Comments by "Debany Doombringer" (@debanydoombringer1385) on "It’s Okay to be a Housewife" video.

Bran Graham Quick question, I won't really read your reply so it doesn't matter if you answer. Why do you think this woman HAS to answer any questions from you or prove herself to you? You mean absolutely nothing to her or her husband. You have zero impact on their lives. She's already happily married so she doesn't need or want you as a potential mate. I know it's hard to realize you mean nothing to anyone who isn't already in your life, but it's a truth you obviously desperately need to learn. Nobody needs to impress you or earn your favor. You're a nobody to her and everyone else.
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@Quadruple Ban How is their agreement any different than when a woman won't marry a man until he has a good job? There's zero difference. He has to prove he can provide and she just proved to him that she can do the same. Like it or not, a marriage is a deal from the start. If each side doesn't communicate what is expected from the other, it will end in divorce because needs aren't being met. It's better to go in with a clear understanding of what's expected so each person knows if they can or can't meet that expectation before the contract is signed. Yes, things change because life is unpredictable. However, the marriage will resume as before once the crisis ends. The only time that should not be the case is if each agrees to the change in direction. I think it's funny that people like you find it offensive that it's looked on as an agreement because you think that was bad in the past. I'd point to the low divorce rate and more stable families as proof that it wasn't. That doesn't mean I think you shouldn't love them. I most certainly do, but unrealistic expectations of marriage is what created a high divorce rate. So it's much better to jump in with both eyes open than just a hope that love is enough because it's not. Edit: I also want you to point out where anyone was "dismissing women's right" in these comments. Marriage is also a legal binding contract. That's why you sign papers.
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@Eric the Red Yet, you'll pay someone else well for raising your child so the mother can work.
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@richardaaron4454 We're seeing a shift back. I can't believe Republican Congressmen were complaining because women weren't rejoining the workforce after lockdowns. The divorce rate in Gen X and Millennials is significantly lower than our parents, the Baby Boomers. The marriage rate is too, but Gen Z experiencing such low divorce rates, pre 70s level, should help them view marriage more favorably.
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@settame1 That's fine if you never intend to have children. I've even considered hiring someone to clean once a week because I'm now disabled. I would never pay someone else to raise my child however. Why have them if you don't care to do what a parent should?
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@9λ A recent poll in the US said 51% of women want to be stay at home wives and mothers. Staying home during the pandemic showed them what life could be like. Much less stress, much easier, and they are happier because of it.
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