be made President of the Manosphere immediately. You have the right idea.
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  336.  @annesmith9181  I think the points you make about informal partners and grandparents relates to the actual parents themselves rather than a piece of paper/ring (i.e. marriage). For example, I think it is unlikely kids of unmarried Harvard educated doctors would be exposed to informal partners (compared to unemployed married criminals who may be cheating or polygamous or end up divorced, etc). I think the best way to save marriage would be for there to be compulsory pre-nups, e.g. a pre-nup that states the % of income the husband pays to the wife as alimony and for how many years, and the % capital the husband pays to the wife. At least then, both people have financial security as both people know exactly what they will get/lose on divorce and both people who have agreed upon a % structure (e.g. 50 : 50 split for no kids, 60 : 40 split for one kid, 70 : 30 split for 2 kids, 75 : 25 split for 3+ kids). Unfortunately, the current system which actively incentivizes bad behaviour from both sides during divorce, causes huge amounts of money to be wasted in legal fees, and where both sides live in fear as they have no idea what the Judge will order, cannot be a good thing in the long term across generations.
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  337. i got pumped and dumped in divorce court. lost my money, house and kid. getting pumped and dumped in divorce is an awful experience.
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  338.  @rejectwokeness1314  your example makes no sense. Probably 0.1% of male friendships results in a job (I would expect a similar thing for women too). Most men and women get their jobs by applying online. I think your comment about men prioritizing the wife, gf and hot tub streamers is a good one. Men's genetics seem to be based about around trying to access mating opportunities. Whereas maybe female genetics are based around establishing long term relationships through sharing emotions.
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  339. Amen. Thank god for the red pill.
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  340. this is why wives want marriage, and then the boredom drives them to wanting divorce. marriage causes divorce.
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  341.  @mikehawkins4752  facts. you just have to try to de-risk things. 1. choose a woman who is mentally and emotionally stable with a secure attachment style. 2. do not get married (or get a prenup at the very minimum). 3. only have 1 kid to minimize any future child support.
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  342. Even if you marry, you will end up dying alone due to things like divorce and parental alienation. Problem is, if you marry, you will die without your money, house and kids, as they will all be taken away from you in divorce. Its lose-lose for men. Online is slowly becoming better than in real life.
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  343.  @gateholder  Oh great! So I am a peasant in the dating marketplace. Thanks a lot!
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  344.  @mrtuber3491  that's a great point. A true alpha or chadrone would be enjoying life and not in the comments section.
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  345.  @Straga_Severa  best comment. Simple don't marry or at the very minimum get a bullet proof pre-nup.
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  346. I love this idea of adored vs adoree. It is a good explanation of why nice guys finish last, and why the bad boys are undefeated.
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  347.  @symeon5518  my comment is not about women. its about irrational and illogical people. shame on you.
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  348. I consider game to be immoral. Particularly when you are dealing with a women in her 30's and her clock is ticking. You're never going to be able to keep this false persona going 24/7, so why bother being inauthentic in the first place. I would even argue that divorce happens when guys get exhausted of running game. You sold your wife a dream, and she took your money, house and kids in revenge. If she needs game, she's probably not worth it.
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  349.  @tancreddehauteville764  The UK is an equitable division country on divorce. You can look this up on google for yourself. Some cases end up 100 : 0 to the wife / mother. The starting point is 50 : 50 but judges often increase this to 60 : 40 or 70 : 30 or 75 : 25 if there is a child involved and the mother is working part time. On top of the 70 : 30 the father also has to pay child support each month. I obviously don't have a problem with child support each month as this is reasonable and fair. The problem I have is losing 70% of my money, assets and house. A major problem with the UK divorce system is that it is very secretive, i.e. done behind closed doors without publication of each case. The only way to get evidence is by speaking to UK family law solicitors, or going to organizations like Resolution, Fathers for Justice, etc. I personally lost 70% despite only having 1 kid, short marriage and my wife earning more than me.
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  350. Chad and Tyrone playing life in easy mode. RIP nice guy beta providers. As Rollo says, if she makes you wait, its not worth the wait.
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  351. s/o to Kevin Samuels. And for members of the coach gang: "it's all jermaine's fault. it's always jermaine's fault". And as Dr David Buss says, females do mate switch to better partners.
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  352.  @YesNo-qb9vl  Precisely. Get better not bitter.
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  353.  @spontaneousbootay  I an talking about relationships. You are talking about kinks. We are talking about two different things.
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  354.  @ousamaabdu794  in reality, 99% of men who are married have no status. very few people have status. and even guys with status like tom brady, brad pit, elon musk and johnny depp end up divorced.
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  355. Ouch! Sorry to hear that. Must be painful to be away from your child and be on 16 years of child support and heated co-parenting.
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  356.  @c.c6909  💯%. if a man compromises, there must be some sort of benefit to him, e.g. he is compromising on marriage/babies in order to secure your physical intimacy, etc.
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  357.  @SmileyEmoji42  a man saying "will you marry me" is the same as an employee saying "will you employee me". men = employees. women = employers, i.e. the high level decision makers of whether or not the man / employee is good enough. This is always how biology and genetics has worked. The males of the species are larger, colourful and more ornamented because that is what the women (i.e. the executive decision makers) select for. Anyone who thinks men are employers are in denial. I think men should become high value and highly desirable and should become employers but only the top 10% of men (Chad and Tyrone) will ever achieve this. The bottom 90% of men will always be employees begging for women (i.e. a job) and begging for a salary (i.e. physical intimacy).
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  358. Its always "what have you done for me lately". They have an unquenchable thirst to receive benefits.
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  359.  @suefleming  I agree. I believe in long term relationships etc. But the deluded hope that signing a piece of paper will magically ensure two people will stay together is a fairy tale. Unfortunately marriage is outdated and hence the reason why it is on the decline and dying out worldwide.
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  360. 💯% . Coffee dates, walks, going to the park, etc are good low investment starter options before you start making larger investments of time and money. if guys think 1st dates are expensive, they should try paying children (or child support and legal fees).
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  361. be a supporting character in someone else's movie for the last 50 years of my life. no thanks. marriage is a hell no in 2023
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  362. If the discrepancy is that wide it is probably time to call it quits (assuming he doesn't have a medical condition like low T). Assuming no medical condition, the girlfriend must be extremely annoying to deal with or maybe the wrong gender.
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  363. So 100% of women are going to have to throw themselves at the top 20% of men by being helpful and fun in bed? That is going to result in a lot of traumatized women who have higher standards going forwards. That is also going to result in the bottom 80% of men having to deal with Chad and Tyrone's leftovers. Is this really the future?
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  364.  @eladbari  In the UK around 51% of kids (i.e. most kids) are born outside of marriage. Marriage is going extinct in the UK. It is down from 400k/year in the 1970's, to 200k marriages in 2019, and 85k marriages in 2020. I believe marriage rates are falling in the Western world. So soon most kids will be born outside of marriage.
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  365.  @srinavin  you never had it in the first place lolololol 😆😆😆😆
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  366. "boyfriend experience". I'm definitely stealing that quote. It is brilliant. Too many SIMPs in the friendzone providing the BFE.
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  367.  @DNA350ppm  you have made the classic mistake of conflating two separate issues. When I say comfort and security I am talking from a mate acquisition and resources acquisition point of view (not hormones and emotions which are always going to be fluctuating). If the man stays at home and helps out domestically, the wife will stress out and say why the husband is not ambitious and why is he not working overtime. The wife will always going complain regardless.
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  368.  @CallmeMasta  True. But you might regret having a kid and ending up on 18 years of child support and the mother turning the kid against you.
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  369.  @0ak-tree-j8j  i doubt you will be able to suggest a better example, but go ahead and be my guest.
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  370.  @Katarzyna-h2z  So true. Very profound. Desire is a temporary. The more you get to know someone it takes away from desire and adds to something else, e.g. love/stability/boredom.
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  371. Difficult to use dread and game in a marriage, when she has all the power and leverage in the marriage and divorce court. Marriage is just not conducive to intimacy.
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  372. I lost 70% of my money and assets in my UK divorce, including my house. Regardless of whether the women is a founder or employee, there should always be a pre-nup. Even in the USA, many divorces end up 70 : 30 after factoring in legal fees and alimony.
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  373. the one woman you know probably sees potential / unrealized value in her lower status mate. he is on a shot clock. if he doesn't produce results real quick, he is getting fired.
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  374. This is the exact trap that most divorced guys fall into.
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  375.  @ricardomartinhodacruz  CGA and Better Bachelor would go bankrupt over night if all the guys who have suffered or are currently suffering with divorce, alimony, child support modifications, losing the house, paying two sets of astronomical legal fees, dealing with biased judges, involved in custody battles and parental alienation, etc stopped watching. Most of CGA and Better Batchelors audience are divorced guys that have suffered at the hands of the divorce system. There would be no CGA and no Better Bachelor if the millions of suffering guys were not supporting them with youtube views, super chats, patreon subscriptions, book purchases, etc.
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  376. W Junior College and the 5 stroke special.
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  377.  @Zero_Zero_Zero_Zero  this is probably the ideal way to operate in 2023. the only thing I would add is that only chad's and tyrone's can act like this. low value guys are in such desperation and have such scarcity of options they have to SIMP out of control, pedestalize women and offer marriage without a pre-nup in order to acquire mating opportunities.
