Comments by "L.W. Paradis" (@l.w.paradis2108) on "Stop Lying To Yourself! - Master The Laws of Power To Turn Your Life Today | Robert Greene" video.

Was any abused child asking for the abuser who did that to them? I'm reading a book by a woman who treated Holocaust survivors. You know where I'm going with fault here . . .
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Copy of my OP in another thread: "Everything is my fault?" LOL, that's the ultimate megalomania. Suppose you are a passenger in a car and out of the blue, you are broadsided by a drunk driver. Broad daylight, your driver is perfectly sober and has never been in a crash. Is it your fault? No, but rehab (and a fat lawsuit to pay for it) --- 100% your responsibility. You think you'll win if you tell the drunk's lawyer that it was your fault? Or that you'll make better progress in your rehab by blaming yourself? So twisted!
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@mohamedsamy1431 It's a senseless heuristic, for the reasons I gave. I don't believe in "useful fictions" --- in any event, certainly not when FACTS are known. When facts are unclear, presume what is useful and keep an open mind to discover more information. That's what mentally strong people do.
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@mohamedsamy1431 "Ownership over your life" is another advertising phrase. Good lord, free us from ad men masquerading as philosophers. That's how we got here. Are my other posts shadowed? LOL, the better the point, the less likely it is to be visible.
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When I hear this "everything is your own fault" rot, I know I'm in the company of a shameless, master manipulator. Greene has never said this elsewhere --- he has always said that because we control so little, we need to understand what we do control and place our focus and our energy there. He has used the example of his stroke to illustrate that. Had he had the stroke when he was alone, he would have died, but he was with his wife, who saved his life. Because we control so little, it is necessary to work extra hard on those things, not abdicate responsibility. I don't know why he's agreeing with this guy suddenly. He knows better and writes better. "Everything is your fault" is magical thinking. Preschool kids go through a period of believing it.
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Judith Herman writes about trauma, as does her friend van der Kolk. To read about the treatment of the worst traumas that can happen is very useful, for me at least. Both are so compassionate.
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@mohamedsamy1431 I just explained, with the drunk driver example. You're a passenger in a car with a safe and sober driver, you are broadsided by the drunk, you have zero responsibility for what happened, yet only you can testify in court, only you can rehab your own body --- and only you can have the maturity and clarity of mind to understand and accept the true scope and limits of your responsibility for your life. Or you can be a child, and decide bad things don't happen to good people so you must be bad. You can engage in magical thinking: you secretly wanted to try out being nearly killed. There are 1001 ways to be infantile or crazy.
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You are totally right. Greene is agreeing with the host here. No idea why.
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@mohamedsamy1431 I suppose that in my example, you could decide never to take a car again. That would make it hard to get to physical therapy, though.
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@mohamedsamy1431 There must be a lot of shadow banning here, or illiteracy.
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@mohamedsamy1431 "Power" 😂😂😂 You just gave this Tom guy power over your rational faculties. Why? That's something you can control.
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@mohamedsamy1431 Haha do you take responsibility for failing to grasp the one post that was ironic, and then acting all passive-aggressive in response to your own failure, and blaming that on "my deeper issues?" That's for you to decide. Clearly you cannot sustain reasoned discourse. My best guess is that you need to work on that. You chose to attack OP's solid point without any basis, other than what you claim to be your own unanalyzed experience, to put it politely. That's your responsibility, too.
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"Everything is my fault?" LOL, that's the ultimate megalomania. Suppose you are a passenger in a car and out of the blue, you are broadsided by a drunk driver. Broad daylight, your driver is perfectly sober and has never been in a crash. Is it your fault? No, but rehab (and a fat lawsuit to pay for it) --- 100% your responsibility. You think you'll win if you tell the drunk's lawyer that it was your fault? Or that you'll make better progress in your rehab by blaming yourself? So twisted!
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Well, that's entirely up to him. /s
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@mohamedsamy1431 Maybe a grasp of irony would help?
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LOL, as stupid as it gets.
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