Comments by "JLH" (@Kyarrix) on "F.D Signifier" channel.

 @fernandozavaletabustos205 You don't have to apologize for missing a comment, they were out of line to snark at you. It was not necessary.
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I am a woman attorney also. I agree with your comment wholeheartedly. I've never understood traditional masculinity, if by traditional masculine they mean men who strut around and put women down and feel that they have to be in charge. No, thank you. Traditional masculinity is generally understood to mean someone like Ron DeSantis who, when he was dating, would take a girl out and say that he likes "thigh food" (Thai food) and knows a good place to go for thigh food and then wait for the woman to correct him. If she did, he would end the date there because he didn't want a girlfriend who would correct him. If I was on a date with someone who said he liked thigh food I would run for the hills. It isn't a mystery. We want men who are intelligent, have a sense of humor and possess the ability to learn and change regardless of their income. Men who are genuinely kind and willing to acknowledge what they are feeling. I don't understand why so many men find this confusing. Be a good human. Be a good man. There will be plenty of women interested.
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I'm an attorney and curious as to the crime you committed. I am not in any way saying that prisoners deserve to be brutalized. I've lived in other countries where prison is not the same as it is here. Our system needs reform in so many ways starting with the for-profit prison system. But you did not give that information and it stands out that it was omitted. If you hurt another person regardless of the terrible prison conditions you will receive less sympathy from me and I suspect from others. This isn't about poverty and lack of options. Theft is one thing, rape or murder are another. I too went hungry, I have my own story but I am curious as to yours. And before you make any assumptions, I don't work for corporations or the state. I help people who need it often for minimal or no payment.
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@adaezez8378 what's the deal? Someone misses a response and rather than simply type a single word you decide to snark at them and be unpleasant? Why would you do that? There was no rudeness, nothing was out of line, it was a simple question. I find it surprising that people don't look things up but even so, you have the choice to not respond.
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@adaezez8378 true. But if everyone stays quiet in the face of a bully they feel free to continue. You were unnecessarily unkind. If that isn't who you are, apologize and try to avoid impatience next time. We all make mistakes and get irritated with others. If it is who you are, work on becoming someone else.
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@mohammedmiah7554 a better job? What would be a better job? The better job is the one you do well, that you enjoy. If by a better job you mean a desk job if he isn't suited to it, you're wrong. When someone does a job they don't enjoy because of societal expectations they become bitter and miserable. Their misery affects their relationship and their partner. You should recognize that you are approaching this from a very traditional perspective, that they are good jobs and bad jobs. You don't respect the jobs that you don't regard as good ones even though they are often more necessary to a functioning society. Carpenters are mandatory. Managers sitting at desks are less so. I am an attorney also, I wouldn't respect a man more for doing the desk job than a physical job. I would respect him more for doing an excellent job at whatever he enjoyed that was useful. If there wasn't enough money in the home then we would have to work together to figure it out but many of the trades make very good money. Perhaps revisit your values.
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@stryfe0 I don't think you understand. I responded to a comment. I have no difficulty finding good men in my life. You seem to be angry and determined to argue with people in the comments. Here's my recommendation. As an experiment try a different way. Rather than being defensive and perceiving every response as an attack, look at what others are doing and try it. See what it would be like to not jump on others. See what it would be like to take a deep breath and listen to what they're saying. You aren't condemned to be the person you are right now for the rest of your life. Change is possible but it's difficult. I'm not going to respond any further to antagonism because time is limited and there's nothing to be gained from it. You keep saying that women find good man boring but you don't come across as a good man. Spend a few months reading, being humble. Look at men who are genuinely good and successful with women and try to analyze what they do differently. It isn't about wealth. It isn't about height. It isn't about traditional masculinity. I promise you change as possible.
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@stryfe0 I think you are intentionally misunderstanding the video and the comments. I won't spend time engaging with people who are not willing to have a good faith discussion.
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@ChareForce I think you're confused. It isn't surprising, our system breeds a black and white approach that benefits no one. I would recommend you go back and read what I wrote. Not what you think I wrote or what someone else wrote but actually read what I wrote. I am not advocating for our system, to the contrary. I am not an apologist for the system. The crime does matter. When someone posts a lengthy comment seeking empathy and understanding and they leave out what they did, that is a red flag. Does anyone deserve to be brutalized? No. Is the criminal justice system broken? Yes. Is the for-profit criminal system horrendous? Yes, it is. Would I have less empathy for him if he raped someone or did violence to an innocent? Yes, I would have significantly less empathy. Two things can be true at once and I am doing my utmost to remain courteous in the face of your inappropriate comment. Again, two things can be true at once. The criminal justice system and the prison system can be deeply in need of reform and a human rights violation and at the same time I can say that I would have less empathy for someone if they committed violence or harmed an innocent. My recommendation is that you develop critical thinking skills. I recognize that I am being condescending but your comment was both inappropriate and irritating. Our prison system is abhorrent but at the same time people who commit horrendous crimes may forfeit the right to my empathy. That doesn't mean I won't advocate for them. It doesn't mean I want anyone to be brutalized. But not providing that information is a red flag. Ignoring that and pretending that the crime doesn't matter is not good faith. Why would you pretend that stealing is the same thing as child abuse? Or that taking food if you're hungry is similar to rape? They aren't the same. The fact that he didn't include that information bears questioning. The fact that you are conflating me making that point with anything else suggests that you are intentionally approaching this in bad faith.
