Comments by "Debany Doombringer" (@debanydoombringer1385) on "Tradwife TikTok Trend Makes Feminists MELTDOWN With Rage!" video.

@coltonbenirschke7944 The people complaining know absolutely nothing about history. Stay-at-home wives ALWAYS had a side hustle. They’d sell things they cooked, things they’d sewed, things they canned, etc. We acknowledge some people are better at things than others but think every single wife had identical proficiency in everything. I’m a way better cook than my mother but she could make and decorate cakes like a professional which I’m no where near as good at. She would be who was asked to make them for family events and she absolutely would occasionally make money doing it.
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Not just that. You were supposed to be fully made up and dressed nice when your husband got home. Not a hair out of place or a speck of flour. Almost none of these people know history. Judging by some of the comments from men, even Amish women don’t meet their definition of trad wife.
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@BetaBetaZZ I’m going to assume English is your second language because that was difficult to understand. Women absolutely worked in the US in the 20s and 30s. It was a choice even then. I’m a stay at home wife. I do not feel I’m in danger or not prepared simply because I don’t have a job. We have ample life insurance for that reason. People like you continuing to push this idea that marriage is dangerous and you shouldn’t give yourself 100% to your spouse is the problem with today’s culture. This idea that the majority of men are abusive is just plain wrong.
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@medicbabe2ID It’s because a wife is a reflection of her husband. If you go in public looking like you’d just got out of bed it means your husband couldn’t provide for you.
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@Omizuke 100%. I was also raised mostly by my grandparents. They were born 1920 and 1918. My grandmother didn’t work, but all her sisters did while married and raising a family. I wonder who the people claiming they weren’t allowed to think all the teachers, nurses, and secretaries came from. My great-grandmother was a school teacher, but apparently she wasn’t “allowed”. As for abuse if it became known, the other men usually dealt with it giving him a good taste of it. It was never considered acceptable.
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Thank you! I’m also a “trad wife” and am so happy to see these women. I’ve thought about doing YouTube because I’m also disabled so could help people like me better manage their time so they too can do it and feel better about themselves by contributing to their household. While I am attractive, which let’s face is extremely helpful in these spaces, I’m just too self conscious. So I absolutely applaud people like her for not being afraid to take the abuse slung at her from both sides unfortunately.
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@Omizuke Being disabled I’ve told my husband I don’t care if he does that as long as it’s not emotional and I seriously doubt it would be. I’m secure enough in what I provide for him to know he’ll never have that anywhere else. If I lost my arms would I be upset he ate food cooked by someone else? To me it’s just as intimate because I put a lot of thought and effort into everything I do for him. I know some would find it weird but you’re not always in control of what happens to you physically. Edit: To be clear, I still can but it’s pretty much like torture due to various physical ailments and past required surgeries. Lots of nerve damage. I have a condition that affects the nerves all over my body and not fibromyalgia.
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You posting bragging is different how? It’s actually worse because you’re doing it in an attempt to shame someone you don’t know and doesn’t know you even exist. You’re virtue signaling to men how much better you are. Edit: I’m also in a traditional marriage which is what trad wife means. It means we use traditional gender roles in our marriage. It doesn’t mean I’m Amish which according to many in this comment section aren’t trad either because they sell their pies and quilts. You know, have a side hustle.
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You obviously know absolutely nothing about the past. There are articles during that time period saying a wife should never be seen in public without full makeup and dressed nice because she’s a reflection of her husband. Are you trying to say they never went to the store even though that was part of their duties in caring for the household? You’re confusing trad wives with frontier wives. Even in the Wild West a respectable woman was expected to present herself in public dressed well because they were who went to town to buy fabric or goods because the husband was busy working. He’d negotiate farming supplies and stuff but she did everything else. Do you think every home grew their own cotton and processed it into cloth?
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@frishter They’re beyond puritan. They absolutely think trad means Amish. I’m curious how they think they’re going to influence the upcoming generations and culture if they don’t engage in it.
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@frishter They were very social in the past. They’d talk with the other neighborhood wives everyday, socialize at Church every Sunday, go to social functions often, etc. We’re less social now which is why there’s so much depression and loneliness. Edit: It’s an illusion of social interaction. We require physical social engagement.
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@abeclark524 Because it’s not for you. It’s for younger women. That’s like complaining about the Food Network existing. I think it’s hilarious men and feminist are the ones that seem to really have a problem with it.
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“Don’t have social media” Then how are you posting this? YouTube IS social media. It’s absolutely no different than TikTok just longer format.
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@lostandfound5145 Then you’re announcing your husband can not provide you with nice things. I’m loving all these women claiming to be “real” trad wives that don’t know proper etiquette and that a wife is a reflection of her husband’s ability to provide. Edit: So are your children. You don’t take them out in public in dirty clothes do you? But think it’s fine for you.
