Comments by "JLH" (@Kyarrix) on "How Addicts Survived COVID" video.

@filthycasual8074 Many people have things we will never talk about because they're too painful. Because people judge without understanding. Because of the just world fallacy. If you're not familiar with the term, look it up. It is a mode of thinking where the person consciously or unconsciously believes that the world is a fair and just place. This fallacy causes people to judge others who have been hurt. A few examples, when you see someone questioning a woman, asking her "what were you wearing?" "What did you do to deserve it?" Or asking an 8-year-old child whose father has beaten her bloody, "What did you do to deserve it? "What did you do to provoke it?" These are the kinds of questions that come from the just world fallacy, the belief that bad things happen to people who deserve it in some way, that things work out fairly in the end. This causes the kind of pain that people later don't talk about because they've been taught to believe that it's their fault, taught that they are in some way lacking.. It takes a lot of time to heal from something like that. A good therapist, people who love you, a lot of reading and thinking. For that reason I think she worded it artfully. She said a lot in a few words that will mean something to many. I'm surprised anyone would have an issue with it. Perhaps it didn't make sense to you but it's often a good idea to avoid criticizing, to try to take a step back and think. The fact that what she wrote didn't speak to you doesn't mean it wouldn't speak to others. Calling it stupid comes from anger. Stop for a moment and ask yourself why you felt angry.
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@OlivetheDoge Don't give up on that. Try to find the right counselor or therapist. It can be really difficult to talk to a therapist if that person isn't right for you. There are situations where we are still avoiding things and we might think the therapist isn't right for us because they're pushing us to talk, but there are also situations where the therapist just isn't a good match. It takes wisdom and honesty to figure out which is the case. I worked with a wonderful therapist for seven or eight years and he did a lot to help me work through a lot of pain and harm. I've also worked with a therapist who wasn't quite right for me and I got some benefit out of it (including getting better at working with people I don't have chemistry with, and that's an important life skill) but not nearly the same as when it was a good fit. Please don't give up. When a therapist is not the right fit, it's fine to acknowledge that and amicably end the relationship. But keep trying because the right therapist, someone who really gets you, can make a tremendous difference. I'm not saying you can't get there on your own, but the right help can make the journey easier and faster.
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@michaelmalech5742 Thank you. Your name has elements of Hebrew and Arabic both. I speak one of those languages with a lesser degree of knowledge in the other. I appreciate your kindness. There is a real need for more of it in our world. Shalom Al'echa, As'salam Elaikum
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@michaelmalech5742 I'm so sorry but I disagree about Jordan Peterson. This is a longer conversation but Peterson does a great deal of harm. His self-help material in it's own is basic and there's nothing wrong with it but he feeds into the alt-right, and has become their hero. He plays on that intentionally. There are elements of grift. There is so much more to be said on this topic. I understand why he can seem attractive. He presents as the paternalistic figure that many people have not had. As I said, some of the elements of his basic self-help are fine, but he is not the wise figure he portrays himself to be. His psychology is flawed and his worldview is extremely traditional to the point of caricature. He'll say he believes in equality between the sexes but he does not. And there's more. There are better people to recommend than Jordan Peterson but if he helps you, Baruch haba and I'm glad you found someone who speaks to you. I would not want to take away support from anyone It's just that there are better people to recommend. I hope this has not been too harshly stated.
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Cal Rogers Hey there's a virus going around, people have serious problems in their lives and need help. Let's be more judgmental rather than helping them. Is that about your position?
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