Youtube comments of marriage causes divorce (@marriagecausesdivorce7540).

  1. I wish I knew this 10 years ago. Young millennials and Gen Z don't know how lucky they are hearing this type of practical information before they make any costly lifelong mistakes.
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  2. I think the fundamental problem with this video is that if she is disrespecting you she doesn't want to be with you. She doesn't disrespect her boss because she wants her job and the money. Disrespect is the first step on the journey to the end of the relationship.
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  3. I had a female divorce judge and she completely ignored the facts and logic of my UK divorce case, i.e. only 1 kid and my wife earns more. Instead, the female divorce judge awarded my ex-wife 70% of the assets including the house. What Alexander is saying about women and emotions over logic is 💯% facts.
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  4. The problem with this video is that it can only be understood by reasonable and logical people. The other 50% of the population will have a meltdown if they have to take accountability for their failures. I expect plenty of shaming and disingenuous comments if this video goes viral.
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  5. Great example. Just to extend it slightly. There are also lots of other boats and other women around. The woman chooses one captain and one boat, and the journey starts. But the woman can see all the other captains, boats and women storm off head. All of a sudden the woman starts to get angry at her captain and regrets her choice. An empty boat with a new exciting captain pulls up at night and she jumps onto the new exciting boat taking at least half the fuel and money with her. The first captain's boat stops and begins to sink, and she sails off into the sunset with the new guy and the money and the fuel. This is pretty much the state of modern marriage today.
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  6. If there were no problems with divorce law, alimony, division of assets, legal fees, child custody, parental alienation, heated co-parenting, biased family court judges, etc these RP channels would go extinct. The reason these RP channels are doing so well is because millions of men are suffering and can relate to the content.
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  7. Factssss. Give that man a round of applause. Darius is always on point and always comes correct. Men's only power in 2022 is to walk away from these toxic relationships. Self-improve and aim to get a submissive feminine partner.
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  8. "You can do anything to a woman, except bore her"
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  9. Genius episode. Husbands are taller because women select taller men. Husbands earn more because women select richer men. Husbands live longer because women select healthier men. Women do not make husbands taller, do not maker husbands richer, and do not slow down the aging process in husbands.
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  10. The human courtship ritual is very a delicate dance between talking but not talking so much that you out her off. Working hard and being ambitious, but not so ambitious that you don't have time for her. Being a dominant alpha male but still being emotionally vulnerable. Being intelligent but being stupid enough to marry. Good luck, gentlemen.
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  11. 11:12 Pearl is correct. Wives are paid to leave marriages. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in my UK divorce. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing a man could do to himself. Once men have got married, the wife has all the power and control in the relationship as she stands to benefit from the divorce.
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  12. "Men value love while Women love value" and "Men are in love. Women are in business" are phrases often used in the manosphere. In reality, these phrases may actually relate to the biological fact that men are just trying to access mating opportunities with women, and women are just trying to ensure their own and their kids survival.
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  13. Avoid ABCDEF people (Argumentative, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable, Emotional and Fatherless). They will so much drama and chaos into your life long term. Some people need a therapist not a spouse.
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  14. This is why marriage is so dangerous and why women generally push for marriage. Marriage is essentially the transfer of power, leverage and wealth to the woman. She no longer has to fear her man leaving because she has the power, weight and venom of the divorce courts in her favour. If anything, he has to now fear her.
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  15. I feel bad for Chad and Tyrone sometimes. It must be hard being inundated with numerous options, each option competing against the other, trying to give him the maximum amount of unforgettable pleasure, and whatever he decides, all the options that he throws away will always yearn to be with him (alpha widow).
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  16. Let her monkey branch. Let her be another man's problem. When she monkey branches, you know you have dodged a bullet and the next guy will be saddled with your former, burnt out, disgruntled employee. The only issues comes if you were married and have kids with your disgruntled employee, then you are going to get taken to court and lose the money, house and kids. RIP husbands.
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  17. "i don't play games" = I chased after Chad and Tyrone in my 20's. I gave myself completely to them and got nothing in return. I'm now traumatized, in my 30's and running out of time. I want a stable, dad bod, beta provider who I can marry without a pre-nup so I have the leverage. Take it or I'm moving onto my next target.
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  18. 7:25 such an important point. It is better to know ASAP if the woman you are dealing with gets Aggressive, Bossy, Combative, and Disagreeable (ABCD) when things don't go her way. If she goes ABCD when you say "no" or disappoint her, expect her to take your money, house and kids in divorce. ABCD women are divorce material. And if you ignore the red flags, guess what 9:27
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  19. “There are no solutions. There are only trade-offs.” Thomas Sowell
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  20. It is happening very slowly and quietly, but more and more men (particularly divorced men, men who are related divorced men, sons of divorced men, etc) are realizing the juice isn't worth the squeeze. It is not worth getting into a relationship/marriage where the money, house and kids are treated like 1st class citizens and the husband/father is treated like a 2nd class citizen. Not just by the wife but also by Karen the divorce judge who will take away his money (alimony/child support), house and kids away from him. Relegating him to renting a tiny apartment/moving back in with his parents, and seeing his kids on the weekends (assuming the kids have not already been turned against him).
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  21. She has to have genuine burning desire for you. And the only way she is going to have desire for you is if you have value, e.g. good looks (genetic value), good money (resource value), good emotional connection (psychological value), and good lifestyle/frame (social status value). Mate attraction and retention boils down to value.
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  22. I think that people that are emotional and start trauma bonding at the beginning probably have avoidant/anxious attachment styles. Its a bit like the shooting star analogy. The stars that burn the brightest, fizzle out the quickest. Ideally, both you and your date should be emotionally stable and have secure attachment styles.
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  23. Orion has managed to reach enlightenment by avoiding the well trodden path of marriage, divorce, losing his house, losing his kids, being on child support for 18 years, etc. By avoiding the classic traps and traumas of life, and maximizing on the right areas like health, wealth, meditation, education he's heading towards nirvana.
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  24. I'm going to keep this simple. DO NOT GET MARRIED. I lost 70% of my money, house, assets in divorce. The feminist divorce judge I got threw me under the bus. Marriage has zero benefits for men.
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  25. In a marriage, who generally moans/complains, threatens divorce, and has the better IG. In nearly all marriages its the wives who have the power. They can go to divorce court and take a husband's money, house and kids. Marriage is one of the quickest ways a man can neuter himself. You're giving your wife a shotgun to use against you at any time in the next 50 years.
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  26. She's planning to get back out there on the sexual market place. It is interesting to see how earlier some people start planning for divorce.
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  27. "You are never destroyed by anyone except yourself." - Friedrich Nietzsche. Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. The 5 stages of grief (1. denial, 2. anger, 3. bargaining, 4. depression and then finally 5. acceptance). Time is a great healer for our emotional wounds. On a different note, the value of others book is a masterpiece.
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  28. Do not get married. It is the most financially reckless thing a man could do. Once he's married, she has all the power and leverage in the marriage because she can destroy him in family court and take his money, house and kids. RIP Husbands.
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  29. Online is over taking real life. Hence Amazon (rather than stores), Google (rather than libraries), OF (rather than divorce), work from home (rather than offices). Kids who have seen their moms struggle as single moms and/or dad getting financially destroyed in divorce/ child support/ custody, are growing up and opting out of this BS.
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  30. When the disrespect starts, its time to leave. Disrespect shows 2 things: 1. she is not emotionally stable and is going to do negative behaviours, e.g. moan, complain and harass you. 2. the reason she hasn't left is because she hasn't found a better financial replacement yet (but the clock is ticking). Your only power is to walk away.
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  31. Probably the 5 major types of value men have to offer women are: 1. physical looks/genetics, 2. financial, 3. compatible psychological/personality, 4. interesting lifestyle, and 5. status. If you lack in one of these departments you will have to compensate in other department, e.g. ugly rich guy, or short funny guy, etc.
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  32. Bish, please. That's like a guy saying you shouldn't care about my future earnings. A women's currency is her body and a man's currency is his resources. No man wants to invest (marriage, finances, assets, children) into a women who has been another man's dirty little 304 for the night. 🤮🤮🤮
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  33. Marriage is a mating strategy for high value but low attractive males. I had to pay the price of marriage, to get physical intimacy, but ended up losing my money, house and child, 7 years later in divorce. Chad and Tyrone are playing life in easy mode. They don't have to jump over the marriage hurdle in order to get what they want.
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  34. Given that women tend to date hypergamously, e.g. they prefer older, wiser, more knowledgeable, more exciting, more interesting, more dominant, and more wealthier guys, it makes sense for the woman to step into his frame. Consequently, it is the job of the man to cultivate a frame so superior it is worth her while to leave her frame.
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  35. Women know how to get men. Look attractive, be nice, and give out physical intimacy. The problem women have is to trying to lockdown the perfect man. A Chad who is monogamous, a bad boy who will be a good dad, a rich guy who has lots of free time, a confident guy who is not cocky, a masculine guy who is emotionally vulnerable.
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  36. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing a man can do to himself. He loses all power and leverage in the relationship because she can threaten divorce and take the money, house and kids.
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  37. Its impressive how logical and sensible women can be are in terms of their ability to assess and choose based on value, benefit and hypergamy. Its sad how illogical, emotional, and delusional men can be in terms of thinking they will buck the divorce trend, get married without a prenup, and thinking "she loves me for me".
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  38. For men in their 20s, there is nothing they want more than a relationship. But for men in their 30s and 40s in this RP space, getting that wife or baby momma has become the single biggest mistake of their life. You'll regret if you do approach her. You'll regret if you don't approach her. Just remember, she's not your girl, its just your turn.
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  39. Marriage is a financial trap. Very financially reckless. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in my UK divorce despite her earning more and us only having 1 kid. Do not do it. It just takes 1 judge to ruin your life. Once you get married, she has all the leverage and power in the relationship because she can destroy you financially.
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  40. This is so true for women with an anxious attachment style. Silence drives them crazy. But drama, chaos and toxicity makes them feel alive and loved. Sick but true.
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  41. All men pay. But Chad and Tyrone get the biggest discount. The scarcity-minded beta male will have to pay the most, i.e. marriage. The scarcity-minded beta male will also lose the most, i.e. his money, house and kids in divorce. Chad and Tyrone get the best treatment (same night lay) for the least amount of investment.
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  42. The psychology of thinking versus doing. Some even say 1 hour of doing is better than 10 hours of thinking. I think of it like a feedback loop. Action > Review > Improve > Action. In business I think this is called the "fail fast" principle.
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  43. This 304 is tired of getting run through without any benefits. She has hit the wall and she has suddenly realized she needs to marry a man to get his money on divorce. Darius is right. It is a TRAP. Darius always manages to see through these 304s and figure out what is really going on. Darius should be a family court judge. His skills are very much needed.
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  44. Summary: Chad and Tyrone pay the least but get back the best treatment because they are attractive. Husbands pay the most and get back the worst treatment because wives are not attracted to them and have such unrealistically high expectations. Conclusion: just be a Chad or Tyrone. And if you are not a Chad or Tyrone, do not get married, because you put yourself at risk of being severely punished for not meeting her expectations.
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  45. All men pay. Beta male husbands pay the most. Chad and Tyrone pay virtually nothing other than wasting their time. The average punter or "John" pays by the hour or until completion. Regardless of how each of these guys pay, they are all paying one way or another. You have to pay to play. This is how the game works. There is a cost to doing business.
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  46. I can relate to reason 2, i.e. a lot of low value men, will think all they can get and all they deserve is a train wreck, and that they should be lucky to even get a train wreck. If you are a young thirsty man with zero options, it is extremely difficult to have standards and turn down a train wreck. Its sounds opportunistic and desperate but it is true.
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  47. Women are not mad at the advice, i.e. the way to a man's heart is through his trousers. Women are just angry that you are revealing their grift. Women are just angry that you are revealing their true strategy because it reduces their leverage and power. They have been rumbled and exposed.
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  48. I think this video perfectly exposes women's true nature and the way they see relationships. Women want financial security (i.e. marriage) and kids. In order to get financial security (i.e. marriage) and kids they know that they have to unfortunately deal with a man. So, in their 30's, they starting threating "don't waste my time", i.e. give me financial security and kids, or I'm leaving. Sad but true.
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  49. You don't necessarily need money to get women but you better have something to compensate, e.g. confidence, humour, intelligence, chaRIZZma, looks, potential, ambition, pipe game, status, etc. And if you don't live up to your potential or ambition she will punish you for it in divorce and child custody court.
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  50. If you have to convince her and game her, she is not worth the headache. Self improve, be your best self, and let any willing buyers come. Be an employer and review / accept applications from women to come work for you. Don't be desperate. Set the frame and terms of the relationship. Take it or leave it attitude.
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  51. Mic drop at 2:00 . The relationship is the prize for a man. The relationship is a means to an end for a woman, e.g. she actually wants kids, to build an empire, have great IG pics, have a luxury lifestyle, etc. This psychologist is nailing it. OMG. It all makes sense now.
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  52. I lost 70% of my money and assets, including my house, in my UK divorce. I can't believe how dangerous marriage is for men. I am stunned when I hear that marriage rates are declining. Marriage rates should already be extinct by now. Who is still getting married in this day and age?
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  53. I wouldn't be surprised if Bond gets cancelled for being toxically masculine. He fights rather than sitting down and talking things out, he is polygamous rather than monogamous, he obsesses about work, he's a perennial Batchelor and heart breaker, etc. I would love to see James Bond take on a divorce judge. I think that would be one fight where he loses.
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  54. 36:38 "So you hate your life because your wife took the kids and half of your net worth". I live in the UK and my wife took 70% of my net worth despite us only having 1 kid and her earning more than me. Its good to finally hear someone talking about this particular manosphere topic on Chris' podcast. And its not just taking the kids, its all the years of child support and heating co-parenting that follows too.
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  55. I think this is where the phrase "the juice isn't worth the squeeze" comes from. Imagine working like a donkey just to win the approval of a depreciating asset. Is it really the job of a man to keep the woman in a constant state of happiness?
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  56. Or like wearing another man's underwear.
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  57. "not everybody wins, not everybody lives happily ever after, a decent adulthood requires the willingness and ability to successfully compete in the game of life" - Dr Orion Taraban.
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  58. This is why "The Wall" is important. Without The Wall, women could end up never making a decision about who to reproduce with. But as women approach The Wall their hand is forced and they have to decide: 1. be single and "happy" but pine for Chad, or 2. settle downwards with a beta provider who they'll end up divorcing in 10 years time.
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  59. I was searching for this comment. Ariel is a troll.
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  60. Like Sadia and Chris, I am also from the UK. The UK divorce courts are the worst and the judges are extremely biased in favour of the wife. In my divorce, I lost 70% of all my money, assets and house, despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 child. My divorce has financially ruined me. Men in the UK have absolutely no idea how dangerous marriage is. Fortunately its going extinct.
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  61. I think the transactional nature of female friendships, e.g. listening to a friend moan and complain about her husband and in exchange you get that friend to come to your baby shower, is what makes them more consistent than male friendships. A bit like an employee needing to turn up to work to get that money.
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  62. I think this PhD has a few other videos explaining the many women don't want relationships. They want what the relationship can provide, e.g. money, kids, home, etc. This fact explains why many women want marriage and why they also want divorce (i.e. extraction of the money, house and kids from the husband).
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  63. Guys, don't deal with these 304s. They are just bored, just want attention/validation, and just want your kids and child support. Trust me, they don't really want you long term. They go into relationships knowing it will end, and just try to maximize what they can get out of you during the relationship.
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  64. This underlines the importance of choosing someone who is mentally and emotionally calm and stable, and who can handle the truth. It also underlines the importance of not getting married, because marriage introduces complacency and boredom into the relationship, and makes it difficult to tell the truth without getting financially punished.
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  65. This reminds me of an Alain de Botton lecture on the psychology/philosophy of love. A lot of people don't know how to love. People love too optimistically and expect everyday to be perfect. When, in reality, things like love and marriage will often mean a lot of sadness as the person you fall in love with will never be as perfect as you wished they were. It is interesting that a lot of people are good enough to marry, buy a house with and have kids with, but are not good enough to prevent divorce proceedings. In situations like this, what were really the motivations of the marriage in the first place?
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  66. I guess the conclusion here is don't date masculine women. Date women who are less aggressive and combative and disagreeable, and who are more calmer, tolerant and peaceful. Problem is, the women you marry in your 30's in a different beast to the women who divorces you in her 40's. So, I guess another conclusion is not to give up control/ power/ leverage, e.g. do not get married, or get married with a pre-nup, or don't have so many kids you get screwed on child support, etc.
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  67. I lost 70% of my money and assets, including my house, in my UK divorce despite my ex-wife earning more and us only having 1 kid (female judge). Now I'm only allowed to see my son every other weekend. Marriage has been the most financially and emotionally reckless thing I've ever done. Fortunately its going extinct in most of the West.
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  68. 1. Thought: I got screwed over in divorce, and lost my money, house and kid. 2. Emotion: Regret/anger at getting married. 3. Adaptive Behaviour: Never getting married again. 4. Run this emotion through the regret/anger-specific protocol to confirm behaviour and allow the emotion to fade with time. W Dr Taraban.
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  69. Always remember, she is not your girl, its just your turn. Most guys are too low value, live in scarcity and have oneitis which is very unattractive. This video is also excellent reasoning of why marriage can be so dangerous and divorce rates can be so high. She now has the leverage and power, and will probably misbehave as a result.
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  70. Relationships require sacrifice. If one of the parties thinks they are above sacrifice and only wants the benefits, either that party will never get into a relationship because they are delusional, or any relationship they get into will be short term as they will end up highly dissatisfied. Relationships are not for everyone.
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  71. Alexander Grace is a great person to interview. Would have been great to hear more about his view on the difficulties of long term relationships, especially when juggling kids, etc. To some extent, getting the girl is the relatively easy part. The hard part is keeping the girl and navigating things like boredom, novelty, changes in power dynamics after kids, etc.
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  72. “There are no solutions. There are only trade-offs.” Thomas Sowell. Applies to human mating and reproduction just as much as it applies to economics. Educated women who refuse to settle will find themselves single and childless. I think this is what is driving the decline in marriage and birth rates. Educated women want it ALL.
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  73. Dr Taraban is a board-licensed doctorate-level psychologist. I'm pretty sure he is better qualified than you to speak about relationships. Also, interesting you have no actual criticism. You just make a vague statement without any explanation.
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  74.  @evaphillips2102  Actually, 2nd marriages have a higher divorce rate (60%) than first marriages (50%). And 3rd marriages have a higher divorce rate (70%) than second marriages (60%). So women just move from one set of problems to a new set of problems. There's no such thing as the perfect man who is going to solve all her problems. Even if there was a perfect man who solved all her problems, she would then complain she has no problems and is now bored.
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  75. My ex-wife was a chameleon. She was very happy, smiley, and bubbly around friends. However, with me, behind closed doors, she turned into a bish after she secured the diamond ring, house and kid. The only way to test for chameleon nature is to say "no" to her and watch how she reacts, put her in a stressful environment and see how she reacts (holiday to 3rd world country with no AC), watch how she treats low level people (like servers/waiters), and listen if she is moaning and complaining all the time about other people (because she will be moaning and complaining about you next once you give her the diamond ring, house and kid).
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  76. An obvious talking point that was missed was attachment styles. People with anxious and avoidant psychological attachment styles will always end up having short term relationships as that is how their brains are wired. People with secure attachment styles are likely to find navigating relationships much easier.
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  77. Marriage has been the biggest mistake of my life. I lost my money, house and kid on divorce, and am now stuck in the hell of 10+ future years of heated co-parenting and monthly child support payments. I wish I had know about the manosphere, red pill, divorce statistics, and bias in the family courts 15 years ago.
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  78. An old single woman in the sexual market place is a red flag. Men are extremely thirsty / desperate / lonely and will try to lockdown any available woman. If she has been on the market and can't get a man, there is definitely something wrong with her. She is probably too picky, has delusional standards, or is a nightmare to deal with in a relationship (e.g. moans, complains, and argues all the time).
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  79. 8:34 loneliness, unfulfillment and undiscipline are not diseases. Maybe simple lifestyle changes likes getting more exercise, cutting down on alcohol, giving up smoking, eating healthily, socializing, and working towards a fulfilling goal would help.
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  80. I was married to a narcissist attracted to my money. I ended up losing 70% in my divorce. Getting married is easily the biggest mistake I have ever made in my life. Thank you Jonathan for all the information you provide. You are saving a whole generation of young men from ruining their life.
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  81. Nice guys who give her everything normally finish last. While some women will keep going back to the bad boys because they are addicted to the emotional rollercoaster of the highs and lows (i.e. disappointment). Do not be boring as this will not excite her and leave her feeling dead inside. Feminine love is consumptive so keep feeding her that spice.
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  82. Couple's therapy is a bit like taking an elderly dog to the vet and expecting the vet to breathe new life into the elderly dog. Sometimes its kinder just to move on and stop letting everyone suffer. People need to have healthier and more realistic expectations of relationships. Some relationships are not meant to last forever.
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  83. Women advocating for an institution (marriage) which they will benefit from, e.g. by taking the money, house and kids on divorce. Surprise, surprise. Marriage was worth it in my parents and grandparents generation due to a survival need. However now women have jobs, the backing of the family courts and they want to be independent boss babes, marriage has now become a fool's errand.
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  84. I was that beta provider nice guy who paid a premium (i.e. marriage) in order to smash, and ended up losing my money, house and kid in divorce. I wish I was a Chad or Tyrone. And I wish I knew all this stuff 10+ years ago.
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  85. Most of the time, average men are applying to work at "Physical Intimacy Inc" where the women is the CEO. Men are generally applying to just be the plumber because they want to lay pipe. The women will always be the CEO as she has IG, she has lots of DM's and options, and the family courts will give her the money, house and kids on divorce.
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  86. One detail I would add is things like religion, cultural traditions, Hollywood, etc tips the scales in women's favour. Because of religion, cultural traditions, and Hollywood, even a lot of guys go into dating wanting marriage as this is what they have been socially conditioned to want. Thank God for people like Dr Taraban to help even the playing field.
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  87. A mother is the only women who will ever love a man unconditionally. s/o to the moms. Thank god for her. This old, gold-digging cougar was looking to divorce grape Hakimi.
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  88. If you are a beta male, in the first 7 years women are not paying, they are actually lending. But once you're married with kids, expect her to want more of her currency while refusing to give you your currency because she has the leverage, power and backing of family court. If you refuse, expect her to recover this loan as part of the divorce settlement.
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  89. Some people are marriage material. Some people are divorce material. Some people are lifelong monogamists. Some people are serial monogamists. Some people are monogamish. Some people are polygamists. Some people are asexual. There is no one size fits all despite what society tries to push regarding marriage and kids.
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  90. Wrong. Women don't approach because they want to maintain leverage. They don't want to seem desperate. They want to be viewed and treated as the prize.
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  91. The longer a relationship goes on for, the more problems it will encounter, e.g. boredom, someone deteriorating / improving, cheating, mental health problems, arguments about the kids / family life, etc. Solution: stop expecting romantic relationships to last 50 years. It is just unrealistic in this day and age. "She's not your girl, its just your turn".
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  92. Bo spitting facts from 18 minutes and 20 seconds. Difference between dominant and controlling is whether or not the guy is attractive/Chad'ish. Attractive/Chad'ish type guys are sexy and dominant. Jeffery and Beta Bob-type guys are creepy and controlling.
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  93. Maybe I am wrong. But in my experience, many women (particularly those with an anxious attachment style) love the drama and chaos. They feel most alive and loved when things get toxic. Some even want to see the man lose it so they know they have to power to manipulate and control him, and send him to jail if necessary.
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  94. Guys, she's not your girl. It is just your turn. Dont believe me? See what happens when Chad pulls up or when she is bored with you after you are 10 years into the relationship. And if you are married, you better believe she is going to destroy you in divorce court.
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  95. This is such a great point. Getting a relationship, marriage, and wife can end up making you extremely poor, sad and alone. Many of the most lonely people are actually husbands with a aggressive, bossy, combative and disagreeable wife.
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  96. Just to be clear, even if you do have good looks, money and status, and you also are a good lifestyle and emotional fit for her, you can still end up divorced 7 years down the line, as women reserve the right to change their minds once you have bought her the diamond ring, house and given her kids. She'll probably get emotionally bored and want to move onto a new exciting guy. RIP non-MGTOW's.
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  97.  @j.ceasar  he doesn't advocate for men's rights. he's just a pro-feminist sitting on the wrong side. even the interviewer caught it too.
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  98.  @santafilipina9020  For some reason, women tend to love these narcissitic, bad boy types. My only reasoning is that its a demonstration of higher value (DHV). There is obvious evolutionary benefits to women who mate with a male who is of a higher value. Its genetics.
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  99. I was assigned a female divorce judge and ended up losing 70% of my money, assets, and home equity in my UK divorce, despite us only having 1 kid and her earning more than me. This video helps to explain a lot of what happened. Men are see as sacrificial or expendable.
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  100.  @CalinGilea  if you are married with kids, it is almost impossible to leave a venomous wife unless you want to receive her fury in divorce court. So many men have no idea that they have thrown away their biggest trump card by getting married.
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  101. Bottom line, to be on the safe side and reduce risk, single moms are recreational use only.
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  102. 💯% nailed it. Disrespect if a sign that she no longer sees any value in you hence the disrespect. Its the first step on the journey to the end of the relationship.
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  103.  @HelloWorld-cq1sq  women want excitement in their 20's. "Girls just wanna have fun".
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  104. I have listened to a lot of people talk about this topic (PhD psychologists, licensed divorce attorneys, divorced guys, etc) and everyone seems to agree that a lot of women just want 2 things: 1. babies, and 2. money/resources. Notice, that they do not want a man or a relationship (just the products of a man/relationship). Once you have given her the ring, house and kids, the marriage is on a countdown clock. It will eventually end as you have provided her with everything she needs on divorce. She will move onto the next guy as you have now become boring and the love has faded.
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  105. 8:18 I think the attachment style reason given here is the single best explanation as to why a women with a low body count represents a better mate choice. Its great to hear Dr Taraban going into attachment styles. I do agree that a powerful climax is important but, for me, secure attachment style is fundamental for LTRs.
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  106. The PsycHacks sauce tastes so good. Pause. Creating is very important for sure. RIP whoever sent PsyHacks an angry email about this content. This guy is the best red pill psychologist on You Tube.
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  107.  @TheKarlslok  I think Jonathan is saying focus on being the best version of yourself for you and your own purposes (not for a woman). I don't think Jonathan is saying marry, co-habitat or have kids with women (unless you are prepared to take that risk of being financially and emotionally ruined after a few years).
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  108. I am pretty sure 50% of the population is about to shame Orion for being "emotionally unavailable" or having an "avoidant attachment style" for talking about an office/man cave. Its a fine line between being co-dependent (spending an excessive amount of time with each) vs interdependent (spending a healthy amount of time with each other).
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  109. We need more videos like this. Good solid practical tips. Men need to try to create excitement and wonder in their relationships. Don't just confess your undying love and beg for marriage after the 1st date. She'll get bored of you, the stability and security real quick. You've to know how to play the game of love. Its kinda annoying but necessary.
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  110. 3:47 big facts. I lost 70% of my money, my house and my kid in my UK divorce. Marriage has easily been the most reckless and financially irresponsible thing I have ever done in my life. Judges are extremely biased in favour of the wife/mother. Listen to Bo, do not get married, just be bf/gf.
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  111.  @waynebarrow3245  facts. She even admitted at 11:09 that women don't like poor guys because poor guys do not benefit them.
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  112. Nothing to gain but everything to lose (money, child support, house and kids).
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  113. The fact you had to make compromises means that it wasn't equal. She was in the employer position.
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  114. Even if you are a Chad or Tyrone, you will always be put in the placeholder boyfriend or placeholder husband category. Once she has extracted your value (e.g. cute babies, marriage without a pre-nup, good D, etc) and once she is bored, she will move on. She is not your girl, it is just your turn, gentlemen.
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  115. Time is a great healer. Start striving for new goals while in your trauma and then hopefully that ends the chapter on your trauma and starts a new chapter of success and happiness.
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  116.  @carefulcarpenter  The days of 50 year marriages have long gone. Unfortunately, times have changed, and many people just see marriage as a way to get babies and financial security on divorce. Its sad but true. A lot of these millennials will be lucky to see 15 years of marriage let alone 45 years. No wonder marriage rates and birth rates are at an all time low. In the UK 50% of marriages have gone extinct (there used to be 400k marriages/year in the 1970s but now there are only 200k marriages/year). Marriage will go the way of the floppy disk and VHS tape.
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  117. This is a supply and demand issue. There's lots of single/childless women but very few high value men (HVM) worth being with. If women can spot a HVM before he becomes a HVM (i.e. spot potential) they will need to fight off less competition. They may also need to accept a HVM will exercise options and probably not want to get married.
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  118. Thanks for raising the issue of incompetent judges. No one realizes that judges are incompetent until they find themselves in family court (or some other court) and having to deal with an actual judge. I lost 70% of my money and home equity to my ex-wife in divorce despite her earning more and us only having 1 kid.
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  119. On the one hand, men will begin to learn about these issues if more guys were willing to talk about their divorces, child custody battles, losing the house, etc. However most guys are too ashamed to talk about their loses (renting a tiny apartment post divorce or moving back in with their parents). However with things like the red pill, manosphere, MGTOW, etc there is a glimmer of hope that some men will learn before it is too late. Although this will take time as ultimately guys are hypnotised when they see beauty.
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  120.  @hdshjs  a lot of traditional people and religious people work based on this custom. You must be married first. I am surprised at your shameful outburst.
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  121. Big Facts. Men need to understand our value and walk away. It is literally our only right/power we have left in 2022. Admittedly, this is only really possible if you are not married/do not have kids. If you are married/have kids she has all the power and you are pretty much screwed.
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  122. In order to avoid the trap of boredom and complacency, it makes a lot of sense to avoid marriage and co-habitation. Marriage and co-habitation is just asking for trouble because this creates stability and security which then in turn creates boredom, complacency and resentment.
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  123. 1. Aim for a lofty goal, e.g. starting a family 2. Do it on your terms, e.g. don't get married or get a pre-nup 3. Take your time, e.g. don't worry about age 30 as being a deadline. It takes as long as it takes to build yourself up, find someone, vet someone, etc. Enjoy the process
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  124. This is what Orion's book is all about. You have to offer more value (a lot more value) to her than she offers back (hypergamy/Briffault's law) and she needs to be happy with the value proposition on offer. If you are good looking, she will probably give you a discount on the amount of value you have to offer.
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  125. 💯% facts. you will be all over tiktok, along with the gym bros who are checking out the gym bunnies.
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  126. How does a twice divorced short king with money who goes after younger women using streamer status relate to the red pill?
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  127. Great point. This is probably why simping back fires long term. Simps pedestalize women and the end up losing their money, house and kids 10 years later in divorce.
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  128.  @Kenny-Ross  the dark truth is that many wives see marriage as something to get 1. babies and 2. financial security from. The husband is normally number 4 or 5 on the priority list after the wedding party, diamond ring and honeymoon. Unfortunately no one tells us this before marriage/kids.
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  129.  @SoloRenegade  divorce laws. Once the husband and wife are married, she holds all the cards and has all the leverage. She can take his money, house and kids. He can't do the same based on the laws.
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  130. Low value male lifecycle. 20's: Ignored by women. 30's: Finally get married and have kids because your a nice guy provider. 40's: Get destroyed in divorce and lose your money, house and kids. 50's: Try to rebuild your life and finances while being in custody and child support battles. 60's: Finally get to live your life on your terms :)
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  131. Men need to start taking accountability. The husband allowed himself to be used. He should have never got married in the first place. There is no such thing as divorce grape victims, only divorce grape volunteers. Men need to wake up and stop SIMP'ing with the diamond wedding ring. These 304s aren't worth it.
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  132. Facts. The guy is a walking billboard for the red pill. Twice divorced short king with money who gets young women because of his status. You couldn't make this up.
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  133. Thank you so much, Dr Taraban. You should have a million subscribers. Everyone needs to hear your message. You are so right, talking can potentially make things worse as talking can become a punishment. 6:20 "Good relationships are about enjoying who your partner is, not about changing them into who you want them to be".
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  134. Thank you for your attachment style podcasts with Adam Lane Smith. It helped me to better understand my "anxious" ex-wife, come to terms with the non-financial aspects of my divorce, and start to examine and address my own problematic avoidant psychology. The breadth and depth of "manosphere" topics is incredible.
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  135. Dr Taraban is getting destroyed in the comments section but it is all personal attacks and shaming language. It is interesting how there is no actual valid criticism. It is all just moaning and complaining that Dr Taraban makes them feel bad about themselves.
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  136. This comment from Khan is actually better than the actual video. If she is making you wait, she isn't interest. She just wants to get other things out of the guy, e.g. marriage, financial security, child support, babies, etc. Women will generally be intimate with an alpha on the first night but won't marry him if he is not a good financial bet.
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  137. Marriage is far too dangerous. It is so dangerous you need a pre-nup to make it semi-safe.
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  138. Once upon a time a man proposed to a woman. The woman said no. The man lived happily ever after without the risk of losing his money, house and kids in divorce.
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  139. A leopard never changes its spots. At best a 304 can act and pretend to be a tradcon wife but they will always be a 304 deep down.
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  140. Marriage creates security and stability. Security and stability creates boredom and complacency. Boredom and complacency creates divorce. Marriage causes divorce. Do not get married, people. Your spouse will not be grateful and will take your money, house and kids in divorce. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. Not your spouse, just your turn.
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  141. This is 100% correct. A woman often creates an unrealistic (or perhaps delusional) lifestyle in her head and then gets extremely angry and frustrated at her husband if he doesn't live up to those expectations. Either way, it is a win-win for her. If she gets the lifestyle, then great, she's won. If she doesn't get the lifestyle, then she will divorce him and take his money, house and kids, which is another win for her.
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  142. 💯% nailed it. Disrespect only seeps in when she doesn't want you anymore. This video should really be on why disrespect if the first step on the road to the end of the relationship.
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  143. I used to think mental health, psychological therapy and trauma wasn't real. Then I lost 70% of all my money and assets in my UK divorce despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 child. Trauma and all its side effects is a real thing and will drag you down unless you do something about it and come to terms with losing everything. Great podcast topic.
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  144. Don't pay full price for a used vehicle. Let her be another man's problem.
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  145. This is probably the best comment I have read. It gets to the heart of the issue. If she is being disrespectful she probably doesn't even like you in the first place (maybe she just likes your income or car). Unfortunately, its time to cut and run rather than suffer in a nightmare marriage.
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  146.  @aygwm  So true. Briffault's Law (1927) is real. Women mate and date for hypergamous gain. Where there is no benefit for her there is no relationship.
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  147. Lets say a man put up with all the BS. Then she would lose respect for him because he is a spineless jellyfish who can't lead. Its a lose-lose. You can't win. The game is rigged, gentlemen. Some women are just recreational use only. You can't take them seriously. They don't even take themselves seriously.
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  148. I went through a brutal divorce (or maybe a normal divorce) and lost my money, house and can now only see my son every other weekend (if the mother lets me). I definitely needed this.
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  149.  @summersday7894  menopause is menopause. Ovulation failure is ovulation failure. Whether they admit it or not is irrelevant.
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  150. In other words, a man who is a 10 needs to find a woman who is a 1. It sounds rough and sounds like a bad deal but hypergamy is on steroids in 2024. Even the 1 out of 10 women think they are 10s.
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  151. Interestingly Destiny is a perfect red pill story. Twice divorced short king with money who goes after younger women by using his status. You couldn't make this up.
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  152. This is a really good point. If there were no problems with divorce law, alimony, division of assets, legal fees, child custody, child support, child support modifications, parental alienation, heated co-parenting, these RP manosphere channels would die. The reason these RP manosphere channels are doing well is because millions of men are suffering and can relate to the content.
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  153. Finally! 🎯🎯🎯 Best comment I've read so far. Why are birth rates/fertility down? Well because marriage rates are down and more people are single. Why are more people single? Well it is because certain people have delusional standards. If guys like Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Elon Musk are ending up divorced, what chance does the normal nice guy stand?
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  154. This comment is actually better than the video. If she is making you wait, she isn't physically interested. If she is making you wait, she is just financially interested and trying to determine if he will financially invest in her and how much money she can get out of the relationship.
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  155. Pure facts from 1:55 - 2:30 . I thought I would never end up in divorce court however I did end up there and lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in the UK. Men need to wake up and understand that marriage is the arrangement where they agree to lose their money, home and kids on divorce.
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  156. Women go through different seasons in their life: 20's = 304 phase, i.e. getting pumped and dumped by Chad, Tyrone and Chadrone 30's = security phase, i.e. wanting a beta provider to marry her and give her babies 40's = boss babe phase, i.e. I'm bored. I want the money, house and kids in divorce 50's = divorce regret phase, i.e. child support has stopped. I want another beta provider.
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  157.  @Atashireality  You don't understand the concept of The Wall. The Wall is about her comparing the amount of male attention/interest she gets at 35 years old versus the amount of male attention/interest she was getting at 20 years old. Its not about comparing apples with oranges.
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  158. the juice isn't worth the squeeze. take it from someone who lose his money, house and kid in divorce. she is not your girl, it is just your turn.
