Comments by "Debany Doombringer" (@debanydoombringer1385) on "Viral TikTok Shows 18-Year-Old Getting Kicked Out. Is This Wrong?" video.

@britneyt9253 If you mean before she moved out and got married at 24, you respect the rules of the house. It's not grade school. You don't do "sleepovers". If they got married, then most likely he was already stable with his own place. You know, some people don't just jump in the sack right? Edit: A "relationship" isn't sex. If you think you can't hold on to a guy without putting out quickly, you don't bring enough to a relationship or you have low self esteem. I never did for minimum a year of having an exclusive relationship. Had no problem getting men to propose.
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You're talking about while attending university. You don't know she was going to. You don't know if she got caught multiple times breaking the rules of the house and didn't contribute anything to it. Perhaps she engaged in illegal activities putting everyone else in the house at risk. It is not common to kick children out when they turn 18. Even the statistics don't say that. Maybe don't jump to conclusions about a place based on a single person's possibly completely fake 10 second TikTok video.
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Had something similar with the youngest. Except he ended up coming back home. I did NOT kick him out, but I wasn't going to make it comfortable for him to stay. He left and less than 2 months later had blown through his savings and got fired. Apologized and was allowed back. It's painful to do. I cried so much and worried constantly, but sometimes you've gotta do what you've gotta do.
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 @edisonchin2463 If you're alive, you have parents. Do you not understand biology?
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I would imagine if she got in real trouble he'd allow her back in with the understanding that the rules will be enforced or she's right back out.
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You need to charge rent or something. Paying a bill or two. You're doing them no favors not teaching them the reality of being an adult and sheltering them from it. Then if they ever go out on their own or you pass away, you've left them wholey unprepared to function. If your child lives with you forever and can't care for themselves, you've completely failed as a parent because that's your job as one.
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I'd suggest once out of college with whatever job, you give him a small bill or at least make him pay his own phone bill and/or car insurance. It helps them understand how to budget and prepares them for remembering bills come first.
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I come from a multigenerational home. Grandparents, parents, and us 4 kids. I was the youngest and only girl so was never pressured to leave. I moved out when I got married at 25. My family was talking about adding a 2nd story with a separate entrance for me because nobody was sure I'd ever get married. Not from lack of offers, but finding someone suitable. I did all the cooking, most of the cleaning (my mother and grandmother were disabled), had a full-time job, and paid my own bills. I have 2 adult sons with my husband. We have our own home. The oldest got married and bought his own home last year at 25 and the youngest is still living with us but works full-time and pays bills. He's aware if he doesn't like the rules, he's free to leave at anytime.
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@Jimmy94411 Hardly. Canadians are worse. You're out of the house at 18 or soon after and they thought I was crazy for going to take care of my parents for 6 months while my mom recovered from multiple very invasive surgeries. That wasn't just my husband's family either. It was several. If you know it's expected of you, you're ready when you reach that age. Edit: I'm from the southern US and multigenerational households aren't uncommon. It's the best way to build generational wealth. Everyone working together.
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