Comments by "marriage causes divorce" (@marriagecausesdivorce7540) on "The most common MALE SEXUAL STRATEGY: most men are taxi cabs" video.

Great example. Just to extend it slightly. There are also lots of other boats and other women around. The woman chooses one captain and one boat, and the journey starts. But the woman can see all the other captains, boats and women storm off head. All of a sudden the woman starts to get angry at her captain and regrets her choice. An empty boat with a new exciting captain pulls up at night and she jumps onto the new exciting boat taking at least half the fuel and money with her. The first captain's boat stops and begins to sink, and she sails off into the sunset with the new guy and the money and the fuel. This is pretty much the state of modern marriage today.
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@carefulcarpenter The days of 50 year marriages have long gone. Unfortunately, times have changed, and many people just see marriage as a way to get babies and financial security on divorce. Its sad but true. A lot of these millennials will be lucky to see 15 years of marriage let alone 45 years. No wonder marriage rates and birth rates are at an all time low. In the UK 50% of marriages have gone extinct (there used to be 400k marriages/year in the 1970s but now there are only 200k marriages/year). Marriage will go the way of the floppy disk and VHS tape.
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@fiveleavesleft6521 "And then if he's stupid enough to get married he loses all leverage by having the sword of Damocles hanging over him with biased divorce laws." 💯. Great comment. You absolutely nailed it. 🎯. Most guys only realize this when they are getting divorced and losing the money, house and kids. The only reason guys are getting married is that they don't realize this can happen and/or think it will never happen to me. lol
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@uhnborhn5032 this is exactly what happened in my divorce. my ex-wife was stashing away and hiding a bunch of money over the years. divorces just don't happen. they are usually planned out.
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@TookAHikeNowWhat your insightful comment is 100% correct. In my parents and grandparents day they had things like religion, shame and unemployed/unemployable wives which meant that divorce was pretty much impossible. However, now that religion and shame have gone, and women have high paying jobs and there are pro-divorce laws, it is a miracle only 50% of marriages end in divorce. I think a 50% divorce rate is pretty low, all things considered. I think millennials and Gen Z men would be wise to quickly accept the fact that the days of 50 years marriages have long gone, and that marriage is an outdated and unsuccessful institution. I think this is slowly happening. Hence the ever decreasing marriage rates to all time lows.
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@dANbRnL I would never get married again after my divorce. And I hope my son never gets married. Marriage is just a way for the wife to get 1. babies and 2. financial security at the husband's expense. The whole thing is biased against men because she will get custody and as a direct result he will lose his money and house. It's insane when you think about it. But I would rather be a married guy with a prenup than a married guy without a prenup.
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@metatron8386 Best comment. This is so true. It is never just half. After factoring in legal fees, child support, etc she has pretty much cleaned you out. Facts. If men knew about this, more men would never get married.
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@monforttransport 100% agree. I learnt this the hard away after losing 70% of my money and assets (including my house) in my UK divorce. The divorce has left me financially ruined, homeless and alone. I would have been better off just to have not got married in the first place. The problem is, with things like IG, wives can see that their lives are not as amazing as other people's lives, and then they are going to get angry at the husband for failing to provide that same lifestyle. Sad but true. I now just see marriage as a wealth transfer mechanism (it doesn't really have anything to do with long term relationships).
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You absolutely nailed it. When you get married you hand over all the leverage and power in the relationship over to your wife. As she is able to take the money, house and kids on divorce. This means the husband will find it very difficult to exercise any control or ability to walk away. A lot of young guys screw themselves over at the very beginning of a marriage (unless there is an iron-clad pre-nup in place which kind of levels the playing field).
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@annesmith9181 my point is that it makes more sense for men to have children outside of marriage due to the financial risks. Having kids inside of marriage no longer makes any sense as the mother is financially rewarded by the family courts to breakup the family. In the UK 51% of children are now born outside of wedlock. I believe the figure is 40% in the USA. My prediction is that these %'s will continue to increase as marriage becomes less and less common, as marriage is probably the worst financial decision you can make as a man.
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This is a fundamental problem with relationships. As the husband you end up being responsible for 2 people's happiness. And if you don't change and live up to expectations, the inevitable divorce where you lose your money, house and kids will comes around (or she will at least threaten it). It is a lot to do and it is very risky.
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@annesmith9181 generally speaking, married couples earn more than unmarried couples. Consequently, it is the money (rather than the marriage) that is giving children from married couples an advantage. For example, if two Harvard educated people have kids outside of wedlock, those kids are likely to do better than the kids of two married criminals. Marriage is purely imaginary, it is just a piece of paper and a wedding ring. I think one of the reasons marriage is becoming less and less common is because kids of divorce then get nervous to marry after seeing their parents fight over the kids, money, house, child support, alimony, etc for decades. In other words, the divorce laws/divorce judges are eating and cannibalising marriage across the generations. As more and more kids are born into divorce, it reduces the number of people in the next generation willing to take on the risks of marriage (this applies to both genders, e.g. daughters scared to marry after seeing their mothers having to chase their lazy fathers for money, or sons scared to marry after seeing their fathers lose his wages, house and kids).
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@Stassis my parents are still married and my ex-wife's parents are still married. There was no history of divorce in either family. Consequently, I just grew up thinking divorce was for extreme situations (alcohol, gambling, job loss, sterility, DV, etc). I didn't realize divorce could happen to normal people like me as well. It wasn't something I was exposed to unfortunately. At least my son will know not to get married.
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@annesmith9181 I think the points you make about informal partners and grandparents relates to the actual parents themselves rather than a piece of paper/ring (i.e. marriage). For example, I think it is unlikely kids of unmarried Harvard educated doctors would be exposed to informal partners (compared to unemployed married criminals who may be cheating or polygamous or end up divorced, etc). I think the best way to save marriage would be for there to be compulsory pre-nups, e.g. a pre-nup that states the % of income the husband pays to the wife as alimony and for how many years, and the % capital the husband pays to the wife. At least then, both people have financial security as both people know exactly what they will get/lose on divorce and both people who have agreed upon a % structure (e.g. 50 : 50 split for no kids, 60 : 40 split for one kid, 70 : 30 split for 2 kids, 75 : 25 split for 3+ kids). Unfortunately, the current system which actively incentivizes bad behaviour from both sides during divorce, causes huge amounts of money to be wasted in legal fees, and where both sides live in fear as they have no idea what the Judge will order, cannot be a good thing in the long term across generations.
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@Promet17 the fact she can see other captains/boats/journeys/women on IG is a game changer. It causes a huge amount of unhappiness in a marriage because she begins to think she made the wrong choice, her friends are having a better life, she has ruined her life, you have lied to her because you didn't live up to her expectations, etc. Because of things like IG/Tiktok I don't think marriage is a good idea in 2023.
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s/o to the black pill. Giga Chad always wins.
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