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  159. It ultimately depends on what the woman is looking for. If she is untraumatized (say younger, lower body count) she will probably look for love rather than money. However if she is traumatized (post-wall, higher body count) she will want to "cash her chips in" and settle for the money of a nice guy beta provider and divorce him 5 years.
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  160. it is such a shame I have learnt all this stuff after my divorce (where I lost my money, house and kid). the problem is, I would have never believed this video before my divorce, because I thought women were special, and amazing, and heaven-sent.
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  161. As Dr Orion alluded to at the start of the video, marriage causes sexlessness. Marriage provides a woman with too much comfort and security, i.e. marriage is not conducive to intimacy. If you weren't married and she was worried about losing you, she would jump on right away.
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  162.  @davidedeh8448  She would never dare disrespect Chad or Tyrone, consciously or unconsciously. She genuinely desires their warm embrace and will give them the most supreme treatment. She will give them her mind, body and soul.
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  163. Ariel trolling.
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  164. I guess this is why marriage is so problematic. The problem with marriage is that it makes it almost impossible for the husband to negotiate because marriage is a one-sided legal contract, e.g. the wife can take the money, house and kids on divorce. Wives don't need to negotiate. Imagine, trying to negotiate a car purchase where you as the buyer have no leverage because the courts will always support the seller! The buyer (i.e. the husband) will continually get screwed over.
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  165.  @thedevilandhertrumpets4268  Thousands of men self-delete due to divorce. And millions of men consider deletion but then decide against it and rent a crappy 1 bed apartment or move back in with their parents. Marriage is completely off the table for any sane man. These divorce judges are ruthless.
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  166. exactly what i was thinking. it was such a savage take down of old women but so mild mannered at the same time.
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  167.  @fiveleavesleft6521  "And then if he's stupid enough to get married he loses all leverage by having the sword of Damocles hanging over him with biased divorce laws." 💯. Great comment. You absolutely nailed it. 🎯. Most guys only realize this when they are getting divorced and losing the money, house and kids. The only reason guys are getting married is that they don't realize this can happen and/or think it will never happen to me. lol
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  168. I have always taken crying at face value. However, it seems that it can often be used as a manipulative tactic to avoid accountability, responsibility and repercussions. I wish I had known all this stuff 20 years ago. The youngsters of today have so much golden info available to them on YT. Incredible video.
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  169. 5:43 girls here are being very honest. If you are boring, it is a death sentence. Do not wife these agents of chaos obsessed with drama and chaos. They will make your life a living hell. I lost 70% of my money and assets on divorce to one of these chaotic 304s.
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  170. 💯% facts. Just look at divorce, e.g. they can get more than 50% of the money and assets, get the house, get alimony, get child support, get her legal fees paid, etc.
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  171.  @canelareina3795  its an invalid comparison. Those relationships are a completely different kind of relationship. The most similar type of relationship would be employee-employer where the employee is scared of losing their job hence the respect.
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  172.  @thecounselingcouch68  married men live longer because women chose healthier men. the women are not genetically engineering the men to live longer.
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  173. Which ex-wife are you talking about?
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  174. We all know what a man really wants from any women, not just a corn star.
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  175. You will regret it if you don't approach her (you will be alone). You will regret it if you do approach her (you will be divorced). You can't win. lol
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  176. 💯% nailed it. You only really know your partner when you see her in arguments and other stressful situations.
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  177. Funny thing is, there will always be a SIMP prepared to be that clean up guy. I see it all the time.
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  178. Divorce court, and losing your money, house and kids, and getting zero'ed out is extremely rough.
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  179. Women cultivate a roster of backup males in case something goes wrong in their primary relationship. It is a survival strategy for the human species. This phenomena is also known as "mate switching" or "serial mating". Dr David Buss has discussed this in a paper he wrote on "mate switching" to a higher value male.
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  180. RIP Chris Christensen. He was a school principal who deleted himself a few days ago because his wife called the cops saying her kids were in danger. So many men completely lose their mind when dealing with matters of the heart. It is so sad. Men need to do better. They are ruining their lives for no reason.
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  181. W MGTOW. No divorce. No loss of assets. No child support. No alimony. No child custody battles. No false allegations. No legal fees.
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  182. Most guys demonstrate lower value and start simping out of control. It is an easy thing to do, especially if you are a low value simp. Dr Taraban is right. You need to demonstrate higher value and act with indifference. This will come naturally if you actually are a high value alpha chad.
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  183. So true. They always want more. They are never satisfied. Its always "what have you done for me lately".
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  184. I think this is the heart of the issue. She doesn't really like the guy himself. She just likes what the guy can provide, e.g. kids, child support, alimony, 50% of the assets, etc.
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  185. I think guys massively underestimate how much your wife will change (probably for the worst) during a 50 year marriage. The young, slim, free care, happy 25 year old girl will quickly turn into an overweight, post-natally depressed, 40 year old who regrets marrying you. This is the problem with marriage. It is a very risky 50 year bet where you gamble all your money, house and kids on 1 women who hopefully doesn't hate you 15years down the line.
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  186. I hope one of the big red pill channels picks up on your work/channel. Your channel is dropping so many facts but from a PhD psych perspective. I have been through a marriage and divorce, and I 100% agree that if the wives get bored the relationship is dead as she is no longer feeling anything. I also 100% agree that the wife should be the adorer but this is hard to achieve in reality because men have been brainwashed into the adorer role by Hollywood, TV, media, etc. Also, to be the adored, you can't be lazy, you need to be someone worth adoring. Men should really put more effort into being adored (rather than adoring). Your work could actually save so many marriages.
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  187. People, including myself, need to learn to relax, forgive, let go, and move on. 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Letting go of the hate is great for your body and getting rid of stress hormones. You only get one body and mind, take care of them. Don't be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
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  188. Men are in love while women are in business. Men value love while women love value. Most guys think exactly like you. Its not until divorce court when your losing your money, house and kid do you realize you have ruined your life.
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  189. In other words, happy wife happy life? Alternatively, ideally you want to find someone who is agreeable and where there is conflict/disagreement, this can be handled in a mentally and emotionally stable way.
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  190. They ultimately still win either way. Even with a low value guy, on divorce they will get the money, house and kids. So they still win. The low value guy is left with nothing, while she walks into Chad's arms with the money, house and kids.
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  191. I guess this is why evidence, data, statistics, etc from credible sources is so important. At least then, you can compare your own individual feelings (e.g. I FEEL LIKE marriage is a great idea, etc) against what is actually going on in reality (e.g. there's a 40% chance of divorce in the USA, or 50% chance of divorce in the UK, etc).
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  192. Great insight at the end. I too have noticed that men tend not to disrespectfully question or cause drama and chaos. They seem to have a more avoidant attachment style. While women do tend to disrespectfully question and cause drama and chaos. They seem to have a more anxious attachment style.
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  193. My understanding is that women are increasingly out competing men, e.g. education, higher salaries in their 20's, dominating the intake of the professions (e.g. law, medicine, PhD research, etc). While men are being consumed by their screens, e.g. OF, P Hub, YT, gaming, etc. I can only see this gap continuing to increase as more and more women prefer to be single, focus on their career, and not have to worry about children, etc. We are already seeing this trend in Japan.
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  194.  @uhnborhn5032  this is exactly what happened in my divorce. my ex-wife was stashing away and hiding a bunch of money over the years. divorces just don't happen. they are usually planned out.
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  195.  @James-pl5uc  chance of car accident and chance of divorce are completely different numbers.
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  196. I lost my money, house and kid in my divorce. Never again. Can't believe 86% get remarried???
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  197. Understandable. But the whole "she loves me for me" thing is a bit blue pill. Briffault's law states that women mate and date for gain. They only enter into relationships where they can extract benefit from the man.
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  198. Getting into the relationship is the easy bit. Maintaining the relationship over a 5, 10, 15 year period is the difficult bit. As Orion says, online is beginning to overtake "in real life" as the easier/stress-free/happier option.
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  199. 5 key traits: 1. Mental stability when the chips are down. 2. Tolerance of the other person's imperfections. 3. Willingness not to marry or co-habit / willing to sign an iron-clad pre-nup. 4. Low number of previous boyfriends. 5. No history of divorce in her family or friendship circle.
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  200. Women are generally not going to use talking as a punishment for Chad and Tyrone. Women are only going to use talking as a punishment or weapon for a short, ugly, broke guy. In other words, if she is using talking as a weapon or punishment, she is trying to change you because she doesn't really like you.
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  201. In some ways I disagree with "the person you marry, is not the person you divorce". The person you marry is essentially an actor, they will act nice and sweet in order to get the diamond ring, money, house and babies. The person you divorce is the real authentic version of themselves without the acting. The red flags and mental instability were always there but you didn't see them due to all the beauty, intimacy and acting. You never really know your spouse and how much your spouse really hates you until you divorce them.
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  202. From listening to Jonathan I think I divorced a narcissist. The main things that resonated with me was the "control" thing. My ex-wife was obsessed with calling the shots and creating rules for the relationship (which she did not follow). Love bombing at the beginning of the relationship. Being an absolute pain to divorce. I ended up giving away 70% of my money and assets to get away from her. Regarding why I married a narcissist, I guess I was grateful to be in a relationship (scarcity mindset). I wish I took longer to get to know her. #
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  203. Exactly. If marriage was a fair proposition, then more people would decide to do it. However, with the laws as they are, marriage is just a piece of paper where the husband and the state are agreeing to transfer the money, house and kids on divorce.
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  204. I disagree with the last part of this video about trying to figure out if she is a good woman or bad woman. The problem is, even good woman at 25 years old, can turn out to be a bad money-hungry women at 35 years old after the husband has bought the house, and given her two kids. Alexander doesn't seem to understand that women change, especially after a 10 year marriage with 2 kids and the house paid for. Wives begin to get bored and ungrateful, and want to move onto a new and exciting chapter of their life, having secured all the financial security.
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  205. 2:32 fake news. She actually gets around 70% once you factor in legal fees and lump sum alimony. Say there are 100k of marital assets, this will get split 50-50. However if the judge orders 10k of legal fees and 10k of lump sum alimony to be paid from husband to wife, the husband will end up with 30k and the wife will end up with 70. I lost 70% in my UK divorce, including my house.
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  206. In my parents and grandparents generation, men and women needed each other. However, this link has been broken now women have jobs and the backing of the family courts. Because women don't need men, they now have very high standards for men (e.g. emotional vulnerability) which most men can't meet over a 50 year marriage. Please interview "The Lead Attorney". He can explain why a traditional 50 year marriage is no longer realistic.
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  207. Getting married to the mother of your children is one of the worst mistakes a man can make. Once he does this, she has all the power and leverage in family court. Husbands will lose their money, house and kids on divorce. Once she has the ring, house and kids, it is GAME OVER for the husband. I got myself into this mess and ended up losing 70% of my money, assets and home equity on divorce in the UK.
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  208. The problem we have here is that men just don't understand how dangerous romantic relationships and alcohol are. Men are just way too thirsty. It is actually embarrassing. Why not go to a pharmacy for protection and pay with card and keep receipts, then go to a hotel and pay with card and keep receipts. Produce the bank statements, receipts, pharmacy CCTV and hotel CCTV in court and explain to Karen the Judge what happened and that everything was consensual. Also, whenever I hear one of these stories alcohol is always involved. Do not get intimate when alcohol is involved.
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  209. Nothing is ever good enough. They always want more.
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  210. Marriage is a huge L for men. Husband's get destroyed in divorce court. Divorce judges are the worst. Left over men are winning.
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  211. My best advice would be to keep these 304s at arms length. No marriage, no cohabitation, and no co-mingling of finances. It makes it much easier to walk away when the genuine burning desire inevitably fades. If you want kids, keep the number of kids to a minimum to minimize any child support, child custody battles, etc. Be careful out there guys. Once you screw up with marriage and/or kids it will haunt you for the rest of your life.
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  212. RIP older women. Got to be one of the most savage take downs on youtube. Older women are "expensive" and "depreciating". Remind me to never mess with or criticize Orion.
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  213. s/o cappy. that guy is a legend. as he says, "do not get married".
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  214. the red pill is not about men hating women. The 2 main components of nearly all red pill content are 1. self improvement to become more appealing to women, and 2. how to minimize the risks that come with relationships, e.g. divorce laws, pre-nups, unequal property division, alimony, child custody battles, legal fees, false allegations, common law marriage, biased judges, marriage being short term, etc. The problem is that laws and judges are extremely unfair and unfortunately many men go into things like marriage without realizing how dangerous and damaging it is. The red pill allows men who have been badly burnt by the system, to share their experiences, so that other men in the future don't get screwed over by making silly decisions. Although the guys who have been destroyed by the system can't save themselves, it's too late for them, they can help to save their sons and other guys about to make the biggest mistakes of their lives.
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  215. I wish I knew about this 10 years ago. I am now broke and alone due to losing my money, house and kids on divorce.
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  216. Rollo Tomassi / The Rational Male said he would like to interview you (even on a remote basis) in his latest live stream (around the 50 minute mark). Not sure if you would be interested in doing this (?) but if you are interested, the offer is there. Would be great to hear you both discuss relationship goals, exchange of value, love in marriage, hypergamy, evolutionary biology, evolutionary psychology, how to maintain a stable marriage, etc.
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  217. 💯% facts. She is not your girl, its just your turn. She will eventually start moaning, complaining, and will take the money, house and kids on divorce.
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  218. this is 💯% the best strategy. however, most guys only realize this once they get divorced and lose their money, house and kids in divorce, and end up single, broke, lonely, homeless and depressed.
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  219. In general, men want a physically intimate relationship and are happy to provide their seed and money in return. In general, women want babies and money and are happy to provide access to a physical relationship in return. The problem we have in 2023, because of divorce laws / child custody laws / child support laws, the costs of a physical relationship is no longer worth the price. What is the point of paying the price that women are asking for when things like P Hub and OF are free/low cost?
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  220. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in my UK divorce. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing I have ever done. She lives in a house while I live in a room.
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  221. 100% facts. I am surprised neither of them brought this issue up as this is the key point. You have 100% nailed it. Financial reasons is often cited as a reason for divorce, and then children of divorce (i.e. millennials) then get nervous to marry and have kids after seeing what happen to their parents. This then reduces the marriage and birth rates to all time lows in multiple countries. It is nice to finally find a comment that actually acknowledges the elephant in the room. Thank you.
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  222. 18 years. 18 years. she got you for 18 years.
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  223. Are you nice to be around, or do you moan and complain at him all the time? If you moan and complain at him all the time, he probably doesn't want to be around you and would prefer to be left alone in peace. I think Dr Orion did a video on this recently.
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  224. it probably relates more to the guy. If the guy is 6 foot, 6 inches and earn 6 figures we will get a hard launch. If the guy is 5 foot, 5 inches and earns 5 figures he will only qualify for a soft launch.
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  225. Never marry Chad's leftovers. She will be truly traumatized. As you say, the boring nice guy will be punished and divorced graped for Chad's sins.
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  226. Great video. Many women prefer guys based on looks. These good looking guys have many options and therefore have never had to bother with catering to a women's emotional needs. It is the fact that many women go for looks and that this incidentally comes with bad boy behaviour. Although, even if the good looking guy was a nice guy, I am sure many women would still be able to find something to moan and complain about. For example, maybe they would say the nice guy is boring and dull and doesn't make them feel anything/feel any emotion.
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  227. All men pay. The John in the parked car pays a lot lizard. The married man pays his wife with a diamond ring, house, alimony, and child support. In fact, married men pay a lot more than The John. The issue is, women no longer need men now they've jobs and divorce can keep the woman paid but without the headache of the man.
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  228. women have been rumbled. bravo, dr taraban.
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  229.  @RShaun  if you want a relationship you have to accept the whole thing is a risk and can massively back fire. If you want a relationship you have to make your best guess and hope it works out for the next 50 years. All you can do is de-risk, e.g. not get married, or get married with a prenup, or only have 1 kid to minimize child support payments, etc.
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  230. This guy is way ahead of his time. He is a bit like Copernicus in the 1500's trying to explain the Earth is not at the centre of the universe, or Darwin in the 1800's trying to explain that animals evolve and adapt by survival of the fittest. Most people are not emotionally ready to here relationships are transactional and just an exchange of value.
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  231. best comment. if a girl genuinely likes you, she won't care if you are just meeting up for coffee or a park date. she is just glad to spend time with you. guys, spending loads on 1st dates are just compensating for a lack of personality and attractiveness.
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  232. Social media is great. These 304s always tell on themselves. They can't keep their mouths closed.
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  233. long relationships tend to be lose-lose for men. if it doesn't work out you could end up losing your money, house and kids in divorce. if it does work out, she will end up moaning, complaining, causing drama and chaos, and you lose access to other women. the juice isn't worth the squeeze, gentlemen.
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  234. MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Wallets
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  235. Guys, if you are in a marriage, you know very well that you can't win. You pay the bills, you will get accused of being old-fashioned. You don't pay the bills, you will get accused of being useless. You look after the kids, you will be accused of not working hard in your job/not getting a promotion. You don't look after the kids, you will be accused of being a neglectful father. Honestly, do not get married, do not co-habitat, and live an area where the laws are favourable (50 : 50 custody, no child support, no common law marriage).
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  236. I think the core essence of a person does not change, e.g. optimistic, pessimistic, extrovert, introvert, neurotic, etc. But I think you can slightly change within your limits, e.g. someone slightly pessimistic / introverted, can become more pessimistic / introverted after a bad divorce, etc. I think there is a lot of truth to "a leopard never changes its spots".
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  237. “There are no solutions. There are only trade-offs.” Thomas Sowell
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  238. The average marriage will last around 15 years, and on divorce the husband and wife will end up as arch enemies, typically with the husband losing his money, house and kids. Also, divorce and unhappiness is very common. The divorce rate is around 40% according to CDC. And many people unhappy in their marriage do not get divorced. When will people wake up to this chaos?
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  239. there is no such thing as a "high value man". just ask bill gates, jeff bezos, elon musk, brad pitt, johnny depp, tom brady, dr dre, kanye west, tyrese, etc etc and all the other divorced millionaires. babies and child support and wedding rings are high value, not the man.
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  240. Bars. 💯facts. This is so true. Women date for gain while men date for acceptable loss. Men value love while women love value. Men are in love while women are in business.
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  241. I hate to say it but what your mom / dad have is slowly going extinct. Relationships now are becoming short-term value exchanges. If you want to deal with a woman you have to accept the risk, vet her for around 3 - 5 years, make sure she is calm, patient, agreeable, mentally and emotionally stable, and get a pre-nup. Also, maybe consider only having 1 kid to minimize the child support risk.
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  242. Protect yourself at all times guys. I didn't and ended up losing 70% in divorce court.
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  243. Co-habitation, kids and marriage is a complete risk/mess in the West. You can't win. If you are going to co-habit and have kids make sure you live in a jurisdiction that does not recognize common law marriage and make sure you vet this women for around 2 - 4 years.
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  244.  @TookAHikeNowWhat  your insightful comment is 100% correct. In my parents and grandparents day they had things like religion, shame and unemployed/unemployable wives which meant that divorce was pretty much impossible. However, now that religion and shame have gone, and women have high paying jobs and there are pro-divorce laws, it is a miracle only 50% of marriages end in divorce. I think a 50% divorce rate is pretty low, all things considered. I think millennials and Gen Z men would be wise to quickly accept the fact that the days of 50 years marriages have long gone, and that marriage is an outdated and unsuccessful institution. I think this is slowly happening. Hence the ever decreasing marriage rates to all time lows.
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  245. Honestly, some guys deserve everything that is coming to them from Karen the divorce judge. If you're driving around in a Porsche or showing off on social media, expect your ex-wife to file for modification as she can show Karen the divorce judge you can afford it. In 2023 guys should realize that a lot of people are struggling with the cost of living and are looking for a pay day. Do not be that sucker that gives your ex a pay day in divorce court.
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  246.  @steveunderhill5935  You're taking the example too literally. Obviously, in real life, women go through the menopause and therefore can't rebuild.
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  247.  @indrajeet  facts. that's a perfect way to describe it.
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  248. This happens all too often. Guys having to entertaining and excite their partner in order to prevent them from being bored. Some people cannot sit still because they had an emotional and traumatic childhood, and they seek those familiar emotions from their partner. These thrill-seekers are not bad people but they are definitely not 50 year marriage material. They are also the worst people to divorce as they want to put the other person through hell.
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  249.  @dANbRnL  I would never get married again after my divorce. And I hope my son never gets married. Marriage is just a way for the wife to get 1. babies and 2. financial security at the husband's expense. The whole thing is biased against men because she will get custody and as a direct result he will lose his money and house. It's insane when you think about it. But I would rather be a married guy with a prenup than a married guy without a prenup.
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  250. He's twice married and divorced by 35. This is pretty impressive since marriage rates have tanked.
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  251. UK laws are the same as this. How the assets are titled are irrelevant. Everything goes into the marital pot and pot split based on need (i.e. not 50:50). I lost 70% in my divorce. The judge was ruthless. It is so humiliating having a judge decide how much of my money I get to keep.
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  252.  @Aright231  I don't think I said Chad would take her seriously. She will always be recreational use only.
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  253. I have been saying a similar thing for quite some time now. Not everyone is marriage material. Not everyone has enough mental stability or tolerance of another person's imperfections. If you get married to someone with low tolerance and quickly gets angry about another person's imperfections the marriage will end in divorce after 5 - 10 years. It is really that simple. The point about people changing and being different every 10 years is another excellent point. The person you marry is not the person you divorce.
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  254. Seems to me like human beings are serially monogamous, i.e. we move from one partner to the next during our lives. If more people realized this, i.e. its normal for one relationship to end and another relationship to begin, potentially this could help people to accept nothing is forever and to enjoy each relationship while it lasts.
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  255. Chad vs Chad. This should be interesting. Let me guess, attraction is all about confidence and personality?
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  256.  @ChrisWillx  Bit of an extreme reaction for what was meant to be a playful joke/compliment. Your interviews with Adam Lane Smith on attachment styles were really interesting, as is this interview.
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  257. So true. I guess the difference is the prossie is cheaper and more adventurous in order to secure repeat customers. Wives are extremely expensive. Trust me, I lost my money, house and kid in my divorce. Plus on 10+ years of child support.
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  258. If a man manages to avoid the family courts, then he should be able to achieve success and happiness, e.g. have more time/money to invest in himself, his health and his career/business. However, once a man gets dragged into the family court system and loses his money, house and kids, it is very mentally and financially damaging and very difficult to overcome the injustice. Leonardo Di Caprio is a great role model for guys, i.e. focus on your purpose and enjoy multiple short term relationships.
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  259. The global population is increasing due to Asia/Africa. This video is about Western countries which are experiencing a decline.
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  260. Even if she is obsessed she can change, especially if you fall off or she gets fat and lazy after kids. Whatever you do, do not get married, the Judges will take everything from you in divorce.
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  261. I am grateful to Jonathan for explaining this concept of opportunity cost. It is such a shame that fathers are not explaining this type of thing to their sons. I guess Boomers didn't know how destructive marriages would turn out to be in 2023. So many guys are sleep walking into marriage like lambs to the slaughter. It's very sad as these young husbands will realize they have made a huge mistake around 7 years in.
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  262.  @tomaszsosnowski9279  Yes. Absolutely. Completely agree. My original comment was just in relation to the average guy. If Chad or Tyrone pulls up, they have all the leverage, and it is a completely different game (as described by Dr Taraban). However, Chadrone is the exception, rather than the rule.
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  263. So true. She will moan and complain so much about her 20% it is effectively 100/0. Welcome to the world of equity, gentlemen.
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  264. Its 💯% facts. I was the nice guy beta provider and ended up losing my money, house and kid in divorce. My wife now lives with Chad and Tyrone in my old house, in my old bed, and with my son, and they get the best treatment.
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  265. Legendary user name. Conclusion, do not get married. Marriage is just the transfer of leverage, power and wealth from the man to the woman.
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  266. You forgot social media (in between friends and baby daddy)
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  267.  @voyageFN  once the investment phase is over (i.e. the women has the diamond ring, house and kids), bedroom fun is shut down. once the investment phase is over, she has all the leverage and power in the marriage and divorce court.
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  268. This is the best comment. Men in general don't receive any job applications because we are not the employers. It's the women's inbox and DM's that are flooded with application. Women, like employers, are the selectors and have the power because they take the greater risks in pregnancy.
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  269.  @dahliaherrod4301  I had a female judge. She didn't cite a reason. She was just very biased, believed all my wife's terrible and obvious lies, and did everything in her power to divert as much money as possible to my wife to maintain her standard of living (at my expense). She was completely ruthless. I should have complained about her but missed the 3 month deadline.
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  270. Am I right in thinking you could still need to pay alimony for 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, etc? Alimony should be capped until the youngest kid is 18 (this being the maximum length). Judges will still find a way to screw over the husbands, e.g. 50 years of alimony, paying the wife's legal fees, using biased valuations, ignoring dissipations, etc.
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  271. I guess, from a women's point of view, the ideal situation is to obtain the maximum money/resources without having to deal with the man himself. I guess this is why divorce is so popular and wives, in general, tend to file for divorce.
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  272. I would say poor parent(s) are the real problem. A doctor who is a single parent is unlikely to have out of control kids, compared to 2 poor married people who are ex-criminals.
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  273.  @Kenny-Ross  RIP Kevin Samuels
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  274. My ex-wife was obsessed with comparison. She was always on IG late at night (1AM, 2AM in the morning) comparing her life and her lifestyle to her friends. She would then spend all her time moaning and complaining about her reality versus someone else's IG highlight reel. These women will also prioritize her friends over you as the husband.
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  275. The truth behind divorce is a lot of people who get married should've never got married in the first place. Maybe people feel suffocated in the marriage and need some space and freedom, maybe they get bored of the monotony and stability of a marriage, maybe serial monogamy is their thing. It was also great to hear Chris and James discuss the bias/injustice of family court 56:38 . Marriage is dangerous, get a pre-nup to protect you from biased judges.
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  276.  @suefleming  Or just not get married in the first place if it is so risky and dangerous.
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  277. Marrying a single mom = using another man's tooth brush. Don't do it gentlemen. Do not give Chad and Tyrone's leftovers your commitment. Chad's trash is not your treasure.
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  278.  @fromgermany271  I can never understand why men marry for a second time. Makes no sense to me. Once is bad enough.
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  279. 5. Mentally and emotionally unstable. 6. Argumentative, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable (ABCD) 7. Masculine 304
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  280.  @sammakwela  1. dont get married. 2. if you want to take the risk of having kids try to sick to only having 1 kid to reduce future child support payments and custody battles. and 3. vet your girlfriend very carefully for at least 3 years before having kids. make sure she in not an Angry, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable and Emotional (ABCDE) woman. if she is ABCDE run, it will never last and there will be a huge custody battle in the future. your girlfriend MUST be mentally and emotionally stable.
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  281.  @veritasliberabitvos454 Tyrese had a well written pre-nup which got thrown out. Hence the reason he owes around 750k in legal fees (250k for him and 500k for his wife). Although, he is currently appealing the pre-nup getting thrown out. If he loses, he will owe in excess of 1 million in legal fees.
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  282.  @kylemacdougall8355  women don't test chad and tyrone. Chad and Tyrone get her best treatment. Chad and Tyrone get her mind, body and soul. If she is testing you, it means she is unsure of you, unsure that you are good enough, and is assuming the power position and seeing if you are up to standard.
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  283.  @kylemacdougall8355  this is the problem with a lot of guys. they see things like "i'm still in the running" as a prize or medal. being "still in the running" is a big L. There should be genuine burning desire. Not a relationship because she is settling for 2nd or 3rd choice because her biological clock is ticking and she couldn't lock down Chad.
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  284.  @Khan-rz8qi  interestingly, husbands pay the most. Paying for the diamond ring,, house, car, losing 50%, alimony, child support, legal fees. Husbands are paying into the $$$hundreds of thousands for a depreciating asset.
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  285. And her pay pig if she divorces you and takes your money, house and kids.
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  286. "him thinking a high body count is a bad thing is not insecurity, but wisdom." EXACTLY. Him not wanting to park his car in a crappy smelly yeast-infected neighbourhood is wisdom not insecurity.
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  287.  @darcycolborne2565  only 2 changes: 1. compulsory lawyer-approved pre-nups before marriage when everyone is happy and rational. 2. 50 : 50 child custody and no child support (unless the father refuses his 50% custody, and then he has to pay child support). It is incredibly easy to fix marriage and birth rates.
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  288. So women, who might tend to see themselves as victims in a bad relationship, need to start taking accountability for their water being dirty. And men, who tend to just want peace and quiet, need to start anxiously walking the tight rope of being hard but not too hard (as well as having good looks, money, status and lifestyle). When you put things like this, it is a miracle the divorce rates are only 50%.
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  289. Founder equity = marriage, and employee salary = girlfriend. I would argue that marriage is a terrible idea regardless of being a founder or employee. Very few founders or employees want to stay with a company for 50 years. And some leave on very bad terms where there is no pre-nup in place. Founder = in the right place, at the right time.
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  290. Accountability and apologizing is their kryptonite.
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  291. She is interested in the guy she is making wait. Its just that the interest is purely financial rather than physically. Its the beta side of hypergamy.
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  292. She kept begging you for marriage in order for you to give her the diamond ring, house and kids that she always wanted. And even if the marriage failed, she would be able to keep your money, house and kids through the divorce courts. Marriage (even a failed marriage) is a win-win situation for the wife.
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  293. You are a genius bro. I had to lose 70% of my assets and my house in my UK divorce to figure this out. Wish I had your IQ. I should have just stayed bf/gf. I've ruined my life.
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  294.  @metatron8386  Best comment. This is so true. It is never just half. After factoring in legal fees, child support, etc she has pretty much cleaned you out. Facts. If men knew about this, more men would never get married.
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  295. LeBron has been with his wife since high school, has 3 kids with her (oldest being 18 years old) and has been married to her for 10 years. I am against pedestalizing wives as it could dangerously inflate the wife's ego to delusional levels and you will need to keep doing it to avoid falling off. However, in this situation, given their extremely long history and 3 kids (one who is now an adult) I will give LeBron a pass.
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  296. Guys in terrible marriages are lonely as are divorced guys who just see their kids every other weekend or who barely see their teenage kids as they are too busy or have been turned against the father. I think being alone is actually quite common regardless of relationship status.
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  297. Marriage is an agreement between husband and state that the wife will have all the leverage and power in the marriage, and that she will get the money, house and kids on divorce.
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  298. Its like saying every man should easily be able to be the 4 M's: muscular, mature, money, and macho. Unfortunately, men and women are lazy and will rarely become the 4 M's or 4 F's. We are much more likely to be lazy, default to factory settings, and just type stuff from the comments section.
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  299.  @Edelwiess1066 I didn't say "old geezers" and I didn't say "dominated". "Older" is not the same as "old geezer". "Dominant" (i.e. confident) is not the same as "dominated". Fake News.
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  300.  @sole008  agreed. in a knowledge economy it makes sense to prioritize education and career over having money-hungry babies.
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  301. Sounds like holders are agreeable avoidant introverts. While sniffers are disagreeable anxious extroverts. A bit like oil and water. Opposites may attract initially, but long-term opposites will probably fall out, especially over the timeline of a 50 year marriage.
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  302.  @Pride0FTh3Lion  The problem is they see it as settling downwards after being alpha-widowed by Chad and Tyrone.
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  303. Guys relationship goals are physical intimacy. Women relationship goals are financial security and babies. Both parties can behave reprehensibly in achieving their goals. If you are a low value guy with a scarcity mindset then you are going to have to pay up one way or another if you want a woman (e.g. provide babies, child support, financial security aka marriage). If you are a high value guy with an abundance mindset then you can move onto the next women if the current women doesn't measure up. Consequently, its important to know who you are (leader or follower), what your woman really wants from you (gold digger? child support digger?), and understand the divorce/ child custody/ pre-nup/ child support system in your jurisdiction.
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  304. a man will sacrifice his life for his family. a woman will sacrifice her family for her life.
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  305. 💯% facts. You see the game so clearly. Even with a high value man, they will eventually get bored of him or get angry that he is successful/busy and unable to do the housework. You can't win- even as a high value man.
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  306. The problem a lot of people have is the huge expectation and pressure to get married. People get married to tick off another life milestone. People also have no idea that you should choose a wife based on mental stability (she is calm during difficult periods) and tolerant (accepting of the husband's imperfections). Also, a lot of husbands don't have the money, muscle, game and frame to survive in a 50 year marriage. To be honest, it is surprising the divorce rate is ONLY 50%. If you are going to get married, you have to accept it is a huge 50 year gamble where your money, house and kids are at stake.
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  307. Best comment. He is an alpha with a double bed. She genuinely likes the alpha but would never marry him. Probably because his finances aren't great or because he is a bit of a cheater. You 💯% understand human mating and reproduction. Great comment.
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  308.  @Vivungisport  I am still very resentful years on. Not necessarily at my wife's lies because this is normal. I am more resentful at the system for being so ruthless and biased. 2 major changes that should happen are 1. pre-nups should be compulsory for all marriages and should be obeyed by the judge. 2. child custody should be default 50 : 50 unless there are police reports / evidence to avoid 50 : 50.
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  309.  @susangarrard2753  the red pill is not about men and women hating each other. The 2 main components of nearly all red pill content are 1. how to attract women/self improvement to become more appealing to women, and 2. how to minimize the risks that come with relationships, e.g. divorce laws, pre-nups, unequal property division, alimony, child custody battles, legal fees, false allegations, common law marriage, biased judges, etc. The problem is that laws and judges are extremely unfair and unfortunately many men go into things like marriage without realizing how dangerous and damaging it is. The red pill allows men who have been badly burnt by the system, to share their experiences, so that other men in the future don't get screwed over by making silly decisions. Although the guys who have been destroyed by the system can't save themselves, it's too late, they can help to save their sons and other guys about to make the biggest mistakes of their lives.
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  310. The only long term thing men get in return is the risk of losing their money, house and kids in divorce. Its a sad reality the no one will accept.
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  311. This is actually a great comment. Women no longer need men. Hence the declining marriage rates and 50% divorce rates. There's also declining birth rates too.
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  312. Looks like men and women are happy with online rather than IRL. Hence the declining marriage and birth rates. It makes sense when you think about it. Women probably don't want to be single moms. And men don't want to lose custody and pay child support. Online seems to be the better and safer system.
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  313. I wonder how much this is caused by divorcing parents. E.g. the kids see their fathers kicked out the family home and destroyed in an ugly divorce, and then these kids grow up and don't want to have kids because they have no relationship with their father and have negative opinions of families.
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  314. A man not getting a pre-nup is like a man driving without a seat belt for 50 years. Seat belts and pre-nups are protection. At any time in a 50 year marriage, the wife can divorce you and take your money, house and kids. Ideally do not get married in the first place. But if you are happy to take the risk, at least get a pre-nup. I lost 70% of my money and assets in my divorce, including losing my house.
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  315. Are you accusing women of lying about their reasons for leaving? How dare you (Greta Thunberg voice)!!! Seriously though, I love your line "I feel bored, I'M TOO UNIMAGINATIVE TO HAVE FUN BY MYSELF and you're not being exciting." Absolutely brilliant line. RIP to those millennial husbands in marriages.
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  316. Even the Bible has been complaining about some women for thousands of years (Eve, Lilith, Jezebels, Delilahs). Its not going anyway as long as the family courts keep ruining guys lives.
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  317.  @Margriet101  Good point. The makeup can't be for the current husband as you are already married. It must be for the next guy.
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  318.  @jimmyharris135  are you referring to my ex-wife or the judge? it was a (female) judge who made the decision. i question whether you understand family court and the bias of the judges. look up the "women are wonderful effect".
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  319. This guy is a legend. He deserves a Nobel Prize. Love is the ultimate unconditional sacrifice. It is so rare it is essentially a work of fiction. Whereas relationships / marriages are just business or a transactional exchange of value, e.g. men provide resources, good looks and emotional support, while women in return provide physical intimacy. Orion really gets it. His videos are mind blowing.
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  320. best comment. " if the employee unilaterally decides to quit, he may be forced to pay her salary for years" = alimony. lol
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  321. 10:54 MHD is wrong here. Tyrese's pre-nup did not hold up in court hence the reason he owes around 750k in legal fees because he has to pay her legal fees too as his pre-nup failed to protect him. However, he is currently appealing the judge's decision and seeing if an appeal judge will uphold his pre-nup. Marriage is such a joke.
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  322. The problem I see with marriage is that husbands lose leverage very quickly, i.e. once they have given the wife the ring, house, and kids, the husband is no longer needed. Given marriage is so risky, a pre-nup helps to restore some level of fairness. However, it would probably just be easier not to co-habitat and marry in the first place, as long term you will probably end up divorced, single and much poorer having lost assets and money on legal fees.
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  323. Such a great video. If you are a guy, and want to take the 50% risk of losing your money, house and kids on divorce, then go for marriage. If you want to give her all the power and leverage in the marriage and divorce, then a marriage is perfect for you. Marriage will probably end up being the biggest mistake you make as the most likely outcome of marriage is divorce, emotional and financial ruin.
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  324. I hate to sound like a doomer but while your suggestion is sensible (e.g. bogus claims should be punished) I think this unlikely to ever happen as men will stand to benefit / women will stand to lose. Even if this law existed, male and female judges would be unlikely to "tick the box" and use this power just in case they are wrong, they don't want to cause anymore distress to the women, etc. Sad but true.