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Really good analysis, thank you for adding it. I loved this movie when it came out but had some problems with it when I rewatched it a few years ago. I thought the acting was good. The first time I watched it I remember being riveted. It felt emotionally real. I'll watch anything with Sanaa Latham or Gabrielle Union. I think your comment about her wanting balance or her awareness of the possibility of not having it by only pursuing basketball and that dampening her enjoyment of basketball was perceptive. Even though she's been pushed to be more feminine and give up what she loves, she doesn't allow it to push her too far in the other direction. I've never liked how the movie made her pay a price for her ambition. When a woman has ambition in a movie (or in most media and arguably in life) and succeeds, there's always going to be a scene where she is broken down in order to show the audience that in the end, she's still just a woman and not a threat. Valuable, but still only a woman. The scene will humble her and not so subtly convey to the male audience that they don't have to worry. Worse, it teaches us to expect to be humbled, to expect to pay a price for our ambition and success. Monica is exceptional, she's smart, driven, ambitious and talented. Initially I had written that because this movie was made 22 years ago, it had to humble her to reassure the male audience. Unfortunately I think that would still happen.
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A couple of things. Canibus is a unique rapper who deserves recognition not "Canibus was a rapper that deserves recognition." Who is always used to refer to people. That is always used when talking about inanimate objects. He is a person therefore you would use who, not that. Second, he's not dead. The guy is 48 years old he is very much alive, no need to use past tense. Is, not was.
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@edk487 I'm not sure. I'm not a member of the black community. I would also hesitate to take your word for it. Have you done a study? How do you know that this is how it works? Anecdotal evidence only? Something you've seen? A friend told you?
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@MySqueezingArm Hey, there was no hostility. I apologized and said as much. It's possible to confuse formality of approach with hostility. There was no hostility intended, I felt that you were hostile in your initial response. There is so much willful stupidity and IDGAF going around. I was in part reacting to that. I am not saying that you are doing that. I get to listen to people saying that instead of who often enough that it prompted a reaction. People are often aggressively unknowledgeable and seem to take pride in being that way. I will absolutely cop to being a little pedantic but I don't know where you are reading hostile. Also it should be noted that people generally don't listen anyway. It is the very rare person who is open to guidance, help or input. Again, I apologize for how I came across. No hostility was intended, not in the first or second response. I thought your "look, my dude" and "who cares" were pretty hostile. We aren't all dudes and that kind of response strikes me more as gamer speak than a genuine reply. I don't think I hyper fixated either but I understand you feeling that way given the context.
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@painunending4610 what am I not listening to? You named yourself pain unending, that says something about your state of mind. You can be the nicest, kindest man out there but if you project pain unending that is going to be a deterrent to other people. Most women want a man who is kind, ethical and loyal. Someone with a sense of humor and innate decency. We don't care how much money he makes as long as there is enough money for the things that are needed. This is complicated in the United States because health care is not covered for everyone. There are the realities of life in this country that make everything more complicated. I've lived in other countries where things are different. That doesn't alter the fact that the majority of women aren't looking for a traditionally masculine man because that form of masculinity doesn't regard women as equals. We want someone who will understand that men and women are equals. Different in some regards but still equal. A traditionally masculine man believes that it is his right to make the decisions and her job to follow along. That is not a relationship of equals. People who were raised in more traditional countries or traditional families will be trained differently and for them it might be difficult to break away from that mindset. If you really want to engage in a conversation, tell me what you feel I was not listening to and I will respond.
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@MySqueezingArm I guess that's the point. When I type quickly I don't have to think about good grammar or using the correct words. Someone isn't dead they aren't past tense. I don't have to think about that it's an obvious thing. That versus who is the same thing for me. I don't have to think about it to be accurate. I don't know what you do for a living or if literacy matters but it should matter for all of us. How we communicate matters. It is valuable to communicate accurately because it promotes clarity of thinking. You don't have to agree with me but I am objectively right here. If you have to think about that versus who or is versus was it might be something you work on a little bit. We should all want to communicate well. But that is a personal choice. Good grammar isn't the issue it is using the correct words to convey your thoughts. Ideally you wouldn't have to think about that it should just flown naturally. I probably shouldn't have responded but it's important to me so I did. There was no intent to hurt your feelings or be negative.