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  378. The guy has a scarcity mindset. He thinks its this woman or nothing. The girl is ruthless. Come to Indiana or the relationship is over. The girl couldn't care less about the guy. She wants what the guy can provide, e.g. child support, kids, alimony, 50% of the assets, help with co-parenting, etc. This relationship has run its course. Its over.
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  379.  @tonsssedell4318  agreed. sometimes the only way to learn is to touch the stove.
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  380. I hate to say this but I think this is a reach to be honest. If we look at trends, marriage and birth rates are at an all time low. If trends continue, more than half of women will be single and childless in the next 10 years or so. Women are not competing for high value men. They are more than happy being single, independent boss babes.
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  381.  @stevenroshni1228  And the good men will eventually lose their wives to divorce, and will also lose their money, house and kids in the divorce process too. The wives never really wanted the good men. The wives just settled for the good men because they wanted kids and financial security. The wives never stopped loving Chad and Tyrone.
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  382.  @YellowKing1986  If you read the Bible and what it says about Eve not listening and eating the apple, Delilah betraying Samson, Jezebels, women being the downfall of King David and King Solomon, etc. If you read the lyrics to Elvis Presley's "hard headed women" song from the 1950's, high divorce rates since the 1970's and introduction of birth control, etc it is pretty obvious men and women, regardless of whether there is a father and religion, have always had their problems since the beginning of time. The key is to find someone who is genetically mentally stable, calm and patient. You can't fake or learn being mentally stable, calm and patient in long term relationships. You either have that personality or you don't. It is one of the reasons why 2nd marriages have a higher divorce rates (60%) than 1st marriages (50%), and third marriages (70%) have a higher divorce rates than second marriages. For most people, regardless of how much you learn about marriage, you either genetically suited to a long, boring, monotonous 50 year marriage or you are not.
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  383.  @eighteenfiftynine  i do. although no grandkids.
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  384.  @_FightForYourFreedom_  The book is essentially like a PhD thesis. The central argument is that relationships are a transactional value exchange. A lots of arguments are put forward to support this economic model, e.g. men want copulation vs women want resources, women shop around for the best deal, men want variety/The Coolidge Effect, etc etc. The book is more about the economics (than psychology) of relationships.
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  385. Rip Zizz
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  386. I would love to listen to Orion's take on "is the juice worth the squeeze?". I am assuming the answer is it depends (probably "yes" for a variety of short term relationships, but probably "no" is you marry a depreciating asset). Seems like humans are a serially monogam-ish species.
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  387.  @tancreddehauteville764  the UK legal system is a complete lottery. My lawyer thought the split would be 60 : 40. But ultimately it depends on the judge on the day. If you get a biased judge who believes everyone should be fighting against the patriarchy the wife will win big. Johnny Depp lost his Amber Heard case in the UK. Individual judges in the UK are way to incompetent and have way to much power and bias.
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  388. there is no such thing as a high value man, just ask bill gates, jeff bezos, elon musk, brad pitt, tom brady, johnny depp, dr dre, kanye, tyrese, and all the other divorced millionaire guys. babies and child support are high value, not the man. even "high value men" taking big L's.
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  389.  @allenlin7333  never heard of this talking point. incredibly insightful.
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  390.  @tomaszsosnowski9279  I think you are right. I think his kid is still quite young.
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  391.  @ichigotheg.o.a.t  low value men is a short hand for the guys described in options C and D. There's no need to be so emotional about it. Try some stoicism.
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  392.  @ruijua  eggplant size = genetics
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  393.  @dekev7503  I would probably put zexual satisfaction in physical/genetics group. But maybe you are right. Maybe zexual satisfaction/genuine burning desire deserves its own category.
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  394.  @Kristy_not_Kristine  Makes sense. If both people are not scared of communicating with each other in an open way and are both mentally, emotionally, and psychologically stable enough to discuss their future marriage and financial arrangement thereafter, they are probably mentally, emotionally, and psychologically stable enough to survive a 50 year marriage.
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  395.  @msc8382  in my opinion, the concept of the high value man doesn't exist, only babies and child support are high value, not the man. This is the reason why women want marriage and also the reason why women want divorce. Women have relationships goals, e.g. babies and child support, the man is just a placeholder, until she achieves those goals.
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  396. Its not that bad. I got divorced and lost my money, house and kid. My ex-wife and kid are fine because Chad and Tyrone have moved into my old house, and look for them, while I pay for everything via child support.
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  397.  @jilladams7573  I have never heard of a situation where a husband has taken the wife's house, money and kids. So it doesn't apply the other way around.
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  398. 😆😆😆😆. Enjoy the decline.
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  399.  @alexjones28  Its kind of irrelevant if the offer is just for a cheap thrill. From the woman's point of view, they have hundreds or thousands of potential candidates online. As far as the women is concerned, they have got what they need, i.e. attention and validation.
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  400.  @ALForb  I have no sympathy for guys who go through multiple bad divorces, etc. You should have learnt from your first rodeo. Ultimately, trash men go for trash women, because that's all that trash men can get. Trash men often seem grateful to get a trash women as they see it as a small win (however long term it epically back fires).
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  401. NGL. I completely disagree with this video. In the vast majority of situations. Average guys are asking women for dates and box. Expecting women to start cold approaching, running game and paying for dates with men is delusional. Only Chad and Tyrone can manage this level of treatment. Most men will always be employees, i.e. they will need to beg the women/employer for box/money.
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  402. Men and women both have trouble taking life seriously in their 20's. Guys want physical intimacy from a variety of girls. Girls what attention from Chad and Tyrone. In their 30's, I think girls get sick of Chad and Tyrone, and normal guys are now in a financial position to be a provider. Problem is: beta provider + Chad's leftovers = Divorce.
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  403.  @goaldude  exactly. you 100% nailed it. all a sexless marriage shows is she never married you for intimacy. she married you for money and kids. then once she got the diamond ring, house and kids, then there was no reason to keep sleeping with you anymore. sad but true. thank you for solving the mystery.
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  404.  @bearclaw5115  women wouldn't covertly disrespect their boss. No covert or overt disrespect goes on when a woman deals with their boss because they want the job and money.
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  405.  @ContinueWithThatStatement  I agree with most of what you have said. However it takes much more than resources. You also need looks, exciting lifestyle, and emotional availability. Resources alone is nowhere near enough. The standards and expectations are so much higher.
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  406.  @ContinueWithThatStatement  that type of relationship won't work long term, and may even end up in a common law marriage/divorce and/or false allegation.
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  407.  @chipsteve  facts. they can't respect a weak man that has zero leverage who through his own foolishness has screwed himself over. We need a name for this law. Maybe "high value man fallacy"?
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  408. men are always going to SIMP out of control. we can't help it. it is genetics. we are generally only going to take the red pill after divorce. most guys are hope strategists and think divorce will never happen to me.
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  409. the employer (woman) will agree to give the employee (man) a job (marriage). however no one is immune to getting fired. she will become bored 7 years later, file for divorce, and take the money, house and kids. RIP married guys.
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  410. I think it is well understood that boyfriends are looking for physical attraction while girlfriends are looking for genetic material (e.g. babies) and financial security (e.g. marriage, house, money, lifestyle). Wives can play the attraction game and husbands can play the money game but this has disastrous implications long term on the husband should the wife divorce him, e.g. him losing his money, house, kids and getting very depressed. My advice is don't play the game unless you are happy to lose big. s/o MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Well-being.
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  411. Bunny ranch? Seeking?
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  412.  @SanjuktaSahoo-cm6uh  RIP Nice guys. You will be the "shoulder to cry on guy" that she goes to when Chad pumps and dumps.
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  413. I have been here since around 30k subscribers. It is such a great channel with a lot of thoughtful, insightful, honest and accurate takes. I glad you kept on pushing through the early days. I will definitely be buying your book (probably audible). Keep up the good work.
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  414.  @chrisolson84  you need to open your eyes. if you open your eyes the actual quote is: "If there were no problems with divorce law, alimony, division of assets, legal fees, child custody, parental alienation, heated co-parenting, biased family court judges, etc these RP channels would go extinct."
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  415.  @robertc.obrien146  Dr Orion has appeared on 4 RP channels. Fresh and fit, rich cooper, whatever podcast and Mike Sartain.
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  416. for most men, it will be too hard to unlearn all the hollywood brainwashing. so many will continue to get married without pre-nups.
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  417.  @AceKite00  I think the relationship failure rate is around 80% for unmarried and 50% for marriages. So either way, it doesn't look good for you. But good luck and you are definitely making the right decision not to marry.
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  418. The number 1 troll. s/o to TLA.
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  419. There's always another bull in the ring. Work husbands, friend zone dudes, beta orbiters, IG SIMP's, etc.
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  420.  @manifest2203  lol. you are clearly triggered. thank you for proving my point.
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  421.  @knowledgeispower200  she obviously doesn't like you but can't leave you because of something you provide, e.g. maybe you pay the bills, or maybe she is hoping you give her kids and child support, or maybe she is hoping you giver her marriage and 50% of your assets plus alimony. Get out before the inevitable divorce court battle and child custody/parental alienation battle.
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  422. Most guys can't be F boys. This title is reserved for Chads and Tyrones only. Chads and Tyrones use their looks and genetics as a form of currency so they manage to get around the resources issue. However most guys will have to get used to paying to play, e.g. dates, gifts, diamond ring, house, and then child support and alimony.