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  325.  @peripheralparadox4218  if women were treated like this in divorce, then marriage would be considered unconscionable and marriage would be outlawed and banned.
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  326. I wouldn't necessarily give up but you have to accept that what you are looking for, e.g. a women who is willing to stay with you in a traditional 50 year marriage, is becoming rarer and rarer now they have jobs and the backing of the family courts. It is honestly better to stay single, happy and rich rather than divorced, depressed and poor. Good luck either way.
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  327. This guy is spitting facts. In a 50 year marriage (say from age 30 years old to 80 years old) you do not want a masculine 304 who is always arguing, moaning, complaining and disagreeable. Your life will be hell. Also, this type of women will clean you out in divorce. I lost 70% of my money/assets in divorce.
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  328.  @monforttransport  100% agree. I learnt this the hard away after losing 70% of my money and assets (including my house) in my UK divorce. The divorce has left me financially ruined, homeless and alone. I would have been better off just to have not got married in the first place. The problem is, with things like IG, wives can see that their lives are not as amazing as other people's lives, and then they are going to get angry at the husband for failing to provide that same lifestyle. Sad but true. I now just see marriage as a wealth transfer mechanism (it doesn't really have anything to do with long term relationships).
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  329.  @Kevin-kj5th  facts. He probably has a large female audience and doesn't want to anger them by talking about marriage/divorce.
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  330.  @seemoretoys5944  she will be gone to divorce court and the judge will make you pay for your bad behaviour. Divorce judges even punish good men.
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  331.  @jamescheaye927  great summation. Unfortunately, a lot of animal nature is unflattering. The cuckoo kicking out the eggs of another bird and laying its eggs in the nest instead. Or lions eating the kids of the previous lion of the pride to bring the lioness into oestrous. Unfortunately, the human animal has an unfortunate set of patterned behaviour too with respect to the exchange of resources for intimacy.
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  332.  @edheldude  latest trends show religion, marriage and birth rates are all in decline. I don't think any of these trends will reverse. I think most Western countries in the future will go down a Japanese route, i.e. anime, AI girlfriends/OF, video games, etc. Lets see if my prediction is right in 10 - 20 years time.
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  333. This comment is 💯% facts. People are getting jealous of each other's highlight reel.
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  334. I think the content remains the same for all the new people that enter the red pill like divorced guys or guys that are struggling with women. Once you have learned it and it becomes repetitive, its time to leave.
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  335. "what do men get out of relationships?" ....... erm, loads actually. Men get headaches, moaned at, complained at, shouted at, hen pecked, drama, chaos, regret, arguments, bossed around, stress, etc.
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  336. Relationships are an exchange of value or transactional. Men want physical intimacy, while women want financial security (i.e. marriage) and kids. Women don't really want the man, they want what the man can provide, e.g. financial security (i.e. marriage) and kids. This is why women want marriage but also want divorce after the husband has bought the house and provided her with kids. Once the husband has bought the house and given her kids, he is in a very vulnerable position as he is no longer needed and she is probably bored of him. This is why the average marriage length is 7 years.
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  337. The black pill is real: looks, money , status. However I would also argue personality and lifestyle are important too. Even if you do have looks, money, and status (e.g. Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Tom Brady) she will eventually get bored and take the money, house and kids on divorce.
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  338.  @Bookooky  marriage doesn't cause longevity. marriage is correlated to longevity. correlation does not mean causation. generally speaking, women will choose to marry fitter, healthier and richer men. fitter, healthier and richer men tend to live longer than unfit, unhealthy and poorer men. marriage is just a piece of paper, it wont affect a person's biology. diet, exercise, and medical care will affect a person's biology. fitness, diet and medical care improves longevity (not marriage).
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  339. He was in love. She was in business. If a man thinks logically and business-minded he will never get married. This is because marriage comes at the risk of losing your house, losing your kids, alimony, child support, child custody battles, parental alienation, heated co-parenting, false allegations, legal fees, etc.
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  340. Listening to people like Dr David Buss and The Lead Attorney, both seem to agree a very important personality trait in the wife is calmness, peacefulness, patience, tolerance to stress, emotional stability, agreeableness. If your wife is aggressive, bossy, combative, disagreeable you will end up in a high conflict divorce.
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  341. 💯%. They would never dream of disrespecting their boss or Chad. Because they really want the income and Chad. They only disrespect things they no longer want as a way of pushing that thing away, to make room for Chad.
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  342.  @earx23  she will hold onto the relationship until she has secured a financial replacement.
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  343. Dating a single mom is like using another man's tooth brush.
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  344. Based. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in my UK divorce due to equity. We only had 1 kid and she earned more than me. Equality (50-50) is not enough. They want equity now (70-30).
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  345. Try telling simps to hold the line. Simps can't help it, they have to put women on a pedestal. However it will ultimately back fire when they lose their money, house and kids in divorce.
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  346. This is facts 💯. If the guy is good looking he gets a discount. If the guy is ugly he needs to over compensate in other areas. Its basic evolutionary maths.
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  347. You absolutely nailed it. When you get married you hand over all the leverage and power in the relationship over to your wife. As she is able to take the money, house and kids on divorce. This means the husband will find it very difficult to exercise any control or ability to walk away. A lot of young guys screw themselves over at the very beginning of a marriage (unless there is an iron-clad pre-nup in place which kind of levels the playing field).
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  348.  @annesmith9181  my point is that it makes more sense for men to have children outside of marriage due to the financial risks. Having kids inside of marriage no longer makes any sense as the mother is financially rewarded by the family courts to breakup the family. In the UK 51% of children are now born outside of wedlock. I believe the figure is 40% in the USA. My prediction is that these %'s will continue to increase as marriage becomes less and less common, as marriage is probably the worst financial decision you can make as a man.
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  349.  @sammyb1651  W Sammy B. Flawless victory. And then add the child support on top, legal fees being paid by the husband, ex-wife getting at least 50% of the assets, maybe some alimony on top. It is no wonder women celebrate and party after divorce, while men consider deletion.
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  350. Warning signs 2 and 3 about her showing zero accountability, and her always moaning and complaining about others, are so important and should not be ignored. This is because she will eventually blame you to justify and rationalize her bad behaviour. It will all be your fault she is turning the kids against you, it will be your fault she is hiding money in divorce proceedings, it will be your fault she is cheating or making false allegations, etc etc.
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  351. Someone give Dr Taraban a Nobel Prize. What more does he need to do?
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  352. Good thing about child maintenance is that it eventually comes to an end. To be honest, divorce only really ends when the child gets to 18 years old. Until then you are still connected to your ex-wife. Marriage and divorce can end up being a huge enormous nightmare.
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  353. Or, better yet, don't get with an ABCDE (Angry, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable, and Emotional) woman in the first place. If she starts trying to press buttons, she's clearly bored and trying to create some drama and chaos. Punish her behaviour by withdrawing your attention and showing her the door. She's not your girl, its only your turn.
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  354. Good advice. But the problem is, a lot of these types of personality traits (being feared, being demanding, being controlling) sometimes only rears its head after children. For example, she becomes more demanding/controlling of your time after kids. A lot of people in the red pill space talk about genuine burning desire as if it will always be there. However once the wife has got her kids, genuine burning desire can very quickly become demand/controlling.
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  355. Guys, runnnnnnnn. Get to the choppaaaaa. These 304s will destroy you on divorce. I lost 70% of my money and assets on divorce. The quicker marriage goes extinct the better.
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  356. crazy thing is. lots of other women are like this but just dont expose themselves
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  357. Someone on your other narcissist video said they couldn't believe I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity to a narcissist. I think it would be good if you could make an "equitable division" video. The biggest urban myth is that men only lose 50% on divorce. This is a complete lie. Thank you Jonathan.
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  358. A lot of low value men think they are getting a great deal when they finally get a women to marry and be physically intimate with. However, the low value men don't realize there is a 50% chance he is going to lose his money, house, and kids on divorce. Congratulations low value men, you just played yourself. You were just a means to her end goals.
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  359.  @neetea2  to learn, to change my mind if I am wrong, to teach my son, to share my understanding/experiences with others, etc etc
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  360. CGA is the 🐐. The inventor of: "apex predator", "the marriage wheel", "investment phase", "there's always another bull in the ring", "GUMPs", "hope strategists", etc etc. CGA knows all. There's no one who knows the game better than CGA.
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  361. Single women have loads of single women and divorced women friends. They are perfectly fine being single and childless. In fact, the % of single and childless women is expected to continue to increase going forwards. The only thing they will miss is male attention once they hit the wall.
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  362. Its all Jermaines fault.
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  363. Lazy 304s think they have the golden cat that will be able to lockdown an exciting Chad. They then get serially pumped and dumped, and end up bitter and hurt and looking for a nice guy to divorce grape.
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  364. Van Cleef bracelet-wearing women are the biggest red flag. s/o Fresh Prince CEO
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  365. Wrong. She will divorce him after 10 years and take the money, house and kids.
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  366. Attention and validation is like oxygen to women.
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  367.  @ngythe1king  I could have appealed this female judges decision. However my lawyers (also female) said the trouble with appeal is that my wife could end up with 75% on appeal and plus I would have an additional 10k - 30k legal bill to pay. So I could be significantly worse off after an appeal. So they said it was safer to take 30% and move on. If I won 40% on appeal, the extra 10% would have been eaten up and lost on additional legal fees so I would have ended up with 30% anyway after legal fees.
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  368. Yup. Masculine women is the biggest problem. If she is aggressive, bossy, combative and disagreeable she will blow up the relationship. It really is as simple as that. I think Sadia has overcomplicated the issue. Men just need to get into a relationship with an agreeable, peaceful, traditional and submissive women (and hope she isn't poisoned by feminism and changes over the next 50 years).
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  369.  @commentarytalk1446  I see what you are saying. But you are talking about the minority of people. Most people either 1. don't get married, 2. do get married but get divorced, 3. are in unhappy marriages.
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  370.  @chamuelolivier1594  marriage is not commitment. I think you forget that the divorce rates are 50% and many of the other 50% in marriage are unhappy.
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  371. 18:21 "he's wiped the floor with Rachel"
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  372.  @blammela  logging a complaint would not have changed the 70% asset split. You clearly do not understand the UK divorce system. A complaint is not an appeal. I could have appealed the decision but in an appeal I could have lost 75% with the appeal Judge and my appeal legal fees. An appeal is a big gamble particularly in a system that is biased towards the wife. UK Judges have an enormous amount of discretion and are able to do anything they want without any oversight. The UK divorce system is based on a particular Judges opinion. If I had appealed, my wife would have probably started brain washing my son even more, so what is the point of turning a 1 year expensive divorce case into a 2 year extremely expensive divorce case. Lawyers tell the husbands to settle and give up rather than waste money fighting. As a husband in the system you have to know when to give up. Its worth noting marriage is going extinct in the UK. There were only 200k marriages in 2019 and 85k in 2020 (down from 400k/year in the 1970's). Marriage in the UK is extremely dangerous and not worth it.
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  373.  @voiceofexperience  Its so damn obvious yet there are 2 million marriages in the USA every year (it decreases slightly each year). And of the 2 million marriages, how many of them have the protection of a prenup to make the marriage safe?
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  374.  @Canadian_Eh_I  Briffault's Law (1927): [When dealing with a beta male] Women only want the benefits of the relationship (not the beta male himself). Men are in love, women are in business.
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  375. Zuby should do an interview with "The Lead Attorney". He is a 20 year divorce attorney and would be able to explain to Zuby why the days of a 50 year traditional marriage is gone for millennials and Gen Z. Women can divorce now that religion is declining, divorce is normal, family courts favour women, social media encourages single independent boss babe life, women get emotionally bored in a 50 year marriage, women have financial independence, humans are biologically serially monogamous, etc.
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  376. 💯% facts. once you have given her the diamond ring, house and kids, you are screwed. because she has all the leverage and value now.
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  377.  @ourdivinemouseoverlord3308  I don't think red pill relates to politics, etc. My understanding is red pill relates more to male/female psychology, human behaviour, evolutionary biology/genetics and how these topics effect husband/wife selection, marriage, divorce, child custody, alimony, child support, etc.
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  378.  @liz9284  the point I am making is about "disrespect" not "not having respect". It's pretty sad to see so many people comment on here, use manipulative tactics and shaming language to play the victim, rather than having the emotional regulation to actually take accountability for their actions.
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  379. Family laws can be minimized to some extent. 1. Choose a woman who is mentally and emotionally stable, i.e. calm, peaceful, agreeable. 2. Don't get married. And 3. only have 1 kid to minimize any future child support. I messed up on 1 and 2, and have pretty much ruined my life.
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  380. I kinda agree with this. I think it is much less of a problem if the husband starts doing well as the wife has more spending money which will probably make her happy. And normally women choose husbands who they see potential in, and therefore are happy when the husband realizes his potential. It may back fire if the husband spends too much time working and then starts to neglect her. Its a fine line between working hard, but not working too hard.
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  381. During my marriage, my wife would treat her friends better than she would treat me. This type of disrespect is the beginning of the end of any relationship/marriage. Once she starts placing her friends/bosses above her husband this is inevitably going to cause resentment with the husband as he is paying all the bills, looking after the kids, doing the shopping/housework, etc not the friends/bosses. The problem with long term relationships/marriages is the man can't fall off. If he does fall off, then there will be lots of moaning, complaining and disrespect.
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  382. What Jonathan says is also the law in the UK, i.e. the UK respects overseas marriage and will conduct UK equitable distribution divorces on foreign marriages. As Jonathan says, you are potentially playing with fire by going down the foreign/overseas marriage route. There is little to no benefit in marriage for most men in 2022. Don't risk it.
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  383.  @johnnytate69  that is such a great analogy. Marriage is like a rental property investment owned solely by the wife. Divorce is her cashing out and selling the rental property. And even after divorce, alimony and child support is the monthly rental income/cash flow. Wow! Thank you for your insight.
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  384.  @rosihantu1  you ranked red pill 3rd?? Damn. I would definitely put red pill above purple pill. One of the main sayings in the red pill is "men are in love. women are in business" or "men love idealistically, while women love opportunistically". I would say both red pill and black pill are realistic and understand female nature, but red pillers make adjustments, while black pillers are doom and gloom, and go MGTOW.
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  385. This is a fundamental problem with relationships. As the husband you end up being responsible for 2 people's happiness. And if you don't change and live up to expectations, the inevitable divorce where you lose your money, house and kids will comes around (or she will at least threaten it). It is a lot to do and it is very risky.
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  386. MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Wallet
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  387.  @Leo-mr1qz  💯%. I lost 70% of my money, assets, and house in my UK divorce, even though my ex-wife earned more and we only had 1 kid.
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  388. Single high value men can go to other restaurants. But imagine you are married or imagine you are fat, broke, and boring, then you won't be able to go to other restaurants. I guess what this video is saying is do not get married and also do not be fat, broke and boring. Solid advice. But if you are already married, you're screwed, especially if you don't have a pre-nup. A pre-nup allows you to go to other restaurants without being broke!
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  389. W The Lead Attorney. If marriage didn't provide financial security for wives, they would not want marriage. Marriages in the UK is just a business contract between husband and state for wealth transfer purposes to the ex-wife. Poor women can't get anything from poor men, hence the reason they don't get married.
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  390. If a women doesn't like it when you give her attention then she is either low quality or she is not that into you. It is really that simple. I understand that women do not like unwanted attention but if Chad pulls up then she is going to want his attention.
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  391. @MonessaLeigh chad = good looking guy
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  392. Marriage is a 50 year gamble. Even if she doesn't do the eye roll or criticism now, she will do it once she has the wedding ring, house and kids, because at that point she has all the power and leverage, and the husband is no longer needed. With the decline of religion, spread of divorce culture, independent boss babes earning more and more, a 50 year marriage for millennials/Gen Z is becoming more and more unlikely. You would have to be insane to get married without an iron-clad pre-nup in 2023.
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  393. I got destroyed in my UK divorce. Lost 70% of my money, assets, and home equity to my higher-earning ex-wife despite us only having 1 kid. Marriage is probably the most financially reckless thing a man could do. Once you get married you lose all power and leverage in a relationship because the divorce judges are biased.
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  394.  @rantsofmyzen  the only cases that go to court are a minority of exceptional cases where the mother has serious issues, and this tends to tip the chance of getting custody slightly to fathers. in these cases, fathers get custody around 60% of the time. women should not be financially tied to anyone. custody should be 50 : 50 and therefore women should stand on their own feet and get a job rather than tying themselves to the ex-husband for child support and alimony.
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  395.  @rayrwyr  Thank you. Now Orion's video makes much more sense. Self improve and this may have the beneficial effect of causing dread within her.
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  396. Leonardo Di Caprio? Is that you? I loved you in The Reverent and Inception.
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  397. 💯% facts. If you see your dad lose his money, house and kids in divorce, why would you want to repeat that BS when you grow up.
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  398. @@DOA-fg4ze 💯%. Hence the declining marriage rates in multiple Western and Eastern countries. If the marriage rates keep declining long term, marriage will eventually go extinction. It is just all downside risk for men. The red pill is shining a light on this, that previous generations didn't really understand.
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  399. Best comment. All the simps who are pedestalizing women are going to regret it when they lose their money, house and kids in divorce court 10 years later.
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  400.  @greentruth89  word salad. What do you mean by put down our ego to humble the court? There is no god in divorce court. Only biased divorce judges.
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  401. Even then, she would not be happy. I am sure she would find something to moan and complain about. The 304s are out of control.
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  402.  @mekosuji_facemask  women have a number of different attraction cues like emotional support, height, status/fame (in Sweden), exciting risk-taking lifestyle, etc. Its not just about being a millionaire alpha chad/Christian Grey. You are being overly reductive in your thinking.
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  403.  @annesmith9181  generally speaking, married couples earn more than unmarried couples. Consequently, it is the money (rather than the marriage) that is giving children from married couples an advantage. For example, if two Harvard educated people have kids outside of wedlock, those kids are likely to do better than the kids of two married criminals. Marriage is purely imaginary, it is just a piece of paper and a wedding ring. I think one of the reasons marriage is becoming less and less common is because kids of divorce then get nervous to marry after seeing their parents fight over the kids, money, house, child support, alimony, etc for decades. In other words, the divorce laws/divorce judges are eating and cannibalising marriage across the generations. As more and more kids are born into divorce, it reduces the number of people in the next generation willing to take on the risks of marriage (this applies to both genders, e.g. daughters scared to marry after seeing their mothers having to chase their lazy fathers for money, or sons scared to marry after seeing their fathers lose his wages, house and kids).
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  404. I lost my money, house and kid in my UK divorce (i.e. my car has broken down and my leg is broken to continue the analogy) so I am just going to watch the drama and chaos of the traffic from a safe distance in an ambulance. Good luck to those in the traffic.
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  405. fresh and fit podcast
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  406. 20:00 My understanding is Dr Alex's younger brother took his own life. Subsequently Dr Alex did mental health campaigning and then got appointed as a UK government's mental health ambassador, i.e. helping to promote mental health awareness and acceptance within wider society.
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  407. What race is the mother and girl? Maybe the mother is religious? Maybe the mother is very protective as a result of her own childhood trauma?
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  408. I can't imagine the horror stories this attorney has seen, e.g. cheating, husband not being the real biological father, hidden assets, being in the wrong courtroom with a biased judge, parental alienation, divorce planning, etc. He is probably scarred for life. I have been through 1 divorce and I am completely scarred for life.
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  409. 💯% nailed it. Marriage and co-habitation is just asking for trouble at this point. Just ask all the guys who lose their money, house and kids on divorce. Or boyfriends currently getting divorced/sued by their girlfriends, e.g. xQc, Israel Adesanya, etc.
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  410. I lost 70% in my UK divorce. Losing 70% is also common in USA divorces. For example, if there is a $100k marital pot, it would get split 50-50 in the States, but the judge could get the husband to pay her 10k for lump sum alimony and 10k for ex-wife's legal fees, so the split would be $70k to her and $30k to him. I'm not sure why people keeping saying men only lose 50%???
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  411. Accountability is their kryptonite (kevin samuels). As coach greg adams says, it's all jermaine's fault, its always jermaine's fault.
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  412. Money is the big one. I lost 70% of my money and house in divorce. It has massively recked me and set me back. You made the right decision bro. Just stay bf/gf. Do not get married.
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  413. Most people need a therapist not a partner or lover. Most people are carrying around psychological attachment wounds from childhood, divorce, a bad breakup, etc that mean they are chasing completely the wrong people (e.g. gold diggers, bad boys, drama and chaos, etc). W secure attachment style.
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  414.  @scottmccomish1173  Preach. Alone not lonely.
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  415.  @anisenkrill6179  lol. that's the last time I try to be funny in the comments section.
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  416. The low income class does not get married as the wife has nothing to take from the husband on divorce. The high income class does get married as the wife has student loan debt and a useless degree, so is able to get the money, house and kids in divorce. Marriage is just an economic or business contract legalizing wealth transfer.
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  417. Never get married unless you are happy losing your money, house and kids in divorce.
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  418. I think marriage is going extinct for this reason. More and more people are realizing relationships are a short term thing, and in a long life, it makes sense to divorce and change or upgrade in partner (or maybe even downgrade in partner if they find this easier and less stressful).
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  419. i think better advice would have been for dr. taraban to say just go for low cost dates, e.g. coffee, for walks, going to the park, etc. that way any money you waste is not a lot and the woman you date is not expecting a lavish and luxury lifestyle. never lead with your wallet, because she will just treat you like an ATM cash machine.
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  420. Marriage is grand but divorce is 100 grand.
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  421.  @dahliaherrod4301  My wife earned significantly more than me. She was not a stay at home mum. My divorce case was not a spousal support/alimony case. My divorce case was a property division case, e.g. what % of the assets was my wife entitled to. In the USA property division is 50 : 50. This is not the case in the UK. Regarding an appeal, you can appeal in the UK but if you get another biased Judge you could end up losing 75% plus losing all the appeal legal fees, so an appeal can put me in a significantly worse off position. Plus with an appeal my ex-wife would have probably started brain washing my son even more.
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  422. Men are in love while women are in business. Men value love while women love value.
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  423. Jonathan is so experienced in these matters. He has such incredible and illuminating insight. Warning sign (WS) 1: She in the past (or a close friend/sister) had a great boyfriend. You will never live up to him. She will drop you in a heart beat to be back with him. She will just end up being so frustrated with you in the relationship. WS 2: She hates her job and always moans and complains. She will start moaning and complaining about you next once she has the ring, house and kids. WS 3: If she has independent boss babe friends and is addicted to IG. You will always be reminded about how amazing everyone else's life is and how rubbish/boring your life is. WS 4: Toxic mother, sister and/or friends encouraging drama, chaos and divorce. WS 5: If you cannot continue to provide ever increasing resources she will become frustrated that her life is stagnating. WS 6. Its always someone else's fault, she never takes accountability, and nothing is ever very good enough. WS 7: Prior marriages / relationships. Some people are just not marriage material.
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  424.  @melenico4512  💯% agree "Many need counselling not relationship."
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  425. listen up single dudes. women love value (not the high value man). do not be the next divorce court victim.
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  426. Chad and Tyrone don't have to pay anything. They are both living in my old house, with my ex-wife and my child. I paid the most and got the least. They paid the least and got the most.
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  427. Wrong. Women refuse to make the offer in order to maintain the leverage and power in the relationship. Women want to be seen and treated as the prize. They want to be pursued and wined and dined. Women will only make the offer if she is dealing with Chad, Tyrone or Chadrone.
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  428. OMG. This episode is enough to turn anyone MGTOW. Relationships, particularly marriage, seem like too much hard work and almost destined to fail at some point over the typical 50 year marriage. Imagine how hard you have to work and how much effort you have to put in to keep a 50 year marriage going. (My wife's friends always got her best version.)
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  429.  @thevigilant6884  Clans? I am talking about 2023.
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  430. 💯% facts. PsycHacks is pretty much a more academic/psychological version of Fresh and Fit. They both pretty much agree on virtually 100% of the issues.
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  431.  @peripheralparadox4218  they are worlds apart in delivery but not in content. content wise the both say exactly the same thing, e.g. love has no part in marriage, men love idealistically for the women while women love opportunistically for babies and financial security, relationships are transactional and based on exchanges of value, in relationships it preferable for men to be masculine while women be feminine, etc. I get the feeling you are new to the space and have not followed PsycHacks / Fresh and fit for that long.
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  432.  @verb0ze  i'm pretty sure the research shows people from lower economic backgrounds have worse psychological and life expectancy outcomes. life and optimal survival really is all about money, money, money.
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  433. It is so important to leave toxic relationships before marriage. Leaving a toxic relationship after marriage will mean a very costly and stressful separation where she will probably want revenge, and drain you of your money. Men massively under estimate the dangers of marriage. My divorce will haunt me for the rest of my life.
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  434. Not just a bank/financial security, they also see you as a way to make cute babies who they will get custody of (but you get to pay for them and her via child support).
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  435. OMG!!! GOAT-level screen name. Recreational use only. LOL!!! Also, your comment is based AF. Chad and Tyrone have smashed and dashed, and now the beta provider has to come along with the diamond ring and clean-up the mess.
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  436.  @davidehl323  It is great to hear that very slowly, more and more guys are finally realizing the juice isn't worth the squeeze, and that marriage is a horrifically biased and one-sided contract that rewards one party while financially ruining the other party.
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  437.  @pegg00  my top 5 tips would be: 1. don't get married or at the very least GET A PRE-NUP. 2. make sure your wife is mentally and emotionally stable (i.e. is not argumentative, bossy, combative, disagreeable, crazy, etc). 3. satisfy her hypergamy (you have to be better looking than her, make more money than her, have more status than her, have a more interesting lifestyle than her, and be able to deal with her personality long term). 4. don't be surprised if your marriage doesn't last the full 50 years. 50 years is a very long time and people change. 5. don't have lots of kids. if you have lots of kids, then there will be lots of child support.
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  438. The delusion is real.
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  439.  @homeacres9454  yes, in the UK the judge's duty (especially the feminist judge's duty) is to ensure the wife and kids have more than enough money to maintain their standard of living. The husband just gets any remaining scraps. If the marital pot of money/assets is very small, in the UK 100% can and does get awarded to the wife, i.e. the poorer you are, the more screwed you are. I believe certain 'equitable' states in the USA also follow these exact same laws.
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  440. Great logical conclusion from 1:49 . As a man, once you get married, you make your life a million times harder unnecessarily. This is because divorce is a process where a man begs the judge for his money back, and the judge throws him under the bus.
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  441.  @idesel  "commitment" is for suckers. She is not your girl, it is just your turn. Get that pre-nup and hope/pray she does not put you on child support for 10+ years and involve you in 10+ years of child custody/co-parenting battles.
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  442. My guess for Orion's top 4 non-negotiable criteria: 1. she must be mentally and emotionally stable (secure attachment style), 2. beautiful, 3. genuine burning desire, 4. she does not want marriage or is willing to sign a prenup.
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  443. 11:00 to be fair, I think lower earning males only release cortisol (a stress hormone) if the woman is shaming them, ridiculing them, and making his life a nightmare for being a low earner. I kinda agree with her second point. Probably lower earning men don't bother to invest in a high earning woman because they know she is a flight risk and will find someone better.
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  444. Completely agree. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in my UK divorce. Marriage has been the worst mistake of my entire life and has ruined me financially. It is the best financial decision a wife will make, because it is the worst financial decision a husband will make. Fortunately, marriage rates are falling, and it appears to slowly be going extinct (especially in the UK) as it only serves the wife.
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  445.  @tomate8942  W incels. No child support, no child custody battles, no alimony, no loss of your house, no loss of 50%+ of your assets, no legal fees, no drama and chaos, etc. Incel boys we up.
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  446. The delusion is real because of all the SIMP's in the DM's, and because Chad, Tyrone and Chadrone are smashing them on their girls trips.
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  447. This is counter intuitive but it does work in practice. I remember when I left my wife, she actually started to communicate with me and allow me to see my child, rather than giving me the silent treatment and hiding my child away at relatives' homes. As a man in 2023, pretty much the only power you have is to know when to walk away before tempers flare. Assuming you have actually been adding value while in the relationship, your absence should be missed pretty quickly. And if you are so hated and your absence is not missed, it was definitely the right decision to walk away.
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  448. My in-laws were OK. It was my ex-wife that was the problem. Neither of us had any divorce in our family history. The problem is if the husband is a weak beta SIMP and the wife is aggressive, bossy, combative, and disagreeable, then the marriage won't work regardless of in-laws, finances, kids, etc. Problem is most millennials and Gen Z are not 50 year marriage material. And even if they are marriage material, they will end up picking the wrong spouse for the wrong reasons.
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  449.  @cosmictreason2242  Wise words. If his sack is empty, he won't be able to cheat in the first place. Although men seem to suffer from "The Coolidge Effect".
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  450. Exactly. This happens all the time in divorce. A man can enter the marriage rich, but leave the marriage poor. The reasons wives want marriage and the reason wives want divorce is because they enter marriage poor but leave it rich.
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  451.  @lorrilewis2178  A wife would leave the marriage rich compared to the husband in the UK. In the UK she would be award with around 70% of the money, assets and home equity. Many men in the UK do feel aggrieved losing their house and money which is why marriage is going extinct in the UK. There used to be 400k marriages per year in the UK (now there is only 200k marriages per year in the UK). Even wives of billionaires get divorced (Melinda Gates, MacKenzie Scott who has now just finished her second divorce, etc). Some wives will just never be happy regardless of how good their life and marriage is. Many wives just divorce on the basis of boredom.
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  452.  @tancreddehauteville764  The judge was extremely biased. The problem with UK divorce is that the judges have full discretion and power, and are very biased. The cost of appealing could have been up to £30k and the appeal judge could have given my wife 75% and spousal support. Theoretically, an appeal could leave me much worse off. I didn't want to risk losing 75% and end up on spousal support too. I paid for the house, not her. Although, she went from full time to part time work after the birth, and had a student loan to pay. I should have complained and reported the judge to the Government but missed the 3 month deadline. Our divorce was very messy as she had hidden all her money from her job.
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  453. The problem here is that men and women portray fake versions of themselves initially on a date. Men and women love bomb each other. However women start to wonder why the guy is falling off once he has got some physical commitment. It is not that the guy is falling off, it is that she is really seeing the guy for who he really is and she is angry she got tricked. Guys, also see a similar thing once the women has got the ring, house and kids, because at this point she no longer needs to put on a front as she now has everything she wants, has all the power and leverage in the relationship/marriage/divorce court.
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  454. I think this conversation was a missed opportunity. I think they failed to discuss biases against men in divorce law and child custody battles. There are many millennials that are the product of divorce and they have seen their fathers lose their money, house and kids. No doubt this makes many male millennials nervous to go into marriage and kids after seeing what happened to their parents. Why on Earth would a male millennial marry and have kids after seeing your parents argue about the kids, money and house for decades?
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  455. Facts. She mentions women don't like poor guys 11:09 . But she doesn't connect the dots. Poor wives cannot get any money out of a poor husband, hence no marriage. College educated wives with student debt and a useless degree, can get the money, house and kids in divorce. Hence college educated wives want marriage.
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  456. Better to live alone and happy with your money and house, rather than to get married and divorced and lose your money, house and kids.
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  457. MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Well-Being.
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  458.  @karabomothupi9759  Typing old and tired English Language. Have an original language for once in your life?
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  459.  @lahicks9773  You are partially correct. I would agree that my divorce is a product of (childhood experiences) having an avoidant attachment style. But your last sentence is completely incorrect. Losing my money and house to someone who is richer than me and being stuck in an injustice loop has definitely made my trauma and psychology a lot worse. You just simply don't understand what I have been through in a messy 2 year long divorce.
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  460. it's kinda a good thing that women are ruthlessly logical. it means they breed with the best men and the winners, and then humans evolve to become better, as weak men's DNA dies off. it only becomes a bad thing in divorce court when they are stripping you of your value, i.e. you losing your money, house and kids.
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  461.  @Khan-rz8qi  You nailed the major two emotions. The biggest two emotions are stress and humiliation. Stress because of all the money and time you are losing to the wife, and lawyers. And humiliation losing the money, house and kids, and having to rent a tiny flat or move back in with your parents. Do not get married.
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  462. In my experience the police/family courts are very SIMPathetic when it comes to dealing with mothers. But if it is the husband doing the wrong deed, he is definitely going to jail.
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  463. It is always best to fire unstable clients. They first act unstable with the other parent, and then start acting unstable with you. Parental alienation is so sad. However the child will eventually become 18 and can then make their own decisions.
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  464. Love vs limerance vs relationships. Completely different things which are often confused.
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  465.  @luckyelmsworld  thank the lord. men are finally realizing that these 304s don't want a man and love, they just want a wallet and someone to save them.
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  466.  @CFChristopherB  depends on what you mean by punishment. you don't need to be married to have a child custody battle. lmfao. lololol. typical.
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  467. Another benefit is you don't lose your money, house and kids in divorce. 👍
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  468. Best people to interview on the topic of marriage are Dr David Buss (scientist), Dr Orion Taraban (clinical psychologist), and The Lead Attorney (divorce attorney). They all say exactly the same thing. Humans are a serially monogamous species (not lifelong pair bonding). And the best wives are mentally and emotionally stable, stress resistant, calm, patience, tolerant and agreeable.
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  469.  @mikeheaton8424  losing 70% is an injustice that I will never get over. It will stay with me for the rest of my life. Thank god marriage is becoming less and less common, and will probably be extinct in the next 50 years or so.
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  470. Generally, women who have 0 kids tend to be educated, single and childless. These women can't find a husband. There are not enough good men to go around. Generally, women who only have 1 kid tend to live in cities where having multiple kids is a liability due to the effort, career sacrifice and money you have to put into raising multiple kids.
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  471. 4 big facts: 1. Women are complaining (about shortage of high value men). 2. Women are having to settle for low value men (these men will probably end up losing their money in child support, house they live in, and custody of their kids in the inevitable divorce process). 3. Once women have the diamond ring, house and kids, they begin to think why on earth am I still in this relationship for? I've already got everything I needed from this relationship! I already have all the value (child support, house and kids). 4. MGTOW - Men Going Their Own Way / WGTOW - Women Going Their Own Way / The juice isn't worth the squeeze.
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  472.  @rantsofmyzen  only 4% of custody arrangements go to court because it is an expensive and biased process. what is the point of a father going down this route if he is going to waste his money and lose custody? regarding no child support, in the USA fathers can expect jail time etc and probably the mothers didnt realize the fathers would be able to get away with this.
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  473.  @Priceyyyyy  For anyone getting married in 2023, getting destroyed financially in divorce court is a choice. Marriage is extremely dangerous, but you can do things like get a prenup to make marriage safe. As you say, kids and child support should be the only things to worry about. However, choosing a wife who doesn't moan, and complain all the time, and is mentally and emotionally stable should help to reduce the risk of this.
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  474. I think finances causes two problems. One there are not enough financially stable men for women to have kids with. And 2. the lack of financially stable men makes it harder for women to have multiple kids.
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  475.  @katiez688  I think this depends on country. For example, in the UK around 50% of marriages have gone extinct in the last 50 years, e.g. there used to be 400k marriages/year in the 1970's but now there are only 200k marriages. This extreme drop probably relates to the fact that there is no pre-nup legislation/laws in the UK. I think the marriage extinction rates are a lot slower in the USA (only a 20% drop in the last 30 years) because I believe in the USA richer people can use pre-nups to protect themselves. In countries where there is a culture of pre-nups (e.g. USA) I don't expect the marriage extinction rates to be as severe as the UK (where I am from).
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  476.  @Stassis  my parents are still married and my ex-wife's parents are still married. There was no history of divorce in either family. Consequently, I just grew up thinking divorce was for extreme situations (alcohol, gambling, job loss, sterility, DV, etc). I didn't realize divorce could happen to normal people like me as well. It wasn't something I was exposed to unfortunately. At least my son will know not to get married.
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  477.  @dylanr1316  if you have no purpose or calling in life why would any sensible woman want to be in a relationship with you? you are putting the cart before the horse. get the purpose/calling first and then invite a woman on the journey. and definitely get a pre-nup if you decide to marry,
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  478. Such a great comment because its so true. I left my UK marriage with much less than what I started with and put in. My wife got 70% of all the money and assets, the house and custody of our son. I just got 30% and visitation.
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  479. This information is fine at the START of the relationship BEFORE marriage and kids. At this point the high value Chadrone has all the leverage and options. However, AFTER marriage and kids, she has ALL the leverage, and this high value Chadrone will need to cook and clean for HER to prevent losing the money, house and kids in divorce.
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  480.  @rejectwokeness1314  wow! That is one hell of a red pill. Kids are a way to ensure their own survival.
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  481.  @danielstokes2088  A man will sacrifice his life for his family. A women will sacrifice her family for her life.
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  482.  @rebekkagasmi9451  you obviously haven't heard of divorce and in the situation you describe police should be involved too.
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  483.  @josealexi5141  facts. I have been thinking about this a lot. And it literally makes zero sense for women to stay in marriage. Because the judge is going to award them with as much money as they need to maintain their standard of living. So why should women stay married? It is more sensible for women to divorce, and then let Chad move into the husband's old house. And the husband can pay the ex-wife monthly alimony, while Chad blows her back out.
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  484. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in my UK divorce. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing I have ever done. She has all the power and leverage because she can destroy you financially and leave you homeless.
