Comments by "marriage causes divorce" (@marriagecausesdivorce7540) on "Talking is OVERRATED: most problems cannot be solved with discussion" video.

Thank you so much, Dr Taraban. You should have a million subscribers. Everyone needs to hear your message. You are so right, talking can potentially make things worse as talking can become a punishment. 6:20 "Good relationships are about enjoying who your partner is, not about changing them into who you want them to be".
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Women are generally not going to use talking as a punishment for Chad and Tyrone. Women are only going to use talking as a punishment or weapon for a short, ugly, broke guy. In other words, if she is using talking as a weapon or punishment, she is trying to change you because she doesn't really like you.
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@Mandy Mikulka I think Dr Taraban's point is that women shouldn't use talking as a way to punish a man, e.g. trying to change a man, or moaning and complaining at the man for being himself. Talking shouldn't be used as a weapon. Dr Taraban makes a very important point and if people listen to him, I am pretty sure they will live much happier and satisfying relationships.
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@Mandy Mikulka There is a great lecture on You Tube from a famous British philosopher called Alain de Botton on the meaning of love. And he said something like, real love is loving someone despite them having imperfections and flaws. I guess the point he was making is that all successful marriages are imperfect because all husbands and wives are imperfect, but their love is so strong they find a way to get along and tolerate each others imperfections and flaws. I guess the key is finding the right person whose imperfections you are happy to put up with (because ultimately, no one is perfect, and therefore, to some extent, everyone who wants to be in a long term relationship will need to settle and get used to the other person's imperfections and flaws).
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Silence is golden
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