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  423. Please tell TLA to collaborate with PsycHacks. I have already super chatted this once to him.
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  424. Chad and Tyrone don't pay a dime. They just pipe her down and throw her back to the streets. I wish I was a Chad or Tyrone. Life is so unfair. RIP beta providers doing the clean up work on Chad and Tyrone's leftovers.
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  425. You are the product that you are selling to women. If you are successful in making the sale you will receive payment (i.e. physical intimacy). If you are unsuccessful in selling yourself, you need to apply for another job elsewhere. Women, like employers, have their inbox flooded with potential candidates though. Women, like employers, can fire their employees too (divorce).
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  426. RIP SIMP's. Stop pandering to women and pedestalizing them with marriage, diamond rings, no pre-nups because you are too scared to ask, folding and bending to her every whim, etc. Take it from a former SIMP, you are only playing yourself and will get walked all over in your marriage and walked all over in divorce court.
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  427.  @jeffer168  rational house? I think that is asking for too much in 2024.
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  428.  @jeffer168  one failed marriage and losing 70% of my money, home equity and kid in divorce (even though my wife earns more than me) is enough for one lifetime. divorce judges are ruthless.
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  429.  @JenniferJohnson-ub3gt  I agree. Pre-nups should be compulsory, and 50:50 child custody (which cannot be put in a pre-nup) should also be an initial default setting too.
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  430. Women have around 10 dudes in the friendzone providing boyfriend energy at any one time. Hence their abundance mindset. Women can break glass in case of emergency (i.e. at 35) and marry one of these beta's and pop out 1 - 2 kids before 40. Women have a delusional mindset for a reason, i.e. thirsty beta-provider clean-up guys.
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  431. Funny thing is. Dr Taraban, in an earlier video, said women do not accept 50 : 50 . Women generally want men to invest 60 : 40 or 70 : 30. lol
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  432. Both you and your lover need to be mentally and emotionally stable (i.e. have a secure attachment style). If you or your lover are mentally and emotionally unstable (i.e. anxious or avoidant attachment style) the relationship is destined to be unhappy and/or short term. Pure facts 1:05 - 2:19 .
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  433. Blue pill - top down processing. Just assuming Hollywood and marriage is right. Red pill - bottom up processing. Examining your relationship and other people's relationships, biology, legal, evolutionary psychology, etc from first principles.
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  434.  @Willsimp4tacos  either spend thousands of dollars getting both sides an attorney to draw up and check a pre-nup, listing out all your assets and bank accounts on the pre-nup, making sure it is not so unfair that the judges throws it out, getting it signed before the engagement and well before the marriage, video taping the signing of the pre-nup making sure she is not drunk or under duress, and hoping your ex-wife does not spend thousands of more dollars trying to get the pre-nup thrown out. OR just do not get married in the first place. the choice is yours. if you have lots of money to spend on legal fees, then a pre-nup could be a good option.
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  435.  @EcoworksFL  I had more money at the beginning of the marriage. I paid for everything during the marriage. She didn't contribute to the marriage. She would give her earnings to her family members to help them and/or hide money. So according to your logic, I should be given 70%. However this is not how the divorce laws are setup in the UK.
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  436.  @EcoworksFL  The UK system works on a 50-50 basis and should only deviate if the wife needs more. Given my ex-wife didn't need more than 50-50 the assets should have been split 50-50 or 60-40 at worst. But 70-30 where there is only 1 child and she earns more is discriminatory against husbands. Any man getting married is making the biggest mistake of his life. It is a relief marriage is finally going extinct. I wouldn't want my son to go through what I went through.
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  437. To get more love you have to be more loving .................... to the right people. Do not be loving to the wrong people. Wrong people will just drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.
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  438.  @KD400_  These types of RP videos are probably extremely uncomfortable watching for women because it demystifies loves/female nature. Men need to wake up and swallow the RP whole. Only the truth can set you free.
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  439.  @nannuky1128  all the data shows the majority of men don't require any emotional support from their partner. it's simply not the case men choose mates based on emotional support. there is no data to demonstrate this. according to google, most mental health illnesses occur in women. consequently, men have always been the partner to bare the emotional support load, as men tend to be less emotional and women tend to be more emotional. an emotional women would need more emotional support, than an emotionless man.
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  440. This explains why the first 6 years of a marriage is easy. You can buy her a house, buy her a car, give her kid 1, and give her kid 2. However after 6 years you have nothing else to give. And she won't thank you for the house, car, kid 1, kid 2, its all about what have you done for me lately. It impossible to keep some woman happy.
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  441.  @max_rove  you are wrong. you clearly don't fully watch any red pill channels. Red pill content creators are constantly moaning and complaining about men being SIMP's, leading with their wallet, being boring, being broke, being fat, having no game, etc. The red pill examples are not extreme. They are showing the actions and behaviours of thousands of normal women.
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  442.  @axl1002  do not get married without a pre-nup. if that ship has sailed, get a post-nup.
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  443. I lost 70% of all my money and assets (including my house) in my UK divorce. This has ruined me financially. I now use this as a form of self sabotage, i.e. I blame my horrific divorce for not enjoying life and moving on. PsycHacks videos are so insightful and powerful. Congratulations on 70k subscribers.
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  444.  @ichigotheg.o.a.t  so sad for stating the truth? ok, keep coping and editing all your comments.
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  445.  @mediocreman2  that's called delusional
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  446. Same thing happened to me. My lawyer through me under the bus. She didn't push my wife to disclose but told me to disclose everything. The judge was unfair and she didn't punish my wife for non-disclosure. I lost 70% of all my assets. Please tell me Karma is real.
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  447. Hold the line gents. Simping will back fire long term. You will end up losing your money, house and kids 10 years later in divorce.
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  448. Great comment. As time goes by we get bombarded by more and more options, making choice more difficult and feeling of regret much higher. Thank you for your insights.
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  449. So true. So many low value betas live in a scarcity mindset and don't have the guts to lead her to the door. And then they are surprised they are losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later.
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  450. It is a lot of work for no real gain, other than losing your money, house and kids in divorce, and watching Chad Iiving in your old house with your ex-wife and kids.
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  451. Marriage and even co-habitation and kids is an unacceptable loss. Way too much risk in 2023.
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  452. Completely agree. It would be great if Dr Orion does more of these case study type videos. This case study was great.
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  453. Bro, this is probably the worst video. Men are not going to be receiving job applications from women in their DM's. How many job applications have you ever received from women? Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). This is basic evolutionary biology. As women take greater pregnancy risks, they need to carefully vet, interview and select their man, just like an employer would. If the employee (i.e. man) passes the interview (i.e. the dates), he will receive a salary (i.e. physical intimacy). This video will just cause more people to be single because now both parties are being picky (not just the women).
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  454. I don't think men even know how to vet a women. And I don't think men even know how to vet themselves and figure out whether they are relationship material.
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  455. Just when you think Orion can't make a better video, he releases an even better one.
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  456. women want the BBC: biggest best companion. there is always another bull in the ring. they naturally want the best deal that comes with the most value. it makes sense when you think about it from a survival and genetics point of view.
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  457.  @schmetterling4477  I am currently in a huge downward phase in my life following a messy divorce so your comment about me only deserving an "immortal goddess" doesn't make any sense. Maybe you are trying to be funny? For whatever reason you have completely misunderstood the point I was making. I just gave a simple example of why your "choosing wisely" point is probably better framed as "choosing low risk" because people change (the example I used is one of many different examples that could have been used).
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  458.  @schmetterling4477  again, you have completely misunderstood what I am saying. You are placing way too much attachment on my random example (I could have used a different example) and you have completely ignored the point I was making. I have never said that scars, aging, kids, etc are risk factors. What I am saying is that people change and therefore choosing wisely at 25 years old is an illusion because people inevitably change and therefore the mentality of the person you chose at 25 years old would have changed 10, 20, 30 years down the line. This goes for BOTH the husband and the wife (it takes TWO to tango). I wish I hadn't of used the example I used as for some reason you have internalised the example to such a level that you deem it as a personal attack on you and you have started talking about your medical history. Just to be clear, I don't even know you and I am not attacking you/surgeries/scars (you brought up scarring not me). When I brought up surgeries I was thinking along the lines of trauma/recovery (scarring did not even cross my mind so I am very surprised you are saying I can't love someone due to scarring when you don't even know my scars LOL!). If I would have know this example would have been so triggering I would obviously have used a different example, e.g. young/fit/healthy to fat/bald/low testosterone.
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  459.  @schmetterling4477  it is good to see you have finally calmed down and are out of your emotions. All the swearing and bringing my child into the argument was completely unnecessary, reprehensible and very childish of you. Your comments were filled with hate for absolutely no reason and you should be ashamed of yourself. Just simply because you lost control by getting triggered by a minor example. You will see, as you mature and grow up, any romantic relationship is a risk (just ask Johnny Depp or any divorced guy who has lost his money, house and kids).
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  460.  @schmetterling4477  I am not dreaming of being Elon or Jeff. I brought up Elon and Jeff to show you were wrong when you said divorced people were losers. You have just changed the topic as you realized you were wrong. LOL. Nice try.
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  461. 💯% . do not lead with your wallet. i lead with my wallet and it worked short term, but long term, I lost 70% of my money and assets in my divorce, including my house. leading with your wallet is great short term but it will come back to bite you long term. i was financially ruined in my divorce and am now stuck on child support for 10+ years.