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Why do you say that? Do you know her in person or it's just your supposition?
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I like your videos but I'm not sure about the message regarding hip hop. You wear a tee-shirt that says "I'm hip hop" and then almost smirk while acknowledging that hip hop can be misogynistic. Why do it that way? It absolutely can be extremely ugly and misogynistic. No smirk, nudge, wink or tee-shirt required. There is hip hop that isn't misogynistic and there is a lot of it that teaches that women are pussy, not people. Why not make a clean acknowledgement of that? We want white people to be more aware, don't we also want black men to be more aware of the messages in hip hop and how it damages men and women? If you hadn't worn that tee-shirt, if you hadn't been so grudging in your acknowledgement, I'd feel a lot better about your position and honesty on this topic.
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I don't think your disavowel of the anti-Semitism was strong enough. What issues between Jewish people and Black people? Do you mean the issues where Jewish people stood by Black people? Do you mean when people like my grandparents marched for civil rights? Do you mean when the white people in their town burned crosses on their lawns because they were Jewish and were called n-word lovers? Your disavowel should have been much more robust. Of all the peoples in this country Jewish people have put time and effort in to fighting for fairness, equality and justice. Because of the Holocaust, because of the history of anti-Semitism and hatred, Jewish people more so than any other group understand what it's like to be targeted and have always stood up for others. . Do you think it is helpful to play the same clip of someone shouting about the "satanic Jews" repeatedly? Do you not understand that that feeds hatred? The fact that you didn't disavow it more strongly is a real concern. Anti-semitism isn't okay, not from white people and not from Black people. Not when it is overt and not when it is understated with a nudge and a wink. When black people are anti-Semitic they are acting as "useful idiots" to racist, anti-Semitic, white nationalist white people. When you absorb that kind of thinking you are hurting yourself. You are functioning as their tool and you aren't even aware of it. Jewish people and black people are on the same side or they should be.
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@glizzzerd How so? If I were making an ad hominem attack it would be clear. Where do you see me attacking the person instead of their argument? He's wearing a hip hop tee-shirt. He smirked and made a face when he kind of acknowledged the issues with hip hop. Asking about it as I did is the furthest thing from an ad hominem attack. I was direct and courteous.
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@handleyobusiness I'm sorry, I don't understand the question. Are you asking if I regard a trans person as a woman? I'm not sure what the relevance is or why you would ask that.
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@oeckstei for Gen X? Probably pretty common.
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Why would you have somebody talk about honesty in the context of sleeping around on the person they are dating? Do you feel it's admirable? It isn't. Race is not relevant in this situation, the vast majority of women do not want a man who feels the need to sleep around. It isn't regarded as attractive or appealing. The person you were interviewing talked about how women get into that and they appreciate the honesty and they call you the next week. Which women are these? I'm confused as to why you would present that as something in any way positive or admirable.
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@Genarii I didn't get any answers. I was annoyed when I wrote that. It bothered me having someone ignore the question I was asking while accusing me of something that isn't true. My comment didn't help. I try to remember that there are times when how you approach someone matters more than what you're saying.
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@Krill_all_health_insuranceCEOs I'll check in the morning
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@Krill_all_health_insuranceCEOs was this the reply you were referring to? I did see it. I don't disagree. I would probably have worded it differently but I don't disagree with the underlying thought. The thing you sometimes find on leftist channels is a lot of hatred and rage that doesn't differentiate between people who deserve it and those who do not. There is a hatred of all things police and all things government that is not warranted. All police are not bad. Imagine how you would feel if you were a police officer, if you did your utmost everyday to protect your community, to avoid using violence, to treat people with fairness and decency and you came across this video. What would happen when you read the comments and see all the hatred and rage and disgust heaped upon you by people you protect, how would you feel? I'm not a police officer, I'm an attorney. I have encountered bad police and I have also had the privilege of working with some who are genuinely good and decent public servants. I can take either side of this argument, if a video were made glorifying the police I would be there pointing out that reform is necessary. When I encounter rage and hatred against the police with no one pushing back however mildly, I feel it necessary to provide that balance.