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  485. I think there are 2 types of angry red pill/manosphere guys which PsycHacks seems to acknowledge at 9:15 . The angry divorced guys who wished they knew this red pill stuff before marriage / child custody battles etc and who are angry with family law and angry with family law judges, versus the angry virgins who are angry with Chad and Chad's side chicks / concubines. I think the angry divorced guys have legitimate grievances, whereas the angry virgins just need to swallow and digest the red pill.
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  486. Marriage is a huge L. Unless you enjoy losing your money, house and kids in divorce. The fact he is unmarried is a huge W for him.
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  487. Send the asteroid. 🌍☄☄☄☄. MGTOW for life. Men Guarding Their Own Wallets.
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  488.  @joshuadc82  very good point. men out here simping for women like crazy, and putting themselves in a very vulnerable and weak position in divorce court
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  489.  @TyrianHaze  I don't unnecessarily think men having 1 kid is a problem because the child support for 1 kid is relatively manageable and even if parental alienation / custody battles do happen its only 1 kid. The real problem is marriage and divorce, where men get financially wrecked and losing their money, assets, house and lose extortionate amounts on legal fees.
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  490. Human mating and dating is a game with winners and losers. If you want to be a winner you have to get good at playing the game. Building up your value and not making costly mistakes like marriage (risk of losing money and assets) and kids (risk of alienation and child support) with emotionally unstable, disagreeable women.
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  491. Comment section is destroying him but no one has any actual valid criticism. People are just crying that Taraban makes them feel bad.
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  492.  @mattn9349  facts. its like a form of bipolar or personality disorder.
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  493. Pill 3 (think logically), Pill 5 (see into the future), and Pill 6 (anti-thirst) are so important. Pill 3: men lose their minds when they see beauty and make extremely illogical and bad decisions. Pill 5: young guys need to speak to divorced men/attorneys and find out their future, e.g. lose your money, lose your house, lose your kids, decade of custody battles and child support. Pill 6: men get pressured into marriage by parents, society, and culture. Men get married to make other people happy and end up ruining their own lives forever. Thank you JCN for everything you do.
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  494.  @whatsupbudbud  I partially agree with you. If your wife is cheating on you, most likely she has fallen in love with someone else, and is ready to mate switch to another guy. In that instance, there is no saving the marriage. However, if the husband cheats, maybe it was just a moment of weakness?
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  495. Facts. A lot of children from the 1990s have seen their parents get divorced and the fallout from all of that. Why would these children (who are now adults) want to take the risk. The juice is not worth the squeeze.
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  496. 24:18 - Divorce is inevitable now that women are no longer financial prisoners. 40:02 - "Women are wonderful bias" is a huge issue in divorce court. Divorce judges are very biased. 1:00:15 - Humans are serially monogam-ish (monogamy with a sprinkle of polygamy). RIP Marriage.
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  497. @Mandy Mikulka I think Dr Taraban's point is that women shouldn't use talking as a way to punish a man, e.g. trying to change a man, or moaning and complaining at the man for being himself. Talking shouldn't be used as a weapon. Dr Taraban makes a very important point and if people listen to him, I am pretty sure they will live much happier and satisfying relationships.
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  498.  @chamuelolivier1594  In the UK, there were 400k marriages per year in the 1970's. In the UK there were only 200k marriages in 2019 and 85k marriages in 2020. Marriage is going extinct in the UK. Marriage rates are also down in the USA. Your particular example is not representative of the overall trends of declining marriage. The average marriage length for millennials is now only 7 years long. The only reason most men marry is because they have no idea how dangerous marriage is.
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  499. Chad and Tyrone paid nothing and got her mind, body and soul. Why should hedge fund guy have to spend 7 dollars on her? She won't even spend 7 dollars on herself.
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  500.  @33Jenesis  Even if you get married, you will still probably end up alone, poor and depressed via divorce. And you will probably only see your kids once a week or for the whole weekend, every other weekend. Marriage is no longer a guarantee of family for men.
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  501. Marriage is not commitment. It is just a piece of paper. The piece of paper doesn't mean anything because you can get divorced. What laws are you talking about? No fault divorce? Financial divorce laws? Child custody?
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  502.  @tigerbear3038  what he is saying is a 5/10 man should date a 3/10 women. that way the 3/10 women feels like she is getting a good deal and should therefore be less likely to divorce.
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  503.  @whocarescrapsa  "The fact that I don't have alimony or child support to pay tells me they have all been a resounding success! " 💯% facts. Nailed it. As long as you are not losing 50% of all your assets and resources, paying for yours and hers legal fees, no alimony, no child support, no child custody battles, no parental alienation, and no heated co-parenting with the kids bouncing around between 2 homes, it is a BIG WIN.
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  504.  @OM-or3im  "It’s sad that today most people just care about what they can get from others". Agreed. However the judges and divorce laws encourage wives to extract as much resources out of the husband as possible. So I would put the blame on the divorce judges and laws (rather than the ex-wives).
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  505. Unfortunately women's beauty is a depreciating asset. So as a man you are essentially getting less and less with time. Poor long term cost/benefit outcome. Women, like baby tigers, are short term only.
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  506.  @cpK054L  You sound like a 304. But maybe that was deliberate,
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  507.  @everObvious  it is irrelevant that a woman's expectations maybe out of sync with reality. if she doesn't want the man (regardless of delusional expectations) no relationship can occur. also, it is irrelevant whether you think that man is good or not. you are not the one picking the man, getting pregnant by that man, carrying the baby and giving birth.
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  508. @@Manoben234 Child support payments rarely work both ways. I think the statistic is around 95% of child support payments are made from men to women. This is against a backdrop where men don't get a fair shot of gaining 50 : 50 custody.
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  509. You are not going to make it if you lose your money, house and kids on divorce. Trust me. You are only going to make it back to your parents home empty handed.
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  510. facts. why should married people act like they are unmarried in order to create drama and instability? just don't get married and create stability in the first place. i feel sorry for the kids who have to deal with all this.
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  511. Try removing your money, energy, attention and time if you are married with kids. Marriage, and even co-habiting, is the fundamental mistake most guys make.
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  512.  @hassassinator8858  my best 3 pieces of advice. 1. chose a woman who is mentally and emotionally stable, is not always moaning and complaining about others, can handle disappointment, can handle the word "no" and who says "sorry". 2. don't get married or at least get a pre-nup. 3. try to minimize the number of kids you have unless you are happy to pay lots of child support.
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  513. In some ways, the argument is flawed. Why reward someone just because they were a founder at the right place and right time. And why punish someone who happened, through no fault of their own, who came later in the journey. Rather than rewarding someone based on a timeline, just get a pre-nup or do not marry in the first place.
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  514.  @ilikecommenting6849  a lot of your comments are fundamentally flawed. For example, I do not technically or legally pay alimony each month because I got rid of that obligation by increasing the share of the house that my wife was awarded (70%). So although I do not legally pay alimony (I made still lost money in alimony by giving up a greater share of my former house). As you say, 95% of the paperwork is amicable but divorce paperwork doesn't say amicable or non-amicable. After paying thousands in legal fees trying to fight against the system/judges, men give up and concede to the wife's demands in order to stop her doing parental alienation and in order to stop the crushing legal fees. There is a reason why marriage is going extinct in many Western countries. It is way too dangerous for men. Hence the creation of pre-nups in some countries.
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  515.  @LebbMangenaShow  I don't think you really understand marriage. If I get married in 2020 with no kids, should I have been able to predict divorce in 2025 when we have 1 kid? Should I have been able to predict divorce in 2030 when we have 2 kids? Should I have been able to predict divorce in 2045 when the kids are grown up? How do I develop these god-like powers that give me the ability to predict the future? You don't seem to be aware that people change over the course of time.
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  516. There is no such thing as a high value man. There is only high value kids, high value child support and a high value lifestyle all paid for by a nice guy beta provider. The nice guy beta provider will be treated like crap by the wife. While Chad and Tyrone get rewarded.
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  517.  @derekgedarro3891  the cognitive dissonance is real. Great spot.
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  518.  @goldmidwest  the problem with most men is that they are completely unrealistic. a 50 year lifelong marriage for millennials / Gen Z is a completely delusional expectation. it is more realistic / healthy to have 5 x 10 year relationships with 5 different woman, than 1 long hellish 50 year marriage, where she can shout and scream at you, because you gave her the ultimate stability and security. you just have to accept that people get bored, people change, and new people come into our lives.
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  519. a man will look at a woman and think "no one is perfect". a woman will look at a man and think "i can do better". take the red pill, gentlemen. it will set you free.
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  520. Marriage is a contract where the man enters his feminine behaviour and the woman enters her masculine behaviour because she has all the power and leverage to destroy him in divorce court.
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  521.  @MidAthlete  nailed it. Who will look after me when I am old? I barely get to see my son now I am divorced.
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  522. I'm in the 14% too. Marriage was the most financially reckless thing I have ever done. It is essentially legalized theft. I lost 70% of everything despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 kid.
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  523. "I dont play games" = I only play 1 game. Do as I say and give me marriage, kids and financial security while I still have 1 more year of beauty left, or get lost while I am still pretty enough to secure another beta provider.
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  524. What is draining about relationships with nice guys? Would the relationship be less draining if you re-directed some of your time into other things, e.g. your siblings, your parents, your friends, your career, etc? Why would you become a mother to your nice guy partner? Are women's emotional / romantic expectations realistic or too difficult for most men to achieve? I think women put too much pressure on themselves to have a Hollywood-level relationships. I think our parents / grandparents generation had much more realistic and balanced expectations of what a relationship should be.
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  525. The intimacy never goes, she is just redirecting it to Chad and Tyrone.
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  526. You are the voice of reason. At the end of the day, women, like employers, have their inbox flooded with a bunch of potential candidates. Women, like employers, may try out a man but will let him go (divorce) if he is not doing his job. If the man/employee does his job, he will receive payment (physical intimacy). Women will always be the employer (unless you are a Chad or Tyrone who is capable of receiving job applications).
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  527. @@bernardbutler3720 I think, at the individual level, there are some people who can make a significant change. However, I think the more interesting question is what happens in general to most people. I think, in general, most people remain the same core genetic person but just change slightly based on the spectrum they are already sitting in. When I think of close family members who I have known over decades they are still all broadly the same people and do not change radically. This seems to be the accepted belief within psychology. I also think it becomes harder to change as you get older: "you can't teach old dogs new tricks".
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  528. The wall will humble these women. Women can only really get away with behaving like this when they are under 35. After 35 the game changes and the power and leverage switches to men assuming he hasn't been stupid enough to get married. Relationships are all about maintaining the power and leverage, and not over investing.
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  529.  @billreddy7593  nailed it! completely agree. she got tired of hiding her real genetic personality. her true character and nature finally came out. a leopard never changes its spots.
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  530.  @user-ut4zw6so6o  how does it even the playing field when only one of the people is at risk of paying both sets of legal fees, losing their home, losing their kids, paying child support, paying alimony, etc? There is a reason most divorces are filed by women. They are more than happy to break up a family. It is ruthless to break up a family for no good reason other than you are bored.
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  531. Zuby is right 11:50 . More of the RP conversation needs to shift towards thinking about whether you as a man are capable of being a good husband, and whether the woman you are choosing is capable of being a good wife. And if the answers to both those questions is "yes" how to do you know this for certain? And what are the legal and financial risks if things go wrong? The Lead Attorney can answer all these questions. Please interview him, Zuby.
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  532. 💯% nailed it. A lot of this stuff just seems to be genetically wired in humans, in the same way different breeds of dog are wired to behave in a particular way. I think humans massively over estimate how special we are. I recently watched a chimpanzee documentary and they pretty much had the same emotions and behaviours as humans.
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  533. Family courts are very biased in favour of the mother. I lost 70% of my money and house in divorce, despite my ex-wife earning more and us only having 1 kid. The Judges (particularly feminist Judges) do not conduct the court hearings in a fair way. Many guys will learn this lesson the hard way.
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  534.  @P46430  Problem is, when you get married, you don't know if you have the 2.5% marriage material woman or the 97.5% divorce material woman.
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  535.  @UnofficialLesTwins  what the red pill says is it depends on the women's age. younger women tend to prefer alpha-like characters like height, looks, dominance, excitement, etc. older women tend to prefer beta-like characters like emotional availability, compassion, father characteristics, money, resources, stability. there are two sides to hypergamy: alpha and beta. dr david buss and chris williamson use the term "mate switch". its an evolutionary psychology term referring to a woman divesting herself of a cost-inflicting mate.
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  536. The travel is initially fine for the first 5 years of the marriage. However once all the arguments start in year 6 onwards, travelling with the person who is giving you the silent treatment is unbearable. By year 7 you will be divorced and blame it on the travel, when really the refusal to travel was actually caused by the underlying arguments / silent treatment. The underlying arguments / silent treatment was caused by the fact you have both fallen out of love and the relationship has run its course. If you don't have a pre-nup, good luck with the divorce.
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  537. Go out and find someone. Just make sure you are her both have a secure attachment style. And get a rock-solid bullet-proof prenup if you are going to get married. You may also want to minimize the number of kids you have to minimize any future child support.
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  538. It seems that humans are serially monogamous, i.e. most will move from one relationship onto another. I don't think everyone is wired to deal with the monotony of being in a relationship for 50 years with one person. If people are wired towards novel seeking, new chapters, new people, thrill seeking, serial monogamy, etc that is OK.
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  539. @Mandy Mikulka There is a great lecture on You Tube from a famous British philosopher called Alain de Botton on the meaning of love. And he said something like, real love is loving someone despite them having imperfections and flaws. I guess the point he was making is that all successful marriages are imperfect because all husbands and wives are imperfect, but their love is so strong they find a way to get along and tolerate each others imperfections and flaws. I guess the key is finding the right person whose imperfections you are happy to put up with (because ultimately, no one is perfect, and therefore, to some extent, everyone who wants to be in a long term relationship will need to settle and get used to the other person's imperfections and flaws).
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  540. That who wants?
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  541. 100% facts. I can't imagine all the injustices that Jonathan has seen. Jonathan has probably seen so many injustices it has probably sparked him into setting up this YouTube channel as a last resort. Fresh and Fit are doing a divorce podcast today.
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  542.  @dinos9607  I disagree. I think the 2 most crucial factors are 1. mental stability, calmness, patience and tolerance levels of each person. Marriage is monotonous and boring so you need someone who is mentally stable, calm, patient and tolerant to endure the monotony and boredom of marriage. 2. survival. in my parents and grand parents day, marriages stayed together because both spouses needed each other to survive. now the family courts are biased to wives, and wives generally have jobs, they don't need a man once the man has bought them a house and given her kids. Marriage has got very little, if anything, to do with ethics. If anything, you can use ethics as a reason to justify divorce, e.g. a wife will say divorce is ethical in order to get a boring and unambitious husband out of the family home.
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  543. The partner succeeding needs to show compassion and let the other partner grow in their own time and speed. However many people who rather just break up and upgrade partner. Not all relationships will be lifelong traditional 50 year marriages. Its difficult to predict how people will behave 10, 20, 30 years in the future.
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  544. Rich Cooper said it best. Smart men don't marry. It is not worth it. There are zero benefits and just a bunch of extremely painful risks. I lost 70% of my money and assets, including my house, in my UK divorce despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 kid. I didn't even end up with 30% after paying my legal fees. My marriage and divorce have financially ruined me. Dont do it.
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  545. You make a great point. The cost is around £300/hour in the UK. This is something that is often not talked about. The legal fees can be horrific in divorce. However, unfortunately, sometimes it makes more sense to pay the ex-wife who you hate (but who can give the money to your kids) rather than pay the lawyers. No offence, Jonathan,
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  546.  @FedPut  I agree. I was going to mention that but I didn't want to make my original comment too long. But you are right. She will eventually become dissatisfied if you are deficient in one area.
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  547. End game for men is: 1. unhappy marriage, or 2. divorce and losing the money, house and kids.
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  548. W junior college. W 5 stroke special.
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  549.  @schmetterling4477  Agreed. Guys also choose women based on looks too. And this is also guys downfall too. They choose on looks rather than other traits such as peacefulness/supportiveness and then the guy is surprised 10 years don the line when he is in front of Karen the divorce judge fighting for his money, house and kids.
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  550.  @schmetterling4477  The problem with the "chose wisely" argument is that is fails to take into account changes in people's emotions, feelings, love fading, etc. The women you marry at 25 years old (young, free, single, slim, etc) is very different to the women you divorce at 35 years old (older, fatter, 2 kids, sleep deprived, post natal depression, been through miscarriages, surgeries, career stalled, etc). So even if you do chose wisely, events outside of your control mean you can still end up divorced. It is not a case of "chose wisely". It is more a case of chose "low risk" or not chose at all (MGTOW).
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  551.  @paulb7207  Did you even listen to the video? The video was nothing to do with stay at home moms, single earner households, etc.
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  552.  @everObvious  the video we are commenting on is about a fall in birth rates (which is probably correlated, at least partly, to a fall in marriage rates). So, given that women are generally the more picky/selective gender, then a good man has to be defined using women's terms when discussing a fall in marriage/birth rates because women are the selectors in the dating arena.
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  553. guys, do not lead with your wallet. i lead with my wallet and it worked short term, but long term, I lost 70% of my money and assets in my divorce, including my house. leading with your wallet is great short term but it will come back to bite you long term. i was financially ruined in my divorce and am now stuck on child support for 10+ years.
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  554.  @Xenozillex  they can also try to get the prenup thrown out like dr dre's wife or tyrese's wife.
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  555. You can never know if someone will be a supportive father. People change. Especially after you have kids. Its a gamble. Regarding financial security, it would be best to get married first, as this will help you secure 50% - 70% of the assets, the house, alimony, child support, child custody, your legal fees paid, etc. Family court judges are normally very favourable to the wife/mother during divorce.
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  556. Taking calculated risks where potential pit falls have been mitigated is generally much better. E.g. marrying without a pre-nup vs. marrying with a pre-nup. Or having 1 kid (maximum child support bill just for 1 kid) vs. having multiple kids (larger child support/child custody bill). Or rushing into marriage vs. taking your time. Or quitting your job and starting a business with no savings vs. staying in your job and building up your savings and business on a part-time basis first, etc.
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  557.  @eatshityoutube3271  assuming the next judge does not mess up, Tyrese should win. However these judges / adjudicators screw up all the time. Either way, Tyrese takes a massive L because his own legal fees (which he will have to pay for) are over 250k despite having a pre-nup. LOL
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  558. The oppression is that they want to have a baby but they are then angry that they have to look after said baby. They want to have their cake and eat it.
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  559. 100% facts. Mothers will get off lightly with a telling off. Husbands will definitely end up in jail.
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  560.  @Gizziiusa  wrong. the woman you marry is essentially the same woman that you divorce. however in divorce you finally see the REAL her without all the acting.
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  561.  @charlottegyseman5667  most (not all) serious romantic relationships are an exchange of value. typically, the man wants physical intimacy and kids while the woman wants financial security and kids. I know what I am saying sounds crazy but if you look at the relationships around you that is what is essentially going on even if we do not described it as such. Because having kids is so important to most people (not all) in serious romantic relationships, the burning house will inevitably represent her ability to ovulate healthy eggs. in your nun example, the nun shouldn't give up her celibacy if her celibacy and vows to God are more important to her than having kids. however, your example is an insignificant exception not the general rule for most people.
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  562. Moral of the story: do not allow a rat to enter your life.
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  563.  @jcnlaw  I would 100% buy a book written by you, hearing your thoughts/opinions, anonymised war stories, thoughts on the future of marriage rates/birth rates, trends, dealing with ongoing custody/child support battles, knowing when to give up, judges biases, appeals, etc.
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  564. 💯% facts. i had to lose my money, house and kid in divorce, before I took the red pill and began accessing this stuff. i would have never believed it before my divorce. as the saying goes, a man will sacrifice his life for a woman. a woman will sacrifice her man for her life.
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  565. The video is actually about what to do if the intimacy is cut off after marriage (not before marriage).
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  566. 💯% facts. At least she is honest. And at least all guys that deal with her know she is recreational use only.
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  567. Marriage is out dated. Most modern people don't have the emotional and mental stability to survive the long term monogamy and monotony of marriage. You can pick the best wife, but if she changes 10 years later after kids, you are screwed. It is impossible to predict how your 50 year marriage will work out. It is probably not worth the risk.
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  568. Excluding the family courts which can be very biased if you are dealing with a feminist Judge, pretty much every other aspect of man's life is within their control. Men can choose how they spend their time, choose their jobs, choose their partners, etc. Family court is the only area where a man loses all control over his money, house and kids, and all decision-making power is handed over to the wife and Judge to decide how everything will be divided up. I don't think any other male issue is equivalent to the Family Court bias.
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  569. I can't imagine the horror stories and injustices Jonathan has seen over the years. I would be traumatized working as a divorce attorney in an equitable distribution state where the husband does not have a pre-nup. The UK is equitable distribution country where pre-nups are not really a thing for average people and I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity due to a ruthless (female) judge. Do not get married if you want to stay in control of your money.
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  570.  @danielademide  you should be made President of the Manosphere immediately. You have the right idea.
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  571.  @annesmith9181  I think the points you make about informal partners and grandparents relates to the actual parents themselves rather than a piece of paper/ring (i.e. marriage). For example, I think it is unlikely kids of unmarried Harvard educated doctors would be exposed to informal partners (compared to unemployed married criminals who may be cheating or polygamous or end up divorced, etc). I think the best way to save marriage would be for there to be compulsory pre-nups, e.g. a pre-nup that states the % of income the husband pays to the wife as alimony and for how many years, and the % capital the husband pays to the wife. At least then, both people have financial security as both people know exactly what they will get/lose on divorce and both people who have agreed upon a % structure (e.g. 50 : 50 split for no kids, 60 : 40 split for one kid, 70 : 30 split for 2 kids, 75 : 25 split for 3+ kids). Unfortunately, the current system which actively incentivizes bad behaviour from both sides during divorce, causes huge amounts of money to be wasted in legal fees, and where both sides live in fear as they have no idea what the Judge will order, cannot be a good thing in the long term across generations.
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  572. i got pumped and dumped in divorce court. lost my money, house and kid. getting pumped and dumped in divorce is an awful experience.
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  573. I do not think there will ever be a perfect child support system. There will always be winners and losers. In the UK the child support system is quite good. There is a simple to use online calculator that resolves all issues (unlike divorce and property division and alimony which is complete chaos).
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  574.  @mekareactsandreviews3026  the "funny" thing is, oftentimes, it is the people who only see the world in very binary black and white terms (i.e. I will never get divorced), are the same people who end up getting divorced the most. in order to navigate something as nuanced and complicated as marriage, you have to see all the different shades of grey, seek understanding outside of yourself, make sacrifices, etc.
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  575.  @rejectwokeness1314  your example makes no sense. Probably 0.1% of male friendships results in a job (I would expect a similar thing for women too). Most men and women get their jobs by applying online. I think your comment about men prioritizing the wife, gf and hot tub streamers is a good one. Men's genetics seem to be based about around trying to access mating opportunities. Whereas maybe female genetics are based around establishing long term relationships through sharing emotions.
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  576. Amen. Thank god for the red pill.
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  577. Not really. The biggest predictor is socio-economic background. If a single mother doctor has kids, the kids will be fine. If 2 unemployed married criminals have kids, the kids are screwed.
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  578. this is why wives want marriage, and then the boredom drives them to wanting divorce. marriage causes divorce.
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  579.  @mikehawkins4752  facts. you just have to try to de-risk things. 1. choose a woman who is mentally and emotionally stable with a secure attachment style. 2. do not get married (or get a prenup at the very minimum). 3. only have 1 kid to minimize any future child support.
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  580. Even if you marry, you will end up dying alone due to things like divorce and parental alienation. Problem is, if you marry, you will die without your money, house and kids, as they will all be taken away from you in divorce. Its lose-lose for men. Online is slowly becoming better than in real life.
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  581. 0:20 its not half his. Once you take into account paying her alimony and paying her legal fees, its more like 70% her and 30% him. She will get the house if she can afford to pay him 30%. This is how divorce court works. This is how guys get destroyed financially in divorce. Her husband will end up back at his parents house or in a small 1 bedroom apartment and unable to see his kids.
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  582. Dr Taraban is getting absolutely destroyed in this comment section. The interesting thing is, no one is giving any actual valid criticism. People are just moaning and complaining about what Dr Taraban says makes them feel bad.
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  583. 100% facts. So many people, particularly inexperienced people, forget the love/lust phase will die out after around 6 years once she has the ring, house and kids. From then on, she has all the leverage and power in the marriage and divorce court.
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  584.  @gateholder  Oh great! So I am a peasant in the dating marketplace. Thanks a lot!
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  585.  @mrtuber3491  that's a great point. A true alpha or chadrone would be enjoying life and not in the comments section.
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  586.  @Straga_Severa  best comment. Simple don't marry or at the very minimum get a bullet proof pre-nup.
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  587. +1 . This is a fantastic point that is never really discussed anywhere. Some people do not have the psychology to be in a long term committed relationship. They are unable to navigate it long term due to things like boredom, novelty, unrealistic standards, etc etc.
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  588. The comment section is un-reassuring. It is just filled with ad hominin personal attacks about his lifestyle (unmarried) and name calling (he needs a psychologist). No one has identified an actual valid criticism. This comment section is just based on emotions, feelings and personal attacks rather than any real valid criticisms.
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  589. Brutal red pill.
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  590. I love this idea of adored vs adoree. It is a good explanation of why nice guys finish last, and why the bad boys are undefeated.
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  591. So interesting to see the behind the scenes stuff. Its easy to take for granted all the effort, experts and technology that goes into such a high quality production. Congratulations and thank you Chris.
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  592. A lot of wives use the same 4-step playbook: 1. Get the ring, 2. Get the family home, 3. Get the baby, and 4. Get out of the marriage with the divorce money bag. Thankfully, Achraf Hakimi was prepared for this. Unfortunately, the vast majority of guys will not be able to play Hakimi levels of chess and will get divorced graped.
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  593.  @tiromandal6399  he must be better than destiny in other areas, e.g. emotional support, exciting lifestyle, height, fame/status in Sweden, etc. Hypergamy is not necessarily about money.
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  594.  @elwynll  you are thinking in terms of correlation. i am thinking in terms of causation. high income and marriage may both be correlated to good outcomes for kids. however high income is the causative factor (not marriage which is basically a piece of paper).
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  595.  @symeon5518  my comment is not about women. its about irrational and illogical people. shame on you.
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  596. I consider game to be immoral. Particularly when you are dealing with a women in her 30's and her clock is ticking. You're never going to be able to keep this false persona going 24/7, so why bother being inauthentic in the first place. I would even argue that divorce happens when guys get exhausted of running game. You sold your wife a dream, and she took your money, house and kids in revenge. If she needs game, she's probably not worth it.
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  597.  @tancreddehauteville764  The UK is an equitable division country on divorce. You can look this up on google for yourself. Some cases end up 100 : 0 to the wife / mother. The starting point is 50 : 50 but judges often increase this to 60 : 40 or 70 : 30 or 75 : 25 if there is a child involved and the mother is working part time. On top of the 70 : 30 the father also has to pay child support each month. I obviously don't have a problem with child support each month as this is reasonable and fair. The problem I have is losing 70% of my money, assets and house. A major problem with the UK divorce system is that it is very secretive, i.e. done behind closed doors without publication of each case. The only way to get evidence is by speaking to UK family law solicitors, or going to organizations like Resolution, Fathers for Justice, etc. I personally lost 70% despite only having 1 kid, short marriage and my wife earning more than me.
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  598. Marrying and/or co-habiting with a women will be most men's downfall.
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  599. Guys, this attorney is amazing. He is providing such a valuable service by speaking the truth. Do not get married. When I got married I was the loneliest I have ever been. Got the silent treatment. Got divorced. Lost 70% of everything. Now I am alone, happy without her, but significantly poorer.
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  600. The problem with her saying "I'm not happy" and her moaning/complaining all the time is she will normally only start doing this once she has got the diamond ring, her name on the house deeds, and a kid. Once she has got these 3 things, she knows she has all the leverage and she will then revert to her real nature and unleash hell. It's so important guys vet their girlfriend for around 4 years before considering kids, co-habitation, pre-nups, etc.
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  601. Chad and Tyrone playing life in easy mode. RIP nice guy beta providers. As Rollo says, if she makes you wait, its not worth the wait.
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  602.  @realman1349  in the UK and some states in the USA (e.g. Georga), the divorce laws are equitable division, i.e. the judge will give the women whatever % she needs. If you watch "The Lead Attorney" (20 year Atlanta divorce attorney) he sometimes talks about this.
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  603. s/o to Kevin Samuels. And for members of the coach gang: "it's all jermaine's fault. it's always jermaine's fault". And as Dr David Buss says, females do mate switch to better partners.
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  604.  @YesNo-qb9vl  Precisely. Get better not bitter.
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  605.  @spontaneousbootay  I an talking about relationships. You are talking about kinks. We are talking about two different things.
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  606.  @ousamaabdu794  in reality, 99% of men who are married have no status. very few people have status. and even guys with status like tom brady, brad pit, elon musk and johnny depp end up divorced.
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  607.  @veritasliberabitvos454 you clearly have absolutely no idea about pre-nups. one of the major functions of a pre-nup is to agree legal fees in divorce. the pre-nup said she would pay her own legal fees in a contested divorce. She is now disputing the pre-nup and saying Tyrese should pay her legals fees. Tyrese is currently appealing the pre-nup getting thrown out. In theory he should win in appeal's court and his wife should pay her own legal fees. However, if the appeal judge also goes against him too, then he is screwed and will owe in excess of 1 million in his and her legal fees. Tyrese got a real pre-nup from a real family law attorney.
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  608. Ouch! Sorry to hear that. Must be painful to be away from your child and be on 16 years of child support and heated co-parenting.
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  609.  @c.c6909  💯%. if a man compromises, there must be some sort of benefit to him, e.g. he is compromising on marriage/babies in order to secure your physical intimacy, etc.
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  610.  @SmileyEmoji42  a man saying "will you marry me" is the same as an employee saying "will you employee me". men = employees. women = employers, i.e. the high level decision makers of whether or not the man / employee is good enough. This is always how biology and genetics has worked. The males of the species are larger, colourful and more ornamented because that is what the women (i.e. the executive decision makers) select for. Anyone who thinks men are employers are in denial. I think men should become high value and highly desirable and should become employers but only the top 10% of men (Chad and Tyrone) will ever achieve this. The bottom 90% of men will always be employees begging for women (i.e. a job) and begging for a salary (i.e. physical intimacy).
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  611.  @LennonTheBunny  women, in general, do not want relationships. this is why around 50% of births are outside wedlock and they also file for divorce when married. i think men and women are probably better suited to short term engagements, i.e. serial monogamy. there's lots of work done by evolutionary psychologist dr david buss that seems to support this mate switching hypothesis.
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  612. Its always "what have you done for me lately". They have an unquenchable thirst to receive benefits.
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  613.  @suefleming  I agree. I believe in long term relationships etc. But the deluded hope that signing a piece of paper will magically ensure two people will stay together is a fairy tale. Unfortunately marriage is outdated and hence the reason why it is on the decline and dying out worldwide.
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  614. When a man and woman get into a relationship both have to sacrifice. Both have to spend less time on their careers and more time on each other. The man may have to sacrifice money by paying for dates, gifts and assets. The woman may have to sacrifice her body and part of her career if she gets pregnant. Whether the women's sacrifice is too much depends on the value she assigns to having kids vs the value she assigns to having a career. If she values career more then probably love is too big a sacrifice. If she values career less then there is less of a sacrifice.
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  615. delusion is over 9,000
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  616. It's refreshing to hear from someone who is clearly very intelligent, experienced and accomplished (a family law attorney) say marriage isn't a sensible/rational bet. So many people are indoctrinated to believe marriage is the only way to do things and then get the shock of their life when they lose 50%, 60% or even 70% of everything on divorce. We are so lucky this channel exists.
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  617. The interesting part of the 50% divorce rate is that the other 50% who do not get divorced are not necessarily happy and wished they had more freedom and less stress. This whole concept of a 50 year marriage (which turns out to be a 8 year marriage followed by losing your money, house and kids, and 10 years of paying child support) is insane. If only young people knew.
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  618. Its very difficult to have boundaries and walk away if you are married and have kids. This is because she can take you to family court and take your money, house and kids in divorce. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing a man can do to himself. Do not get married in order to maintain the power and leverage.
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  619. Love and relationships has always been transactional. In caveman days, cavemen gave the cavewomen meat from a hunt. Now modern men are paying for dates, gifts, wedding rings, houses, bills, etc. Either way, its always been transactional. It has to be transactional, otherwise there is no point of being in the relationship.
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  620. 💯% . Coffee dates, walks, going to the park, etc are good low investment starter options before you start making larger investments of time and money. if guys think 1st dates are expensive, they should try paying children (or child support and legal fees).
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  621. If you get married and have kids, as a man you have to accept you will be financially ruined in divorce and the mother will be financially rewarded. The mother is entitled to the 600/month under the law. If you don't want to pay the 600/month have fewer kids!!! Sooner or later, men have to start taking accountability for their poor decisions.
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  622. be a supporting character in someone else's movie for the last 50 years of my life. no thanks. marriage is a hell no in 2023
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  623. If the discrepancy is that wide it is probably time to call it quits (assuming he doesn't have a medical condition like low T). Assuming no medical condition, the girlfriend must be extremely annoying to deal with or maybe the wrong gender.
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  624. @@Manoben234 I'm a UK citizen and have been through the UK family courts. I lost 70% of my assets (i.e. the house) despite my wife being the higher earner and us only having 1 kid. Women may be worst off after divorce but they leave the marriage with more than what they started with (money, house and kids). Whereas men leave the marriage with less than what they started with (without their money, house and kids).
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  625. Thank you for everything you do Jonathan. The thoughtful and insightful information you provide on the dangers/pitfalls of marriage is exactly what young men need today. Hollywood just doesn't explain this type of stuff. I am a survivor of the UK divorce/family court system. I lost 70% of everything. Your voice is also needed and appreciated worldwide.
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  626.  @TheGrimFoot  i'm not angry. i'm too busy counting my money on my yacht.
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  627. So 100% of women are going to have to throw themselves at the top 20% of men by being helpful and fun in bed? That is going to result in a lot of traumatized women who have higher standards going forwards. That is also going to result in the bottom 80% of men having to deal with Chad and Tyrone's leftovers. Is this really the future?
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  628.  @eladbari  In the UK around 51% of kids (i.e. most kids) are born outside of marriage. Marriage is going extinct in the UK. It is down from 400k/year in the 1970's, to 200k marriages in 2019, and 85k marriages in 2020. I believe marriage rates are falling in the Western world. So soon most kids will be born outside of marriage.
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  629.  @srinavin  you never had it in the first place lolololol 😆😆😆😆
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  630.  @mansamusa2012  its kind of a blessing in disguise to be honest!! LOL!! although if you have money, you will always be a target.
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  631. Great comment. I think its easy to complain when you are young and beautiful that you are giving up way too much. But in your 30s as you age and begin to wrinkle and sag then there is a pressure to be nice so you can marry ASAP before you expire. Then the moaning and complaining will restart in her 40s when she wants to file for divorce and take the money, house and kids.
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  632. I watch his channel too. He is getting absolutely destroyed in this comment section. Interesting part is, there is a lot of ad hominin attacks and name calling, but no one is coming up with an actual logic or evidence based argument as to why he is wrong.
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  633. The problem is they all largely agree if you are taking about James Sexton as the lawyer. I would like to see him go up against Jazmen Jaffer (the 304 lawyer).
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  634. "boyfriend experience". I'm definitely stealing that quote. It is brilliant. Too many SIMPs in the friendzone providing the BFE.
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  635.  @DNA350ppm  you have made the classic mistake of conflating two separate issues. When I say comfort and security I am talking from a mate acquisition and resources acquisition point of view (not hormones and emotions which are always going to be fluctuating). If the man stays at home and helps out domestically, the wife will stress out and say why the husband is not ambitious and why is he not working overtime. The wife will always going complain regardless.
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  636.  @CallmeMasta  True. But you might regret having a kid and ending up on 18 years of child support and the mother turning the kid against you.
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  637. 💯% facts. Better Bachelor, Rich Cooper, or The Lead Attorney would be great. They would be able to explain to Chris how dangerous marriage is for men and why men should be extremely careful before they get married/have kids.
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  638.  @Burger-man-4  i doubt you will be able to suggest a better example, but go ahead and be my guest.
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  639.  @Katarzyna-h2z  So true. Very profound. Desire is a temporary. The more you get to know someone it takes away from desire and adds to something else, e.g. love/stability/boredom.
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  640. Even millionaire Chads are struggling. Brad Pitt, Tom Brady, Johnny Depp are all divorced. Only giga-chads can succeed in this dating marketplace.
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  641.  @realremix1ali  my ex-wife kept my house because she paid me 30% of the home equity.
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  642.  @silverchairsg  I could have appealed this female judges decision. However my lawyers (also female) said the trouble with appeal is that my wife could end up with 75% on appeal and plus I would have an additional 10k - 30k legal bill to pay. So I could be significantly worse off after an appeal. So they said it was safer to take 30% and move on. If I won 40% on appeal, the extra 10% would have been eaten up and lost on additional legal fees so I would have ended up with 30% anyway after legal fees.
