Comments by "xybersurfer" (@xybersurfer) on "Alexander Grace" channel.

  1. agreed, but perhaps you missed the contradiction: if no one likes me, then maybe someone will like me
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  2. i feel like we have ourselves to blame. so many guys with low standards, devalues all guys
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  3.  Sentient being  you could also argue that the ex is in the past for a reason
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  4. tshaolin971 took the words right out of my mouth
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  5.  @Jordy6669  "admire" is ambiguous. the question was about looking up to. pretty anything can be re-interpreted to mean what you want
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  6. if women only feel awkward about guys after hearing eachother, then the conversation must be heavily focused on the guy. i'm guessing they wouldn't so easily share the details that would embarrass themselves
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  7. yeah i've noticed too. his views are becoming more extreme
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  8.  Seto Kaiba  @Seto Kaiba i think he is more referring to the dating market, than life in general
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  9.  @vladkostin7557  they are not the same, but you can't have intimacy without privacy, by definition
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  10. it's difficult in this case to observe the difference between a biological and social construct. people can be convinced of the craziest things through conditioning. there are also all kinds of biological constructs influencing our behavior unconsciously. i think you underestimate how well emotions (biology) adapt to modern or indirect things. for me that leaves the only observable thing being the huge double standard of men vs women sleeping around (social construct). but i guess you can even argue that this could be caused by a biological construct. i think there is a potential chicken vs egg problem at the heart of this by the way. i'm glad you re-enabled the comments
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  11. guys, we need to stop overvaluing women. we need a revolution!
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  12. i've been wondering this too
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  13.  Football-Pundit  if you are referring to the questions about being equal and looking up, as we have been discussing, then it's exactly the opposite. most of the girls' answers to these 2 questions were not fair. it's almost like you watched a different video
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  14.  Football-Pundit  the fact that admiration is also part of the question is irrelevant. because "looking up to" and "admiring", still requires "looking up to". it does not make sense to look up to someone that is your equal. it's a contradiction. the question was not whether men and women should look up to each other in certain aspects. this contradiction is not something that you (a random user) can clarify. because you are not the women in the video (as far as i know). it is not objective that you are doing so
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  15. why even assume that women can't hide their body count?
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  16. i think it's good that you straightened that out Alexander. i was thinking you lost it until reading this comment, especially at 16:20 where you basically say it's good and yet you don't even want this for yourself. i know there are lot's of people including in this thread don't care whether you are joking or not, but for those of us that do care, words matter. thanks for adding the much needed context
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  17.  Sentient being  it would make more sense for the same bs to be met with even less tolerance, when it happens again
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  18. it's a shame you disabled the comments. i think you are forgetting that it was also a place for people to gather and discuss the topic
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  19.  @axl1002  finding a taller than you partner is more easily said than done for men
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  20. hear, hear!
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  21. yep. i think we are consciously or subconsciously recognizing that there are actually some good parts of feminism, like where they take more responsibility. i personally don't want to see it all being thrown out
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  22.  @ultraatari9298  why Shariah?
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  23.  Football-Pundit  you are making too many assumptions. i did not say that people have to be equal in every aspect, for me to consider them equal. if equality needs to be qualified with "aspect", then this still leaves open the possibility that 2 people can be approximately not equal. i don't like jumping to conclusions. thanks for your "concern"
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  24. this is great advice! it deals with the dilemma
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  25. yep. agreed. it might already be changing. especially because he's saying that many men want this
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  26.  @axl1002  if it's the same to you, then why give unrealistic "advice"?
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  27.  @LeslieBurke8  maybe she would calm down, but i have my doubts about those feelings ever going away
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  28. i think you were spot on. the humor was good too. i didn't intend to listen to this complete episode but time flew
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  29. this is probably true for most guys, but i can't relate to it personally
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  30. i like the idea, but a feminist forum is quite a different sample. you should have gone back to the same beach, if your goal to compare changes over time. i think it would be more productive to compare with responses to a similar story on a more neutral sub-reddit
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  31. i liked this experiment and Sara's thoughtfulness
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  32. a good description of the current situation. however, as a man i choose not to play in this system that is unfair towards me
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  33.  Football-Pundit  "but"? the first part of your comment is exactly why you should add as little of your personal interpretation as possible. however for the second part, i would argue that thinking on one's feet gives a more honest answer, because one hasn't yet had the chance consider whether it is politically correct. it seems more believable than all answers becoming more negative because of a lack of time
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  34.  @paccawacca4069  extroversion doesn't translate into confidence either. it can be de desperate kind. it's also a cope
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  35. i disagree. you can't change the culture by simply changing the law
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  36.  @Bjorn_R  i'm also wondering if he talks about it with her
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  37.  Sentient being  that makes sense. people choosing the same type
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  38.  @whocarescrapsa  did she really have to trace those emotions back to that event if they were that much on the surface? maybe she didn't want to admit how much it has been been on her mind
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  39.  @whocarescrapsa  fair enough. i guess that was my own disbelief talking. i'm impressed that you guys figured it out. negative emotions have the tendency to spiral out of control
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  40. you could have picked a better example video. she was right but she handled it badly. i agree with the lack of self reflection from women. it's a luxury that men can't afford
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  41. 16:20 what i find most telling is that you (Alexander) don't even want this for yourself. what makes you think other men would want what you don't want? it seems like you already understand (perhaps subconsciously), that this soft girl stuff will be nowhere near the last development in this topic. if i had to make my own guess (speculation), i would say that there will be more re-balancing where people will realize, that there are some good parts of feminism and that it shouldn't be completely thrown out. one of the bad things is the attitude that is paired with feminism (unwillingness to date down). you can't blame that on women being masculine because men don't act that way. i'm very skeptical about this "soft women" amnesia. it feels like a very unsatisfactory conclusion to recent history
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  42. those things are not the same because they have the explanation that they say something about a person. an "ick" is also not used as just a dislikes, but as a complete disqualification. this is the big difference. and by the way, i consider fake nails and fake eyelashes specifically rather tame
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  43.  @thenarrator1984  everything is biological to Alexander, it's the one thing i think he does wrong
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  44. i feel like i need to point out that if she only considers high value guys, when asked about guys, then she is not answering the question that was asked
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  45.  @axl1002  did i say anything about deserving a partner? how is this relevant to our conversation?
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  46. well Alexander this is certainly an interesting take, on the importance of dating. but i can't help think, that it is optimistic. i'm probably projecting, but i have the impression that most people don't have much in terms of goals, regardless of whether they are dating
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  47. Maurice Harris i like this train of thought. i would like to know also
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  48. i don't think that the "did someone hurt you?" question is much better
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  49.  @J.B.1982  sophistry
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  50. great video. i like how you actually listened to the feedback. it's difficult to get a grasp of these women's stance
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