Comments by "Charles M." (@charlesm.2604) on "HealthyGamerGG" channel.

This hits home. I once was considered a kid with potential. I met the président régionnal (french version of a governor) after getting the best grades of the whole département. I was curious, easy going, joyful, persistent, ready to take on any obstacles coming my way. Fast forward a few years later and I dropped out at 14, caged myself into loneliness and depression. I had no motivation, I wasn't expecting anything out of life. And even now, I work for a web dev agency, meaning I work from home and don't socialize. I live in the present and choose not to start things that involves efforts because I'm affraid people would see me fail. From seeing my family proud and framing the article to the wall to feeling like a prototype of who I should be. Pressure is damaging and is often doing worse than good.
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@paeridolia Spot on. They also lack social skill at that point because they always had to find something that would entertain and challenge their brain by themselves, putting aside building a social circle.
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I went through 3 therapists who: 1) were devaluating/disregarding my opinions on my own feelings/decisions/philosophy. 2) stopped after 2 months because too many patients, contacted me month later to get me to follow a therapy privately asking for cash (illegal to top the max patients ceiling where I live). 3) old dude who had no understanding of my world (technologies, software engineering, video games). 4) the 4th was the right one. She helped me a lot and still calls me to this day to check on me. She is super involved in her patients' lives as well, which I thought was a great thing. I'd say if you want to follow a therapy just keep looking until you find the good one. 😊
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@Aaron-TheHandsome who hurt you bro ?
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But they take a shit ton of efforts and will power though. Look my family is big on nicotine (French, gotta keep entertaining the stereotypes amiright) and they've always kept in denial or legitimized their addiction by saying shit like "everything is unhealthy, you go outside and inhale pollution", "food can be as dangerous", "everybody will die some day, nicotine or not", etc... and although I ended up addicted myself, I've always kept it real. I know it's bad, I know I'm gonna die from it in my 50s and I know I HAVE to stop for my own and my entourage's sakes but I just can't. It's too hard. Props to you for fighting AND letting yourself tempted on top of it.
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Microsoft is happy about that one
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@leon9785 He climbed a tree on fire to save a cat and backflipped to go down as the tree was perishing but he ended up pissing on the fire to put it down and save the environment. What a great guy !
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If there is frustration there is motivation because feeling frustrated about an issue means there is interest or care about that issue. I mean you can't be frustrated that something fails or doesn't go as planned if you don't care about the outcome, right ? And as long as there is care, there is motivation. 😊 Or procrastination... 💀
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@isaakvandaalen3899 damn it's kinda shitty if you think about it
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@soull365 It's good to follow a therapy, that's the first step I guess. I don't really know what to say to help your situation, the only thing I can advise you would be to find like minded people on internet. There is no expectations on internet, people don't expect a friendship out of your interactions, and that has helped me a lot in the past to gain back some kind of confidence and routine. It might help you too ? Talk about it to your therapist. Good luck brother! ✊
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Hi folks, software engineer here, if I can add my 2 cents in there for that dude looking for advice: Although I never worked on videogames, I know a bunch of people who did. And AAA studios will kill you. There is a thing in that specific field called "the crunch" which describe the time period during the annoucement of the game and its release. We call it "the crunch" because that's the noises your body makes when you're done with it. To make a long story short, publishers dedicate their resources depending on predictions. The first few months/year after a release, a game will cost more money than it'll bring. In order not to screw their budgets, publishers are only showing a maquette of the final product when they announce it then gather as much feedback as possible to see if the development is worth it before actually entering the development process. That's when the crunch starts. Studios will restrict you out of your social life, will not let you have phone calls during work, will not value your health (and that's one of the most fucked up part about it), will force you to work additionnal UNPAID hours, etc... They do so by threatning you. They know that you've sacrificed a whole lot to have this position and use it against you. They manipulate you out of your entourage as well. They also let you know that if you can't resist the crunch, other studios won't work with you as you are not fit for the job (it is an industry standard after all). There is ton of info online if you want to learn more but the videogame industry is one of the closest to ressemble modern day slavery. Now it's not to say it's all bad, in fact it's gotten better since 3-5 years because of unification and social medias. Indie studios or those who are not published by/related to AAA publishers are not really impacted by the crunch on such levels too. EDIT for some resources: - "Inside Rockstar Games' Culture Of Crunch" by Jason Schreier (Kataku - 2018) - "How is crunch legal in the videogame industry" by Michael Thomsen (The Washington Post - 2021) - TakeThis non profits, charity about mental health awareness invested in the problem.
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@spookyP9 Dude x's whole ass life surrended English since his damn birth. He is french-canadian, meaning English was always part of his culture growing up. Québec and France are totally different things. We have different cultures, different food, different philosophy, different systems, different education, etc... We don't even really speak the same language (or rather we use different dialects and different words).
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Thank you for everything you do ! 👍
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@Jessie Santillan He said it in the Michael Reeves interview as well.
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@alvodin6197 Maybe his team coached him on what to say to certain question ? I mean he's a "Hollywood personality", not the average streamer we're used to hear on this channel it wouldn't surprise me. But to be fair I didn't get any of what you described it felt authentic.
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Ok but I'm French and I genuinely don't understand the issue ? Sit and stand are completely different and not switchable words in French just like they are in English. I think he was just not listening properly or was using his brain power to think of something else and that's totally fine. :)
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I'd say it's much more of a coping mechanism than a physical addiction. People addicted to games often time become so because there is something else that they lack of have no control over. Fill that need and you won't crave videogames in an toxic way. But I feel like gacha games are a completely different genre which is much more targeted to casino freaks (you know, the dopamine, the reach, the satisfaction, etc...). They're essentially roulette/coin machine disguised as videogames.
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hmm I'm sure you could make the argument that glamorizing mental illness would help stop the taboo, or the shame, or whatever and people would be more comfortable in their own mental health or seeking help for their own sake. It's kinda weird to fake being x y z but I'm sure there is good to come out of it.
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He needs cams for facial expressions/body language, that's part of the job. :)
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The only way to beat stress I've ever found was distraction. It doesn't solve the problem, it just puts it away for a bit but atleast you can work around it.
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@raghavrao5221 Isn't the HG coaching program classes to learn about psychology ?
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@AlexisBii That's because they are psychiatrists, not therapists. They don't talk with you, they prescribe you medication and follow up to see how it affects you. They are doctors specialized in the brain pretty much. I'm no expert but I believe that's how psychiatrists work, even though they have psychological knowledge they focus more on physiological and the science behind the brain.
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@BradenBest I'm familiar with Québec, the vast majority of people who live in Québec speak English. The stores, roads, TV, everything they are surrended with is in English. It's part of their culture. Most people, I don't have the figures but I'm willing to safely bet it would be more than 90%, speak English fluently, the rest partially. They don't even speak French, half of their vocabulary is English so they speak a "dialect" which is a mix of French and English !
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