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  643. Zuby, can you interview "The Lead Attorney" or "Jonathan Noble"? Both are 20 - 30 year divorce lawyers. And have an interview around whether family court is biased against men and whether men should still get married in 2023? Like you, I live in the UK and I lost 70% of my money, assets, and home equity in my UK divorce. The point being that losing 50% is a myth and that divorce financially ruins men whereas the wife/mother's standard of living remains similar pre- and post-marriage. I think this partly explains why marriage is slowly going extinct. For example, according to the ONS, in the UK there used to be 400k marriages/year in the 1970's but now there are only 200k marriages/year. Myron's comments at 5:05 pretty much sum up the risks of marriage for men.
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  644. Men are more reluctant to divorce because they generally have much more to lose, e.g. alimony, child support, the house, at least 50% of the assets, paying her legal fees, losing the kids, heated co-parenting, parental alienation, etc. Not everything is to do with evolutionary biology 1:04:07
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  645. don't forget delusion and lack of accountability and playing the victim
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  646. Wives are paid to leave marriages. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in my UK divorce. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing a man could do to himself. Once men have got married, the wife has all the power and control in the relationship because she can destroy you financially and leave you homeless.
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  647. The problem with covert narc's is that they are initially good at hiding it. And before you know it, you are sucked in by their Jezebel nature. Particularly if you don't have much experience with women or have a scarcity mindset. I divorced a covert narc and they are brutal to be married to and divorce. They are never happy. Its always your fault.
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  648. Difficult to use dread and game in a marriage, when she has all the power and leverage in the marriage and divorce court. Marriage is just not conducive to intimacy.
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  649. I lost 70% of my money and assets in my UK divorce, including my house. Regardless of whether the women is a founder or employee, there should always be a pre-nup. Even in the USA, many divorces end up 70 : 30 after factoring in legal fees and alimony.
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  650. the one woman you know probably sees potential / unrealized value in her lower status mate. he is on a shot clock. if he doesn't produce results real quick, he is getting fired.
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  651. This is the exact trap that most divorced guys fall into.
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  652.  @ricardomartinhodacruz  CGA and Better Bachelor would go bankrupt over night if all the guys who have suffered or are currently suffering with divorce, alimony, child support modifications, losing the house, paying two sets of astronomical legal fees, dealing with biased judges, involved in custody battles and parental alienation, etc stopped watching. Most of CGA and Better Batchelors audience are divorced guys that have suffered at the hands of the divorce system. There would be no CGA and no Better Bachelor if the millions of suffering guys were not supporting them with youtube views, super chats, patreon subscriptions, book purchases, etc.
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  653. I think the point you are missing is that people generally go into marriage thinking that they won't break the vow. But 50 years is a very long time, and during a marriage people change, and want to divorce and move on with their life. That's why governments allow no-fault divorce, i.e. to allow people to walk out of a marriage, for no reason, and move on with their life after they have had enough of being married for 10, 20, 30 years, etc. It is impossible to predict beforehand who will get divorced and who will still be married 50 years later.
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  654. W Junior College and the 5 stroke special.
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  655.  @Zero_Zero_Zero_Zero  this is probably the ideal way to operate in 2023. the only thing I would add is that only chad's and tyrone's can act like this. low value guys are in such desperation and have such scarcity of options they have to SIMP out of control, pedestalize women and offer marriage without a pre-nup in order to acquire mating opportunities.
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  656. The guy has a scarcity mindset. He thinks its this woman or nothing. The girl is ruthless. Come to Indiana or the relationship is over. The girl couldn't care less about the guy. She wants what the guy can provide, e.g. child support, kids, alimony, 50% of the assets, help with co-parenting, etc. This relationship has run its course. Its over.
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  657.  @tonsssedell4318  agreed. sometimes the only way to learn is to touch the stove.
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  658. I hate to say this but I think this is a reach to be honest. If we look at trends, marriage and birth rates are at an all time low. If trends continue, more than half of women will be single and childless in the next 10 years or so. Women are not competing for high value men. They are more than happy being single, independent boss babes.
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  659. If there is income inequality women can take the employer to an employment tribunal. The reason women don't do this is because the reason some women earn less is because they work part-time or have chosen a lower paid career such as receptionist, admin, cleaning, caring, etc.
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  660. 😆😆😆😆😆😆😆
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  661.  @FatherFH  when people get married they think they are marrying a wife standard person who they have an incredible level of trust with. The problem is 50% of marriages end in divorce and many of the other marriages are unhappy. Dr David Buss' work has shown humans are a serially monogamous species that mate switch. The days of a 50 year marriage are gone. Marriage is a terrible idea for men in 2023. Fortunately, it is rapidly declining and going extinct.
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  662.  @boston312  in some sense, you're extremely lucky (not because you have lost a friend), but because you have seen the nature of some wives and the unfairness of the legal system up close and personal without your assets being on the line. I am refusing to let my son marry until he has watched Jonathan's channel, the lead attorney's channel, coach greg adams, rich cooper's channel, the rational male, fresh and fit, and read all their books.
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  663.  @stevenroshni1228  And the good men will eventually lose their wives to divorce, and will also lose their money, house and kids in the divorce process too. The wives never really wanted the good men. The wives just settled for the good men because they wanted kids and financial security. The wives never stopped loving Chad and Tyrone.
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  664.  @SweatyFatGuy  You should do more content on your experience of long term marriage and the family courts. This type of red pill content is gaining popularity. I lost 70% of all my money and assets in my UK divorce, so I know what it is like to be financially screwed by the divorce courts. I think the biggest mistake men make is assuming their marriage will last forever. Men need to realize, she is not your girl, it is just your turn.
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  665. Obviously women do sacrifice, just like men sacrifice, but as she said, this is a choice women and men make. You can't have your cake and eat it.
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  666.  @YellowKing1986  If you read the Bible and what it says about Eve not listening and eating the apple, Delilah betraying Samson, Jezebels, women being the downfall of King David and King Solomon, etc. If you read the lyrics to Elvis Presley's "hard headed women" song from the 1950's, high divorce rates since the 1970's and introduction of birth control, etc it is pretty obvious men and women, regardless of whether there is a father and religion, have always had their problems since the beginning of time. The key is to find someone who is genetically mentally stable, calm and patient. You can't fake or learn being mentally stable, calm and patient in long term relationships. You either have that personality or you don't. It is one of the reasons why 2nd marriages have a higher divorce rates (60%) than 1st marriages (50%), and third marriages (70%) have a higher divorce rates than second marriages. For most people, regardless of how much you learn about marriage, you either genetically suited to a long, boring, monotonous 50 year marriage or you are not.
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  667.  @eighteenfiftynine  i do. although no grandkids.
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  668. Thank you, Jonathan. You mentioned you are licenced in Pennsylvania and New Jersey. Are you able to say if these states are Community property or Equitable distribution? The UK is an equitable distribution country. The UK Family Courts are ruthless when it comes to divorce. You can very easily lose 70% of the marital pot if she has student loans, is working part time, has a child, etc.
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  669.  @_FightForYourFreedom_  The book is essentially like a PhD thesis. The central argument is that relationships are a transactional value exchange. A lots of arguments are put forward to support this economic model, e.g. men want copulation vs women want resources, women shop around for the best deal, men want variety/The Coolidge Effect, etc etc. The book is more about the economics (than psychology) of relationships.
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  670.  @artofmybody2882  the problem is, regardless of who gets bored of who, women file most of the divorces and most of the time its the women who gets the alimony, child support, the house, legal fees, child custody, getting more than half the assets, etc. The marriage and divorce game is rigged because the wife has the support of the judges and laws, and therefore she has all the leverage in the marriage. Hence my argument that it is not worth taking the risk of trying to figure out who is good enough to marry if its going to inevitably end in divorce 50% of the time. With many of the other 50% of marriages being unhappy. The whole thing marriage thing is a huge gamble with zero benefits to the husband.
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  671. Ask all of Elon Musk's ex-wives and girlfriends. I don't think they are complaining about all the alimony and child support they are being paid each month. Also, their kids have won the genetic lottery too.
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  672. Rip Zizz
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  673. She has been alpha-widowed by the 13 year guy. If the 13 year bad boy ever committed to her, she would throw him to back the streets because he would have now become the boring nice-guy. Bad boys such as Chad and Tyrone always get the best treatment (same night lay + swallow), while beta providers just get divorced graped.
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  674. I would love to listen to Orion's take on "is the juice worth the squeeze?". I am assuming the answer is it depends (probably "yes" for a variety of short term relationships, but probably "no" is you marry a depreciating asset). Seems like humans are a serially monogam-ish species.
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  675.  @tancreddehauteville764  the UK legal system is a complete lottery. My lawyer thought the split would be 60 : 40. But ultimately it depends on the judge on the day. If you get a biased judge who believes everyone should be fighting against the patriarchy the wife will win big. Johnny Depp lost his Amber Heard case in the UK. Individual judges in the UK are way to incompetent and have way to much power and bias.
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  676. there is no such thing as a high value man, just ask bill gates, jeff bezos, elon musk, brad pitt, tom brady, johnny depp, dr dre, kanye, tyrese, and all the other divorced millionaire guys. babies and child support are high value, not the man. even "high value men" taking big L's.
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  677.  @allenlin7333  never heard of this talking point. incredibly insightful.
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  678. I am from the UK and been involved in UK family court. My case was decided by a single judge (female). I ended up losing 70% of my money, assets, and home equity to my ex-wife. The UK courts are completely unreliable because the judges are very biased. The outcome of a UK court case is a complete lottery and depends on the that particular judge's philosophy and opinions. The facts of the case are largely irrelevant.
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  679.  @tomaszsosnowski9279  I think you are right. I think his kid is still quite young.
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  680.  @kc6810  many women do sign up for that though. around 50% of women do not get married, have 1 - 2 kids, and when they separate they therefore do not claim 50% of the husband's assets and do not claim alimony. they potentially might not get child support if there is 50 : 50 child custody. this is becoming the norm and is much fairer for everyone involved. with 50 : 50 child custody, the woman can get back to work and pay for herself, and live a happy and independent life. most women go back to work after 1 year of having a kid (the kid goes to childcare when they are 1 years old).
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  681.  @ichigotheg.o.a.t  low value men is a short hand for the guys described in options C and D. There's no need to be so emotional about it. Try some stoicism.
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  682. Marriage is the single biggest threat to men's financial and emotional well being. Losing the money, house, kids and 10+ years of child support and custody battles is extremely devastating and difficult to come back from. Marriage is only for low value SIMPs who have nothing to offer and who are desperate for box. There is no such thing as divorce grape victims, there are only divorce grape volunteers. Marriage is a weapon, protect yourself at all times.
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  683.  @copcuffs9973  I have CS, no alimony, no parental alienation, but lost 70% of all my money/assets/home equity. In the UK, each person pays their own legal fees but money/assets does not get split 50: 50. It gets split based on need.
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  684. Married is so dangerous they had to invent pre-nups. I wish I had got a pre-nup to insist 50 : 50 property division. Instead, I was a complete idiot and went into marriage unprotected, and ended up losing 70% of everything. Getting married and getting married without a pre-nup are the biggest 2 mistakes of my life that will haunt forever. I just thought divorce would never happen to me and I just thought the family courts were fair (I was wrong on both counts).
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  685.  @JeffCaplan313  depends on whose life you are talking about. some people are unable to consider the meaning of life and fulfil their potential because they are slaves, being trafficked, living on less than a dollar/day, etc. I don't understand why you asked such a vague question.
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  686. She probably has 10k betas paying her £10/month. She probably earns £1.2million/year. She is winning in life (definitely from a financial point of view).
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  687.  @ruijua  eggplant size = genetics
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  688.  @dekev7503  I would probably put zexual satisfaction in physical/genetics group. But maybe you are right. Maybe zexual satisfaction/genuine burning desire deserves its own category.
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  689. Such an important video that all men should watch before they marry, co-habit or have kids. This video could save you an enormous amount of stress, money and pain over a lifetime. While the laws are designed to protect the vulnerable, they regularly get abused and normally come at huge cost/expense to the man.
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  690.  @dahliaherrod4301  I would never speak ill of my ex-wife around my son. She is extremely masculine and would have a complete meltdown and would deny me visitation if she heard I said something.
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  691.  @Kristy_not_Kristine  Makes sense. If both people are not scared of communicating with each other in an open way and are both mentally, emotionally, and psychologically stable enough to discuss their future marriage and financial arrangement thereafter, they are probably mentally, emotionally, and psychologically stable enough to survive a 50 year marriage.
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  692. The emptiness of committing to one partner, and then losing your money, house and kids in divorce.
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  693. F&F, Whatever, Rollo, The Unplugged Alpha, Coach Greg Adams, Better Batchelor, etc all have the same solution: DO NOT GET MARRIED. All these red pill podcasters say the same thing: MARRIAGE IS EXTREMELY DANGEROUS FOR MEN. Men hand over all the power to the wife when they get married, as the wife will have all the power, leverage and favourable bias in family court.
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  694. 💯facts. Smart men do not get married. Marriage = legalized theft. It is the most financially reckless thing she can do. Marriage gives her all the power and leverage in the relationship because she can destroy you financially.
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  695.  @msc8382  in my opinion, the concept of the high value man doesn't exist, only babies and child support are high value, not the man. This is the reason why women want marriage and also the reason why women want divorce. Women have relationships goals, e.g. babies and child support, the man is just a placeholder, until she achieves those goals.
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  696. Excellent point. I think around 70% of women who end up childless didn't realize their life was going to end up this way. They had never planned or intended for childlessness. Although I am not sure about what the regret % is. And it is also possible to regret having a child, especially for a man post-divorce who has been parentally alienated and is stuck on 18 years of child support/maintenance for a child he is only allowed to see every other week.
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  697.  @thunderchubbs7640  That husband will also be represented by a woman lawyer. I wonder who the woman lawyer is secretly rooting for in divorce?
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  698.  @everObvious  a good man is a man that is a woman is attracted to which would depend on her preferences (e.g. looks, compatible personality, financial security, interesting lifestyle, social status, etc). generally, single women cannot have kids. consequently, there needs to be a serious long term committed relationship (or marriage as stated by the expert in this video) before kids can happen. as we know, marriage rates are down (due to the lack of good men) and therefore birth rates are down too.
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  699. Its not that bad. I got divorced and lost my money, house and kid. My ex-wife and kid are fine because Chad and Tyrone have moved into my old house, and look for them, while I pay for everything via child support.
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  700.  @jilladams7573  I have never heard of a situation where a husband has taken the wife's house, money and kids. So it doesn't apply the other way around.
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  701. 😆😆😆😆. Enjoy the decline.
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  702.  @alexjones28  Its kind of irrelevant if the offer is just for a cheap thrill. From the woman's point of view, they have hundreds or thousands of potential candidates online. As far as the women is concerned, they have got what they need, i.e. attention and validation.
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  703.  @ALForb  I have no sympathy for guys who go through multiple bad divorces, etc. You should have learnt from your first rodeo. Ultimately, trash men go for trash women, because that's all that trash men can get. Trash men often seem grateful to get a trash women as they see it as a small win (however long term it epically back fires).
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  704. Comments section is undefeated. s/o to all the men of culture. We are very glad OU has no dress code.
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  705. NGL. I completely disagree with this video. In the vast majority of situations. Average guys are asking women for dates and box. Expecting women to start cold approaching, running game and paying for dates with men is delusional. Only Chad and Tyrone can manage this level of treatment. Most men will always be employees, i.e. they will need to beg the women/employer for box/money.
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  706. 💯% facts. Marriage is a fool's errand. If you want to be financially and emotionally ruined within 7 years and lose your money, house and kids, then get married.
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  707. Men and women both have trouble taking life seriously in their 20's. Guys want physical intimacy from a variety of girls. Girls what attention from Chad and Tyrone. In their 30's, I think girls get sick of Chad and Tyrone, and normal guys are now in a financial position to be a provider. Problem is: beta provider + Chad's leftovers = Divorce.
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  708.  @goaldude  exactly. you 100% nailed it. all a sexless marriage shows is she never married you for intimacy. she married you for money and kids. then once she got the diamond ring, house and kids, then there was no reason to keep sleeping with you anymore. sad but true. thank you for solving the mystery.
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  709. I wish all this You Tube manosphere red pill stuff existed 15 years ago. Anyway, at least it will prevent me from getting destroyed in a 2nd divorce.
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  710. A masculine women will never be able to really change deep down. Once a masculine women, always a masculine women. Protect yourself at all times guys. Stay safe.
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  711.  @bearclaw5115  women wouldn't covertly disrespect their boss. No covert or overt disrespect goes on when a woman deals with their boss because they want the job and money.
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  712.  @ContinueWithThatStatement  I agree with most of what you have said. However it takes much more than resources. You also need looks, exciting lifestyle, and emotional availability. Resources alone is nowhere near enough. The standards and expectations are so much higher.
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  713.  @ContinueWithThatStatement  that type of relationship won't work long term, and may even end up in a common law marriage/divorce and/or false allegation.
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  714.  @chipsteve  facts. they can't respect a weak man that has zero leverage who through his own foolishness has screwed himself over. We need a name for this law. Maybe "high value man fallacy"?
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  715. So Rollo was right along about dual mating. He's going to go on a victory lap on Sunday. The red pill have been talking about the realities of Alpha Chad vs Beta Providers (i.e. dual mating) for at least a decade. Its nice to see the intellectual manosphere have finally caught up.
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  716.  @ASMR-Brooke  Marriage is worse the useless. Marriage is actively harmful and detrimental to both parties. It completely financially ruins the husband in the event of divorce and women seem to hate marriage too, as evidenced by higher marital dissatisfaction levels reported by women, higher rates of women initiating divorce, higher rates of lesbian divorce (even wives can't keep other wives happy), lower rates of women remarrying, and the lifespan of wives tends to be shorter than unmarried women. Its completely unrealistic to expect two people to marry at 30 and stay together for the next 50 years.
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  717.  @Minty_Aqua  I would agree with you for American marriages as the USA has laws which protects prenups. However the UK does not have any laws that protect prenups and consequently Judges regularly throw out prenups, especially when there has been a change of circumstance such as the birth of a child.
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  718. men are always going to SIMP out of control. we can't help it. it is genetics. we are generally only going to take the red pill after divorce. most guys are hope strategists and think divorce will never happen to me.
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  719. the employer (woman) will agree to give the employee (man) a job (marriage). however no one is immune to getting fired. she will become bored 7 years later, file for divorce, and take the money, house and kids. RIP married guys.
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  720. Guys, never marry a drama queen or someone addiction to drama and chaos. The problem you will find is that a lot of the signs only come out once she has secured the ring, house and kids. Once she has the ring, house and kids, as a man you pretty much have zero leverage and power in family court.
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  721. I think it is well understood that boyfriends are looking for physical attraction while girlfriends are looking for genetic material (e.g. babies) and financial security (e.g. marriage, house, money, lifestyle). Wives can play the attraction game and husbands can play the money game but this has disastrous implications long term on the husband should the wife divorce him, e.g. him losing his money, house, kids and getting very depressed. My advice is don't play the game unless you are happy to lose big. s/o MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Well-being.
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  722. Bunny ranch? Seeking?
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  723. these tiktok girls are so cringe. they are going to feel so embarrassed of themselves in 10 - 20 years time when they have hit the wall.
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  724.  @SanjuktaSahoo-cm6uh  RIP Nice guys. You will be the "shoulder to cry on guy" that she goes to when Chad pumps and dumps.
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  725. Top 5 big red flags: 1. She never takes accountability. This means everything will be your fault. 2. She moans and complains about everyone else. She will start moaning and complaining about you. 3. She has nothing going on in her life. She will start poking her nose into your life. 4. She gets angry and does not have mental stability. She will try to ruin your life and seek revenge. 5. She is disagreeable, combative and argumentative. She will destroy all peace in your life and make you constantly unhappy.
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  726. I have been here since around 30k subscribers. It is such a great channel with a lot of thoughtful, insightful, honest and accurate takes. I glad you kept on pushing through the early days. I will definitely be buying your book (probably audible). Keep up the good work.
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  727.  @chrisolson84  you need to open your eyes. if you open your eyes the actual quote is: "If there were no problems with divorce law, alimony, division of assets, legal fees, child custody, parental alienation, heated co-parenting, biased family court judges, etc these RP channels would go extinct."
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  728.  @robertc.obrien146  Dr Orion has appeared on 4 RP channels. Fresh and fit, rich cooper, whatever podcast and Mike Sartain.
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  729.  @user-icu152  you didn't listen to what Dr Taraban said. He said women should be highly selectively and picky over who they pursue. As an example, he should have great emotional skills, fun lifestyle, good looking, earns enough to provide for both of them plus kids, etc etc. In other words, it would be almost impossible to have a high body count as these types of high value guys are rare. Unfortunately, it appears you have listened with your emotions rather than listened with your ears, and completely misrepresented him.
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  730. 2:09 100% facts. Wives have a lot of exit power when it comes to marriage. In divorce, husbands can very easily lose their money, house and kids to their ex-wife. I lost 70% of all my money and assets (including my home) in my UK divorce. There is a huge power imbalance in marriage as the wife has the power to emotionally and financially ruin a husband. Very slowly, I think more and more men are realizing the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
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  731. for most men, it will be too hard to unlearn all the hollywood brainwashing. so many will continue to get married without pre-nups.
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  732. 8:50 this is one of the biggest reasons for divorce. Women going on IG, seeing their friends living their best lives with their husbands, and then getting upset and emotionally unstable about how boring they think their lives are. Social media is a poison. If your wife is addicted to IG, expect to get divorced within the next 5 year once you have bought her a house and given her 2 kids.
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  733. So much money wasted on spousal support and legal fees. If guys are going to co-habit and/or get married, they need to have an iron-clad pre-nup. It will give you so much financial security in the next 50 years of your marriage (if your marriage lasts that long). He got pumped and dumped by the divorce system. He probably tried to help her by giving her kids, and she and the courts threw him under the bus. Marriage is about money and babies.
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  734.  @killingtramps  agreed. I think this is why marriage rates are falling. Kids are seeing their fathers getting screwed over in divorce court, and then the kids don't want to get married when they get older. Divorce laws and divorce judges are killing off marriage by being super generous to ex-wives, which then scares off the children from marriage.
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  735.  @nealmccoy5727  Where did you get the 2% figure from. Its way higher than 2% due to the rise of feminism, all men are trash anthem, and independent boss babe culture. What do you think are the true roots of the problem?
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  736.  @nealmccoy5727  I agree, the % of marriageable women is extremely small, e.g. around 10%. And you don't know beforehand if you have a divorce-prone woman or a mentally stable woman. The whole thing is a huge gamble where your life savings are at stake. The problem with going overseas is that feminism is spreading and will probably infect your overseas wife in the next 10 - 20 years. I.e. you will probably be divorced in the next 10 - 20 years even if you move abroad. Sad but true.
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  737. Do you have a specific criticism or do you just have a general bad emotional feeling without any actual criticism. The thing with generalizations is that they do not apply to everyone, e.g. in general humans have 2 feet. However there are humans with only 1 foot or no feet. However, the generalization that humans have 2 feet still stands true despite exceptions to the general rule. You need to stop taking things so personally. He is just making generalizations about the psychology of some people.
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  738.  @AceKite00  I think the relationship failure rate is around 80% for unmarried and 50% for marriages. So either way, it doesn't look good for you. But good luck and you are definitely making the right decision not to marry.
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  739. Him not being married is a huge benefit. He is not at risk of losing his money and assets in divorce. With 50% divorce rates, why would he want to marry his girlfriend and risk getting financially ruined in family court?
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  740.  @WhatsCookingTime  If there are kids involved or if the wife doesn't work or if the wife has debts then 70/30 is pretty standard. If both work and there are no kids, then 50/50 is standard. I lost 70% despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 kid. The result is also Judge dependent. Another Judge may have split the assets 60/40. Divorce court is a lottery in the UK. The asset split is entirely at the discretion and control of the random Judge that you get.
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  741. The number 1 troll. s/o to TLA.
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  742. Would be interested to see the guys that get soft launched (maybe short, fat, ugly and broke) and the guys that get hard launched (maybe taller, more muscles, giga Chads and rich). I doubt Drake and Timothy Charlamagne would accept a soft launch and I doubt the girl would want to "only" soft launch such a high value man.
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  743. There's always another bull in the ring. Work husbands, friend zone dudes, beta orbiters, IG SIMP's, etc.
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  744.  @manifest2203  lol. you are clearly triggered. thank you for proving my point.
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  745.  @knowledgeispower200  she obviously doesn't like you but can't leave you because of something you provide, e.g. maybe you pay the bills, or maybe she is hoping you give her kids and child support, or maybe she is hoping you giver her marriage and 50% of your assets plus alimony. Get out before the inevitable divorce court battle and child custody/parental alienation battle.
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  746. Most guys can't be F boys. This title is reserved for Chads and Tyrones only. Chads and Tyrones use their looks and genetics as a form of currency so they manage to get around the resources issue. However most guys will have to get used to paying to play, e.g. dates, gifts, diamond ring, house, and then child support and alimony.
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  747. Please tell TLA to collaborate with PsycHacks. I have already super chatted this once to him.
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  748.  @wyleecoyotee4252  your comment has nothing to do with the original thread. the original thread is to do with the impact of the family courts on future generations having kids. if you don't have the emotional maturity to stick to the topic, there is no need to comment.
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  749. Chad and Tyrone don't pay a dime. They just pipe her down and throw her back to the streets. I wish I was a Chad or Tyrone. Life is so unfair. RIP beta providers doing the clean up work on Chad and Tyrone's leftovers.
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  750. "Captains" is just an example or analogy. He doesn't literally mean it. I think the problem is you are taking his examples and analogies too literally. Also, he is generalizing. He can't possible speak to all 4 billion women on the planet and list out what each woman wants on the soft white underbelly episode.
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  751. You are the product that you are selling to women. If you are successful in making the sale you will receive payment (i.e. physical intimacy). If you are unsuccessful in selling yourself, you need to apply for another job elsewhere. Women, like employers, have their inbox flooded with potential candidates though. Women, like employers, can fire their employees too (divorce).
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  752. RIP SIMP's. Stop pandering to women and pedestalizing them with marriage, diamond rings, no pre-nups because you are too scared to ask, folding and bending to her every whim, etc. Take it from a former SIMP, you are only playing yourself and will get walked all over in your marriage and walked all over in divorce court.
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  753.  @jeffer168  rational house? I think that is asking for too much in 2024.
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  754.  @jeffer168  one failed marriage and losing 70% of my money, home equity and kid in divorce (even though my wife earns more than me) is enough for one lifetime. divorce judges are ruthless.
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  755.  @JenniferJohnson-ub3gt  I agree. Pre-nups should be compulsory, and 50:50 child custody (which cannot be put in a pre-nup) should also be an initial default setting too.
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  756. The UK family courts are very biased against husbands/fathers. All the favours, benefits and decisions are geared towards what the wife/mother wants. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home in my UK divorce. The judges do not care about throwing the father under the bus. My only advice is do not get married. If you do get divorced, it is very likely you will lose your money, house and kids. You have been warned.
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  757. She is so far removed because she probably has 10k simps paying her £10/month. She probably earns £1.2million/year and probably gets at least 100 marriage proposals per week on OF and IG. At the end of the day, some people want to have their cake and eat it. I know it sounds delusional but that is how some people get when they are worshipped by tens of thousands of men.
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  758. Women have around 10 dudes in the friendzone providing boyfriend energy at any one time. Hence their abundance mindset. Women can break glass in case of emergency (i.e. at 35) and marry one of these beta's and pop out 1 - 2 kids before 40. Women have a delusional mindset for a reason, i.e. thirsty beta-provider clean-up guys.
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  759. Funny thing is. Dr Taraban, in an earlier video, said women do not accept 50 : 50 . Women generally want men to invest 60 : 40 or 70 : 30. lol
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  760. Both you and your lover need to be mentally and emotionally stable (i.e. have a secure attachment style). If you or your lover are mentally and emotionally unstable (i.e. anxious or avoidant attachment style) the relationship is destined to be unhappy and/or short term. Pure facts 1:05 - 2:19 .
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  761. Very insightful video. Women put guys into 2 categories. Beta provider and Alpha Chad. Women will switch off intimacy with beta providers once they have secured the marriage, house and kids because they have got what they wanted. Women will give out intimacy to Alpha Chad for free, even if he has no job and just come out of jail. Women are only loyal to their emotions (not their man). Women don't love betas for them, they love betas for what they can provide. If your genetics are trash, RP game/frame content won't work for you. Sorry.
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  762. You made the right choice. I married AND divorced before 40. Rushing into marriage has been the biggest mistake of my life. Lost my money, house and kid (although the court has given me permission to see my son every other weekend).
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  763. best comment. i lost 70% of everything. i would have just lost 50% of the house if i stayed bf/gf.
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  764. Blue pill - top down processing. Just assuming Hollywood and marriage is right. Red pill - bottom up processing. Examining your relationship and other people's relationships, biology, legal, evolutionary psychology, etc from first principles.
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  765. Do not get married. If you do want to get married, do not get married until you have taken the red pill, discussed marriage with 10 divorced guys, discussed divorced with 3 lawyers (different lawyers will say different things), got a pre-nup, etc. I got married and divorced in the UK and lost 70% of my net worth (money, assets, home equity). UK Karen divorce judges are ruthless. Karens will find a way to divorce grape you. It is also extremely expensive to divorce (10k+) and divorce rates are high in the UK (50%).
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  766. Exactly. Love and relationships is a sacrifice. Both people have to sacrifice their time on their careers in order to spend more time with each other. And a man will have to sacrifice his money, house and kids in family court. The women also makes obvious sacrifices of her body and part of her career if she gets pregnant. Its impossible to get love and relationships for free (there has to be a sacrifice from both parties).
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  767.  @Willsimp4tacos  either spend thousands of dollars getting both sides an attorney to draw up and check a pre-nup, listing out all your assets and bank accounts on the pre-nup, making sure it is not so unfair that the judges throws it out, getting it signed before the engagement and well before the marriage, video taping the signing of the pre-nup making sure she is not drunk or under duress, and hoping your ex-wife does not spend thousands of more dollars trying to get the pre-nup thrown out. OR just do not get married in the first place. the choice is yours. if you have lots of money to spend on legal fees, then a pre-nup could be a good option.
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  768.  @EcoworksFL  I had more money at the beginning of the marriage. I paid for everything during the marriage. She didn't contribute to the marriage. She would give her earnings to her family members to help them and/or hide money. So according to your logic, I should be given 70%. However this is not how the divorce laws are setup in the UK.
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  769.  @EcoworksFL  The UK system works on a 50-50 basis and should only deviate if the wife needs more. Given my ex-wife didn't need more than 50-50 the assets should have been split 50-50 or 60-40 at worst. But 70-30 where there is only 1 child and she earns more is discriminatory against husbands. Any man getting married is making the biggest mistake of his life. It is a relief marriage is finally going extinct. I wouldn't want my son to go through what I went through.
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  770. Do you mean no fault divorce laws? Or laws around financial division on divorce?
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  771.  @MarkLeel  at fault divorce just results in people making false allegations, or just ticking the irreconcible differences box. So, either way, even without no fault divorce, it would still be pretty easy to get out of a marriage. I think your view that unhappy people should stay in a marriage is very extreme. Those days are long gone now women are educated, have high paying jobs and the backing of female judges in the divorce courts.
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  772.  @ebi2598  I'm from the UK also. I lost 70% of my money and assets, including losing my house, despite my wife earning more and us only have 1 kid. The UK divorce laws are extremely vague and subjective. And the divorce judges are extremely biased.
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  773. To get more love you have to be more loving .................... to the right people. Do not be loving to the wrong people. Wrong people will just drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.
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  774.  @KD400_  These types of RP videos are probably extremely uncomfortable watching for women because it demystifies loves/female nature. Men need to wake up and swallow the RP whole. Only the truth can set you free.
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  775.  @nannuky1128  all the data shows the majority of men don't require any emotional support from their partner. it's simply not the case men choose mates based on emotional support. there is no data to demonstrate this. according to google, most mental health illnesses occur in women. consequently, men have always been the partner to bare the emotional support load, as men tend to be less emotional and women tend to be more emotional. an emotional women would need more emotional support, than an emotionless man.
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  776. This explains why the first 6 years of a marriage is easy. You can buy her a house, buy her a car, give her kid 1, and give her kid 2. However after 6 years you have nothing else to give. And she won't thank you for the house, car, kid 1, kid 2, its all about what have you done for me lately. It impossible to keep some woman happy.
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  777.  @Crukren89  If someone needs a signed piece of paper to "cement" their relationship then they are going to be in for a shock in divorce court as 50% of marriages end in divorce. It is pretty childish to need a signed piece of paper to "cement" a relationship. If anything, kids should cement a relationship not a piece of paper. Paper tears easily. Also, there is no such thing as the perfect women with zero red flags.
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  778.  @max_rove  you are wrong. you clearly don't fully watch any red pill channels. Red pill content creators are constantly moaning and complaining about men being SIMP's, leading with their wallet, being boring, being broke, being fat, having no game, etc. The red pill examples are not extreme. They are showing the actions and behaviours of thousands of normal women.
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  779. I think Alex is a bit harsh on the lady at 3:08 . A lot of what she says is facts, e.g. a woman should have a job (as a fall back plan just in case of separation or divorce). And it is too easy to get married and way too difficult to get divorce (this is also facts). Maybe she is bitter. But that bitterness is the root of some great opinions.
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  780.  @axl1002  do not get married without a pre-nup. if that ship has sailed, get a post-nup.
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  781.  @The-Oneness11  this is a good point. it is best just to stay away from them in the first place. they dont want a man. they want saving.
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  782. I lost 70% of all my money and assets (including my house) in my UK divorce. This has ruined me financially. I now use this as a form of self sabotage, i.e. I blame my horrific divorce for not enjoying life and moving on. PsycHacks videos are so insightful and powerful. Congratulations on 70k subscribers.
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  783. Modern women find stability and security boring. Do not give modern women stability and security. They will punish you for it. She is not your girl, it is just your turn.
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  784. When a man cheats, he's a scum bag. When a women cheats, her man wasn't doing enough. You couldn't make this stuff up.
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  785. get your passport ✈✈✈✈✈
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  786.  @ichigotheg.o.a.t  so sad for stating the truth? ok, keep coping and editing all your comments.
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  787. You are a therapist. He is a board-certified doctorate-level psychologist. He probably knows more about you when it comes to attachment styles. Also, its truly shocking you would say men are unhealthy for wanting physical intimacy and women are unhealthy for wanting emotional connection, financial security, etc.
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  788.  @tiffanyapril5458  do you have any actual criticism or do you only have ad hominin personal attacks?
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  789.  @tiffanyapril5458  Wrong. He said questioning a man may come off as disrespectful and may result in that man walking away from the relationship. Which is true. He is just explaining how a man may react to a particular behaviour.
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  790. Relationships are an exchange of value. Many 304s want to exchange their beauty and box for 6k of money, 6 inches of D, 6 foot tall, 6 pack abs and 6 holidays/year. Even if a man did provide 66666 many 304s would still find something to moan and complain like emotional support. The game is rigged gentlemen. You can't win.
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  791.  @mediocreman2  that's called delusional
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  792. Same thing happened to me. My lawyer through me under the bus. She didn't push my wife to disclose but told me to disclose everything. The judge was unfair and she didn't punish my wife for non-disclosure. I lost 70% of all my assets. Please tell me Karma is real.
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  793. Hold the line gents. Simping will back fire long term. You will end up losing your money, house and kids 10 years later in divorce.
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  794.  @KidArkx you can google the tyrese case and read about it. the 3 major reasons for a pre-nup are 1. agree on division of assets, 2. agree on alimony, 3. agree on legal fees. how have you never heard of pre-nups talking about legal fees when this is one of the main functions of a pre-nup?????!!!!! LOL. Clown world.
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  795.  @veritasliberabitvos454  the legal fees part IS upholdable. this is the main point of a pre-nup. to determine who is paying the legal fees (as well as alimony and division of assets). when tyrese goes to appeals court, the appeal judge will probably reverse the pre-nup getting thrown out. although, there is a possibility the appeal judge may form a different opinion and keep the pre-nup thrown out. it ultimately depends on the individual judge's opinion. I don't understand what is so difficult to understand here??? you don't appear to have even a basic understanding of family law, pre-nups, how to legal system works, and how to appeal incorrect decisions made by a judge.
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  796. Great comment. As time goes by we get bombarded by more and more options, making choice more difficult and feeling of regret much higher. Thank you for your insights.
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  797. So true. So many low value betas live in a scarcity mindset and don't have the guts to lead her to the door. And then they are surprised they are losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later.
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  798. Wow! 💯% facts. Very impressive. I am surprised you pretty much nailed everything. Just to add, women want men to be emotionally vulnerable as a way to screen out rubbish guys and/or they want to find his weakness as a way to punish him later on and gain leverage later on (Samson vs Delilah). 50 year marriages worked in the past due to religion and women not having jobs. However, now religion is on the decline and women have high paying jobs women often say stuff like "I don't need a man" or "all men are trash", etc. I can only see marriage going extinct as more and more delusional/social media obsessed women divorce their husbands, and are rewarded with cash and prizes by the divorce courts (at the husband's expense who loses the money, house and kids).
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  799. It is a lot of work for no real gain, other than losing your money, house and kids in divorce, and watching Chad Iiving in your old house with your ex-wife and kids.
