Comments by "L.W. Paradis" (@l.w.paradis2108) on "Can Gaslighting Lead to Legal Insanity? | Michael Barisone u0026 Lauren Kanarek Case Analysis" video.

@LDiamondz My gosh. In my state, if a person is residing in your primary dwelling -- for example, in a house divided into two apartments and you occupy one of them -- it is very easy to evict that person. Most of the major legal protections simply don't apply in that case. If the landlord owns an apartment building as an investment and does not live there, or if he has more than a certain number of units (say 8 or 10) and lives in one of them, then the various tenants' rights ordinances and statutes apply. Eviction can still take place within three to six months, at most. It almost never takes a year to evict anyone who has breached their lease. There would have to be some special circumstance to prevent it. If someone can stay with you after you've asked them to leave your own residence, then how do you own your residence? You don't.
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@markferguson3745 Narcissists are known to be extremely personable and appear to be not only normal but exceptionally accomplished in some way. This is how you will see perfectly good parents trust their child with someone who turns out to be an abuser, for example. Parents, plural: more than one family. An entire community, a beloved coach, clergyman, teacher, etc. (In denial much?)
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@lindasimons691 Nah, he's just gaslighting you and taking it to the second level. You know, gaslighting you about seeing through gaslighting. Neat trick.
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@LDiamondz Obviously totally different laws. The court in my city orders evictions so quickly that no one calls it housing court. They call it eviction court. But there were also many times in the past when the owners were forced into bankruptcy in exactly this way, with the authorities turning their backs on the lawlessness. "Miraculously," developers would scoop up the properties at a bargain price, rehab them, and see the price soar five or tenfold. This is the story of Lincoln Park West in Chicago, around DePaul University, and also of Wicker Park. Wicker Park and Humboldt Park used to be all immigrant communities. It was where rents were really, really low. Culturally, they were once West Side (Studs Terkel, Division Street). Now they are chic North Side. (smh)
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May I ask you a few things about that? Is this because narcissists are able to convince you that no one will ever believe you, and that everyone will take their side? Is that how they operate? The reason I ask is because I'm trying to understand; once you do know what they did, and that you were not responsible in any way, what interrupts your recovery apart from the memory of the trauma itself? Do you think it could be repeated, that "there is nothing to stop it," and similar thoughts? I've had experiences like that, though not as severe, and I'm still trying to sort it out. When it's over, why isn't it over for the target? What makes it persist?
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@LDiamondz I wonder what the appeals procedure was in a case like that. A sheriff can only evict once a court has ordered the eviction, but being forced to go back a second time and a third time should have been reversed on appeal instead of coming before the same judge. It's a shame that the really heavy-duty lawyering is so expensive. He might have needed to apply to the next level appellate court for an emergency order or a writ of mandamus. Very expensive. That would be to order the housing court judge to issue the evictions. Most courts allow for that and have some sort of procedure in place to request it. Otherwise, you could never have a devastating legal error corrected. Funny, but bankruptcy then kicks it over to federal court. Again, the bankruptcy reorganization process and the trustee might have been able to do something, but most people can't afford to go to court for that. By the time they file, it's a regular bankruptcy. It's over.
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@markferguson3745 A very praiseworthy and noble aim, and I think I might have done that better than you did, and for an obvious reason. People get accused of victim blaming far more often then they are actually victim blaming, but that is for a reason as well: this society does it too much, and it doesn't work to anyone's advantage except sometimes to the advantage of the one who pulls rank by doing the blaming. (You know nothing about me. I read in three languages, two alphabets, and have a degree from a university in Europe that shall remain nameless. Pop psychology is your thing, not mine. But I digress.)
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@markferguson3745 Are you going to tell us you never fell for one, and now are furious with yourself and everyone else who doesn't immediately "see the obvious?" Understandable, but . . . you know. Not everyone is the same. You learnt that in psychology.
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