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  462. He's going on Fresh and Fit tonight. So you are probably right. He probably will get to 200k by end of September.
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  463. Women also file for divorce more, have higher levels of marital dissatisfaction when married, and live shorter lives compared to unmarried women. I think women just want the husband's kids and husband's wallet, but not the husband after they get bored with him.
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  464. Romans 12:21 New International Version Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
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  465. This is probably the first PsycHacks video I kinda disagree with. WAGs (wives and girlfriends) generally want physical intimacy too. However there's a big BUT. They want it with a guy who has good looks, money, status and personality. If there is no genuine burning desire between the two, then intimacy will not be on the cards. Simple as that. Physical intimacy shouldn't be so complicated or a chore, if it is this complicated or hard work, she doesn't like you. WAGs are only going to put effort into a relationship (intimacy, gifts, laughing at your jokes, etc) when they see their man as a Chad/Tyrone.
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  466.  @TheTeaParty320  there is no pre-nup legislation or laws in the UK (where I am from). You can do a pre-nup but the Judge is free to reject it because there is no legislation compelling a Judge to take them seriously.
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  467. i think women can go for quality dates (rather than quantity of dates) because they are inundated with options. however, for most men, i think they have to work for volume because women are so picky. just my 2 cents.
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  468.  @31minutesago  💯% facts. No marriage, no cohabitation and no kids. These 3 things will make it 100x easier to leave a relationship, move on and mate switch. 50-year pair bonded marriages are a work of fiction.
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  469.  @carlosa.rubiol.2893  women do not disrespect their bosses without realizing. They do not unintentionally disrespect their boss because they want the job and money.
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  470.  @papafellow4728  shes does know it. she would never question her boss or someone else important.
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  471. Guys in terrible marriages are very lonely as are divorced guys who just see their kids every other weekend or who barely see their teenage kids because they are too busy or have been turned against the father. I think being alone is actually quite common regardless of relationship status.
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  472.  @johnnonamegibbon3580  yes! in my marriage there were definitely two husbands. lol
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  473. 💯% facts. Its the elephant in the room. We all know the answer but can't say it. But it is obvious that one partner will be extremely happy if her husband can give her more spending money.
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  474.  @TempleoftheDarkPartsoftheMind  I think Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates both got divorced at the 25 year mark and lost billions. In the UK the fastest growing divorce age group is the 60+ years old (i.e. the silver separators). From the outside looking in (I was only married less than 10 years) it seems like there is always a headache in marriage and that you are never really safe from the clutches of divorce. In some cases, I think the longer the marriage, the more you grow apart and the more you get sick of each other. Trying to do a 50 year marriage in today's society which is essentially a godless and shameless society is so hard. Thank you for sharing your story. Hopefully someone younger reads this and thinks again.
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  475. Guys need to accept reality. She's not your girl, its just your turn. Dr David Buss has talked about humans being a serially monogamous species that mate switches when there is an opportunity. Hollywood lied to us. The 50 year pair bonded marriage thing is a work of fiction.
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  476. 27:55 Divorce the beta. Take his money, house and kids, and move onto a better, new, exciting guy. The play book for many women is now: 1. get ran through by chad in her 20's, 2. marry a beta clean up provider in her 30's, 3. have his kids, 4. take his money, house and kids in divorce, 5. monkey branch back to Chad as a MILF in her 40's. Divorce is a no brainer for most women.
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  477. 💯% facts. it is good that a man will sacrifice his life for a woman, while a woman will sacrifice her man for her life. because this helps survival. however, with modern day family law, this ruthless instinct and love of resources can come at a huge cost to the man. men value love, women love value.
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  478. Arrange dates that you enjoy, e.g. your favourite place to eat (even if its just a simple burger joint), watching a basketball match in a bar, going out for ice cream, etc. That way, you can find out if you are compatible and if she leaves early you can still had a nice time.
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  479. what is L about telling married people to act like they are unmarried? if marriage creates too much stability and boredom, surely acting unmarried will bring back the drama, chaos and excitement? the advice seems quite logical to be honest if you are married.
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  480.  @tancreddehauteville764  my wife earned more and we only had 1 kid. I lost 70% of my money and assets, including my house, on divorce. divorce isn't about innocent and guilty. it is about wealth transfer based on a biased judge.
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  481.  @Poussyeater-w5e  💯%. when you have swallowed the red pill and know that men are trying to extract intimacy, while women are trying to extract resources, there is no going back.
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  482. If you marry an independent post-wall boss babe you have shot yourself in the foot. Congratulations, you just played yourself. You will lose the money, house and kids in divorce. She will see to it that you do.
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  483. Its not really a hack though is it. In reality, men are not going to be inundated with hundreds of job applications from women. Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). Women are generally not going to cold approach, run game, pay for dates and buy flowers / chocolates. Women (like employers) select men. Not the other way around. This is basic evolutionary biology as women take greater pregnancy risks. This video is just a delusional way to look at the modern dating marketplace. This is a MGTOW video, i.e. just be alone unless you find a women good enough to pass your interview/selection process.
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  484. Probably she never really liked you in the first place. She only saw you as a "man juice" donor and once you had did the deed, you no longer had any use to her because she never really liked you anyway. She effectively used you. She knew all along she would divorce you once she got her kids and child support. Its a bitter pill to swallow.
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  485. Briffault's law: The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the relationship. Where the female can derive no benefit from the relationship with the male, no relationship takes place. In other words, only high value guys (either money or genetics) can get away with acting like an a-hole as they provide her with value.
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  486.  @fatpatlives1998  I got my clock cleaned in divorce. Lost 70% of everything. Lost my money, house and kid. Don't do it.
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  487.  @oemj7147  The red pill and intersexual dynamics was common knowledge. You should familiarize yourself with the Bible. The red pill is nothing new. Even in Biblical times there were warnings of Eve leaving Adam for a serpent, Delilah betraying her husband's secrets, Jezebels, the downfall of King David and King Solomon due to their lust, etc.
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  488. Thank god for the wall. Could you imagine how insufferable these people would be without the wall?
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  489. Its a "hot take" because its anti-woman. We should be lying to women by telling them they can have it all, all men are trash, and its not their fault.
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  490.  @tikroute  bro, I lost my money, house and kids in divorce. its over for me. you need to use it.
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  491.  @gottafly30  life long mistake = losing your money, house and kids in divorce. being parentally alienated from the kids. and ending up paying child support and/or alimony each month until the kids are 18 years old.
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  492. When hearing about the masculinity vs nice guy dynamic, frame, power vs egalitarianism dynamic, sacrifice, self vs us dynamic, consumptive love, presence vs absence dynamic, attachment vs detachment theory, marriage vs black pill dynamic ( 40:00 ), etc, is that relationships and marriages are extremely complicated in 2023.
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  493. you 💯% nailed it. in reality, only the top 10% of chads, tyrones, and chadrone's can sit back an interview women. the bottom 90% of Michael Scott, Dunder Mifflin, beta providers have to get their wallet out. ultimately, these bottom 90% will end up divorced because she married you just for kids, child support, alimony and the house. the whole dating market and family court system is a mess.
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  494. Its not just that men and women don't need each other because of alternatives (e.g. men can get intimacy from OF/PHub while women can get attention and likes from IG). Men and women are also costly to each other too, e.g. men lose alimony, child support, custody, their house, etc. While women's careers are affected when they are single moms.
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  495. s/o MHD
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  496. Juice isn't worth the squeeze at this point. I think people just need to accept, its not your spouse, its just your turn. Humans are a serially monogamous species. Its normal to move in and out of relationships, including marriages, at this point.
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  497.  @JohnAlot  You will even lose more in divorce if she earns more. My wife earned more and we only had 1 kid and I will lost 70% in my UK divorce. A lot of divorce judges are feminists and white knights. They will find a way to screw the husband over.
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  498.  @gjjkugfvm  easier said than done if you are married with kids.
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  499.  @bigmaneastside  I'm in the UK but largely agree with what you are saying. The only thing I would add is that no one is safe. Even billionaires like Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates who have been married 20+ years are getting divorced. It is impossible to predict the future and how things will turn out. You are right though- do not sign the marriage certificate. 💯% facts.
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  500. This is only half the story. A lot of this depends on the guy having a high SMV. In other words, a top 10% alpha. None of the video is true if you are a bottom 90% beta. Why would women cream over a beta? And if being a top 10% alpha is genetic then there is pretty much nothing you can do to enter this bracket.
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  501. Assuming you are male, maybe she will take it for now. You get married, buy her a house, and have kids, and then she takes it all in divorce. OF and PHub and other online offerings have now over taken real life. Sad but true.
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  502. romance is the opium for the masses of men. most men are sedated and asleep at the wheel. most men will only wake up when they lose their money, house and kids in divorce. its sad but true.
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  503. Silence is golden
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  504. ​ @franrod5227  the average male salary is greater than the average female salary so by default men have more money. husbands earn more than non-husbands so it appears women choose the richest men to marry. 97% of alimony payments (which is the result of marriage) are paid from men to women which helps women secure financial gain from the marriage. in addition, she will get her legal fees paid and secure at least 50% of the assets despite not contributing 50%. finally 70% of divorces are initiated by wives as they have nothing to lose and everything to gain. its not insecurity. it is just data and evidence.
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  505.  @americanflyer4126  Marriage is so dangerous the legal system had to invent prenups just to protect people. And sometimes even the prenup dont work.