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Not all SAHM homestead. I’m not one because I don’t? How beyond insulting. I’m not one because I care how I present myself and children to the public? How dare I follow proper etiquette something it appears nobody knows anymore. I’m sorry but not knowing proper manners and etiquette isn’t the brag so many seem to think it is. If this is what everyone thinks a SAHM or “trad wife” should be, thank goodness for these women in TikTok.
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2nd post because reading these comments tells me not only does Jeremey not know what a trad wife is, none of these women claiming to be “real” ones does either. I’m seeing post after post saying “I don’t have time to look like that” “I’m too busy and tired to dress up and wear makeup”. As a trad wife all I hear is “My husband isn’t worth me putting in the effort to look good for him”. That’s the message he’s getting from all you self proclaimed “real” trad wives. My husband works with an older man who offers to send all the younger guy’s wives to the “Jeff school of wifing”. Now I know why he said my husband was the only one that didn’t need it. It’s because his wife is the pinnacle of a traditional wife. Does everything I see these women bragging about but is always dressed nice and in full makeup when he gets home or when she goes out. You’re supposed to be bathed, made up, dressed nice, with a drink ready when he comes home. Or whatever he likes to do to relax after work. I’ve got the pool cleaned, the dogs taken care of, and an ice cold beer waiting for mine in the summer. Because he likes to float in the pool relaxing while I make dinner. None of you are trad wives. You don’t value your husbands enough to make yourself pretty for them. You consider it a waste of time.
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Yes the 3 hours a day it takes me to sweep and do laundry leaves me zero time. An hour to cook dinner starting at 6 when I get up at between 6 and 7 gives me 6-8 hours of free time. These women don’t have kids yet so their day is about the same. Instead of entertaining themselves they choose to make homemade bread and film themselves doing it. I can tell you from experience, once you’ve made something a few times you don’t even have to think about it and you can put it together fairly quickly. So it’s literally positioning the camera and hitting record. Edit: Keep in mind the person recording themselves complaining about it is reading an article someone else wrote. I like Jeremey but this is the pot calling the kettle black.
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@asgardian6638 They aren’t talking about their private life. Cooking isn’t your “private life”. Your sex life or discussing marital problems is your private life. According to you if I give someone a recipe that’s engaging them in my private life. That’s insane.
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@scots2129 Good for her? So she has a FB and YouTube which is also social media. She posts pictures on FB of the kids and talks about her life which is absolutely no different than this. The only difference is young people don’t use FB so she’s having zero impact on culture which we HAVE to change.
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So you’re saying they can’t think and make choices for themselves? That’s a “Stepford wife”. You’ve never seen the movie and just think it’s clever to say. Clearly they are. What you seem to think a trad wife is is way closer to a Stepford wife.
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@Flufferz626 Yes a “full pretty gal” is expected. If you go out in public looking bad it’s publicly announcing your husband can not provide nice things for you. In other words he’s not a good provider. A wife is a reflection of her husband. How a wife looks is more important than how the man does. My grandmother grew up working a ranch and my grandfather a farm. She absolutely never went out in public not dressed nice and in full makeup. They didn’t even have indoor plumbing until the mid 50s. She was absolutely a trad wife. Cooked and took him lunch to work everyday. She taught me proper etiquette.
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⁠ @marywebb9127 I’m honestly astonished at all these women bragging being what my grandmother would call “white trash” in public and calling it being a trad wife and proud of it. It’s just mind boggling. I’m not even that old and know better. How far we as women have fallen.
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⁠⁠ @warpedreflection3650 They didn’t go to Church functions and talk to other women? That was where they got their validation. As a woman that regularly was in those circles they absolutely validated each other. Do you even know what that word means? It means sought praise and they absolutely did. When they showed their friends something they’d made that was for validation. When they talked about how much their family enjoyed a new meal they’d made that was for validation. Jesus y’all are the dimmest bulbs in the pack.
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@leelu9236 TikTok pays crap. She’s not making a living unless she’s got promotional deals which they don’t. When they start hocking Jeremey’s coffee you’ll have a point. It’s like $0.10 per 1,000 views. I think even Twitter pays more.
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“We must engage to influence culture”. “These women making TikToks trying to influence the culture are grifters”. I’m so sick of this! Jeremey trad wives absolutely wore makeup ALL the time. Do you think only men use TikTok? I WANT young women to want to be feminine instead of running around with shaved heads. I WANT the culture to change so we improve children’s outcomes. None of these women in the comments saying they’re “real” trad wives have listed a single thing that says they are. I see a lot of what you do for your children or for the “household”, but not a single thing you do for HIM. You’re not trad wives. You’re trad moms. Everything you’re listing are things that include taking care of your children. You’re not doing a single thing JUST for him. He’s an afterthought. An add on. You’re not trad WIVES.
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