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@jeremysmith4620 I think there might be some confusion here. I am an attorney but not one of the first people you responded to. Perhaps you might go back and reread my comment in case you are confusing it with someone else. This is going to be a somewhat lengthy comment and there may be parts you don't like. I think if you read it with an open mind and get to the end you'll find that we are on the same page. Here goes. I take exception to the scolding tone of your response. You wrote a lengthy comment explaining why, from your perspective, the prison system is bad. Nowhere in that comment did you provide any detail as to why you were in prison. How people react in a prison environment to being asked about their crimes is not a valid response. No one is casually insinuating anything, you are borderline threatening me and that is unacceptable. I would dial it back. You are making assumptions that are unwarranted. Instead of approaching it the way you did you might have asked why and avoided assuming bad intent. I asked the question because the omission was glaring. You didn't have to provide the specifics but some indication as to whether the crime was one of violence or property would have been useful. Do you see why? Human nature, we default to the worst case scenario in the absence of information. There were some in the comments who were blunt, those who assumed that you did commit a crime of violence and others who said things along the lines of "Don't do the crime if you don't want to do the time." I was not one of those. When we provide information up front we take ammunition away from those who would use its absence against us. We avoid doubt. Your position would have been stronger if you had said "I committed a minor property crime and this is what happened to me." People reading your comment would have been on your side more quickly and the element of doubt would have been removed. When you anticipate a question you take away the sting by providing that information up front. You anticipate the questions that will be asked and provide the information on your terms. In this case you did not commit a crime of violence, there was no reason to have people wonder or assume that you had. As I wrote in my original comment, our prison system needs significant reform. Relative to most nations we have a prison population that is four to five times higher. Approximately .7% of our population is in jail or prison. That is a tremendous number of people. We have a for-profit prison system that incentivizes longer sentences and encourages corruption and we imprison people for minor crimes and offenses. We keep people in prison for far longer than they should be. We don't prioritize rehabilitation and we often treat people in prison as though they are subhuman. We lack anything approaching a social safety net that would prevent a lot of people spiraling into crime. These are things that have to change. At the same time this doesn't mean that all police are bad, many are but there are people who genuinely believe in protecting and serving others. It is not right to brutalize or dehumanize anyone in prison. I made that clear in my first comment. Regardless of the crime we should try to treat people with decency. It is still true that we will have significantly less empathy for someone who has willfully and intentionally harmed an innocent. If a man rapes and beats a woman I am going to have very little empathy for them. If someone beats a child, starves a child, abuses someone who can't fight back I am going to struggle to feel compassion for them. I have suffered through violence. Perhaps it is a flaw on my part but it is difficult for me to have empathy for someone who wilfully chooses to hurt people. I understand that there are mitigating circumstances including mental illness. Poverty is not an extenuating circumstance, I've gone hungry and I never did violence to another person as a result. Making it clear up front that you did not do that would have avoided a lot of this conversation. I understand why you have a chip on your shoulder, I would have the same in your position. It would be good if you were able to understand where I was coming from too.
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@Krill_all_health_insuranceCEOs I disagree with a lot of what you have written. I don't think it is useful to call people sociopaths without good evidence that they are. Some background on me, I am Gen X, an attorney and a woman. I have experienced a lot. I've gone hungry and experienced things I'm not willing to share. I put myself through school and have lived in different countries. I've seen a lot. I have represented people from different walks of life and I was an administrative law judge for a few years. I will tell you that there are lots of bad people and they aren't limited to those who support the establishment. There are plenty of miserable human beings on the left. People as a general rule are selfish and out for themselves. In my experience the people who have survived difficulty are often those who make a commitment every day to be as decent a human being as they can be. I don't know what has to happen to make us as a species better. Less suffering to start with. When people have their needs met they have the leisure to breathe and think. We have to do a lot more for each other. No one person should have billions where others starve. No person should have dozens of homes when others go without a roof. But those who work hard should be able to enjoy the fruits of that labor. Humans are reward motivated but the system we have now has no checks, no balances. Someone can come up with a good idea and under capitalism as it exists in this country that can end up one of the richest people in the world with those who work for them peeing in bottles. It's an easy example, low hanging fruit but still valid. I think you should broaden your perspective. It isn't us and them, at least not the way you have painted it. There are good people on the other side even though I disagree with their politics. And there are plenty of bad ones on ours. Yes, ours. We are on the same side. You do an odd thing where you say that 99% of police are sociopaths and then another comment you say 93.7%, that weakens your argument. 99% of people in general aren't terrific. You don't know 99% or 93.7% of police it is advisable to refrain from characterizing them as pigs or sociopaths unless they're until you know it for a certainty. Yes, that profession does attract people who shouldn't be in it. Absolutely right. But it also attracts people who seek to protect. You can have someone with that frame of mind who is conservative and it will manifest in a less than ideal way. I wish we didn't have to have police but human beings have not yet evolved to a point where we can be trusted to not harm each other.
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@Krill_all_health_insuranceCEOs I don't think there is much ground for conversation. You are very fond of epithets and of judging people. You have no idea who or what my career has brought me into contact with but you feel very comfortable in making assumptions. You come across as someone who is very young and has formed opinions based on what he has seen online. You also seem to enjoy excessive hyperbole and your own voice.
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