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  506. The wall is coming. Menopause and ovulation failure is real.
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  507. What do you disagree with? I think your episode request would be very interesting. I would argue having / not having a father is irrelevant. I would guess the biggest two factors regarding dating and marriage is her genetics (i.e. is she mentally stable, calm, patient, etc) and her friends (are they hooking up or in LTR's).
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  508.  @marguskiis7711  True. They just miss the money that that person came with.
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  509.  @marguskiis7711 Crazy thing is, there are millions of similar cases like this. But most men don't share their L's.
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  510. 0:41 Avoid DDD women = Dangerous, Difficult and Disordered. 1:46 If she calls you "toxic", "narcissistic" or "emotionally unavailable" it is probably because you are not doing what she has told you to do. Its manipulation.
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  511. Its not really helpful though is it. In reality, men are not going to be receive job applications from women in their DM's. How many job applications have you ever received from women? Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). This is basic evolutionary biology. As women take greater pregnancy risks, they need to carefully vet, interview and select their man, just like an employer would. If the employee (i.e. man) passes the interview, he will receive a salary (physical intimacy from the women). This video will just cause more people to be single because now both parties are being picky (not just the women).
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  512. Relationships are a value exchange. Once she has extracted your value, it only makes sense for her to move onto the Bigger Better Companion (BBC). Men are suckers for believing that 50 year marriages are realistic, healthy and natural.
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  513. 100% agreed. If you become boring and complacent the relationship is at risk. Just merely getting married is not enough. You have to behave like you are not married to keep the spark alive.
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  514.  @whatsupbudbud  I don't think its double standards. Men appear to have a significantly higher lust mechanism than women hence all the problematic male behavior, e.g. OF, PHub, criminal non-consent grape, etc. Men seem to genetically wired to be promiscuous. Many of the most successful men such as Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Donald Trump and Tiger Woods have fallen to temptation.
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  515.  @Youtubehandlesaresilly  the problem with leaving a marriage is you end up financially destroyed in terms of losing your money, house, kids, assets, child support, alimony, legal fees, etc. Marriage is one of the worst things a man can do. You make yourself powerless.
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  516.  @georgesontag2192  no man realizes when they get married they actually end up with 5% after legal fees, alimony, child support, etc etc after divorce. marriage is so dangerous.
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  517.  @somacruz6893  Yup. Many wives have a secret stash of cash. Very normal.
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  518.  @Pride0FTh3Lion  perception is reality. They perceive themselves to be 10/10 high value women that are entitled to a rich alpha Chad. It doesn't matter what you think. They believe they are 10's and deserve a Tom Brady, Brad Pitt or Channing Tatum type guy. And they won't be settling for a beta like Steve from Accounts, and carry his child.
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  519. That is the perfect summary. Low value beta providers are just wife'ing up Chad's traumatized leftovers and then these low value betas wonder why they are losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later. Its because she's not your girl, she's still thinking about Chad and how useless you are in comparison.
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  520. If a women is using sex as a weapon or reward the guy is a beta. She doesn't really like him. There's no genuine burning desire. That relationship will eventually end or just be sexless.
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  521. married people should behave like they are unmarried. it is an interesting theory. with some truth. marriage causes security and stability. security and stability causes boredom and complacency. boredom and complacency causes divorce. i.e. marriage causes divorce.
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  522. If she is making you wait she is not physically-interested in you. She sees other qualities in you, e.g. money, provision, resources, daddy qualities, emotional support, etc. Women will generally make this type of beta male wait to confirm their ability to invest into her, then get married to them, get the house and kids, and then take him to the cleaners in divorce. Beta males are just a means to achieving an end, i.e. financial security and babies.
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  523. Dr Taraban just made a 3.5 hour appearance on the Fresh and Fit podcast. It was a great interview.
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  524. SIMPing expects or is hoping for value exchange. For example, if I SIMP for a women by paying for dates, buying gifts, giving compliments, etc I am hoping for some physical intimacy in return. SIMPing is like the marketing / advertising department of a relationship. SIMPing is big business. Love is completely different, it is the ultimate expression of unconditional sacrifice with no expectation of anything in return.
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  525. If a masculine boss babe wants to pay for the 1st date then this is a red flag. If a mentally and emotionally stable woman lets you pay for the 1st date then this is less of a red flag because she has the keys to survive in a LTR (e.g. calmness, patience, agreeableness, etc). The costs for the guy increase when babies come along so get used to paying.
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  526. You probably never looked at it this way because this POV is not real. In reality, men are not going to be receive job applications from women in their DM's. How many job applications have you ever received from women? Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). This is basic evolutionary biology. As women take greater pregnancy risks, they need to carefully vet, interview and select their man, just like an employer would. If the employee (i.e. man) passes the interview (i.e. the dates), he will receive a salary (i.e. physical intimacy). This video will just cause more people to be single because now both parties are being picky (not just the women).
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  527. This is a great summary. And like any job, the employer (wife) can fire (divorce) the employee (husband) and take away his money (and house and kids). RIP non-MGTOW's.
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  528. You can't win. Get married, you will be accused of creating boredom and stability. Don't get married, you will be accused of not committing. People just need to accept, she is not yours, its just your turn. Humans are a serially monogamous species (not a lifelong pair bonding species).
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  529.  @hoots187  Is there any difference between attention and time? By intimacy, I am assuming you mean good D game?
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  530.  @dinsel9691  Average marriage last around 12 years. 50% of marriages end in divorce. If you don't have those 5 things the countdown clock is ticking. Boomers/Gen X are irrelevant because women needed men for money. Gen Z/millennials women don't need a man due to their careers.
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  531.  @mangomight7938  LTRs tend to be for two securely attached people. Anxious and avoidants don't tend to have LTRs because of their insecure attachment styles. Anxious and avoidants probably need some psychological counselling or therapy to heal their childhood wounds and insecure attachment.
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  532.  @gl3mmy903  its not funny. its called female solipsism and male scarcity mindset. Men have few options so are desperate to do what it takes to get a woman. Women have an abundance of options so can be picky/selfish.
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  533. Problem is so many low value betas live in a scarcity mindset and don't have the guts to lead her dismiss her. And then they are surprised they are losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later.
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  534.  @alexisc7565  lead as in being in charge and making decisions, e.g. big purchases, where they live, whether they will get married, how many kids, how they will spend their spare time, how they will spend their money, etc.
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  535.  @manifest2203  some woman do far worse after divorce because they have either married a broke dude or don't know how to manage their divorce settlement after divorce, and so end up broke. smart women do better post divorce.
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  536. Bro, this is probably the worst video. Men are not going to be receiving job applications from women in their DM's. How many job applications have you ever received from women? Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). This is basic evolutionary biology. As women take greater pregnancy risks, they need to carefully vet, interview and select their man, just like an employer would. If the employee (i.e. man) passes the interview (i.e. the dates), he will receive a salary (i.e. physical intimacy). This video will just cause more people to be single because now both parties are being picky (not just the women).
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  537.  @manifest2203  wouldn't have to sign a prenup if they just avoided legal marriage in the first instance. Men are more emotional. You just have to look at the prison population and self-deletion statistics as evidence of this.
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  538.  @suefleming  Yet men keep getting married and remarried over and over again. It sad how delusional, emotional and illogical some men are.
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  539.  @andrewcolleyrealestate  this video doesn't give men more power. it is just telling men to be more picky and selective and strict. it will only serve to ensure more people are single as both sides become picky and selective (rather than just women).
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  540. 32:03 - Women are generally better at mental warfare than men. Divorce is a mental warfare game. 34:24 - Why women are generally better at mental warfare than men. (Chris Rock: women don't have a need to make sense) 39:30 - SIMPs will throw alpha's under the bus to get women. Low value SIMPs are ruthless.
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  541. I have heard divorce lawyers say a similar thing. Many women are not interested in the relationship. They are interested in what the the relationship can provide and do for them, e.g. kids, money, properties, etc. It is the main reason why women want marriage and also why women want divorce (i.e. the extraction of the money, kids and home from the husband).
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  542.  @Kuk0san  Unfortunately, many men like to cheat with younger and more beautiful women (not older saggy women). Look at Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, OF/PHub/Dancing clubs mainly being used by married men. Beauty is extremely important to many, if not most, men.
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  543.  @Katarzyna-h2z  Unfortunately, many men like to cheat with younger and more beautiful women (not older saggy women). Look at Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, OF/PHub/Dancing clubs mainly being used by married men. Beauty is extremely important to many, if not most, men.
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  544.  @hurrikane1449  most men are simps. They are only going to move to the court house and legally marry these single moms (Chad's leftovers).
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  545. If you look at billionaires like Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, Elon Musk, etc. The split is around 100 : 0. They are paying 100% for the house, nannies, chef, cleaners, etc and their wives are probably doing nothing. And even on a 100 : 0 split in favour of the wife these billionaires still get divorced. Bottom line is, no man is ever safe from divorce even on a 100 : 0 split. Wives will always find something to moan and complain about.
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  546. I think if a woman marries a poor guy, has multiple kids, and has no childcare support from her parents, it is a huge trap (as you correctly say). However, if a woman marries a guy with a good job, has 1 kid, and has parents to help her with childcare, then I don't think divorce and being a single mom is a trap. If anything, it is likely to be a huge win for her, as she will probably get the money, house and kids on divorce. As someone else said, the same women moaning and complaining about kids, would probably be moaning and complaining about loneliness, boredom, emptiness, etc if they did not have a kid.