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  800.  @azhanrashid5769  if she wants your money, and if she wants power, control and leverage in the relationship, she will demand marriage from you. if she actually likes you, she won't care about signing a piece of government paperwork. the government paperwork (marriage certificate/licence) only ever becomes useful if she wants a divorce.
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  801. Marriage and even co-habitation and kids is an unacceptable loss. Way too much risk in 2023.
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  802. Completely agree. It would be great if Dr Orion does more of these case study type videos. This case study was great.
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  803. Bro, this is probably the worst video. Men are not going to be receiving job applications from women in their DM's. How many job applications have you ever received from women? Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). This is basic evolutionary biology. As women take greater pregnancy risks, they need to carefully vet, interview and select their man, just like an employer would. If the employee (i.e. man) passes the interview (i.e. the dates), he will receive a salary (i.e. physical intimacy). This video will just cause more people to be single because now both parties are being picky (not just the women).
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  804. I don't think men even know how to vet a women. And I don't think men even know how to vet themselves and figure out whether they are relationship material.
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  805. ...But she aint messing with no broke, broke. And guess who will get the money, house and kids on divorce. WE WANT PRE-NUP, WE WANT PRE-NUP.
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  806. Just when you think Orion can't make a better video, he releases an even better one.
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  807. women want the BBC: biggest best companion. there is always another bull in the ring. they naturally want the best deal that comes with the most value. it makes sense when you think about it from a survival and genetics point of view.
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  808. I'm pretty sure he has a girlfriend. He mentions her on his channel sometimes.
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  809.  @schmetterling4477  I am currently in a huge downward phase in my life following a messy divorce so your comment about me only deserving an "immortal goddess" doesn't make any sense. Maybe you are trying to be funny? For whatever reason you have completely misunderstood the point I was making. I just gave a simple example of why your "choosing wisely" point is probably better framed as "choosing low risk" because people change (the example I used is one of many different examples that could have been used).
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  810.  @schmetterling4477  again, you have completely misunderstood what I am saying. You are placing way too much attachment on my random example (I could have used a different example) and you have completely ignored the point I was making. I have never said that scars, aging, kids, etc are risk factors. What I am saying is that people change and therefore choosing wisely at 25 years old is an illusion because people inevitably change and therefore the mentality of the person you chose at 25 years old would have changed 10, 20, 30 years down the line. This goes for BOTH the husband and the wife (it takes TWO to tango). I wish I hadn't of used the example I used as for some reason you have internalised the example to such a level that you deem it as a personal attack on you and you have started talking about your medical history. Just to be clear, I don't even know you and I am not attacking you/surgeries/scars (you brought up scarring not me). When I brought up surgeries I was thinking along the lines of trauma/recovery (scarring did not even cross my mind so I am very surprised you are saying I can't love someone due to scarring when you don't even know my scars LOL!). If I would have know this example would have been so triggering I would obviously have used a different example, e.g. young/fit/healthy to fat/bald/low testosterone.
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  811.  @schmetterling4477  it is good to see you have finally calmed down and are out of your emotions. All the swearing and bringing my child into the argument was completely unnecessary, reprehensible and very childish of you. Your comments were filled with hate for absolutely no reason and you should be ashamed of yourself. Just simply because you lost control by getting triggered by a minor example. You will see, as you mature and grow up, any romantic relationship is a risk (just ask Johnny Depp or any divorced guy who has lost his money, house and kids).
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  812.  @schmetterling4477  I am not dreaming of being Elon or Jeff. I brought up Elon and Jeff to show you were wrong when you said divorced people were losers. You have just changed the topic as you realized you were wrong. LOL. Nice try.
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  813. I normally agree with Bo. But I disagree with him about passport bro. Marriage is a 50 year thing. And divorce is a pandemic spreading like crazy. Even if you go overseas you will probably still end up divorced within 50 years. In the UK , the fastest growing divorce population is in the over 65's.
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  814. 15:55 this woman missed out one key detail. She needs to add on the words "right now" to the end of what she is saying. She will be submissive if she meets the right alpha Chad "right now". But eventually even the alpha Chads (tom brady, johnny Depp, brad Pitt, Arnold Schwarzenegger) will get thrown back to the streets on divorce.
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  815.  @ghost_illmatic  Ruslan got son'ed. That was the difference between man vs boy, or expert vs amateur. That was a great teaching moment. Most guys don't wanna debate TLA for that reason. It is easy to talk about marriage until you come up against TLA.
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  816. 💯% . do not lead with your wallet. i lead with my wallet and it worked short term, but long term, I lost 70% of my money and assets in my divorce, including my house. leading with your wallet is great short term but it will come back to bite you long term. i was financially ruined in my divorce and am now stuck on child support for 10+ years.
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  817. Red pill will be around way longer than this guy's career.
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  818. Men are not intimidated/insecure. Men are simply playing the odds. Men have a limited amount of time and resources to spend on dates. Therefore it makes more sense for men to spend their time and resources on women who are more likely to choose them for a 2nd date. There is no point wasting time and money with an independent boss babe with delusional standards. A man is likely to be more successful with a woman with lower standards.
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  819. Which divorce?
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  820. He's going on Fresh and Fit tonight. So you are probably right. He probably will get to 200k by end of September.
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  821. Excellent point. Getting married is a huge sacrifice for the husband. I lost 70% of my assets and money (including my house) in my UK divorce even though my wife earned more and we only had 1 kid. The family court judges are extremely biased (especially the feminist judges). The best a husband will get is a fair divorce settlement (50-50) and the worst he will get is destroyed (70-30). The worst a wife will get is a fair settlement (50-50) and the best she will get is the money, house and kids.
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  822.  @BethHutch-pg5yi  interestingly, my belief is, the reason why marriage is going extinct in the West is because women can't find someone good enough. Despite the awful biased divorce laws and judges, I think men would still get married if they could find a woman who wanted them.
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  823. Women also file for divorce more, have higher levels of marital dissatisfaction when married, and live shorter lives compared to unmarried women. I think women just want the husband's kids and husband's wallet, but not the husband after they get bored with him.
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  824. @@Manoben234 a biased (female) judge decided. I think you are wrong about marriages from 2022. The laws have still not changed in the UK. The Government may review the divorce laws in the next few years (according to the Financial Times) as marriage is going extinct in the UK. Its too late for me. The bitterness is too deep rooted. I am so bitter I would not even attend my son's wedding if he decided to get married in the future. These judges are completely out of control, and the legal fees are crippling. Even if you earn less than your wife, you still get screwed by judges.
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  825. Great comment. Hypergamy and Briffault's law from 1927 are a real thing. Both are discussed in depth in Dr Orion Taraban's book "The value of others" (2024). Its crazy to hear from people who try to marry up and then complain that they are the victims.
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  826. I'm in the UK and you cannot go in. Family cases are behind closed doors. Because of this UK judges can do whatever they want, they have way too much power, the system is unreliable (different judges award different amounts), and the system is open to abuse from judges. I lost 70% of my money and assets (including my house) in my UK divorce. Some of these judges are very biased and/or incompetent. Hence the reason Johnny Depp lost his DV case in the UK.
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  827. Romans 12:21 New International Version Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
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  828. These 304s are not complicated. They are simply delusional. If a man behaved liked a 304 we would describe that men as delusional, irrational, illogical and a complete PITA.
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  829.  @bridoc519  this is the exact same rhetoric that a bunch of other divorced millionaire / billionaire guys used to preach while they were married, e.g. Bill Gates, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Tom Brady, Arnold Schwarzenegger, The Ruler of Dubai, Dr Dre, Kanye West, Tyrese, Prince Charles, Donald Trump, etc. To be fair to you, the first 15 years are the hardest, so you might potentially be safe. At the end of the day, 50% of people don't get divorced too.
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  830. All this BS has been going on since Biblical times with Eve causing drama and chaos by biting the apple, Lilith being disobedient, Jezebels, Delilah betraying Samson, etc. Men need to wake up and realize that these 304s are only good on a short term basis and in small doses. Do not get married to them, you will regret it for the rest of your life.
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  831.  @dylanr1316  Raising kids/being selfless is one good trait. But you need a lot more than that to have a healthy relationship, e.g. looks, money, emotional connection, fun/exciting lifestyle, leadership, etc. Being purposeless is going to result in divorce long term.
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  832.  @dylanr1316  I haven't assumed anything about you. I don't know you. I am just saying you need more than wanting kids to have a successful relationship. And being purposeless is an unattractive trait.
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  833. @@ConontheBinarian fake news. that lawyer is completely wrong. unless you are talking about the UK.
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  834.  @KingsguardX  she hired 3 legal firms and busted the pre-nup. hence the reason why Tyrese owes his legal fees and her legal fees. Tyrese didn't incentivize divorce, he incentivized uncontested divorce, there is a big difference. that difference is worth around 500k of her legal fees that he now has to pay because the pre-nup was busted by her 3 law firms. the "error" the adjudicator made is going to appeal's court. the judge may over rule the adjudicators mistake which would save Tyrese around 500k. however Tyrese will still need to pay his 500k in legal fees. So, either way, Tyrese is taking an L despite having a pre-nup. You can't really describe Tyrese's pre-nup as iron clad because it got busted and failed to protect Tyrese on legal fees.
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  835.  @NyakzOTSD  that is a fair explanation. i guess that I mean the pre-nup failed to protect him against her legal fees. as you say, the judges just do whatever they like. they are all powerful.
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  836.  @shawnmorrissey1866  if you think ex-wives are ruthless you should go to divorce court. the lawyers and judges are a million times worse.
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  837. This is probably the first PsycHacks video I kinda disagree with. WAGs (wives and girlfriends) generally want physical intimacy too. However there's a big BUT. They want it with a guy who has good looks, money, status and personality. If there is no genuine burning desire between the two, then intimacy will not be on the cards. Simple as that. Physical intimacy shouldn't be so complicated or a chore, if it is this complicated or hard work, she doesn't like you. WAGs are only going to put effort into a relationship (intimacy, gifts, laughing at your jokes, etc) when they see their man as a Chad/Tyrone.
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  838.  @TheTeaParty320  there is no pre-nup legislation or laws in the UK (where I am from). You can do a pre-nup but the Judge is free to reject it because there is no legislation compelling a Judge to take them seriously.
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  839. i think women can go for quality dates (rather than quantity of dates) because they are inundated with options. however, for most men, i think they have to work for volume because women are so picky. just my 2 cents.
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  840.  @31minutesago  💯% facts. No marriage, no cohabitation and no kids. These 3 things will make it 100x easier to leave a relationship, move on and mate switch. 50-year pair bonded marriages are a work of fiction.
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  841. Puppy is a great analogy. Puppies sound like something good initially. But long term with vet bills, etc they become a huge headache. Same with modern women. Great for short term fun. But long term, I ended up losing 70% of my money, my house and my son. It is just not worth it long term. However it is definitely worth it for some short term fun.
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  842. I agree with this video. But one thing worth mentioning is that even if she does have genuine burning desire/love for you, this will eventually fade 8 years down the line once you have bought her the house and given her kids. She will eventually find something to moan and complain about, and without a pre-nup Karen the divorce judge will give her the money, house and kids on divorce. Marriage is a huge tactical/strategic error for most guys.
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  843.  @carlosa.rubiol.2893  women do not disrespect their bosses without realizing. They do not unintentionally disrespect their boss because they want the job and money.
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  844.  @papafellow4728  shes does know it. she would never question her boss or someone else important.
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  845. Excellent content. Very accurate assessment of marriage. It is one way carnage for men. Men don't stand a chance in divorce. Divorce judges are extremely biased in favour of the wife. It is absolutely crazy that men are getting married in 2022. Why does marriage still exist?
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  846. @Freshina W FreshPrinceCEO. W FNF. W Myron.
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  847. Guys in terrible marriages are very lonely as are divorced guys who just see their kids every other weekend or who barely see their teenage kids because they are too busy or have been turned against the father. I think being alone is actually quite common regardless of relationship status.
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  848.  @johnnonamegibbon3580  yes! in my marriage there were definitely two husbands. lol
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  849. Your suggestion seems like an even worse psychological disaster. Imagine dating someone for months or years, spending your time and money on them, and then it leads to nothing if/when she moves on. That would be an enormous psychological disaster for the man as he got played for a fool, he was just a wallet or simp.
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  850. 💯% facts. Its the elephant in the room. We all know the answer but can't say it. But it is obvious that one partner will be extremely happy if her husband can give her more spending money.
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  851. Indeed, because of social media many women think they can do better and are constantly on the look out for a better mate. Dr David Buss talks about this in his mate switching theory. Also, as women earn more and more, more and more men are excluded from the dating marketplace or are just placeholders, e.g. a 7 year husband who provides the diamond ring, house and kids for the women to take on divorce.
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  852.  @TempleoftheDarkPartsoftheMind  I think Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates both got divorced at the 25 year mark and lost billions. In the UK the fastest growing divorce age group is the 60+ years old (i.e. the silver separators). From the outside looking in (I was only married less than 10 years) it seems like there is always a headache in marriage and that you are never really safe from the clutches of divorce. In some cases, I think the longer the marriage, the more you grow apart and the more you get sick of each other. Trying to do a 50 year marriage in today's society which is essentially a godless and shameless society is so hard. Thank you for sharing your story. Hopefully someone younger reads this and thinks again.
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  853. Guys need to accept reality. She's not your girl, its just your turn. Dr David Buss has talked about humans being a serially monogamous species that mate switches when there is an opportunity. Hollywood lied to us. The 50 year pair bonded marriage thing is a work of fiction.
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  854.  @TheAcad3mic  💯% facts. Picking based on looks is probably most men's downfall.
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  855.  @budbas  if we start with the assumption marriage is a 50 year contract, i.e. from age 30 to age 80, then over a 50 year period most countries will start off with fair divorce laws but during your 50 year marriage will become more and more hostile to marriage, and more pro-divorce. Hence the decreasing marriage and birth rates. So moving country doesn't really help long term.
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  856. 7,000 languages in this world. But Myron chose to speak only in facts. Put some respeck on his name. W Fresh and Fit.
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  857. She would be a nightmare to deal with in a child custody battle. It seems like she wants 18 years of child support payments from you.
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  858. Marriage and birth rates are both down. More and more people see marriage and children as a scam. I got divorced in the UK and lost 70% of my money, assets, and home equity to my ex-wife who earns more than me (we only had 1 kid). I'm now also stuck on 10+ years of child support for a child I am only allowed to see every other weekend.
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  859.  @highstakes1235  pre-nups are not really a thing in the UK unless you are a multi-millionaire. In non-millionaire cases, they generally get thrown out if they are unfair to the women/kids, i.e. if the women/kids do not get 70%.
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  860. Guys in the know will refuse to get married. But RIP SIMP's, I already know you are lining up to be the beta clean-up provider. Don't come crying to us when you lose your money, house and kids in divorce. You have been warned.
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  861. 27:55 Divorce the beta. Take his money, house and kids, and move onto a better, new, exciting guy. The play book for many women is now: 1. get ran through by chad in her 20's, 2. marry a beta clean up provider in her 30's, 3. have his kids, 4. take his money, house and kids in divorce, 5. monkey branch back to Chad as a MILF in her 40's. Divorce is a no brainer for most women.
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  862. 💯% facts. it is good that a man will sacrifice his life for a woman, while a woman will sacrifice her man for her life. because this helps survival. however, with modern day family law, this ruthless instinct and love of resources can come at a huge cost to the man. men value love, women love value.
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  863. Arrange dates that you enjoy, e.g. your favourite place to eat (even if its just a simple burger joint), watching a basketball match in a bar, going out for ice cream, etc. That way, you can find out if you are compatible and if she leaves early you can still had a nice time.
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  864. what is L about telling married people to act like they are unmarried? if marriage creates too much stability and boredom, surely acting unmarried will bring back the drama, chaos and excitement? the advice seems quite logical to be honest if you are married.
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  865.  @tancreddehauteville764  my wife earned more and we only had 1 kid. I lost 70% of my money and assets, including my house, on divorce. divorce isn't about innocent and guilty. it is about wealth transfer based on a biased judge.
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  866.  @Poussyeater-w5e  💯%. when you have swallowed the red pill and know that men are trying to extract intimacy, while women are trying to extract resources, there is no going back.
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  867. If you marry an independent post-wall boss babe you have shot yourself in the foot. Congratulations, you just played yourself. You will lose the money, house and kids in divorce. She will see to it that you do.
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  868. Its not really a hack though is it. In reality, men are not going to be inundated with hundreds of job applications from women. Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). Women are generally not going to cold approach, run game, pay for dates and buy flowers / chocolates. Women (like employers) select men. Not the other way around. This is basic evolutionary biology as women take greater pregnancy risks. This video is just a delusional way to look at the modern dating marketplace. This is a MGTOW video, i.e. just be alone unless you find a women good enough to pass your interview/selection process.
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  869. Well, for exactly the same reason why India has a population of 1.5 billion, China has a population of 1.4 billion, and countries like Indonesia, Pakistan and Nigeria will probably get to 1 - 2 billion in total over the next 75 years. Humans seem to have a strong desire to mate and reproduce.
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  870. 7:13 a 304 is a "female version of a nice guy". Genius. One is leading with their wallet. The other is leading with their puss.
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  871. 2:17:25 I think Steven is wrong here. In the UK fathers pay child support too and the wife can use the child maintenance service or family court to apply for modifications/uplifts. Kyle Walker (English footballer) has been to court twice about this. Also Steven is wrong to confuse this with divorce. Unmarried fathers pay child support too.
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  872.  @shanescott1124  bro, they all switch up. They are chameleons. Once you give them the diamond wedding ring, house and kids, they will switch up. Once the investment phase is complete (diamond ring, house and kids) she has all the leverage, control and power in the marriage and divorce. She has everything she wants and needs. Why would she keep acting nice? Of course, she was going to switch up. It is a story as old as time. Read the Bible. Eve wouldn't listen and wanted the drama and chaos of eating the apple, Delilah betrayed Samson the strongest man in the world, Jezebels, 304s were the downfall of King Solomon and King David. You have been warned.
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  873. hypergamy is on steroids in 2025. Briffault's Law is still undefeated.
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  874. Probably she never really liked you in the first place. She only saw you as a "man juice" donor and once you had did the deed, you no longer had any use to her because she never really liked you anyway. She effectively used you. She knew all along she would divorce you once she got her kids and child support. Its a bitter pill to swallow.
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  875. Briffault's law: The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the relationship. Where the female can derive no benefit from the relationship with the male, no relationship takes place. In other words, only high value guys (either money or genetics) can get away with acting like an a-hole as they provide her with value.
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  876.  @fatpatlives1998  I got my clock cleaned in divorce. Lost 70% of everything. Lost my money, house and kid. Don't do it.
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  877.  @oemj7147  The red pill and intersexual dynamics was common knowledge. You should familiarize yourself with the Bible. The red pill is nothing new. Even in Biblical times there were warnings of Eve leaving Adam for a serpent, Delilah betraying her husband's secrets, Jezebels, the downfall of King David and King Solomon due to their lust, etc.
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  878. This is why even billionaires like Bezos, Gates and Musk, and millionaires like Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp and Tom Brady get divorced. Their wives wanted the money, house and kids but not them. Men are in love, women are in business. Men value love, women love value.
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  879. Thank god for the wall. Could you imagine how insufferable these people would be without the wall?
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  880. Its a "hot take" because its anti-woman. We should be lying to women by telling them they can have it all, all men are trash, and its not their fault.
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  881.  @GiltleyRage  you are mischaracterizing the red pill. the red pill just looks at the truth behind relationships. there is no preaching. any preaching is just opinions of the content creators specifically. your beef is with the content creators not the red pill.
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  882. Chad and Tyrone paid nothing and got the best treatment from her. Some beta male sucker will pay her with the diamond ring, marriage, house and car, and all he will get in return is divorce, losing 50%, losing the house, losing legal fees and 18 years of alimony and child support.
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  883.  @bellavega8048  I disagree. If a woman wants (1) children and (2) financial security during and after the marriage, then marriage is an excellent way for a woman to achieve those 2 goals. Generally speaking, society expects men to provide for women during and after marriage.
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  884. I wish this content existed in the mainstream 10 years ago. There are divorce material people and marriage material people. Make sure you and her are both marriage material people. Stay away from divorce material people. Divorce material people will ruin your life.
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  885. 100% facts. Wives don't marry to get husbands. They marry to get financial security and babies.
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  886.  @tikroute  bro, I lost my money, house and kids in divorce. its over for me. you need to use it.
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  887.  @gottafly30  life long mistake = losing your money, house and kids in divorce. being parentally alienated from the kids. and ending up paying child support and/or alimony each month until the kids are 18 years old.
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  888. A husband looks at a wife and thinks "no one is perfect". A wife looks at a husband and thinks "I can do better". She is not your girl, it is just your turn. Let her be another man's problem.
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  889. Its incredible that you can do a podcast about marriage, divorce and the rise of the red pill, and not mention the horrendously one-sided divorce laws that routinely see men lose their money, house and kids. What a complete joke. No wonder so many men are checking out and going MGTOW (Men Guarding Their Own Wallets).
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  890.  @nataliewalton8590  exactly. this is why marriage and kids is pointless for men. the game is rigged. you can't win. its lose-lose.
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  891. When hearing about the masculinity vs nice guy dynamic, frame, power vs egalitarianism dynamic, sacrifice, self vs us dynamic, consumptive love, presence vs absence dynamic, attachment vs detachment theory, marriage vs black pill dynamic ( 40:00 ), etc, is that relationships and marriages are extremely complicated in 2023.
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  892. you 💯% nailed it. in reality, only the top 10% of chads, tyrones, and chadrone's can sit back an interview women. the bottom 90% of Michael Scott, Dunder Mifflin, beta providers have to get their wallet out. ultimately, these bottom 90% will end up divorced because she married you just for kids, child support, alimony and the house. the whole dating market and family court system is a mess.
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  893.  @icekills1  reminds me of the reactions to Copernicus in the 1500's that the earth is not at the centre of the universe, or the reactions to Darwin in the 1800's that organisms evolve and change based on survival of the fittest.
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  894. This is a really interesting view point. I think you are right. Divorce is very traumatic and uncertain. I think mums go into survival mode for themselves and kids, and get encouraged to play dirty by womanist divorce attorneys and independent boss babe friends. This survival instinct has been very important in allowing humans to grow to a population of 8 billion+.
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  895. Its not just that men and women don't need each other because of alternatives (e.g. men can get intimacy from OF/PHub while women can get attention and likes from IG). Men and women are also costly to each other too, e.g. men lose alimony, child support, custody, their house, etc. While women's careers are affected when they are single moms.
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  896. Pure gold from 9:00 onwards. Do not get married. You will end up losing your money, house and kids to her. She will have the ability to go to divorce court and financially ruin you. The only reason people who are married live longer is because fat guys don't get married or if they do get married they end up divorced. Its nothing to do with marriage. Its to do with taking care of yourself.
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  897. s/o MHD
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  898. Juice isn't worth the squeeze at this point. I think people just need to accept, its not your spouse, its just your turn. Humans are a serially monogamous species. Its normal to move in and out of relationships, including marriages, at this point.
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  899.  @dahliaherrod4301  what she said doesn't make any sense. if lower income people don't get married, then who is divorcing? obviously the higher income people must be getting divorced if lower income people avoid marriage in the first place. i don't think she has thought through what she is saying.
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  900.  @darcycolborne2565  that's the whole point of the pre-nup. the whole point of the pre-nup is to give her enough alimony or assets, e.g. 50% of the house or whatever is agreed, so she has enough money without the child support if custody is 50 : 50 . also, in this day and age, fewer and fewer women give up their career. it's very difficult to survive on 1 household income.
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  901. Lets face it. A lot of people today are not marriage material. Over a 50 year marriage the chances of you staying happily married are slim and therefore you will spend the 50 years worried how badly you are going to get destroyed in divorce. With all the uncertainty and unfairness in the family court system (I lost 70% in the UK) you need to consider if marriage is worth it in terms of risk/benefit.
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  902.  @JohnAlot  You will even lose more in divorce if she earns more. My wife earned more and we only had 1 kid and I will lost 70% in my UK divorce. A lot of divorce judges are feminists and white knights. They will find a way to screw the husband over.
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  903.  @gjjkugfvm  easier said than done if you are married with kids.
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  904.  @bigmaneastside  I'm in the UK but largely agree with what you are saying. The only thing I would add is that no one is safe. Even billionaires like Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates who have been married 20+ years are getting divorced. It is impossible to predict the future and how things will turn out. You are right though- do not sign the marriage certificate. 💯% facts.
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  905. This is only half the story. A lot of this depends on the guy having a high SMV. In other words, a top 10% alpha. None of the video is true if you are a bottom 90% beta. Why would women cream over a beta? And if being a top 10% alpha is genetic then there is pretty much nothing you can do to enter this bracket.
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  906.  @ReneeDeane  in the UK, the family judges normally kicks out the father from the family home where there are kids involved. I am assuming judges take a similar stance in other countries too. its just a normal part of the divorce process. hence the reason it does not make sense for men to marry (and there is probably a good argument not to co-habit too).
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  907. Assuming you are male, maybe she will take it for now. You get married, buy her a house, and have kids, and then she takes it all in divorce. OF and PHub and other online offerings have now over taken real life. Sad but true.
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  908. romance is the opium for the masses of men. most men are sedated and asleep at the wheel. most men will only wake up when they lose their money, house and kids in divorce. its sad but true.
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  909. Silence is golden
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  910. ​ @franrod5227  the average male salary is greater than the average female salary so by default men have more money. husbands earn more than non-husbands so it appears women choose the richest men to marry. 97% of alimony payments (which is the result of marriage) are paid from men to women which helps women secure financial gain from the marriage. in addition, she will get her legal fees paid and secure at least 50% of the assets despite not contributing 50%. finally 70% of divorces are initiated by wives as they have nothing to lose and everything to gain. its not insecurity. it is just data and evidence.
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  911.  @americanflyer4126  Marriage is so dangerous the legal system had to invent prenups just to protect people. And sometimes even the prenup dont work.
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  912.  @SweatyFatGuy  I think other big mistakes are assuming they will never get divorced (i.e. divorce only happens to other people), assuming she is in love (when she is really just in business and just trying to get kids and child support), and, I agree, assuming the family courts fair (when they are really extremely biased).
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  913.  @ruleoftwo6174  In fairness to Zuby, if he starts to talk to the right people, e.g. people like The Lead Attorney (a 20 year divorce attorney), people like Steven Crowder (currently losing his money, house and kids in his divorce), clinical psychologists such as Dr Orion Taraban, evolutionary biologists such as Dr David Buss or Alex from Date Psych, etc, Zuby could improve his knowledge of human mating and reproduction significantly.
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  914. What everyone is forgetting is that Dillon Danis is actually trying to help Logan Paul. He is trying to stop Logan from making the biggest mistake of his life. If the do divorce, she is taking the money, house and kids. The child custody battle could be really messy if it becomes an international battle: USA vs Denmark.
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  915. The wall is coming. Menopause and ovulation failure is real.
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  916. Facts. His arguments are weak and not supported by the data and evidence. Just look at divorce rates, who initiates divorce, who has greater marital dissatisfaction, who gets accused of false allegations, who lose their kids in divorce, who lose their money and house in divorce, who gets their kids parentallied alienated, Tinder data on Chads and Tyrones, etc.
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  917. What do you disagree with? I think your episode request would be very interesting. I would argue having / not having a father is irrelevant. I would guess the biggest two factors regarding dating and marriage is her genetics (i.e. is she mentally stable, calm, patient, etc) and her friends (are they hooking up or in LTR's).
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  918.  @marguskiis7711  True. They just miss the money that that person came with.
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  919.  @marguskiis7711 Crazy thing is, there are millions of similar cases like this. But most men don't share their L's.
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  920. I am so glad someone is finally covering Samantha Lee. This bish used 3 divorce attorney's to try to cash out Tyrese on child support. She wanted to cripple Tyrese with enormous legal fees- a dirty trick many ex-wives use in divorce. She is the last person that should be giving relationship and dating advice. RIP to her future husband. Her future husband deserves to be financially ruined in divorce- we know Samantha's true nature.
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  921. Disbursements don't really exist in the UK. Each party pays their own legal fees. The laws are already quite ruthless in the UK but sometimes I wish they were worse so marriage would go extinct more quickly. In the 1970's there were 400k marriages/year but now there are only 200k marriages/year in the UK. Marriages are expected to drop in further in 2020 when the data comes out. Do not get married.
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  922. These are your future wives, gentlemen. RIP Future Husbands. MGTOW = Men Guarding Their Own Wallets.
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  923. Looks like you dodged a bullet. Let her be another man's problem.
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  924. This is what it is like in family court. Zelensky = Husband. Trump = Judge. Vance = Wife.
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  925. 0:41 Avoid DDD women = Dangerous, Difficult and Disordered. 1:46 If she calls you "toxic", "narcissistic" or "emotionally unavailable" it is probably because you are not doing what she has told you to do. Its manipulation.
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  926. Its not really helpful though is it. In reality, men are not going to be receive job applications from women in their DM's. How many job applications have you ever received from women? Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). This is basic evolutionary biology. As women take greater pregnancy risks, they need to carefully vet, interview and select their man, just like an employer would. If the employee (i.e. man) passes the interview, he will receive a salary (physical intimacy from the women). This video will just cause more people to be single because now both parties are being picky (not just the women).
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  927. @ whole family court thing is a complete lottery. The result you get depends on the Judge you get. No one realizes this when they get married. Its like the wild wild West in family court. The Judges are completely biased and useless.
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  928.  @apureenergyme9  facts. Men are essentially indoctrinated to believe in marriage and to do the right thing. There is no counter narrative as men for a long time have been are very secretive/embarrassed about their divorce court humiliation. It's only now men are speaking out and learning what is really going on.
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  929. Amber Heard 2.0
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  930. Relationships are a value exchange. Once she has extracted your value, it only makes sense for her to move onto the Bigger Better Companion (BBC). Men are suckers for believing that 50 year marriages are realistic, healthy and natural.
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  931. 💯%
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  932.  @UnofficialLesTwins  He's probably better than destiny in other areas. Maybe emotional support, height, fame in Sweden, etc. He must be doing better than destiny in some areas otherwise the "mate switch" makes no sense.
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  933.  @nickgardner1408  i don't think you understand the red pill. the red pill is more than just hypergamy. the red pill talks about serial monogamy (she is not your girl, its just your turn), backup males (friend zone orbiters), love value men (sneaky simps pretending to be nice guys), paternity fraud (beta bucks), genetics (alpha seed), psychological trauma (damaged older women), marriage (playing the game in hard mode), family court (gynocentric social order), self improvement (get your money up, get in the gym), etc etc.
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  934.  @NidzShah-ps6kr  this is 💯facts. He's walking and talking proof of the red pill. Get your money and status up to get multiple younger women.
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  935.  @artofmybody2882  💯%. you have nailed it. just to extend your theory slightly. marriage is like bringing in a third party (i.e. biased divorce judge) into your relationship who is only ever going to champion and support your wife, especially in divorce proceedings.
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  936.  @artofmybody2882  once again you have nailed it. Dr David Buss' argues that humans are actually serially monogamous and mate switch, rather than being like some species of bird that pair bond for life. The idea of a 50 year pair bonded marriage is a relatively new idea in our human evolution (brought in through religion and hollywood) and has created a 50% divorce rate, and many unhappy marriages in the other 50% who stay together.
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  937. 100% agreed. If you become boring and complacent the relationship is at risk. Just merely getting married is not enough. You have to behave like you are not married to keep the spark alive.
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  938.  @77justin96  proof of what? that marriage is just a piece of paper? this is self-evident. that high income households do better, every professor and doctor of sociology supports this view.
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  939.  @whatsupbudbud  I don't think its double standards. Men appear to have a significantly higher lust mechanism than women hence all the problematic male behavior, e.g. OF, PHub, criminal non-consent grape, etc. Men seem to genetically wired to be promiscuous. Many of the most successful men such as Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Donald Trump and Tiger Woods have fallen to temptation.
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  940. Divorce court wealth transfers make marriage an entirely unacceptable proposition unless you live in a country that accepts pre-nups. The UK desperately needs pre-nup legislation. Marriage is going extinct in the UK.
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  941.  @Youtubehandlesaresilly  the problem with leaving a marriage is you end up financially destroyed in terms of losing your money, house, kids, assets, child support, alimony, legal fees, etc. Marriage is one of the worst things a man can do. You make yourself powerless.
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  942.  @georgesontag2192  no man realizes when they get married they actually end up with 5% after legal fees, alimony, child support, etc etc after divorce. marriage is so dangerous.
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  943. 6:40 I don't think Alexander understands the evolutionary biology of backup males or friendzone males. In evolutionary history, men had a high mortality rate. So, evolutionary speaking, women need to cultivate backup males in case their main mate passes away. Morality is irrelevant. Its just biology. A bit like predator vs prey.
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  944.  @evelynwaugh4053  I think the problem with your strategy is that if a women establishes a career she will probably be around 30 - 40 when she is ready to get married and will consequently have a long list of previous ex boyfriends. This may hinder her chances of finding her dream guy because she is older, more traumatized, and may be outcompeted by younger women. And the types of guys that are likely to settle for more older, masculine, boss babe type women, are likely to be spineless low-testosterone beta males who will ultimately repulse her long term. Dr Taraban's advice is for women looking for her dream guy. Your advice will ultimately result in women having to settle for low value beta males.
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  945. 💯Facts. Narcissism is over 9,000 if they are running to social media to play the victim and get attention.
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  946.  @somacruz6893  Yup. Many wives have a secret stash of cash. Very normal.
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  947.  @Pride0FTh3Lion  perception is reality. They perceive themselves to be 10/10 high value women that are entitled to a rich alpha Chad. It doesn't matter what you think. They believe they are 10's and deserve a Tom Brady, Brad Pitt or Channing Tatum type guy. And they won't be settling for a beta like Steve from Accounts, and carry his child.
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  948. Facts 💯💯💯💯. Marriage is a legalized scam. Its just a transfer of wealth, power and leverage from husband to wife. She will leave the marriage with most of the money, the house, the kids and the child support.
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  949.  @MarkLeel  if someone wants divorce e.g. they are being treated badly, why chain them to their spouse and prevent them from divorcing? I think no fault divorce is good. It just shows everyone how ridiculous marriage is.
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  950.  @MarkLeel  if no fault divorce was cancelled, people would just tick the "irreconcilable differences" box and just make a bunch of false allegations. judges in family court don't have the time to waste on this BS. People just need to tick "no fault" and be done with it. Your suggestion of no no-fault divorce is not workable and practical. It would have people drowning in legal fees and false allegations. Divorce is bad enough without false allegations. Particularly if the false allegations relate to the kids, which would make it a million times worse for the men. If men are too scared (or smart) to take the gamble and risk of marriage, just don't get married. Simple.
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  951. That is the perfect summary. Low value beta providers are just wife'ing up Chad's traumatized leftovers and then these low value betas wonder why they are losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later. Its because she's not your girl, she's still thinking about Chad and how useless you are in comparison.
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  952. Chris on the Fresh and Fit podcast says this all the time.
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  953. If a women is using sex as a weapon or reward the guy is a beta. She doesn't really like him. There's no genuine burning desire. That relationship will eventually end or just be sexless.
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  954. All relationships are transactional. Both people need to get something out of the relationship. If neither person got anything from the relationship it wouldn't exist in the first place. Both people have to "bring something to the table", e.g. emotional support, finances, lifestyle, family/kids, etc.
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  955.  @jahigains9201  i'm sure if you look at your previous/current partners they have all brought something to the table. otherwise you wouldn't have dated them.
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  956. 39:50 The Coolidge effect is a biological phenomenon that describes when males regain sexual interest in a new female is introduced after having already mated with the same female multiple times in the past.
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  957.  @yurigansmith  Correct. Marriages were not allowed for most of 2020 in the UK. It will be interesting to see if the 2021 figures show a bounce back or if marriage keeps going extinct.
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  958. marriage causes divorce. do not get married. it wont last 50 years. most millennial husbands/wives don't have the mental/emotional stability, agreeability and ability to tolerate high levels of stress. hence the 50% divorce rates. and the other 50% who stay married are probably unhappy.
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  959. married people should behave like they are unmarried. it is an interesting theory. with some truth. marriage causes security and stability. security and stability causes boredom and complacency. boredom and complacency causes divorce. i.e. marriage causes divorce.
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  960. If she is making you wait she is not physically-interested in you. She sees other qualities in you, e.g. money, provision, resources, daddy qualities, emotional support, etc. Women will generally make this type of beta male wait to confirm their ability to invest into her, then get married to them, get the house and kids, and then take him to the cleaners in divorce. Beta males are just a means to achieving an end, i.e. financial security and babies.
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  961. Dr Taraban just made a 3.5 hour appearance on the Fresh and Fit podcast. It was a great interview.
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  962.  @kimkhamis6420  Thank you. Getting destroyed in divorce court is a bit like a bereavement. You kind of learn to live with it but you can never forget and unsee the injustices.
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  963. You didn't listen to what he said. You may have been on the decline for the last 16 years. There is no shelf life until the doctor calls it.
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  964. I lost my money, house and kid in my UK divorce. I lost 70% of my money and assets. Marriage and divorce is a state-controlled wealth transfer. The state owns your money and house when you get married and they will divide it on divorce. My opinion, do not get married. You lose all control, power and leverage.
