Comments by "marriage causes divorce" (@marriagecausesdivorce7540) on "Why NICE GUYS finish LAST, or: why women love jerks" video.

I think this PhD has a few other videos explaining the many women don't want relationships. They want what the relationship can provide, e.g. money, kids, home, etc. This fact explains why many women want marriage and why they also want divorce (i.e. extraction of the money, house and kids from the husband).
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On the one hand, men will begin to learn about these issues if more guys were willing to talk about their divorces, child custody battles, losing the house, etc. However most guys are too ashamed to talk about their loses (renting a tiny apartment post divorce or moving back in with their parents). However with things like the red pill, manosphere, MGTOW, etc there is a glimmer of hope that some men will learn before it is too late. Although this will take time as ultimately guys are hypnotised when they see beauty.
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@Kenny-Ross the dark truth is that many wives see marriage as something to get 1. babies and 2. financial security from. The husband is normally number 4 or 5 on the priority list after the wedding party, diamond ring and honeymoon. Unfortunately no one tells us this before marriage/kids.
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Great video. Many women prefer guys based on looks. These good looking guys have many options and therefore have never had to bother with catering to a women's emotional needs. It is the fact that many women go for looks and that this incidentally comes with bad boy behaviour. Although, even if the good looking guy was a nice guy, I am sure many women would still be able to find something to moan and complain about. For example, maybe they would say the nice guy is boring and dull and doesn't make them feel anything/feel any emotion.
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@schmetterling4477 Agreed. Guys also choose women based on looks too. And this is also guys downfall too. They choose on looks rather than other traits such as peacefulness/supportiveness and then the guy is surprised 10 years don the line when he is in front of Karen the divorce judge fighting for his money, house and kids.
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@schmetterling4477 The problem with the "chose wisely" argument is that is fails to take into account changes in people's emotions, feelings, love fading, etc. The women you marry at 25 years old (young, free, single, slim, etc) is very different to the women you divorce at 35 years old (older, fatter, 2 kids, sleep deprived, post natal depression, been through miscarriages, surgeries, career stalled, etc). So even if you do chose wisely, events outside of your control mean you can still end up divorced. It is not a case of "chose wisely". It is more a case of chose "low risk" or not chose at all (MGTOW).
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@schmetterling4477 I am currently in a huge downward phase in my life following a messy divorce so your comment about me only deserving an "immortal goddess" doesn't make any sense. Maybe you are trying to be funny? For whatever reason you have completely misunderstood the point I was making. I just gave a simple example of why your "choosing wisely" point is probably better framed as "choosing low risk" because people change (the example I used is one of many different examples that could have been used).
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@schmetterling4477 again, you have completely misunderstood what I am saying. You are placing way too much attachment on my random example (I could have used a different example) and you have completely ignored the point I was making. I have never said that scars, aging, kids, etc are risk factors. What I am saying is that people change and therefore choosing wisely at 25 years old is an illusion because people inevitably change and therefore the mentality of the person you chose at 25 years old would have changed 10, 20, 30 years down the line. This goes for BOTH the husband and the wife (it takes TWO to tango). I wish I hadn't of used the example I used as for some reason you have internalised the example to such a level that you deem it as a personal attack on you and you have started talking about your medical history. Just to be clear, I don't even know you and I am not attacking you/surgeries/scars (you brought up scarring not me). When I brought up surgeries I was thinking along the lines of trauma/recovery (scarring did not even cross my mind so I am very surprised you are saying I can't love someone due to scarring when you don't even know my scars LOL!). If I would have know this example would have been so triggering I would obviously have used a different example, e.g. young/fit/healthy to fat/bald/low testosterone.
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@schmetterling4477 it is good to see you have finally calmed down and are out of your emotions. All the swearing and bringing my child into the argument was completely unnecessary, reprehensible and very childish of you. Your comments were filled with hate for absolutely no reason and you should be ashamed of yourself. Just simply because you lost control by getting triggered by a minor example. You will see, as you mature and grow up, any romantic relationship is a risk (just ask Johnny Depp or any divorced guy who has lost his money, house and kids).
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@schmetterling4477 I am not dreaming of being Elon or Jeff. I brought up Elon and Jeff to show you were wrong when you said divorced people were losers. You have just changed the topic as you realized you were wrong. LOL. Nice try.
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@schmetterling4477 like I say, for whatever reason you are completely triggered and out of control to the extent where you would bring my child into this. I think your comment says more about you than it does about me. To bring children into it is absolutely reprehensible and I am sure something you will regret saying once you have time to calm down. Ultimately, it is you who is emotional and using swear words and therefore you who would be much more of a concern to child protection services than me. It is worth noting that around 50% of marriages end in divorce and the things I talk about affect millions of people. Are you saying millions of people are not grown up and are incapable of maturity and love? What a bizarre world view that you have and that is completely at odds with reality. It is really strange and disturbing how you keep internalizing my comments as personal attacks on you which they are not as I don't even know you. It is funny that you bring up maturity because I am pretty sure anyone reading this thread would be able to see very clearly who is the mature one out us (me) and who is filled with hate (you).
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@schmetterling4477 the issue is all these people you know who have been married for 30+ years have come from a different generation with different morals and standards. Most millennials who get divorced have parents who have been married 30+ years. Marriage was previously a good thing but it no longer works as well now. Hence the 50% divorce rates. According to your logic the following divorced people are all losers: Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Tom Brady, Dr Dre, Boris Johnson, Donald Trump, etc. Hopefully you see how flawed your logic is and how out of touch with reality you are. The point is divorce is now normalized hence the reason marriage rates are crashing. Marriage rates have dropped by 20% in the USA since the 1990's and dropped by 50% in the UK since the 1970's. Sooner or later marriage will become extinct (say in the next 30 - 60 years). It is interesting how I quote stats/evidence but you can only talk about your parents. It is also interesting that you keep resorting to personal insults. It's sad that I have so much power over you.
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@schmetterling4477 Elon musk has 10 kids and billions of dollars. I am pretty sure most people would want to achieve similar life milestones. Even you are gushing about his money and brain cells. I am sure he is more successful than you. I am sure all the divorced names that I listed are more successful than you. The point is I proved your argument wrong. You are simply wrong to describe millions and millions of people as losers just because of divorce which is now a normal part of life these days. Its sad that I am still triggering you and you have to resort to insults and winky emoji's.
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