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  547. SIMPs will always SIMP. Its in their genetics. They are lower value and its there only mating strategy.
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  548.  @pwilliams4073  you have to settle her mind, body and soul. Otherwise, you will lose her to someone else.
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  549. brah, if he is a beta orbiter, he ain't getting any. Beta orbiters never break out of the friend zone (unless she hits the wall and plans on divorce graping him 5 years later).
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  550.  @newagain9964  nobody is saying you should go around talking about being a dominant alpha male. lol
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  551.  @prim4681  I wonder what David Attenborough thinks about the falling marriage and birth rates.
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  552.  @monkeyboyalcoholic  💯% facts. Women eventually get bored of the money of a high value man. They eventually want to divorce, take his resources, and return back to the excitement of Chad, Tyrone and Chadrone. 1 man will never satisfy a lifetime of hypergamy.
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  553.  @kodeh7931  I'm an avoidant and my ex-wife was anxious. lol. I wish I knew all this psychology stuff before marriage.
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  554.  @KD400_  whats up bro. FNF vs destiny RP debate today should be good. FNF and PsycHacks say pretty much the same thing.
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  555. Yup. Married people should behave like they are unmarried. It is the only way to keep the spark alive. Once you get boring and complacent, the relationship is at risk.
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  556. As others have said, do not bring her back to the West. If you bring her back to the West you are ultimately doomed long-term as she makes friends and get socialized by the mainstream media. You will lose what made her special. If you bring her back to the West, remember, "she is not your girl, it is just your turn".
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  557.  @tperk  do you what millions of people do, i.e. co-parenting. Either 50-50 custody or every other weekend for the dad. Simple.
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  558. you want a "wife"? you need to escape your blue pill conditioning.
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  559.  @rogerm3708  💯% facts. women don't want the man. they want the kids, child support and lifestyle to which they have become accustomed to. its the reason so many high value men get divorced after they have given the wife the house and kids (jeff bezos, elon musk, bill gates, tom brady, brad pitt, johnny depp, ruler of dubai, prince charles, arnold schwartzenegger, etc ).
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  560. The trouble with the breakdown is that it is completely wrong. Men always have and always will need to apply to a women for a job. If the women accepts the man's proposal, she will pay him (give him physical intimacy). When the men/employee does not do his job, she will let him go (divorce). Women, like employers, have their inbox flooded with potential candidates. Only Chad and Tyrone have the ability to be employers and choose from a bunch of women.
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  561. When male Gen Z get to age 40, having lose their money, house and kids in divorce, and needing to pay 18 years of alimony and child support, I am pretty sure they will change their mind. The problem with Gen Z men is that they lack experience and don't realize what is in store for them.
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  562. The problem here is that women (the employer) are inundated with thousands of job applications from men/employees. As women are in the position of power and have executive control over the selection process, they will reject 99.9% of job applications. I think men (excluding Chad and Tyrone) are delusional if they think they have any kind of leverage or power in the modern dating marketplace.
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  563.  @ALForb  its a bit like any piece of advice, e.g. telling fat people to eat healthily, telling broke people to study and focus on getting promotions, etc. It is also valid to tell inexperienced guys that dating difficult, moany and complaining women is going to hugely back fire long term in divorce when she is trying to take all your money, your house and your kids away from you. You may be at a particular point in your life, where this message is no longer relevant to you. But for a lot of young inexperienced people who have no options and are in difficult relationships, this information could potentially be useful to them in terms of saving them long term pain and suffering.
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  564.  @ALForb  non-trash people, for the most part, are fine unless they have actually had bad experiences in real life. In this case, you can't really blame the non-trash person for being cynical. The internet, for the most part, is unlikely to turn anyone cynical as most people have the "divorce will never happen to me" superiority attitude and can't relate to this type of content (which makes up a very tiny niche area of the internet). Most non-trash people do not think about relationships this deeply.
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  565. There it is guys. The black pill is real. This guy is dropping facts about attraction and asking women what they want. It is nice to hear a PhD psych confirming a lot of what the red pill/black pill say about women not always being accurate with regards to what they want. I think this is something that deep down every man knows but it is very helpful to hear it in such a professional manner from a PhD.
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  566.  @Promet17  the fact she can see other captains/boats/journeys/women on IG is a game changer. It causes a huge amount of unhappiness in a marriage because she begins to think she made the wrong choice, her friends are having a better life, she has ruined her life, you have lied to her because you didn't live up to her expectations, etc. Because of things like IG/Tiktok I don't think marriage is a good idea in 2023.
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  567. Good luck if you ever get divorced. Karen the divorce judge can be brutal when it comes to alimony, child support, the house, custody, legal fees, etc. I lost 70% of everything in my UK divorce.
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  568.  @sammakwela  lets say you are 30 years old. YOU are going to go extinct in the next 50 years. why are you worrying about 8 billion humans who are going to increase to 9 billion and maybe 10 billion by 2100?
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  569.  @pureprairie1  great idea. hopefully that stops the 50% divorce rate and increases the average length of a marriage.
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  570.  @justinAclark2075  a leopard can't change his spots. men can act and pretend not be be beta but the act will only last for so long. sooner or later the beta will slip back into his normal beta ways.
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  571. In other words, stop complaining from the comments section and get to work.
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  572. a man will sacrifice is his life for his family. a woman will sacrifice her family for her life. woman have a tremendous need for excitement, novelty and new men. it is probably a genetic thing to ensure genetic diversity, and acquisition of new knowledge and resources. human's are probably serially monogamous species (maybe with some polygamous overlap as they "monkey branch" from one relationship to another).
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  573. Try telling that to a horny guy in his 20's.
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  574.  @mrmo4059  The divorce rates in multiple countries in the West are around 50% and the marriage rates are also falling in these same countries. Marriage, if the rates keep declining, will eventually go extinct. We are getting to a situation where in the future the only men who will marry will be the religious, the stupid, or the delusional low attractive men, who hope marriage will be enough to lock her down.
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  575. A lot of men's suffering is actually self inflicted. Unfortunately some men are delusional, emotional and have a scarcity mindset. They believe they are trash, and consequently they believe they are only worthy of a trash partner and should be grateful. Long term, marriage and kids will only make a trash relationship a million times worse.
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  576. I am about 3 videos in and I can tell you as a divorced guy that this PhD is dropping a lot of facts. The thing about wives being bored and the thing about men needing to work hard/sacrifice and put themselves in the adored position are 100% true. He has also done some excellent videos on why it is terrible financial advice to invest all your money in 1 risky stock/wife and relationships are the prize for men but relationships are just a means to an end for women (they really want kids, resources, properties, luxury lifestyle, etc).
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  577.  @eladbari  I can see why you are saying, what you are saying. But I think the C19 deniers are a very small % or just a very few high profile red pill'ers. I'm vaccinated and I would also consider myself red pill as well after going through a hellish divorce where I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity. It is very unfortunate that C19 deniers and red pill is being conflated. C19 denial and red pill are two completely different things. Red pill is just about human psychology, human behaviour, evolutionary biology/genetics as applied to mate attraction, mate selection, divorce, child custody, child support, alimony, etc.
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  578.  @kimsmith7212  some people do worry about 30 as they see life as some sort of race. I actually meant get a pre-nup.
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  579. Men generally want a physically intimate relationship and provide their seed and money in return. Women generally want babies and financial security, and provide access to a physically intimate relationship in return. However, in 2023, due to divorce laws, the cost of a man providing his seed, diamond ring, financial security, etc is way too costly and is no longer worth the physically intimate relationship (especially when you consider that P Hub is free and OF is only 9.99/month). Hence the falling marriage and birth rates, which are now hitting all time lows.
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  580.  @Jovian_Nights  Awful argument. The exception does not make the rule.
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  581.  @mattr2325  And if she is fired, she gets a nice severance package, including, but not limited to, 50% of the assets, the house, alimony, child support, legal fees paid, and custody of the kids.
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  582.  @SnlDrako  divorce rates are only 50% so some women are mentally and emotionally stable.
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  583.  @verb0ze  no. you are assuming that. if you educate yourself, you will realize the number of single and childless women keeps going up every year.
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  584.  @charlottegyseman5667  Orion has a video on "The way it ALL ENDS". In this video he states that around 66% of women will lower their standards before the house burns down (i.e. they will settle for a beta male before they lose their beauty and fertility) and 33% of women will go down the single and childless route. Of the 33% of women who go down the single and childless route, only 10% of those women actually wanted to be single and childless (meaning around 97% of women want to be married with kids). Furthermore, depression medication tends to be used in high rates in older. single and childless women. Ultimately, there are no solutions, only trade offs. Have kids with a beta male in a low grade relationship vs end up single and childless. Neither are perfect end games for women in general but both can have their advantages too.
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  585. 💯% . A lot of these low value men who get the girl and are so excited to marry her will lose their money, house and kids. Congratulations low value men, you just played yourself.
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  586. @@user-bb2em1ms5y you need a messy divorce where you lose your house + child custody battle + 18 years of monthly child support. that will wake you up.
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  587.  @onaolapolawal4952  BioSocioPsycoFinancial value.
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  588.  @smokingcrab2290  desire precedes care
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  589. The marriage is never seggs less, she is just redirecting it to Chad and Tyrone. There is always another bull in the ring.
