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Yes, this presentation is very superficial. As for trusting your feelings, I defer to Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear. Everyone should read that. There are times when your feelings tell you to get the hell away from someone. Trust those feelings.
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@tsrocks2029 That would be fine, if it worked. It seems to work in one direction: to allow more blame-the-victim thinking.
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@Starry_Night_Sky7455 The problem is, that being "more careful" does not work. It seems to me that the truly dangerous things (sexual assault, school shootings, gender issue contagion, and bondage experimentation) are more common in young people's lives, and things that are simply uncomfortable suddenly become the focus, exactly because we can do nothing about the big things.
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@matthewatwood8641 How ridiculous. Precisely what "anti-fragile" means is highly context dependent, and may vary with age, temperament of the child, and the nature of the surrounding community and the larger society. We're not dealing with protons and electrons, or billiard balls. Among other things, I object to referring to ordinary teasing as bullying, OR treating the latter as the former. Everyone laughs when they go to a school reunion and reminisce about the teasing they endured. No one laughs about bullying. It's like the difference between a rude outburst followed by an apology, and a true threat.
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6. Win a small lotto. A million and a half net will do.
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Cloud gazing. I didn't know about it until the pandemic forced dining outside.
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@sweetsue4204 Goat yogurt is the best one, as is goat kefir. But the price!!! 😮
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@chasingdharmaify Agreed! But if there were a simple formula: if always going to parties with a friend, if someone in your group of friends agrees always to decline all drinks, if you agree to leave if anyone feels their safety is genuinely threatened , and if by doing all of this, you could at least be sure you would come home in one piece, it might be worth it. But the truth is, you could do all of this -- which comes down to a serious restriction on your personal freedom -- and you STILL could end up assaulted, shot, anything. You could end up pregnant in a state that does not permit an abortion.
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Exactly. Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear. Everything you said is perfect.
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@brettansley8600 People here agree that there ARE situations where his advice applies, but these principles are not universals by any means.
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@_Y.Not_ I've heard of that. So terrible, really sorry. Good wishes to you.
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@ForAnAngel Great observation.
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The fact that this is not the top comment is what is wrong with the 21st century. Or the 21st century in the Five Eyes in any case.
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@goodsous This FINALLY dawned on me! 😊 😢
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@sentotalkacili7407 No, it's a sign of perceptiveness.
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@alexxx4434 Intuition is ultra-rapid non-discursive pattern recognition, and it is a gift. Among the most precious we have.
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Wow, no one was ever so jealous of you they went after you? Happened to me tons, saw others get it even worse.
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Try reading any one of his books. Like a Thief in Broad Daylight, for example. (Or are you not much into books and stuff?)
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@Adrian-mq5ld He's not a liberal at all. You're supposed to say totalitarian, if that's not too many syllables for hash tagging.
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@matthewatwood8641 Actually, my own issue has been taking too much responsibility for the actions of others, and that is obvious to anyone who is astute. I don't care how I come across to you. You're not doing too well in meeting your basic reading and thinking skills responsibilities. No one can do that for you. Blocked.
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I really want what I want. Try me.
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@beyamoth It's not so much a set of fables than it is a book of poetry. Poetry does not consist of statements that are true or false, nor is it intended to be. Literal belief in the Bible as though it were a history book makes no sense at all.
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@bigherm70068 Most liver has toxins. Be careful of the origin of the beef liver you eat, and what that animal ate.
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@planetstarshine6867 Any time before 7 pm is fine, to be done by 7 at the latest. Listen to your body.
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Either that, or major neglect.
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@Dave_of_Mordor You are sure too easily.
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Peer pressure is even greater at work. If you excel in your job, your risk of being abused by a swarm of coworkers and even your (less competent?) boss is probably just as high as your chance of being recognized or promoted. Be more realistic about why this is happening, and where it leads to.
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You ABSOLUTELY can turn this around. If you are under 40, you have 20 more years of being young and 30 years of work life. If you feel old, it could be depression. Don't let that happen. Start by talking long walks and eating well. Don't fall for fad diets, eat the things this video said to eat, and buy organic whenever you can.
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Except if interminable restrictions are placed on you.
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@McCoymiked I think it's a hoot. This stupidity deserves it.
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This dude hasn't been carjacked, this is clear.
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@168KDW I don't think I want to find out how awesome I could become after seeing a mass shooting at the school across the street.
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Rebecca Goldstein's book: Betraying Spinoza. You will thank me for that. :)
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Consider postponing your self-criticism. For example, I'm scheduling mine for next Friday, which means I don't need to worry about it until Thursday. My worry schedule is Thursday, from noon to one.
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@mystuff9999 How is that an example of intuition rather than fear, which is frequently unfounded?
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@bobmcbobbington9220 The popular book Blink explains it well in lay terms. Ultra-rapid nondiscursive pattern recognition: that's what intuition is. As for distinguishing between maladaptive fear and the instinct that could save you, try The Gift of Fear. You think you know things that you don't. What's that like?
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I think that's right, but I also suspect that many people find it too scary. I hope not.
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No wonder the 70s were the last good decade.
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This is exactly the belief that leads to poor performance.
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@michaelduffy3866 Concerning "your gut," I would defer to Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear, on exactly when to trust your feelings. There are many times in life when your gut tells you to get away from someone. Believe it.
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David Riesman explained it all, some 65 years ago. Long before social media. But social media made it all vastly, vastly worse.
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I wish I were an introvert. I think it's a better way of being. I'm serious. If I could change only one thing, it would be to ditch the extroversion.
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Nonsense. Fortunately.
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Those "factors" are driving us apart? No. You and your cohort are driving us apart. There is nothing you won't do for more money.
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Noticed how he didn't mention France. Good reason. It has a real left -- as usual.
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@matthewatwood8641 The irony is that Westerners in general and Americans in particular are so high maintenance, but this anti-fragility discourse has you obsessing and "correcting" others who have more sense than you do. For example, twice I did not so much as cry about a grim diagnosis -- and both times it turned out to be wrong, of course. Maybe you need to toughen up? But that would be you, not "everyone."
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@matthewatwood8641 Well, now we know why there is a mental health crisis among the youth . . . And a reading comprehension crisis among just about everyone.
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@matthewatwood8641 I know. Blaming the latest mass shooter for killing your kid is just trying to shift responsibility. Your kid is your problem. /s At some point, a perp is to blame for what they do to others. A better example: the idiotic COVID policies of the government most certainly harmed me and others. Of course we now have to deal with those problems on our own. The problems I'm left with are all mine. Closer to the topic at hand, concerning workplace bullying: when it is severe enough, most European countries have criminal statutes on the books and will prosecute it. Civilized people take it seriously. Here, people line up to make a buck with dubious "self-help" rants. Support that. See how it works out for you.
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@matthewatwood8641 I don't see that being the target of criminals is a challenge that a minor child should have to face, least of all in school. That doesn't mean it has to defeat you. That's not the point. My parents met in a refugee camp, so I know something about overcoming real challenges. It still would have been better had there been no Hitler.
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