Comments by "MAR TE" (@marte1376) on "Psychology with Dr. Ana" channel.

  1. My mother and my father. They read my diary, absolutely broke my heart especially because serious things I wrote in there
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  2. There are levels though and it's perfectly fine for a person not wanting to make that kind of "fun". That's not insecurity, it's called having boundaries. Check yourself
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  3.  @captainzork6109  I have a digital diary now but I'm just broken inside. My parents never trusted me, I was always a rebel and my opinions and thoughts were different. People, be careful with what you write. Thanks for your compassion
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  4. I think it happens, it happened to me, not to be a cheater but not trusting any relationship or always having this mindset of "people cheat anyways" and you may do the same because you think the other person will do it. I know my experience isn't generality but all people I had known who was cheated on ends up with bitterness, resentment and start bulding a pattern were they become cheaters, not all people, but only a few truly work on themselves
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  5. ​ @kostantza1  you don't get it. This is a very complex topic and you're simplifying the suffering of another person. We need to be compassionate because God forbid you're in a situation like this
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  6. I mean, that can happen but especially that kind of thinking can be interpreted as selfish. We're not doormats to anyone at 2 am. But I get friendships are truly visible when you're in the lowest point
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  7. Indeed, it requires a village to raise a child. Usually the burden is only on women. Why are men and just people in general surprised more women say no thanks to motherhood? This is the reason. Children are no joke and it's real that women give up so much on their lives, that men don't need to deal with
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  8. The thing is how are you supposed to know before it's too late
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  9. Buddhism is something that makes me passionate but it's extreme and non human. Although the concept of detachment and being in peace with the ever changing life is something mind blowing to me. I think your next level is stop assuming the worst will happen
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  10. Not even workforce is friendly for women. It's proven that when women get pregnant and have children, their resources and ability to make money drops. Workforce is wild, and that's why many women get behind in life, because they're forced to choose, your children or your work. I tell you, small kids need 100% your energy, attention and focus. And their first years are the most important. How can you maintain that while working. Tough topic. Ladies, be ruthless and very realistic, so if you want to be a mother, make sure you're willing to build vocation around that
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  11. We need more people like you. We can't deny the fact that motherhood is a huge sacrifice for women, more than it does to men. Usually women are expected to be the primary caregivers alone because men are incompetent and never were raised to really have a family. I'm glad more women are speaking up, we need to really be clear on our choices. For me motherhood is a no, the stories in my family are sad, women always tired, unkept, angry and sad. Children are very special and need people that really want to be with them, being s mother requires vocation and willingness to learn and even heal the past trauma before the baby, same as the father. It takes a village to raise a child, and many women nowadays don't have a village, not even a competent husband. I hope this lady finds peace
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  12. I think she has suffered but being mature and realistic is understanding that people come and go. Very few people are here to stay forever, not even our parents. This kind of crap of : when the right person comes along everything will be perfect, if you can't get it, there's a problem with you. That's not how life is and is not our fault completely if we're not surrounded by like minded people
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  13. ​ @brianatford6603  but that's true. Women give up so much on motherhood. It's a real statement to say that. I wasn't welcome as a baby, but I totally get it. Pregnancy and having children is no joke. Your mother is right. Don't take it personal
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  14. it's sad man are so disconnected form their bodies, you're not your body count, what kind of people you're dealing with?
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  15. This is very helpful, I'm attracted and I've attracted man who are financially solid but in my experience lots of them were already married, some are single but still with this mindset of bachelor. This is important because money doesn't mean quality or integrity
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  16. We need to have compassion toward the lady. Where's the husband, where's her village? She's alone
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  17. You don't know what you're saying 😂
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  18. An informed decision is made by looking something realistically, both the good and the bad, but in this case the bad has more weight because motherhood is giving up too many things in life, especially for a woman.
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  19. Mmm but their appreciation is valid. I mean, I'm not a radfem but gender politics makes sense, women and men don't experience life the same. And just because they're in a good position doesn't mean they didn't struggle in the past. I mean, some men who are now business men love to talk about how they are self made and you guys find it inspiring. So, what's the issue with ladies doing the same?
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  20. That's a fact, many couples divorce or split after pregnancy.
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  21. Dr Ana congratulations on your pregnancy, the baby is very fortunate to have such an intelligent and graceful mother. Congrats to you and your husband, you're adorable together. Love all your work Doctor
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  22. Please Anna keep doing videos like this. I'm trying to get my life together and we're the same age. I feel so behind life. Please continue with the amazing work
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  23. Me too. It's great for those people who have met on dating apps but I'm not interested in trying.
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  24. I'm very sorry. You have the power to change the narrative from now on. Wish you a lot of strength. Much respect to you
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  25. ​ @Curioussammy  hi there. Child free by choice as well. For me, motherhood is a sign of losing your freedom, your body, your sensuality. That's what triggers me. Same as you ladies, despite not wanting to be a mother, I'm very interested in these topics, because it makes me feel more compassion and question my believes and why we need to support the mothers out there!! We need to be the village for the women who are choosing to be mothers
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  26. Very interesting topic. I think each person has a whole different dimension and complexity due to their circumstances. Right now I'm in a piece of my life where things are dark, I'm fighting to get a job, my parents are tired of me and giving me money and you know that with no money no opportunity to do something. I just had a terrible discussion with my dad and i don't have him anymore. I haven't aeen my friends for months and i don't want to tell them either that I'm struggling and the reason why. I've read this book the 48 laws of power and i just don't want people to know my Aquiles ankle, my weaknesses, but i feel alone. Interestingly I don't want my friends to succeed because that means they're leaving me behind but i think that they couldn't care much if i succeed too. I just want to be in respectable terms with everybody and not gaining any enemies but I'm not sure my friends are still my friends. I can't tell them my situation, my secret.
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  27. She didn't want to have you there
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  28. Please Dr. Ana keep making videos of this subject and self efficicacy. Absolutely interesting
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  29. We've all been cheated on, it doesn't matter if you want to accept it or not
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  30. The situation won't get fixed by having more children, certainly. And we can't do anything about it. We can't control what other people do. Only focusing on our actions to be better people. Women mother the world, we don't need to push out babies.
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  31. That's too masculine
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  32. Beautiful ❤
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  33. Sure, there's a lot of misconception that being s woman is living in easy mode. So many people with misogynistic propaganda need to be aware of this, but if you know it, it's more than enough, leave those people alone. And yes, men are a big part of the problem, but that's not our business
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  34. And he's massively famous. I am subscribed to his channel. There are very interesting interviews
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  35. Well coffee dates o something short it's ok as long as your paying and be a gentleman​ @alanguages 
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  36. Unless you've never had a relationship I could believe you've never cheated on. In rest of the cases we've all been cheated, it's human nature
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  37. Very interesting. I don't think this is the video or what you're experiencing is shame or maybe is complex. You just don't fitted in the kind of person you want to be but not regretful of doing what you've done. I don't think that's what Anna is refering to.
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  38. Is it good? :)
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  39. Substances are great in a certain extent but overall not all our interactions should be based on being in another dimension. And you said it, there's always a con
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  40. What about, I know I'm not a bad person, like I'm not hurting directly no one and i like what I do but breaks moral codes of family or my circle around, like moderate substance use or sex work? To say some controversial topics. It's sad and complex
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