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  590.  @yupindeed5422  nobody cares about you and your individual situation. The exception does not make the rule. I am making a species wide remark. In order for a species to continue at least one, if not both, of the potential parents needs to have a strong drive and urge to mate. It is basic biology. If no one has a strong drive to mate the species will undergo a population collapse like we see with Pandas.
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  591.  @panos7256  It doesn't matter if survival has been solved in 2024. We still have survival genes and other evolutionary hangovers from previous times.
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  592. Wives generally see their husbands as wallets (especially in divorce). And they extract money from the husband in exchange for physical intimacy.
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  593.  markpark4028  I read a comment somewhere and it said "never under estimate the ability of a wife to rationalize her bad behaviour in such a way that she sees herself as the blameless victim". This is a comment that really struck a chord with me after being involved in a messy divorce that was full of lies from her side and that ended up costing me 70% of all my money, assets and home equity. I would argue that "her god" is money. Wives want to maximize the financial settlement on divorce even if they have to throw their honour and integrity to one side. Their ability to wage mental warfare for the purposes of money is second to none.
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  594. Women in their 20s put in effort and get used by Chad and Tyrone in order to secure their commitment. However when they are in their 30s they get tired of being used and settle for the commitment that beta male simps give out for free. Its essentially a dual mating strategy. Work hard to get Chad or Tyrone's superior genetics, or take the easy route and settle for the beta male simp's commitment but end up with inferior genetics.
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  595.  @inconnu4961  Emotions. People have too much time to dwell on their emotions these days. 1,000 years ago we were too busy running away from predators or finding food to worry about emotional trauma.
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  596.  @dvergel87  why do you care if your name lives on? You will be in the ground. You won't be around to see it live on. Your name means nothing. You will be forgotten in the same way all your ancestors have been forgotten.
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  597.  @ThorMaximus  wrong. leverage is to do with who is more desperately pursuing. in this case, women want men to desperately pursue. so they want to hold all the cards.
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  598. Even if men could afford 70 : 30, 70 : 30 still wouldn't be enough. Billionaires (Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, Bill Gates) and millionaire Chads (Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Tom Brady) get divorced all the time. You can't win in marriage as a man. The wife will always find something to moan, complain and hen peck you about.
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  599. Optionality won't save you if you are married. If you are married you can't go anywhere without extremely high exit costs such as losing 50%+ of your assets, losing legal fees, losing alimony, losing child support, losing your kids, losing your house, etc. If hiring = marriage, do not hire at all.
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  600. "romance" has always been around. you can even see it in chimpanzees, e.g. male chimpanzees giving random females meat from a successful hunt. it doesn't sound massively romantic, but it is a big gesture given that meat is a scare and expensive resource (similar to a diamond ring today).
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  601. married people have to act unmarried to create instability (because they created too much stability through marriage). make it make sense. just don't get married.
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  602. Congratulations. Well deserved. You are very brave. Some of the stuff that you talk about, although its scientific and evidence-caused, can cause certain people to become upset. But you keep uploading like clockwork every Mondays and Fridays.
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  603. I couldn't agree more. I have only watched 2 videos but already I can tell this guy is operating on a different level. What he said about the relationship being the prize for a man, but being just an means to an end for a woman (because they actually want things like kids, resources, luxury lifestyle for IG, etc) is so true. And the bit about investing in 1 risky stock/wife is terrible financial advice was another gem. This guy should be on a million subs.
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  604.  @youtube_deletes_comments  stop acting like a basement dweller covered in cheetos. Muscular and fit are essentially equivalent. Women are not looking for Phil Heath or C Bum. Money and Feminine/Friendly are essentially equivalent. Lots of men are lazy when it comes to money while lots of women tend to suffer with more mental health disease and often require the services of mental health professionals. Try to go out and touch grass.
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  605.  @ws-ss8ks  Modern society seems very anti-relationship. 4B Movement. Gender wars. Divorce in order to protect kids from parental arguments. Divorce being normalized and celebrated. I disagree with your comment regarding muscular and macho. No woman has a problem with Chad being muscular and macho.
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  606. 💯% facts. Marriage is like a business, and the family courts / judges / lawyers are like the blood sucking administrators and liquidators coming in to pay out the money, assets, house and kids to the wife.
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  607. Women want marriage, but they also want divorce. Make it, make sense.
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  608.  @nandhakishor103  disagree. If that person has any of the above issues, they will end the relationship with you and take your money, house and kids in divorce. Just avoid ABCDEF people in the first place.
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  609.  @ayeshamartin_868  stop being triggered. it is irrelevant whose fault it is. its just a fact the fatherless children have a greater chance of ending up on the streets or in jail.
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  610.  @justinmiller5130  Your friends are low value if they are settling for red flags.
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  611.  @ArizonaVideo99  he must be a chad or tyrone. he must be laying pipe.
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  612.  @Khan-rz8qi  RIP beta male provider husbands. Your wife really wants Chad and Tyrone but could never lock them down despite her "best efforts" (swallow, etc).
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  613. @@user-us4qc5zt3n Chad and Tyrone are on the right path. Get the physical intimacy upfront, and then a few months later get out of the relationship. There's no need staying in the relationship and letting her continually extracting value from you. Marriage is a complete disaster for men from a value extraction point of view.
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  614.  @大きな魚-g8b  men and women both love opportunistically. men love opportunistically to get physical intimacy. women love opportunistically to get resources and good genetics (e.g. chad / tyrone). relationships are just a value exchange. men would not invest into relationships if they got nothing back. i agree with you that the concept of lifelong wife, soulmate, etc are very unlikely in 2023 for most millennials and Gen Z. relationships work best short term. women like short term relationships hence the reason they file for divorce and initiate break ups.
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  615. Women are not going to settle down in their 20's. They would be the black sheep and be an outcast within their friendship group if they did this. There's too much social risk. Women generally want to travel, find themselves, have fun, thrills, spills, careers, and meet Chad and Tyrone in their 20's. They want it all.
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  616. Some women will never be happy. They will always find someone to moan and complain about. Some women are just not long term relationship material. All the love, affection and resources in the world will still not be enough. They will somehow find a way to play the victim.
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  617. So, in theory, as the marriage rates and birth rates continue to decline, so will midlife crises, because men get to enjoy their lives without an argumentative, bossy, combative and disagreeable wives, and ungrateful kids.
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  618. they do but its not as fun as the real thing
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  619. Simps will never hold the line. But ultimately they will end up losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later. So ultimately simps lose long term.
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  620. Juice isn't worth the squeeze at this point. I think people just need to accept, its not your spouse, its just your turn. Humans are a serially monogamous species. Its normal to move in and out of relationships, including marriages, at this point.
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  621.  @canelareina3795  I think its a genetic thing. Low value beta males will never be able to wear the pants because they have no leverage. Low value beta's (e.g. a slug) have no hiss. You have to be a high value alpha (i.e. a cobra) to have a hiss and get respect. Being a cobra vs being a slug is a genetic thing.
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  622.  @themick6586  facts. The marriage game is rigged. Do not play it. Don't be another divorce grape volunteer. There are no victims, only volunteers.
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  623.  @JRed41  in other words, don't get married. its easier for men for to NOT FEAR separation and re-build quicker if they are not married. It is easier for women to fear LOSING him if they are not married. thank you for making my point.
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  624.  @danrowe79  Yes. Marriage is so financially dangerous that you need a pre-nup to make it safe. Although I am from the UK and here there are no pre-nup laws so Judges can reject them, especially if kids are involved or the wife has no job.
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  625.  @NextGenRenaissance  good luck with that attitude when you lose your money, house and kids in divorce.
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  626. 2:18 guy who had to approach 676 women to get over his anxiety. I wonder if any of those 676 women resulted in a long term relationship or if it was all just rejections and failed relationships. I think a better strategy would be to chase excellence and wait for the women to come. If the women don't come, at least you still have the excellence.
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  627. This is pretty much the fresh and fit podcast in a PhD nutshell.
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  628. All men pay. But Chad and Tyrone get the biggest discount (same night lay) and get to be their toxic selves. Beta providers have to pay the most (marriage and getting used to being the emotional tampon) and have to keep up an act. Congratulations, beta providers, you played yourself. You are going to learn the cost of marriage in divorce court.
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  629. Women long term want financial security (i.e. marriage) and kids. They don't necessarily want the husband long term. This is even more true when women are settling for beta males rather than Chad or Tyrone (who they still pine for, i.e. alpha widow). Most low value beta's will offer marriage because they have nothing else to offer. However long term this works out badly for the low value beta who loses his money, house and kids in divorce.
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  630.  @janetomes  suffer from what?
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  631.  @miahconnell23  you don't understand the video. The video and my comments are about depression not clinical depression.
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  632. 100% facts, myron from fresh and fit, went global when he said "punish bad behaviour". Orion says the same stuff but in a less viral way.
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  633.  @nannuky1128  most women don't chose ugly men with bad emotional support skills. women are in the position of selector when it comes to relationships. women get what they pick. women pick who they want, men get whoever picks them.
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  634.  @duncan18663  very strange way to look at things given historically the HUSBAND is at WORK and it is actually the WIFE who spends her time with the KIDS. SHE had the kids for HERSELF. Also, SHE can't have kids without the HUSBAND .
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  635.  @cevanille1104  there's a 50% chance you will end up divorced too. and a 70% chance you will initiate it.