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  965. SIMPing expects or is hoping for value exchange. For example, if I SIMP for a women by paying for dates, buying gifts, giving compliments, etc I am hoping for some physical intimacy in return. SIMPing is like the marketing / advertising department of a relationship. SIMPing is big business. Love is completely different, it is the ultimate expression of unconditional sacrifice with no expectation of anything in return.
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  966. Last 3 minutes of this video is pure 🔥🔥🔥 11:50 . These bishes just want babies and financial security (marriage). They don't want husbands. Marriage and babies are just a way to extract the maximum possible amount of money in divorce court. They know their husband will lose his money, house and kids when Karen the divorce judge gets involved.
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  967. If a masculine boss babe wants to pay for the 1st date then this is a red flag. If a mentally and emotionally stable woman lets you pay for the 1st date then this is less of a red flag because she has the keys to survive in a LTR (e.g. calmness, patience, agreeableness, etc). The costs for the guy increase when babies come along so get used to paying.
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  968. You have NO idea what women want. This guy has a doctorate in psychology so he probably has a better idea than you. He got hand picked for this interview (not you) for a reason. The interviewer was very grateful and happy to have this psychologist on his channel.
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  969. Good luck to you. Your parents and grandparents marriages don't count as they had to stay together for survival and social reasons. However your siblings and cousins are very impressive. Main thing is, don't rush into marriage. If you do rush in, you will probably end up regretting it for the rest of your life. If you are going to do marriage, vet her properly, chose wisely, and consider getting a pre-nup.
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  970. You probably never looked at it this way because this POV is not real. In reality, men are not going to be receive job applications from women in their DM's. How many job applications have you ever received from women? Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). This is basic evolutionary biology. As women take greater pregnancy risks, they need to carefully vet, interview and select their man, just like an employer would. If the employee (i.e. man) passes the interview (i.e. the dates), he will receive a salary (i.e. physical intimacy). This video will just cause more people to be single because now both parties are being picky (not just the women).
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  971. This is a great summary. And like any job, the employer (wife) can fire (divorce) the employee (husband) and take away his money (and house and kids). RIP non-MGTOW's.
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  972. Fake news. The wife will just make false allegations against the husband if NF divorce is banned. The real problem is the divorce settlements not the divorce itself. Men understand divorce is a risk. However the divorce settlements (losing the money, house and kids) make marriage an unacceptable risk.
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  973.  @russkiy6ot  why do you assume privilege? its probably because I have a personality/mental health disorder which means I struggle to understand and read other people's thoughts and feelings. lots of people drown out their own trauma/issues by throwing themselves into work or into the online world (avoidant attachment style). throwing yourself into work or the online world because you struggle to understand others doesn't necessarily make them privileged or self-centered. its obvious you don't understand anything about me and have just made an entire baseless comment.
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  974.  @russkiy6ot  why do you assume its privilege? rather than a disorder that makes it difficult for me to understand and empathize with other people's emotions? not everyone deals with traumas in a healthy way, some people thrown themselves into work so they don't have to think about and process their emotions. maybe its your privilege and self centred nature that stops you from realizing that.
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  975.  @theperfectbeing  Briffault's law should probably be taught in school. This law is so fundamentally important for men to understand. Around 70% of divorces are initiated by women (probably because they are bored) and the 30% of divorces that are initiated by men are probably the result of their bored wives cheating on them.
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  976. You can't win. Get married, you will be accused of creating boredom and stability. Don't get married, you will be accused of not committing. People just need to accept, she is not yours, its just your turn. Humans are a serially monogamous species (not a lifelong pair bonding species).
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  977.  @hoots187  Is there any difference between attention and time? By intimacy, I am assuming you mean good D game?
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  978.  @dinsel9691  Average marriage last around 12 years. 50% of marriages end in divorce. If you don't have those 5 things the countdown clock is ticking. Boomers/Gen X are irrelevant because women needed men for money. Gen Z/millennials women don't need a man due to their careers.
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  979.  @mangomight7938  LTRs tend to be for two securely attached people. Anxious and avoidants don't tend to have LTRs because of their insecure attachment styles. Anxious and avoidants probably need some psychological counselling or therapy to heal their childhood wounds and insecure attachment.
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  980.  @gl3mmy903  its not funny. its called female solipsism and male scarcity mindset. Men have few options so are desperate to do what it takes to get a woman. Women have an abundance of options so can be picky/selfish.
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  981. Problem is so many low value betas live in a scarcity mindset and don't have the guts to lead her dismiss her. And then they are surprised they are losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later.
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  982.  @alexisc7565  lead as in being in charge and making decisions, e.g. big purchases, where they live, whether they will get married, how many kids, how they will spend their spare time, how they will spend their money, etc.
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  983.  @veritasliberabitvos454  it is clear you have no understanding of pre-nups. pre-nups cannot create a child custody agreement or child support agreement. however the birth of a child does not invalidate a pre-nup that only talks about 1. alimony, 2. division of assets, and 3. legal fees. People like you are damaging because you spread falsehoods around pre-nups. Shame on you.
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  984. 5:05 💯% facts. They will make beta Brian wait and make beta Brian invest so they can appear as virtuous and check his resources. But they will bust it open with Chad on the same night as they are genuinely attracted to him so make things as easy as possible.
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  985. Seggs worker spitting facts at 3 minutes and 45 seconds. Husbands are scared to talk honestly to their wives. Wives can't handle the truth. Marriage is a lonely experience for a husband. And a divorce is a million times worse for the husband. They lose their house, savings, pensions and kids. MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Wallets.
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  986. 2 big facts in this video: 7:15 - Men lose their house in divorce. Divorce is a lottery win for these 304s. 13:53 - Do not get married. It will financially ruin you. By getting married, men lose all their rights, power, leverage, money, assets and kids.
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  987.  @manifest2203  some woman do far worse after divorce because they have either married a broke dude or don't know how to manage their divorce settlement after divorce, and so end up broke. smart women do better post divorce.
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  988.  @lagoonlane  Why does signing a piece of paper and exchanging jewellery give the kids the best chance? If two doctors do not get married, I am sure the kids will be fine. If two criminals do get married, the kids will struggle. Your argument doesn't make any sense and doesn't take into account the income of the parents as being the main factor behind a child's success. Lower income parents tend not to get married hence the lower chance of offspring success (it is the income not the marriage that makes the difference).
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  989. There is a lot of research showing that women suffer from more relationship dissatisfaction than man. This is probably begin the statistics that show women are much more likely (70%) to initiate divorce proceedings.
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  990.  @kc6810  i think you are missing the point that women also desire physical intimacy and cheat just as much, if not more, than men. their body counts are also at all time highs. so it would be pretty hypocritical for women to see physical intimacy as selfish when they are indulging in it themselves.
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  991. Bro, this is probably the worst video. Men are not going to be receiving job applications from women in their DM's. How many job applications have you ever received from women? Women are generally not going to apply to be with a man (unless he is Chad or Tyrone). This is basic evolutionary biology. As women take greater pregnancy risks, they need to carefully vet, interview and select their man, just like an employer would. If the employee (i.e. man) passes the interview (i.e. the dates), he will receive a salary (i.e. physical intimacy). This video will just cause more people to be single because now both parties are being picky (not just the women).
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  992.  @manifest2203  wouldn't have to sign a prenup if they just avoided legal marriage in the first instance. Men are more emotional. You just have to look at the prison population and self-deletion statistics as evidence of this.
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  993.  @suefleming  Yet men keep getting married and remarried over and over again. It sad how delusional, emotional and illogical some men are.
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  994.  @andrewcolleyrealestate  this video doesn't give men more power. it is just telling men to be more picky and selective and strict. it will only serve to ensure more people are single as both sides become picky and selective (rather than just women).
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  995. 32:03 - Women are generally better at mental warfare than men. Divorce is a mental warfare game. 34:24 - Why women are generally better at mental warfare than men. (Chris Rock: women don't have a need to make sense) 39:30 - SIMPs will throw alpha's under the bus to get women. Low value SIMPs are ruthless.
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  996. I have heard divorce lawyers say a similar thing. Many women are not interested in the relationship. They are interested in what the the relationship can provide and do for them, e.g. kids, money, properties, etc. It is the main reason why women want marriage and also why women want divorce (i.e. the extraction of the money, kids and home from the husband).
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  997. For the algo. Great concluding thoughts at 8:45 . So true
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  998. These 304s are just awful. They don't make any sense, are illogical, delusional, and resort to the same old shaming tactics, e.g. he's controlling, he's insecure, he's got small D energy, etc. These 304s refuse to take the L. If you are old, masculine and ugly, you are recreational use only. It is that simple.
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  999.  @Kuk0san  Unfortunately, many men like to cheat with younger and more beautiful women (not older saggy women). Look at Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, OF/PHub/Dancing clubs mainly being used by married men. Beauty is extremely important to many, if not most, men.
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  1000.  @Katarzyna-h2z  Unfortunately, many men like to cheat with younger and more beautiful women (not older saggy women). Look at Bill Clinton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, OF/PHub/Dancing clubs mainly being used by married men. Beauty is extremely important to many, if not most, men.
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  1001.  @hurrikane1449  most men are simps. They are only going to move to the court house and legally marry these single moms (Chad's leftovers).
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  1002.  @LatimusChadimus  Facts. As they say, marriage causes divorce.
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  1003. Men falling behind in a conversation about whether men are falling behind in society 20:18 . Unbelievable. You couldn't make this up.
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  1004. Women get divorced because they get bored and don't need a man. They generally have a job and the backing of the family courts. Men get divorced because they are sick of their wives moaning and complaining about everything, all of the time. Modern women have very high expectations now they are educated, in high paying jobs, get a lot of attention online through social media, etc.
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  1005. If you look at billionaires like Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, Elon Musk, etc. The split is around 100 : 0. They are paying 100% for the house, nannies, chef, cleaners, etc and their wives are probably doing nothing. And even on a 100 : 0 split in favour of the wife these billionaires still get divorced. Bottom line is, no man is ever safe from divorce even on a 100 : 0 split. Wives will always find something to moan and complain about.
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  1006. I think if a woman marries a poor guy, has multiple kids, and has no childcare support from her parents, it is a huge trap (as you correctly say). However, if a woman marries a guy with a good job, has 1 kid, and has parents to help her with childcare, then I don't think divorce and being a single mom is a trap. If anything, it is likely to be a huge win for her, as she will probably get the money, house and kids on divorce. As someone else said, the same women moaning and complaining about kids, would probably be moaning and complaining about loneliness, boredom, emptiness, etc if they did not have a kid.
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  1007. Hollywood lied to us. The traditional lifelong 50 year marriage is a myth. These 304s are Jezebels and should be avoided at all costs. The Bible talks about the chaos these 304s brought to Samson, King Solomon, King David, etc. Us men will never listen as we are controlled by our lust.
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  1008. SIMPs will always SIMP. Its in their genetics. They are lower value and its there only mating strategy.
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  1009. I got married and divorced in the UK. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity. In reality I lost more than 70% once I consider the legal fees I spent and the money my ex-wife hid. Marriage is extremely risky for men. The divorce rate is around 40% - 50% and men are the overwhelming losers in divorce the majority of the time. Good luck to the 800k men in the USA and 100k men in the UK that get divorced every year. Karen the divorce judge is going to destroy you.
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  1010. She will get revenge in the child custody battle. She gonna punish him bad. But, at the moment, this is a very rare W for the men. Finally, city boys, we up.
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  1011.  @pwilliams4073  you have to settle her mind, body and soul. Otherwise, you will lose her to someone else.
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  1012. so true, when divorce lawyers are saying do not get married, what more do men need? some men need to be burned and go through the pain before they learn.
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  1013. Do not get married. I lost 70% of all my money, assets and house in my UK divorce. The judges are completely biased and will believe all her lies. Marriage is a completely one-sided contract and is all downside risk for the man. If you are a guy in 2023 and getting married, you need your head tested. Marriage will result in the husband losing his money, house and kids.
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  1014. brah, if he is a beta orbiter, he ain't getting any. Beta orbiters never break out of the friend zone (unless she hits the wall and plans on divorce graping him 5 years later).
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  1015. Men are intimidated (scared) to ask their future wife for a pre-nup because they are scared to lose the box and the future mother of their kids. s/o to Mooselocs. If you know, you know. Most guys are beta's and don't have the guts to lay down the law. These same weaklings then end up divorced graped because wives don't want to be with a weakling.
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  1016.  @newagain9964  nobody is saying you should go around talking about being a dominant alpha male. lol
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  1017.  @prim4681  I wonder what David Attenborough thinks about the falling marriage and birth rates.
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  1018.  @monkeyboyalcoholic  💯% facts. Women eventually get bored of the money of a high value man. They eventually want to divorce, take his resources, and return back to the excitement of Chad, Tyrone and Chadrone. 1 man will never satisfy a lifetime of hypergamy.
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  1019.  @kodeh7931  I'm an avoidant and my ex-wife was anxious. lol. I wish I knew all this psychology stuff before marriage.
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  1020. Any actual criticism or did you just have a generic bad feeling without any actual criticism?
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  1021. Red pill content started around 30 years ago with Dr Warren Farrell's book "The Myth of Male Power". Dr Robert Glover then published "No more Mr Nice Guy" 20 years ago. As long as there are things like false allegations (Johnny Depp, Trevor Bauer), guys getting screwed by unjust divorce court settlements, child custody battles, parental alienation, etc the red pill will continue to exist for many decades. Even the Bible complains about some women (Eve, Lilith, Delilah, Jezebels).
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  1022.  @andrelockridge9109  to be honest cohabitation isn't worth it. She will go through all of your stuff when you are not around. She will say something crazy and then take secret recordings of your responses. If she wants you out of your own property she will call the police and make a false allegations. You can't win.
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  1023. Too many broke dusty 304s who are not real women. I know my worth. If she can't handle me at my worst, she don't deserve me at my best. Drizzle Drizzle. #Soft guy era
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  1024.  @KD400_  whats up bro. FNF vs destiny RP debate today should be good. FNF and PsycHacks say pretty much the same thing.
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  1025.  @xcurrentbreeze6626  marriage and divorce are linked because once you get married the wife can apply for divorce anytime in the next 50+ years. Therefore if you think the divorce laws are unfair, that means marriage is unfair because the wife will have all the leverage in that marriage, as she can threaten the husband with divorce at any time. Therefore marriage is still the worst financial decision a man will probably ever make. This explains why marriage rates are declining and marriage rates are at an all time low.
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  1026. Juice isn't worth the squeeze because she is not your girl (it's just your turn). Too many of these 304s want financial investment (i.e. marriage without a pre-nup), biological investment (multiple kids for child support purposes), and emotional investment (so they can do what Delilah did to Samson). Protect yourself at all time, guys.
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  1027. Yup. Married people should behave like they are unmarried. It is the only way to keep the spark alive. Once you get boring and complacent, the relationship is at risk.
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  1028. Salute to @darius m. Protect this man at all costs.
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  1029. As others have said, do not bring her back to the West. If you bring her back to the West you are ultimately doomed long-term as she makes friends and get socialized by the mainstream media. You will lose what made her special. If you bring her back to the West, remember, "she is not your girl, it is just your turn".
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  1030. Now that she has hit the wall and run out of options, she suddenly thinks its a good idea to date single moms. lol. you couldnt make this shieettt up. where is fresh and fit when you need them. single moms dont want a man. they just want to be saved.
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  1031. God bless you MHD. Thank you for covering this. This old, gold-digging, cougar tried to finesse a young cub. Thank god his mother was there to protect him. In life, no one (not even your wife) will give a damn about you apart from your mother. W Moms. Kings, don't be the next divorce grape victim. City boys, don't lose your money, house and kids in divorce. Listen to MHD, do not get married. It is a trap the Government uses which punishes men.
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  1032.  @a.m928  fake news. you are completely wrong. the 60% figure comes from a tiny % of cases that go to full legal trial. The only cases that go to full trial are cases where the mother is addicted to substances, neglecting the child, suspected of crime, etc. The problem is, people like you don't understand the statistics you are reading. 95% of child support is paid by men because women get custody the vast majority of the time.
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  1033.  @tyronelorenzovalentio3414  I paid a one off lump sum of alimony (not monthly).
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  1034.  @tperk  do you what millions of people do, i.e. co-parenting. Either 50-50 custody or every other weekend for the dad. Simple.
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  1035. you want a "wife"? you need to escape your blue pill conditioning.
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  1036. Facts. The data shows women doesn't want the man. They want what the man can provide. They just want the kids, child support and anything else they can get their hands on, e.g. alimony, 50% of the assets, the house, etc.
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  1037.  @AliceinJapanaland  I never said every single women on the planet is obsessed with child support or jailing their ex. obviously, there will be examples where women don't go after child support for their own reasons, e.g. maybe the father didn't want the kid, maybe she tricked the father into having the kid by pretending she was on birth control, maybe she is trying to disappear and deny him parental access, etc etc. either way, something very strange that you are hiding is going on.
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  1038.  @rogerm3708  💯% facts. women don't want the man. they want the kids, child support and lifestyle to which they have become accustomed to. its the reason so many high value men get divorced after they have given the wife the house and kids (jeff bezos, elon musk, bill gates, tom brady, brad pitt, johnny depp, ruler of dubai, prince charles, arnold schwartzenegger, etc ).
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  1039. The trouble with the breakdown is that it is completely wrong. Men always have and always will need to apply to a women for a job. If the women accepts the man's proposal, she will pay him (give him physical intimacy). When the men/employee does not do his job, she will let him go (divorce). Women, like employers, have their inbox flooded with potential candidates. Only Chad and Tyrone have the ability to be employers and choose from a bunch of women.
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  1040. 1:39:37 💯% facts. I lost my money, house and kid in my UK divorce. The judge split the money and house equity 70 : 30 in favour of my wife despite her earning more and us only having 1 kid. Marriage has financially ruined me and probably been the worst mistake of my life. Good luck to everyone who is doing it or wants to do it.
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  1041. When male Gen Z get to age 40, having lose their money, house and kids in divorce, and needing to pay 18 years of alimony and child support, I am pretty sure they will change their mind. The problem with Gen Z men is that they lack experience and don't realize what is in store for them.
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  1042. The problem here is that women (the employer) are inundated with thousands of job applications from men/employees. As women are in the position of power and have executive control over the selection process, they will reject 99.9% of job applications. I think men (excluding Chad and Tyrone) are delusional if they think they have any kind of leverage or power in the modern dating marketplace.
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  1043. The problem with marriage is that it transfers all the power and leverage to the wife because she now has the power to take you to family court. It also involves biased unpredictable Judges who reward bad behaviour from the wife and will give her more money. I lost 70% of my money and assets in my UK divorce.
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  1044.  @ALForb  its a bit like any piece of advice, e.g. telling fat people to eat healthily, telling broke people to study and focus on getting promotions, etc. It is also valid to tell inexperienced guys that dating difficult, moany and complaining women is going to hugely back fire long term in divorce when she is trying to take all your money, your house and your kids away from you. You may be at a particular point in your life, where this message is no longer relevant to you. But for a lot of young inexperienced people who have no options and are in difficult relationships, this information could potentially be useful to them in terms of saving them long term pain and suffering.
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  1045.  @ALForb  non-trash people, for the most part, are fine unless they have actually had bad experiences in real life. In this case, you can't really blame the non-trash person for being cynical. The internet, for the most part, is unlikely to turn anyone cynical as most people have the "divorce will never happen to me" superiority attitude and can't relate to this type of content (which makes up a very tiny niche area of the internet). Most non-trash people do not think about relationships this deeply.
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  1046. I think you are still in red pill rage. These 304s want kids and resources. This is genetic and biological in nature. There is nothing you can do about it apart from picking a mentally stable 304 who will not try to take your money, house and kids. If you pick an unstable one, she will try to divorce grape you and leave you with nothing. This is just an uncomfortable truth you have to accept.
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  1047. There it is guys. The black pill is real. This guy is dropping facts about attraction and asking women what they want. It is nice to hear a PhD psych confirming a lot of what the red pill/black pill say about women not always being accurate with regards to what they want. I think this is something that deep down every man knows but it is very helpful to hear it in such a professional manner from a PhD.
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  1048.  @Promet17  the fact she can see other captains/boats/journeys/women on IG is a game changer. It causes a huge amount of unhappiness in a marriage because she begins to think she made the wrong choice, her friends are having a better life, she has ruined her life, you have lied to her because you didn't live up to her expectations, etc. Because of things like IG/Tiktok I don't think marriage is a good idea in 2023.
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  1049.  @Eric-kn4yn  we all know Karen the divorce judge is just going to assume the dad is a dead beat and is hiding income. Therefore Karen is going to jump to conclusions and punish the father without evidence. Miscarriages of justice in family court happen against men all the time.
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  1050. Which ex-wife?
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  1051. 1:00:00 easier said than done. I lost 70% of my money and assets, including my house, in my UK divorce. This was to a wife who earned more than me and we only had 1 kid. When you experience this level of injustice and theft at the hands of a feminist judge it is traumatizing.
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  1052. Good luck if you ever get divorced. Karen the divorce judge can be brutal when it comes to alimony, child support, the house, custody, legal fees, etc. I lost 70% of everything in my UK divorce.
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  1053. Do you have an actual criticism or do you have just a general bad feeling without any criticisms?
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  1054. Facts. Family court means it will continue for thousands of years. Bible has been dropping red pills about Eve, Lilith, Delilahs and Jezebels for thousands of years previously.
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  1055.  @sammakwela  lets say you are 30 years old. YOU are going to go extinct in the next 50 years. why are you worrying about 8 billion humans who are going to increase to 9 billion and maybe 10 billion by 2100?
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  1056.  @pureprairie1  great idea. hopefully that stops the 50% divorce rate and increases the average length of a marriage.
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  1057.  @justinAclark2075  a leopard can't change his spots. men can act and pretend not be be beta but the act will only last for so long. sooner or later the beta will slip back into his normal beta ways.
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  1058. In other words, stop complaining from the comments section and get to work.
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  1059. a man will sacrifice is his life for his family. a woman will sacrifice her family for her life. woman have a tremendous need for excitement, novelty and new men. it is probably a genetic thing to ensure genetic diversity, and acquisition of new knowledge and resources. human's are probably serially monogamous species (maybe with some polygamous overlap as they "monkey branch" from one relationship to another).
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  1060. Try telling that to a horny guy in his 20's.
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  1061. More and more judges are now female. I think Steven Crowder's divorce judge is female. This is going to increasingly become the case as more and more college educated law students become women.
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  1062.  @NyakzOTSD  the pre-nup did stipulate that everyone pays their own legal fees but only in the case of a contested divorce. the problem Tyrese had was the adjudicator said their divorce was not contested and so Tyrese should pay for everyone's legal fees. Tyrese is currently getting drilled into the ground by Sam on legal fees and child support. her child support of 20k/month is so high it is essentially alimony. He now has an epic financial burden of over 1 million in legal fees, and 20k/month in child support which the judge increased to epic proportions to get round the pre-nup which said no alimony.
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  1063. 39:49 - Justin Waller is the elder statesmen of the red pill (RIP Rollo) 43:15 - s/o Fresh and Fit podcast
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  1064.  @mrmo4059  The divorce rates in multiple countries in the West are around 50% and the marriage rates are also falling in these same countries. Marriage, if the rates keep declining, will eventually go extinct. We are getting to a situation where in the future the only men who will marry will be the religious, the stupid, or the delusional low attractive men, who hope marriage will be enough to lock her down.
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  1065. A lot of men's suffering is actually self inflicted. Unfortunately some men are delusional, emotional and have a scarcity mindset. They believe they are trash, and consequently they believe they are only worthy of a trash partner and should be grateful. Long term, marriage and kids will only make a trash relationship a million times worse.
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  1066. Mark was very happy and grateful to have Dr Taraban on his channel. Mark said he expected the PsycHacks channel to become "the hottest youtube channel in the world". If anything, Mark came to Dr Taraban for direction (not the other way around). Also, the childish remark about "sad little man" just makes you look like a "sad little man".
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  1067. I am about 3 videos in and I can tell you as a divorced guy that this PhD is dropping a lot of facts. The thing about wives being bored and the thing about men needing to work hard/sacrifice and put themselves in the adored position are 100% true. He has also done some excellent videos on why it is terrible financial advice to invest all your money in 1 risky stock/wife and relationships are the prize for men but relationships are just a means to an end for women (they really want kids, resources, properties, luxury lifestyle, etc).
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  1068. RIP Thirsty ninjas. Most guys can't resist a siren's call. But she will make you pay in divorce court when she takes the money, house, and kids. You have been warned.
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  1069.  @eladbari  I can see why you are saying, what you are saying. But I think the C19 deniers are a very small % or just a very few high profile red pill'ers. I'm vaccinated and I would also consider myself red pill as well after going through a hellish divorce where I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity. It is very unfortunate that C19 deniers and red pill is being conflated. C19 denial and red pill are two completely different things. Red pill is just about human psychology, human behaviour, evolutionary biology/genetics as applied to mate attraction, mate selection, divorce, child custody, child support, alimony, etc.
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  1070.  @kimsmith7212  some people do worry about 30 as they see life as some sort of race. I actually meant get a pre-nup.
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  1071.  @BRIANDER100  the biggest part of vetting is getting an iron-clad pre-nup. telling her you lost your job won't help you in divorce court. karen the divorce judge will just impute income and still destroy you without a pre-nup. you should know someone for around 5 years before marrying them and walk away as soon as you see any red flags.
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  1072. Men generally want a physically intimate relationship and provide their seed and money in return. Women generally want babies and financial security, and provide access to a physically intimate relationship in return. However, in 2023, due to divorce laws, the cost of a man providing his seed, diamond ring, financial security, etc is way too costly and is no longer worth the physically intimate relationship (especially when you consider that P Hub is free and OF is only 9.99/month). Hence the falling marriage and birth rates, which are now hitting all time lows.
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  1073.  @Jovian_Nights  Awful argument. The exception does not make the rule.
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  1074.  @mattr2325  And if she is fired, she gets a nice severance package, including, but not limited to, 50% of the assets, the house, alimony, child support, legal fees paid, and custody of the kids.
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  1075.  @SnlDrako  divorce rates are only 50% so some women are mentally and emotionally stable.
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  1076.  @verb0ze  no. you are assuming that. if you educate yourself, you will realize the number of single and childless women keeps going up every year.
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  1077.  @charlottegyseman5667  Orion has a video on "The way it ALL ENDS". In this video he states that around 66% of women will lower their standards before the house burns down (i.e. they will settle for a beta male before they lose their beauty and fertility) and 33% of women will go down the single and childless route. Of the 33% of women who go down the single and childless route, only 10% of those women actually wanted to be single and childless (meaning around 97% of women want to be married with kids). Furthermore, depression medication tends to be used in high rates in older. single and childless women. Ultimately, there are no solutions, only trade offs. Have kids with a beta male in a low grade relationship vs end up single and childless. Neither are perfect end games for women in general but both can have their advantages too.
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  1078. 💯% facts. Most women do not have the emotional stability, calmness, patience and tolerance to endure a monotonous and boring 50 year marriage. Women and marriage are antithetical. Women crave excitement, thrills, spills, drama and chaos. Marriage is the complete opposite to this. It doesn't make sense for a women to stay married once she has the diamond wedding ring, house and kids.
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  1079. Bible has been dropping red pills about Eve, Lilith, Delilah, and Jezebels for thousands of years.
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  1080. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in my UK divorce. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing I have ever done. She lives in a house while I live in a room.
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  1081. 💯% facts. A man would be crazy to get married. The divorce courts and judges take control of your money, house and kids and transfer it to the ex-wife. I don't think I could attend my son's wedding if he decided to get married in the future. The courts and judges are out of control.
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  1082. 💯% . A lot of these low value men who get the girl and are so excited to marry her will lose their money, house and kids. Congratulations low value men, you just played yourself.
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  1083. @@user-bb2em1ms5y you need a messy divorce where you lose your house + child custody battle + 18 years of monthly child support. that will wake you up.
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  1084.  @onaolapolawal4952  BioSocioPsycoFinancial value.
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  1085.  @smokingcrab2290  desire precedes care
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  1086. W MYRON. W FNF. Dont not get married.
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  1087. +1 that would be a pretty epic discussion.
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  1088. The marriage is never seggs less, she is just redirecting it to Chad and Tyrone. There is always another bull in the ring.
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  1089.  @yupindeed5422  nobody cares about you and your individual situation. The exception does not make the rule. I am making a species wide remark. In order for a species to continue at least one, if not both, of the potential parents needs to have a strong drive and urge to mate. It is basic biology. If no one has a strong drive to mate the species will undergo a population collapse like we see with Pandas.
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  1090.  @panos7256  It doesn't matter if survival has been solved in 2024. We still have survival genes and other evolutionary hangovers from previous times.
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  1091. Dual mating strategy. She chases Alpha Chad and his genetics in her 20s. She then chases Beta Brian and his resources in her 30s. She will then take Beta Brian's money, house and kids in her 40s through divorce.
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  1092.  @jujujouet7944  "Most men I know would never respect a lady who jumped into bed at the first opportunity." The problem here is you have heard what maybe 10 - 20 men have told you to look good in front of you, and not suffer the backlash of you calling them a "dog". It is difficult to tell someone the truth if they are worried you are going to judge them. Dr Taraban is going based on what 1,000 - 2,000 confidential patient consultations and the large-scale peer-reviewed research is telling him. The difference here is between a non-expert opinion versus a board-licensed doctorate-level psychologist's opinion.
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  1093. Wives generally see their husbands as wallets (especially in divorce). And they extract money from the husband in exchange for physical intimacy.
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  1094. Based. "Broke" is just a manipulation tactic to see if there are any simps or suckers who will take the bait.
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  1095.  markpark4028  I read a comment somewhere and it said "never under estimate the ability of a wife to rationalize her bad behaviour in such a way that she sees herself as the blameless victim". This is a comment that really struck a chord with me after being involved in a messy divorce that was full of lies from her side and that ended up costing me 70% of all my money, assets and home equity. I would argue that "her god" is money. Wives want to maximize the financial settlement on divorce even if they have to throw their honour and integrity to one side. Their ability to wage mental warfare for the purposes of money is second to none.
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  1096. The women have become "intolerable" because they now have delusional high standards. They have delusional high standards because they now have high paying jobs and the backing of the family courts if something goes wrong it the marriage. Marriage in 2023 is a fool's errand. Society and expectations surrounding marriage has completely changed.
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  1097.  @LebbMangenaShow  my parents and grandparents have not divorced. the same is true on my ex-wife's side. the advantage they had is that the wife did not work and therefore had to stay with the husband in order to survive (regardless of how bad the marriage became). however, in 2023, wives don't need to stay with their husband because they have their own jobs plus the backing of the family court system plus the backing of their friends. you cannot compare my parents/grand parents marriages to millennial / Gen Z marriage. the dynamics and traditions are completely different due to women's empowerment. also, another point worth mentioning is that most millennials and Gen Z are not marriage material. They don't have the calmness, patience, tolerance and mental stability to survive in a monotonous and long term 50 year marriage.
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  1098. Women in their 20s put in effort and get used by Chad and Tyrone in order to secure their commitment. However when they are in their 30s they get tired of being used and settle for the commitment that beta male simps give out for free. Its essentially a dual mating strategy. Work hard to get Chad or Tyrone's superior genetics, or take the easy route and settle for the beta male simp's commitment but end up with inferior genetics.
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  1099. RIP Eastern European passport bro's. Eastern Europe has fallen too. They are just as delusional as the rest of us. A lot of the problems between men and women is actually genetic. If we kept relationships as short term we wouldn't have all these problems. Thank god marriage and birth rates are falling.
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  1100. Marriage is an absolutely crazy idea for men in 2022. Divorce judges are incredibly unfair and throw the husband under the bus in order to ensure the best possible standard of living for the ex-wife and children. Expect to lose circa 60% - 70% of your money, savings, pensions, income, home and assets in divorce. Its incredible that no one talks about the fact a man will be lucky to get around 30% - 40% on divorce. MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Wallets.
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  1101.  @inconnu4961  Emotions. People have too much time to dwell on their emotions these days. 1,000 years ago we were too busy running away from predators or finding food to worry about emotional trauma.
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  1102.  @JPs-q1o  no. no cheating. cheating doesn't make a difference in the UK anyway.
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  1103.  @MotorheadForever92  so what if I appear bitter? what is the problem with that?
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  1104.  @samclaflin411  No one wants to hear about your hobbies.
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  1105.  @samclaflin411  Keep your hobbies private. You told on yourself.
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  1106. do not get in a long term relationship with a single mother. you will never be her main priority. her kids, her IG, her money, her friends, her tinder, her dog, her OF, chad/tyrone, etc will always be more important than you. she is just using you for attention and validation, and she will throw you back to the streets if you cannot save her from her life.
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  1107. He never said all 4 billion women on the planet want money. Did you even listen to the interview? How on earth could you survey all 4 billon women on the planet for their opinions?
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  1108.  @tiffanyapril5458  he never explained how to manipulate women. It appears you have completely misunderstood what he is saying.
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  1109. I have said it before and I will say it again. These women DON'T actually want a man. They want what a man can PROVIDE, e.g. babies, money, house, etc. This is the main reason why women want marriage and it is also the main reason why women want divorce. In marriage, the husband will give the wife the money, house and kids. In divorce, Karen the divorce judge will give the wife the money, house and kids.
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  1110.  @dvergel87  why do you care if your name lives on? You will be in the ground. You won't be around to see it live on. Your name means nothing. You will be forgotten in the same way all your ancestors have been forgotten.
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  1111.  @ThorMaximus  wrong. leverage is to do with who is more desperately pursuing. in this case, women want men to desperately pursue. so they want to hold all the cards.
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  1112. 8:20 lucky he didn't do the adoption, that single mom was just trying to get child support. gentlemen, never take a single mom seriously. they are not looking for love. they are just looking to be saved.
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  1113. Even if men could afford 70 : 30, 70 : 30 still wouldn't be enough. Billionaires (Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, Bill Gates) and millionaire Chads (Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Tom Brady) get divorced all the time. You can't win in marriage as a man. The wife will always find something to moan, complain and hen peck you about.
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  1114. Why is "giving it up" seen as disrespecting herself. You seem to have a totally warped idea of physically intimacy.
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  1115. Why? What is wrong with what he said? Childish remarks make you look ................... well, childish.
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  1116. Women generally don't disrespect people they actually like/need, e.g. their employer or a good looking chad or tyrone. That is because they don't want to risk upsetting them because they genuinely need/like them. Women only disrespect men who don't deserve that woman's time and attention. The disrespect is a punishment to force the man to do better.
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  1117.  @Marie-pw6zh  maybe because its obvious disrespecting anyone is wrong. i think the reason why he is talking from a male perspective is because he only deals with male patients.
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  1118. Optionality won't save you if you are married. If you are married you can't go anywhere without extremely high exit costs such as losing 50%+ of your assets, losing legal fees, losing alimony, losing child support, losing your kids, losing your house, etc. If hiring = marriage, do not hire at all.
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  1119. I lost 70% of my money and home equity in my UK divorce despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 kid. Getting marriage is just not worth the risk. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. Marriage is probably the most financially reckless thing a man could do. If you get married don't be surprised if you end up homeless, lonely and broke.
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  1120.  @AsurmenHandOfAsur  facts bro. it's the only way to get the divorce laws changed to something fairer
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  1121.  @talmadgeholloway2734  men need to protect themselves at all times. marriage is not worth the risk of losing your money, house and kids.
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  1122. "romance" has always been around. you can even see it in chimpanzees, e.g. male chimpanzees giving random females meat from a successful hunt. it doesn't sound massively romantic, but it is a big gesture given that meat is a scare and expensive resource (similar to a diamond ring today).
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  1123. married people have to act unmarried to create instability (because they created too much stability through marriage). make it make sense. just don't get married.
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  1124. Congratulations. Well deserved. You are very brave. Some of the stuff that you talk about, although its scientific and evidence-caused, can cause certain people to become upset. But you keep uploading like clockwork every Mondays and Fridays.
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  1125. I couldn't agree more. I have only watched 2 videos but already I can tell this guy is operating on a different level. What he said about the relationship being the prize for a man, but being just an means to an end for a woman (because they actually want things like kids, resources, luxury lifestyle for IG, etc) is so true. And the bit about investing in 1 risky stock/wife is terrible financial advice was another gem. This guy should be on a million subs.
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  1126.  @youtube_deletes_comments  stop acting like a basement dweller covered in cheetos. Muscular and fit are essentially equivalent. Women are not looking for Phil Heath or C Bum. Money and Feminine/Friendly are essentially equivalent. Lots of men are lazy when it comes to money while lots of women tend to suffer with more mental health disease and often require the services of mental health professionals. Try to go out and touch grass.
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  1127.  @ws-ss8ks  Modern society seems very anti-relationship. 4B Movement. Gender wars. Divorce in order to protect kids from parental arguments. Divorce being normalized and celebrated. I disagree with your comment regarding muscular and macho. No woman has a problem with Chad being muscular and macho.
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  1128. Gynocentric social order. The world is run by simps, beta males, and 304s. It is what it is.
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  1129. I think you are taking subordination too literally. He doesn't literally mean the man is the employer and the woman is the employee. It is just an example or analogy. You are reading way too much into it. He has just trying his best to explain disrespect.
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  1130.  @danielleseymour3505  do feminists point out problematic female behaviour? no, that is not their job. did he talk about male disrespect towards women? no, he wasn't asked about it. i didn't hear anything about men manipulating women during this talk. if anything, he was talking about how women could manipulate men using physical intimacy and not being disrespectful.