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  636. How much older are we talking? Single mom? GILF?
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  637. Some women want their partner to be their everything, e.g. lover, therapist, financier, friend, cheer leader, spiritual leader, events organizer, etc. If you are not her everything for the next 50 years of your marriage, expect her to punish you in divorce court because you have let her down, used her best years and because she "could have done so much better than you".
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  638.  @lanji7946  if the game is rigged, the only option is to not play. or find a new game to play. W passport bros.
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  639. Never marry someone who is emotionally fused. The marriage is unsustainable and will result in a high conflict divorce. Emotional detachment is very important in a high conflict marriage and divorce. Marriage and divorce takes a lot out of you and emotional detachment will give you the stamina to proceed.
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  640. Love this topic. It resonates so much. The answer seems pretty much spot on. As Kevin Samuels used to say, accountability is like kryptonite to some women. Some just physically can't do it. It is never their fault. As Coach Greg Adams says: It's all Jermaine's fault. It's always Jermaine's fault.
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  641. When I got divorced, it became very obvious my ex-wife had been preparing / taking pre-cautionary steps in case of divorce for a few years as all her money had disappeared. I completely agree with PsycHacks at 2:58 , a relationship never just ends, there's always some planning that's happening behind the scenes. It is great that a lot of these previously unknown truths are being exposed and coming to the surface, as guys in the red pill space share notes. As they say, the truth always comes out.
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  642.  @schmetterling4477  like I say, for whatever reason you are completely triggered and out of control to the extent where you would bring my child into this. I think your comment says more about you than it does about me. To bring children into it is absolutely reprehensible and I am sure something you will regret saying once you have time to calm down. Ultimately, it is you who is emotional and using swear words and therefore you who would be much more of a concern to child protection services than me. It is worth noting that around 50% of marriages end in divorce and the things I talk about affect millions of people. Are you saying millions of people are not grown up and are incapable of maturity and love? What a bizarre world view that you have and that is completely at odds with reality. It is really strange and disturbing how you keep internalizing my comments as personal attacks on you which they are not as I don't even know you. It is funny that you bring up maturity because I am pretty sure anyone reading this thread would be able to see very clearly who is the mature one out us (me) and who is filled with hate (you).
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  643.  @schmetterling4477  the issue is all these people you know who have been married for 30+ years have come from a different generation with different morals and standards. Most millennials who get divorced have parents who have been married 30+ years. Marriage was previously a good thing but it no longer works as well now. Hence the 50% divorce rates. According to your logic the following divorced people are all losers: Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Tom Brady, Dr Dre, Boris Johnson, Donald Trump, etc. Hopefully you see how flawed your logic is and how out of touch with reality you are. The point is divorce is now normalized hence the reason marriage rates are crashing. Marriage rates have dropped by 20% in the USA since the 1990's and dropped by 50% in the UK since the 1970's. Sooner or later marriage will become extinct (say in the next 30 - 60 years). It is interesting how I quote stats/evidence but you can only talk about your parents. It is also interesting that you keep resorting to personal insults. It's sad that I have so much power over you.
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  644.  @schmetterling4477  Elon musk has 10 kids and billions of dollars. I am pretty sure most people would want to achieve similar life milestones. Even you are gushing about his money and brain cells. I am sure he is more successful than you. I am sure all the divorced names that I listed are more successful than you. The point is I proved your argument wrong. You are simply wrong to describe millions and millions of people as losers just because of divorce which is now a normal part of life these days. Its sad that I am still triggering you and you have to resort to insults and winky emoji's.
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  645. More and more women are going for the single and childless life. Around 45% of them will be single by 2030. Most women don't actually want a man. They really want children and financial security. That is the reason why even guys like Tom Brady, Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp get divorced.
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  646.  @rainbowodysseybyjonlion  once a woman hits 45 and starts going through menopause and ovulation failure it is over for her. The wall is real. Your personal experience doesn't tally with the data and evidence (falling marriage and birth rates). This channel is about evidence and data rather than unusual personal anecdotes.
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  647. A man will sacrifice his life for his family. A women will sacrifice her family for her life. I don't think women care if kids do better in a 2 parent household. Her priority is her happiness / emotions. Men and women see marriage and kids completely differently. Men see it as the destination, women see it as just another stepping stone in their life story. There is no going back to the traditional days.
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  648. Simps will never hold the line. But ultimately they will end up losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later. So ultimately simps lose long term.
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  649.  @Jrocket12345  I lost 70% of everything in my UK divorce, including my house. Which is crazy given my wife earned more and we only had 1 kid. Marriage has been the most financially reckless thing I have ever done. As you say, pay attention young men. These divorce judges are very biased.
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  650. 💯% facts. What a lot of guys don't realize is "she is not yours, it was just your turn". Dr David Buss believes humans are serially monogamous and mate switch during our lifetimes. Hollywood and religion lied to us about this 50 year pair bonded marriage thing.
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  651. women generally only want 2 things long term: 1. babies and 2. money/resources. notice my list does not include men or relationships. just ask billionaires (jeff bezos, elon musk, bill gates) or millionaire chads (brad pitt, johnny depp, tom brady), women do not want high value men. women want what high value men can provide, i.e. semen and money/resources.
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  652. Some women are just not 50 year marriage material and will divorce regardless. The wives of billionaires (Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos), the wives of Chads (Tom Brady, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp), the wives of funny men (Chris Rock, Robin Williams, Russell Peters) find a reason to divorce their husbands even if they themselves bring nothing to the table.
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  653. Women are the employers and have hundreds of "nice guy" applicants in their DMs. These "nice guys" lose their mind when she touches their "peepee" and will not risk talking about a prenup in order to secure the sexual opportunity. This low value strategy epically back fires on the nice guy 10 years down the line when she gets bored and he loses his money, house and kids in divorce court. Congratulations nice guys, you played yourself, and you're now alone, poor, homeless and without your kids.
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  654.  @RedEyeification  💯, either way, the divorce will be twisted against the husband/father. You can't win. If any guy gets married in 2023, he only has himself to blame when the wife threatens divorce. All the information is out there. There is a cohort of wives who only use marriage as a way to get the money, house and kids, the husband/father is just a wallet and gene donor who can be disposed of at any time.
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  655. s/o to the black pill. Giga Chad always wins.
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  656. This is 💯facts. Its crazy men do these elaborate proposals and buy expensive diamond rings just to get marriage (which is an extremely financially reckless thing for a man to do). Men are their own worst enemy.
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  657. I have gone through a very bad divorce (lost 70% of all my money and assets) but it is only really after watching this guy's videos are things actually making sense, e.g. men need to work hard/sacrifice to put themselves in the adored position, make sure your wife is not bored as you are robbing her of her emotional needs, relationships are a means to an end for women (e.g. they really want kids, resources, properties, lifestyle for IG, etc), do not invest all your money into 1 risky stock/wife, etc. This guys videos are actually amazingly accurate.
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  658.  @marsultortheavenger409  I don't think I overlooked that point. I did write "why it is terrible financial advice to invest all your money in 1 risky stock/wife ". It is a terrible idea to invest all your money into 1 risky stock/wife partly because she is probably "settling" when she chooses you as there are so few high value men to go around. Even billionaires (Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, Elon Musk) and millionaire Chads (Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt and Tom Brady) are not high value enough to be adored and keep their wives happy.
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  659. Thank god for the wall. Gen Z/millenlials getting humbled will be delicious.
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  660.  @nicholasdavies3071  maybe it is a combination of part white pill + part red pill? i.e. light red pill? or pink pill?
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  661. I wasn't going to watch this video because I thought I knew everything about the red pill, and then Dr Orion comes and blows my back out. She is not special. She has been a warm body for the night for plenty of other guys. Guys, stop pedestalising, adoring and making costly commitments. It is only going to blow up in your face, especially if you are married to her, and then you could end up losing your money, house and kids.
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  662. Marriage is actually the transfer of power, leverage and wealth to the wife. The whole thing is a legalized scam.
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  663. A lot of these videos are ultimately rooted in the same issues. Men have to cultivate their attractiveness, e.g. 666, MMGF, looks/money/status, to levels so superior that she wants to into his frame. If your attractiveness is low, she will not follow you when you pull back. Ultimately, only a certain % of men will have this ability.
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  664. Men should hold the line and wait for a submissive and feminine wife. However, due to the simpademic and proliferation of beta males who put women on a pedestal, the simps will break cover, offer marriage to Angry, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable and Emotional (ABCDE) women. And then these same beta males will cry about losing their money, house and kids in divorce. Hopefully this type of content helps to educate men and show them a different way.
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  665. All men pay for 🐱 and married men pay the most for 🐱. If you are a Chad or Tyrone women will give you a big discount (you will only have to buy her a cheese burger). If you are a beta male provider you will have to pay with a diamond ring or settle for something within your price range, e.g. single mom, fat chick, etc.
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  666.  @forgottenfuryan  if you listen to people like Dr David Buss (evolutionary pscyhologist), The Lead Attorney (divorce layer) and Alain de Botton (philosopher), there is a growing consensus that the real strongest predictor is the wife's psychology. If she is calm, patient, can tolerate stress, and is emotionally stable then the marriage will be happy and she will be able to cope with a lower earning husband.
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  667.  @carlospita6442  c'mon, you know exactly what they offer? are you aware of phub? of? strip clubs? etc
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