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  1131. 💯% facts. Marriage is like a business, and the family courts / judges / lawyers are like the blood sucking administrators and liquidators coming in to pay out the money, assets, house and kids to the wife.
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  1132. Women want marriage, but they also want divorce. Make it, make sense.
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  1133. If we assume there are women who will ruin your life in divorce/child custody, and quality women. You never really know which type of women you are married to. Even people like Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos are getting divorced after 20+ years of marriage because people change. The whole thing is a complete and utter gamble, and there's no way to get around this. Do not get married.
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  1134.  @nandhakishor103  disagree. If that person has any of the above issues, they will end the relationship with you and take your money, house and kids in divorce. Just avoid ABCDEF people in the first place.
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  1135.  @ayeshamartin_868  stop being triggered. it is irrelevant whose fault it is. its just a fact the fatherless children have a greater chance of ending up on the streets or in jail.
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  1136.  @justinmiller5130  Your friends are low value if they are settling for red flags.
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  1137. Wrong. SIMP epidemic or SIMPedemic is real. There's always a weak beta SIMP ready to wife up a masculine 304.
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  1138.  @ArizonaVideo99  he must be a chad or tyrone. he must be laying pipe.
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  1139. Anyone who has ever been involved in a divorce or child custody battle knows full well that males and females complete with each other. Even establishing the terms/prenup of the relationship is a competition, males generally want fewer children and outside of marriage, whereas as females generally want more children within a marriage. The point being males are generally trying to avoid getting destroyed by the the family court system, whereas the females are looking for the maximum financial security from the family court system. Around 80% of females go onto have kids (average number = 1.2 kids), whereas only 60% of men go onto have kids (with an average number = 0.8 kids). Also, most child births are to unmarried couples as marriage rates continue to fall.
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  1140. s/o to the rational male
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  1141. hahahaha "ahhhh, breathe taylor, everything will be fine.....". this 304 at 8 minutes is going to divorce her future husband and ruin his life. she is soooo masculine. she was just talking rubbish. a pre-nup does not stop her owning property. "he's still not smart enough to realize that even with a pre-nup he will get screwed over" FACTSSSSSSSSSSSSS. Do not get married. MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Wallets.
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  1142. These 304s are obsessed with attention. Its crazy. Why wear such revealing clothes and then complain they are getting glances. She is going out of her way to glance at men to see whether they are glancing back. The hypocrisy.
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  1143.  @apriljohnson1067  +1 . Finally, someone who gets it.
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  1144. Thank you Jorge for KO'ing Ben Askren, being super necessary, the 3 piece and a soda, and all those back garden brawls. s/o to the 305 where all the 304s be.
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  1145.  @Khan-rz8qi  RIP beta male provider husbands. Your wife really wants Chad and Tyrone but could never lock them down despite her "best efforts" (swallow, etc).
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  1146. @@user-us4qc5zt3n Chad and Tyrone are on the right path. Get the physical intimacy upfront, and then a few months later get out of the relationship. There's no need staying in the relationship and letting her continually extracting value from you. Marriage is a complete disaster for men from a value extraction point of view.
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  1147.  @大きな魚-g8b  men and women both love opportunistically. men love opportunistically to get physical intimacy. women love opportunistically to get resources and good genetics (e.g. chad / tyrone). relationships are just a value exchange. men would not invest into relationships if they got nothing back. i agree with you that the concept of lifelong wife, soulmate, etc are very unlikely in 2023 for most millennials and Gen Z. relationships work best short term. women like short term relationships hence the reason they file for divorce and initiate break ups.
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  1148. Women are not going to settle down in their 20's. They would be the black sheep and be an outcast within their friendship group if they did this. There's too much social risk. Women generally want to travel, find themselves, have fun, thrills, spills, careers, and meet Chad and Tyrone in their 20's. They want it all.
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  1149. Some women will never be happy. They will always find someone to moan and complain about. Some women are just not long term relationship material. All the love, affection and resources in the world will still not be enough. They will somehow find a way to play the victim.
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  1150. Factsss! We have to stick together guys. We need to stand on this. No more marriage (which means no more unjust divorces).
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  1151. Hold the line guys. Don't engage in the chaos and disruption. Attention is their oxygen.
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  1152. So, in theory, as the marriage rates and birth rates continue to decline, so will midlife crises, because men get to enjoy their lives without an argumentative, bossy, combative and disagreeable wives, and ungrateful kids.
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  1153. MHD spitting facts from 1 minute and 45 seconds. Never bring them back to the West. They will end up being corrupted and file for divorce and destroy you financially. Guy spitting facts from 2 minutes and 40 seconds. Men get ruined in divorce court. I lost 70%.
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  1154.  @goodyeoman4534  smart man. I wish I knew all of this 10 years ago.
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  1155.  @SuperStella1111  I do raise my son. The only problem is the courts only gave me permission to see my son every other weekend unfortunately. I only have 1 child.
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  1156. they do but its not as fun as the real thing
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  1157. Simps will never hold the line. But ultimately they will end up losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later. So ultimately simps lose long term.
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  1158. Juice isn't worth the squeeze at this point. I think people just need to accept, its not your spouse, its just your turn. Humans are a serially monogamous species. Its normal to move in and out of relationships, including marriages, at this point.
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  1159. I lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity in my UK divorce despite my wife earning more and us only having 1 child. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing I've ever done. It's legalized theft. Once you get married, you lose all power over your money, assets, home and child (who ends up being used as leverage).
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  1160. "Biology hasn't kept up with society". The entitlement of these 304s is out of control. Why on Earth should biology keep up with these 304s? Send the asteroid. Even the doctors are delusional.
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  1161. You will probably need to test her to see if she is a submissive high value woman. For example, if you disappoint her by saying "no" to something and she goes crazy she is obviously a low value masculine 304. Or if you go on a tough holiday (e.g. 3rd world country with no AC) and she moans and complains all the time she is obviously a low value masculine 304. If she freaks out with splitting the check 50-50 on the first date she is probably a gold digger. Only pay for your submissive girlfriend not a random 304.
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  1162.  @Re3iRtH  it was a short marriage. England, United Kingdom (UK)
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  1163.  @Re3iRtH  in the UK, once there are kids involved she can get 100% after 1 year. however it normally ends up 70 : 30 for average people or 50 : 50 if they are millionaires.
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  1164. In conclusion, oil is the problem. Definitely going to start avoiding fried food now.
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  1165. @Red Baron I don't mind being on the lowest level as my divorce also involved a child. However judges just go to extreme % splits and don't take into account lies, hidden assets and future circumstances if this means the % split will be smaller for the ex-wife.
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  1166.  @danwelterweight4137  100%. I will never be one of these guys that end up getting divorced 2 or 3 times.
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  1167. Send the asteroid
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  1168.  @Bob-v8h  lost 70% of my money and assets, including my house, she got primary custody. I'm only allowed to see my son every other weekend. and got another 10+ years of child support.
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  1169.  @youtubefans510  💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯. anyone can act fake when happy.
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  1170.  @canelareina3795  I think its a genetic thing. Low value beta males will never be able to wear the pants because they have no leverage. Low value beta's (e.g. a slug) have no hiss. You have to be a high value alpha (i.e. a cobra) to have a hiss and get respect. Being a cobra vs being a slug is a genetic thing.
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  1171.  @themick6586  facts. The marriage game is rigged. Do not play it. Don't be another divorce grape volunteer. There are no victims, only volunteers.
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  1172.  @JRed41  in other words, don't get married. its easier for men for to NOT FEAR separation and re-build quicker if they are not married. It is easier for women to fear LOSING him if they are not married. thank you for making my point.
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  1173.  @danrowe79  Yes. Marriage is so financially dangerous that you need a pre-nup to make it safe. Although I am from the UK and here there are no pre-nup laws so Judges can reject them, especially if kids are involved or the wife has no job.
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  1174.  @NextGenRenaissance  good luck with that attitude when you lose your money, house and kids in divorce.
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  1175. 2:18 guy who had to approach 676 women to get over his anxiety. I wonder if any of those 676 women resulted in a long term relationship or if it was all just rejections and failed relationships. I think a better strategy would be to chase excellence and wait for the women to come. If the women don't come, at least you still have the excellence.
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  1176. bro. if the judge is a f3minist, it doesn't matter about the lawyers. the judge will just throw the husband under the bus. judges normally make wrong decisions, hence the appeals process.
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  1177. This is pretty much the fresh and fit podcast in a PhD nutshell.
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  1178. I am from the UK and been involved in UK family court. My case was decided by a single judge (female). I ended up losing 70% of my money, assets, and home equity to my ex-wife. The UK courts are completely unreliable because the judges are very biased. The outcome of a UK court case is a complete lottery and depends on the that particular judge's philosophy and opinions. The facts of the case are largely irrelevant.
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  1179. Huge fact at 11 minutes and 50 seconds. These irritating things that 304s do will ruin your life because if you marry her, your stuck with her for life.
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  1180. Manosphere highlihts spitting facts from 7 minutes and 30 seconds. No one ever stands up for men when they get thrown under the bus with paternity fraud, losing all their money on divorce, losing all their real estate/property on divorce, losing their kids on divorce, having to pay the ex-wife and pookie alimony/maintenance each month after divorce. Why are these 304s interests always protected?
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  1181. head shot, bang. i think kamaru got this unless edwards has a big moment. this will be similar to the tyson fury vs wilder fights. wilder always had a chance, but tyson ultimately won.
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  1182. All men pay. But Chad and Tyrone get the biggest discount (same night lay) and get to be their toxic selves. Beta providers have to pay the most (marriage and getting used to being the emotional tampon) and have to keep up an act. Congratulations, beta providers, you played yourself. You are going to learn the cost of marriage in divorce court.
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  1183. Respectfully disagree, once a 304 enters the West she will realize the favourable divorce rules in the West and her (and Pookie) will take the guy to Family Court and drain the guy on divorce. The blue pill judge will support the 304 as she is not in her country and she will therefore be seen as vulnerable. The guy will lose most of his assets (say 70%) plus have to pay alimony/maintenance. Worst case scenario, she will take the kid to her own birth country and you will never see your kids again.
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  1184. Women long term want financial security (i.e. marriage) and kids. They don't necessarily want the husband long term. This is even more true when women are settling for beta males rather than Chad or Tyrone (who they still pine for, i.e. alpha widow). Most low value beta's will offer marriage because they have nothing else to offer. However long term this works out badly for the low value beta who loses his money, house and kids in divorce.
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  1185.  @JediDarkForce  only if you cohabitate
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  1186. "Record number of Women are DIVORCE MATERIAL AND WILL DESTROY YOU FINANCIALLY" - fixed the title.
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  1187.  @b1121  facts. 💯. marriage has zero benefits for men
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  1188. The problem is. Most men going into marriage think divorce will never happen to them during the next 50 years and most men think the divorce courts/judges are fair. Big mistake. As a man, you will be the last consideration in a divorce and as a result you will get absolutely screwed over. Do not get married and do not co-habitat. I lost 70% in my divorce.
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  1189.  @janetomes  suffer from what?
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  1190.  @miahconnell23  you don't understand the video. The video and my comments are about depression not clinical depression.
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  1191. damn bro. love your content. the 2nd girl was essentially showing the concept of social proof. she felt like she had won the high value prize.
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  1192. Once again, Darius M spitting facts. There everywhere. White. Black. Brown. And any other colour. Divorce is a pandemic at this point.
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  1193. 100% facts, myron from fresh and fit, went global when he said "punish bad behaviour". Orion says the same stuff but in a less viral way.
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  1194.  @richardy2071  for most divorces "treated badly" or "irreconcilable differences" is normally where one partner spends all their time working and the wife feels neglected and bored. However feelings and emotions are very important for the wife (equivalent to cheating for men) so they file for divorce. This explains why lesbians have the highest divorce rates.
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  1195. Men are in love. Women are in business. Do not get married. I lost 70% of my money and house in my UK divorce.
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  1196. Marriage is a form of ownership. She owns you until the family courts spit you out (or whatever is left of you). The family court judges approve of all of this chaos.
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  1197. This guy is spitting facts from 6 minutes and 15 seconds. Most judges are blue pill (almost none are red pill) and they will throw the husband under the bus in order to ensure the best possible standard of living for the wife/kids. The husband may not even get access to his kids depending on how ruthless the ex-wife is being.
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  1198. Men need women less because of OF/PHub/Moonlight Bunny Ranch. Women need men less because of IG for attention and their jobs for money. Consequently women (being the primary selectors/gatekeepers) have increased their standards. Hence lower marriage and birth rates.
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  1199. The obsession girl doesn't know what she wants. She will complain to the police about harassment if any guy starts to be obsessed with her. Modern day 304s should be avoided at all costs.
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  1200. Alpha Chad vs Beta Brian. Alpha Chad does nothing and gets everything he wants from her. Beta Brian does everything for her but gets nothing back apart from divorce papers and child custody battle. RIP Placeholder Husbands. Wives are just looking to extract value from you. Men are in love while women are in business. Men value love while women love value.
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  1201.  @BlackKnight-x4c  you make good points. to be honest, I don't think I am relationship material and, for me personally, the risk/reward isn't worth it. the juice isn't worth the squeeze. i would prefer to dedicate my time to my work and son.
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  1202.  @nannuky1128  most women don't chose ugly men with bad emotional support skills. women are in the position of selector when it comes to relationships. women get what they pick. women pick who they want, men get whoever picks them.
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  1203.  @duncan18663  very strange way to look at things given historically the HUSBAND is at WORK and it is actually the WIFE who spends her time with the KIDS. SHE had the kids for HERSELF. Also, SHE can't have kids without the HUSBAND .
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  1204.  @cevanille1104  there's a 50% chance you will end up divorced too. and a 70% chance you will initiate it.
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  1205. How much older are we talking? Single mom? GILF?
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  1206.  @lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559  water is wet. obviously marriage with the right person is great. the problem most people have is finding and predicting the right person to be with for the next 50 years.
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  1207.  @Crukren89  A piece of paper is not a "rooted tie". People file for divorce all the time. In the UK there are around 100k divorces per year despite their only being 200k marriages (or 85k marriages in 2020) per year. Your comments about "rooted ties" is not based in reality. As for the 50% that do not get divorced, many of them are in unhappy marriages. Scientists like Dr David Buss have shown humans are not like a life-long pair bonding species of bird. Instead, we are more similar to other great apes that mate switch and move in and out of relationships when we seek different things at different times of our life (hence divorce). Marriage is artificially confining, harmful and it is great news that it is finally going extinct, e.g. in the UK there were 400k marriages per year in the 1970's, which has dropped to 200k marriages per year in 2019 and now 85k in 2020. People are finally waking up to the fact that only lawyers win when 2 people marry. This is a moment for celebration. If people still want to marry, fair enough, but there should at least be an iron-clad pre-nup.
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  1208.  @Crukren89  How can you expect kids/sons of the 1990's to 30 years later in 2023 to want to marry and have kids when they saw their fathers get destroyed in divorce court and child custody battles? The reason why marriage and birth rates keep falling is because these kids/sons eventually grow up and don't want to get destroyed in family court like their fathers. It is not going to be possible to reverse falling marriage and birth rates because divorce is a social virus that is spreading. You can moan and complain all you want, but at the end of the day, humans are generally going to make decisions that are in their self interests, and marriage is a cost-inflicting decision due to divorce laws, child custody laws, legal fees, etc.
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  1209. Chris on the Fresh and Fit podcast says this all the time.
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  1210. Its crazy how these divorce wives end up bitter! They are the ones who trigger divorce, they are the ones who get the money, house and kids. What more do they want? As a man, you can't win in 2023. If you go to work and pay the bills, the wife will moan and complain and say you don't do the house work. If you do the house work, your wife will moan and complain and say you do not get enough promotions at work. If she financially destroys you in divorce, she will complain that you have moved on with your live. Send the asteroid.
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  1211. Unfortunately, this is how most wives see marriage. They want a high earner, they want multiple holidays per year, they want photos to boast on social media, they want a psychologist/therapist, they want a spiritual leader, they want a cheerleader, etc etc. They constantly want something out of the husband and make the transaction completely unequal.
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  1212. This Russian lady is so right and so spot on. 304's complain way too much and boss men around way too much. Never marry a masculine 304. It will be the biggest mistake of your life as a man.
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  1213. What type of % splits do you see in equitable distribution cases? I lost 70% in my UK divorce.
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  1214.  @seuratguy  seems very reasonable. I wish the UK had the same system.
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  1215. Marriage is not a healthy and secure environment. Around 50% of marriages end in divorce/unhappiness. Marriage is so financially dangerous people have to make it safe by getting a pre-nup. Fortunately, marriage rates are falling so fewer people will have to suffer.
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  1216. Some women want their partner to be their everything, e.g. lover, therapist, financier, friend, cheer leader, spiritual leader, events organizer, etc. If you are not her everything for the next 50 years of your marriage, expect her to punish you in divorce court because you have let her down, used her best years and because she "could have done so much better than you".
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  1217. This is actually a great video. A lot of guys think all women are perfect Angels sent from heaven. And then get the shock to the system when they are fighting for their life in divorce court. Some women are a bit like baby tigers. They can turn out to be ferocious if you are not careful.
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  1218. RIP Normies. W Chads.
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  1219. Damn. She rob him of his money and sperm. Now she has thrown him to the side, now she got everything. He's a beta provider cuck. I wonder if the kids are even his?
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  1220. 8 minutes 20 seconds. This old 304 is an alpha widow. She has 6 old boyfriends/Chads that she is waiting on. She is damaged goods. 304's always have guys on the waiting list they are ready to move onto. Absolutely ruthless. MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Wallets.
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  1221. From what I can see the first 1.5 minutes is problems with the red pill, and the last 9 minutes is problems with feminism/Esther, e.g. masculine women, two equal leaders, 304s, etc. Zuby made a couple of great points: 1. two equal leaders clashing- this will be particularly true over a 50 year marriage (assuming the marriage lasts that long), and 2. age of Esther, i.e. as you gain 10 years of experience of actually being married and actually having kids, your thoughts and opinions will be completely different, especially if you end up divorced, etc. I think Esther made an interesting point about men not liking women, i.e. men may not even be psychologically/emotionally capable of fully understanding a women in the specific way that she wants to be loved and understood.
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  1222. FACTS. and simps are more than happy to provide this drug to 304s
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  1223.  @lanji7946  if the game is rigged, the only option is to not play. or find a new game to play. W passport bros.
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  1224. Never marry someone who is emotionally fused. The marriage is unsustainable and will result in a high conflict divorce. Emotional detachment is very important in a high conflict marriage and divorce. Marriage and divorce takes a lot out of you and emotional detachment will give you the stamina to proceed.
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  1225. Love this topic. It resonates so much. The answer seems pretty much spot on. As Kevin Samuels used to say, accountability is like kryptonite to some women. Some just physically can't do it. It is never their fault. As Coach Greg Adams says: It's all Jermaine's fault. It's always Jermaine's fault.
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  1226. When I got divorced, it became very obvious my ex-wife had been preparing / taking pre-cautionary steps in case of divorce for a few years as all her money had disappeared. I completely agree with PsycHacks at 2:58 , a relationship never just ends, there's always some planning that's happening behind the scenes. It is great that a lot of these previously unknown truths are being exposed and coming to the surface, as guys in the red pill space share notes. As they say, the truth always comes out.
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  1227. Taylor spitting facts from 2 minutes and 15 seconds. Never reveal your weaknesses, vulnerabilities, and emotions to a 304. They will just use it against you later on and make it public to their friends, family, divorce court, and tiktok. Samson revealed his weaknesses to his wife Delilah in the Bible and that was his downfall.
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  1228.  @schmetterling4477  like I say, for whatever reason you are completely triggered and out of control to the extent where you would bring my child into this. I think your comment says more about you than it does about me. To bring children into it is absolutely reprehensible and I am sure something you will regret saying once you have time to calm down. Ultimately, it is you who is emotional and using swear words and therefore you who would be much more of a concern to child protection services than me. It is worth noting that around 50% of marriages end in divorce and the things I talk about affect millions of people. Are you saying millions of people are not grown up and are incapable of maturity and love? What a bizarre world view that you have and that is completely at odds with reality. It is really strange and disturbing how you keep internalizing my comments as personal attacks on you which they are not as I don't even know you. It is funny that you bring up maturity because I am pretty sure anyone reading this thread would be able to see very clearly who is the mature one out us (me) and who is filled with hate (you).
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  1229.  @schmetterling4477  the issue is all these people you know who have been married for 30+ years have come from a different generation with different morals and standards. Most millennials who get divorced have parents who have been married 30+ years. Marriage was previously a good thing but it no longer works as well now. Hence the 50% divorce rates. According to your logic the following divorced people are all losers: Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Tom Brady, Dr Dre, Boris Johnson, Donald Trump, etc. Hopefully you see how flawed your logic is and how out of touch with reality you are. The point is divorce is now normalized hence the reason marriage rates are crashing. Marriage rates have dropped by 20% in the USA since the 1990's and dropped by 50% in the UK since the 1970's. Sooner or later marriage will become extinct (say in the next 30 - 60 years). It is interesting how I quote stats/evidence but you can only talk about your parents. It is also interesting that you keep resorting to personal insults. It's sad that I have so much power over you.
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  1230.  @schmetterling4477  Elon musk has 10 kids and billions of dollars. I am pretty sure most people would want to achieve similar life milestones. Even you are gushing about his money and brain cells. I am sure he is more successful than you. I am sure all the divorced names that I listed are more successful than you. The point is I proved your argument wrong. You are simply wrong to describe millions and millions of people as losers just because of divorce which is now a normal part of life these days. Its sad that I am still triggering you and you have to resort to insults and winky emoji's.
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  1231. If you are not married guys, be prepared to walk away and self-improve. If you are married, seek legal advice ASAP to reduce your risk/exposure should there be a divorce.
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  1232. I look forward to following your progress over the decades. It will be interesting to see how mainstream "don't die" becomes.
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  1233.  @johnmurphy5106  facts. MGTOW - Men Guarding Their Own Wallets. Its no fun being divorced, single, broke, and without a home and without your kids. Trust me. These divorce judges are ruthless.
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  1234. More and more women are going for the single and childless life. Around 45% of them will be single by 2030. Most women don't actually want a man. They really want children and financial security. That is the reason why even guys like Tom Brady, Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp get divorced.
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  1235.  @rainbowodysseybyjonlion  once a woman hits 45 and starts going through menopause and ovulation failure it is over for her. The wall is real. Your personal experience doesn't tally with the data and evidence (falling marriage and birth rates). This channel is about evidence and data rather than unusual personal anecdotes.
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  1236. 304s don't love you. They love your money + semen. They don't want love. They want to be saved.
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  1237.  @joeswanson733  men do some basic research but are delusional. they think "not my girl" or "this would never happen to me". I used to think like this until I lost 70% of my money and assets (including my house) in my UK divorce. Another problem is men have a scarcity mindset so they try to lockdown a chick using marriage in the delusional hope they will have a 50 year marriage.
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  1238.  @beliber6681  Fake news, unmarried mothers in general do not have a 50% claim to the father's assets and do not have a claim for alimony and do not have a claim for legal fees. Also, an unmarried father can file a paternity action with the family court which will be granted assuming the DNA test says he is the father.
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  1239.  @erikbartlett2147  💯%. Getting married is by far the biggest mistake I have ever made in life. If only time machines existed. I lost 70% in my divorce including my house.
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  1240. Factssssss at 4 minutes and 20 seconds. She says 304's are thirsty on Instagram showing their bodies because they want attention from men, but 304's only want attention from men that they like.
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  1241.  @Smudgeroon74  Royals marry because of tradition not because it is a strong institution. 3 of the 4 children of the Queen ended up divorced (Charles, Andrew, Anne). Two doctors who do not marry are likely to produce a better family than two criminals who do get married. This is because marriage is just a piece of paper unfortunately. People are waking up to this. Marriage is going extinct in the UK. Only 200k marriages happen in the UK every year.
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  1242. A man will sacrifice his life for his family. A women will sacrifice her family for her life. I don't think women care if kids do better in a 2 parent household. Her priority is her happiness / emotions. Men and women see marriage and kids completely differently. Men see it as the destination, women see it as just another stepping stone in their life story. There is no going back to the traditional days.
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  1243. Simps will never hold the line. But ultimately they will end up losing their money, house and kids in divorce 10 years later. So ultimately simps lose long term.
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  1244. 14:43 I kind of disagree with Alex. A lot of these masculine 304s are not going to change. They are just genetically or sociologically masculine and will never change. A Leopard does not change its sport. They can only pretend to be feminine short term.
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  1245. W Myron. Someone has to put these 304s back in their place.
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  1246.  @Jrocket12345  I lost 70% of everything in my UK divorce, including my house. Which is crazy given my wife earned more and we only had 1 kid. Marriage has been the most financially reckless thing I have ever done. As you say, pay attention young men. These divorce judges are very biased.
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  1247. 💯% facts. What a lot of guys don't realize is "she is not yours, it was just your turn". Dr David Buss believes humans are serially monogamous and mate switch during our lifetimes. Hollywood and religion lied to us about this 50 year pair bonded marriage thing.
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  1248. Marriage is a contract between man and state where the wife will get the money, house and kids on divorce. It is all financial reward for the wife, because it is all financial risk for the husband. It is a complete scam. I lost 70% of all my money and assets in my UK divorce. Divorce judges are ruthless 14:18
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  1249. women generally only want 2 things long term: 1. babies and 2. money/resources. notice my list does not include men or relationships. just ask billionaires (jeff bezos, elon musk, bill gates) or millionaire chads (brad pitt, johnny depp, tom brady), women do not want high value men. women want what high value men can provide, i.e. semen and money/resources.
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  1250.  @rosadelrio5120  you didn't understand the example. hahahahahaha. 🤣🤣🤣
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  1251. Some women are just not 50 year marriage material and will divorce regardless. The wives of billionaires (Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos), the wives of Chads (Tom Brady, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp), the wives of funny men (Chris Rock, Robin Williams, Russell Peters) find a reason to divorce their husbands even if they themselves bring nothing to the table.
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  1252. Women are the employers and have hundreds of "nice guy" applicants in their DMs. These "nice guys" lose their mind when she touches their "peepee" and will not risk talking about a prenup in order to secure the sexual opportunity. This low value strategy epically back fires on the nice guy 10 years down the line when she gets bored and he loses his money, house and kids in divorce court. Congratulations nice guys, you played yourself, and you're now alone, poor, homeless and without your kids.
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  1253. These 304s have an abundance mindset. They always think the grass is greener on the other side. These 304s have no clue that the wall is undefeated and the grass is not greener. At this point, these 304s are just recreational use only.
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  1254.  @RedEyeification  💯, either way, the divorce will be twisted against the husband/father. You can't win. If any guy gets married in 2023, he only has himself to blame when the wife threatens divorce. All the information is out there. There is a cohort of wives who only use marriage as a way to get the money, house and kids, the husband/father is just a wallet and gene donor who can be disposed of at any time.
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  1255. I miss KS. RIP.
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  1256. s/o to the black pill. Giga Chad always wins.
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  1257. Marriage was grand. Divorce was 100 grand. Marriage is the most financially reckless thing you can do. It is legalized theft.
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  1258. 7 minutes and 55 seconds the truth comes out. "bleed them dry". guys, protect yourselves at all times. even 304 divorce judges have the same mentality, e.g. "bleed them dry"
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  1259.  asd adav  I think the average length of a marriage is around circa 10 years.
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  1260.  asd adav  fair enough. of that 7 years the last 2 years are spent separated/divorcing, so really the average marriage is probably 5 years.
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  1261.  asd adav  men rarely file for divorce as they will get financially destroyed. i lost 70% of everything in my divorce. it only really makes sense for the wife to file.
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  1262.  asd adav  100% facts. marriage only benefits women. and divorce laws are way too tempting.
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  1263. this 304 at 6 minutes is scary. no wonder men dont talk to her. she's definitely not feminine. avoid at all costs.
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  1264. This is 💯facts. Its crazy men do these elaborate proposals and buy expensive diamond rings just to get marriage (which is an extremely financially reckless thing for a man to do). Men are their own worst enemy.
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  1265. She's obviously getting a lot of attention from Chad on IG. He doesn't want to get destroyed in divorce court so he is playing along. Nice guys finish last guys. Her and Chad are going to live in the husband's house and he's going to pay monthly spousal support for Chad to blow her back out.
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  1266. Taylor in the UK men lose around 70% on divorce. I am pretty sure it is also the same in Australia. This is also true in equitable division states in the USA. Please stop spreading men only lose 50% on divorce- this is pure BS.
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  1267. I have gone through a very bad divorce (lost 70% of all my money and assets) but it is only really after watching this guy's videos are things actually making sense, e.g. men need to work hard/sacrifice to put themselves in the adored position, make sure your wife is not bored as you are robbing her of her emotional needs, relationships are a means to an end for women (e.g. they really want kids, resources, properties, lifestyle for IG, etc), do not invest all your money into 1 risky stock/wife, etc. This guys videos are actually amazingly accurate.
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  1268.  @marsultortheavenger409  I don't think I overlooked that point. I did write "why it is terrible financial advice to invest all your money in 1 risky stock/wife ". It is a terrible idea to invest all your money into 1 risky stock/wife partly because she is probably "settling" when she chooses you as there are so few high value men to go around. Even billionaires (Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, Elon Musk) and millionaire Chads (Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt and Tom Brady) are not high value enough to be adored and keep their wives happy.
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  1269. Guys, the delusion is crazy. These XL 304s are trying to shoot their shot at pookie and rayray. The world has gone mad.
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  1270. Thank god for the wall. Gen Z/millenlials getting humbled will be delicious.
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  1271.  @nicholasdavies3071  maybe it is a combination of part white pill + part red pill? i.e. light red pill? or pink pill?
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  1272. I wasn't going to watch this video because I thought I knew everything about the red pill, and then Dr Orion comes and blows my back out. She is not special. She has been a warm body for the night for plenty of other guys. Guys, stop pedestalising, adoring and making costly commitments. It is only going to blow up in your face, especially if you are married to her, and then you could end up losing your money, house and kids.
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  1273. Marriage is actually the transfer of power, leverage and wealth to the wife. The whole thing is a legalized scam.
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  1274. UK family courts are the worst. I lost 70% of my money and house despite my ex-wife earning more than me, and us only having 1 kid. I believe the Judge was a single mother. Extreme levels of bias and unfairness.
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  1275. RIP to her future husband. She is never going to change. Her psychology is to ingrained. Her parents failed her.
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  1276. 304's should never compromise in a relationship. if they compromise, they will regret/resent it forever and then divorce the guy and take his house, money, kids and crypto. don't expect the judge to help the guy in divorce. the blue pill judge will throw the guy under the bus.
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  1277. A lot of these videos are ultimately rooted in the same issues. Men have to cultivate their attractiveness, e.g. 666, MMGF, looks/money/status, to levels so superior that she wants to into his frame. If your attractiveness is low, she will not follow you when you pull back. Ultimately, only a certain % of men will have this ability.
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  1278. Ariel is a fraud.
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  1279. Marriage has always been fundamentally flawed. Imperfect strangers handcuffing themselves together for life. What could possibly go wrong? The flaws are now obvious in modern society, e.g. religion doesn't keep marriages together as much, divorce culture spreading, independent boss babe culture spreading, IG promoting unrealistic expectations, Tinder promoting options, more and more adults coming from broken families themselves, higher earning wives, family courts determined to maintain the wife's standard of living by financially ruining the husband, etc. Long term (30 - 60 years) marriage is doomed.
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  1280. Men should hold the line and wait for a submissive and feminine wife. However, due to the simpademic and proliferation of beta males who put women on a pedestal, the simps will break cover, offer marriage to Angry, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable and Emotional (ABCDE) women. And then these same beta males will cry about losing their money, house and kids in divorce. Hopefully this type of content helps to educate men and show them a different way.
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  1281. Most men don’t even realize what marriage even is. Practically speaking, the husband is promising to lose his money, house, and kids on divorce to his ex-wife. Most guys think this will never happen to them and only realize how stupid they have been when it’s too late.
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  1282. If you don't satisfy your women she is a flight risk. No man is safe.
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  1283. Him not being married is a huge benefit. He is not at risk of losing his money and assets in divorce. With 50% divorce rates, why would he want to marry his girlfriend and risk getting financially ruined in family court?
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  1284. The Big Facts: 1. Self-improve so you stop putting up with trash behaviour from 304s. Just walk away. 2. Self-improve so you only have to deal with 304s who approach you. Don't chase 304s. 3. Understand 304 nature. Don't be blue-pilled. 304s aren't loyal, chase attention and are hypergamous. 4. Self-improve so you don't have to ignore red flags. Walk away when you see red flags. The longer you ignore red flags the worst it will get and the more time you will waste, 5. 304s get bored easily. So know the clock is always counting down on your relationship until time is up. Self-improve so she actually wants to be with you. 6. Don't give 304s your attention for free. Attention is a form of currency. Its oxygen to these 304s. 7. "Dudes are out here putting no effort into themselves", "dudes have no ambition", "dudes put more effort into their house plant than themselves", etc. This has to change. 8. "Stop treating relationships as the defining factor in your life". Relationships "are straight up wasting time".
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  1285. marriage is entirely imaginary. it is just a piece of paper that most people have lost. you only see the real effects of marriage when you get divorced. i lost 70% of my money, assets and home equity on divorce in the UK. Karen the divorce judge and your ex-wife will make you regret ever getting married.
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  1286.  @michaeltucci3445  she paid me 30% of the house equity and kept the house that I paid for. This is despite us only having 1 kid, her being the higher earner, and me paying all the bills during the marriage. Even in the USA, the divorce settlements are 70 : 30. For example, if there is 100k, this will get split 50k : 50k. But if the husband owes 10k in lump sum alimony and 10k in her legal fees, the judge will award 70k to her and 30k to him.
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  1287.  @michaeltucci3445  she's not your girl, it's just your turn. let her be another man's problem. she was always recreational use only.
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  1288.  @priyanshsharma1744  the judge didn't order monthly alimony because the alimony was paid out as part of the lump sum within the 70%. she got the house so her money will always increase as house prices always increases. i think you are right. long term my son will realize her true nature. especially when i show him the court paperwork showing the parental alienation, her hiding money with family members, her lying about her mortgage / loan capacity, etc etc.
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  1289.  @dreday77764  💯% facts. There is no such thing as divorce grape victims. Only divorce grape volunteers.
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  1290.  @blackadder194  A female judge is just a female lawyer in a robe.
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  1291.  @MotorheadForever92  i knew you post was going to be bitter and emotional. rather than address the actual content of what i was trying to say. Also, guys have a choice to make. get married for no reason and get destroyed by the divorce courts, or stay in a loving boyfriend/girlfriend relationship without the involvement of crazy woke judges. I am just highlighting an injustice that thousands/millions of men face every year.
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  1292.  @MotorheadForever92  address the original comment. stop being so emotional and bitter. facts over feelings.
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  1293.  @MotorheadForever92  i divorced her. the judge gave her 70%. not everything.
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  1294.  @MotorheadForever92  you are just being emotional and bitter rather than addressing the substance of the original comment.
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  1295. Conclusion: she is not your girl, it is just your turn. I think in the near future, say next 10 - 20 years, more and more people are going to realize that the concept of a life long marriage is fundamentally flawed and goes against our biology, genetics and evolution. Thank you for this episode, Chris.
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  1296. If she is an ABCDE woman (Angry, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable and Emotional) tell her to put her shoes on outside. She is recreational use only. Some women are just not worth it. They are not mentally and emotional stable, and don't have a secure attachment style. Your only super power is to walk away (unless your married to her then you are screwed).
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  1297. All men pay for 🐱 and married men pay the most for 🐱. If you are a Chad or Tyrone women will give you a big discount (you will only have to buy her a cheese burger). If you are a beta male provider you will have to pay with a diamond ring or settle for something within your price range, e.g. single mom, fat chick, etc.
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  1298. Disagreeable and combative. The moaning / complaining type. A one way road to divorce and a lifetime of pain.
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  1299.  @rickyaz8640  facts. However they can cope alone as long as they are getting simps attention on instagram.
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  1300. Alex is clearly a smart guy. He is exactly right. There is even research that shows once a women has a divorced friend her chance of divorce increases by 70%. A if a women has a friend of a friend that is divorced her chance of divorce increases by 30%. Divorce really is a super spreading social contagion. You have been warned.
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  1301.  @highstakes1235  hell no. unless you are a mulit-millionaire in the UK you have nothing to pre-nup in the first place. Pre-nups are more of a USA thing to protect yourself against ex-wife's legal fees, monthly alimony/spousal support, pre-nup any pre-marital assets, etc.
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  1302.  @MiniLittleBabyDoll  thanks bro. just don't make the same mistakes I did.
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  1303.  @forgottenfuryan  if you listen to people like Dr David Buss (evolutionary pscyhologist), The Lead Attorney (divorce layer) and Alain de Botton (philosopher), there is a growing consensus that the real strongest predictor is the wife's psychology. If she is calm, patient, can tolerate stress, and is emotionally stable then the marriage will be happy and she will be able to cope with a lower earning husband.
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  1304. Marriage is so dangerous for men, the legal system had to invent pre-nups for men to protect themselves. Just shows how dangerous marriage is and the lengths men have to go to protect themselves against blue pill divorce judges and the divorce laws.
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  1305.  @carlospita6442  c'mon, you know exactly what they offer? are you aware of phub? of? strip clubs? etc
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