Comments by "Robert Morgan" (@RobertMorgan) on "Women Are BEGGING For ATTENTION As Men Stop Approaching Them" video.
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I'm 40, I remember back in the day, it was always women being the ones walking around saying hello to everyone, greeting strangers, smiling at people, just being pleasant. Working to make other people feel good just as part of their life. My mother was the type to go out of her way to randomly greet and say nice things to strangers.
I can't count the number of times I left her at a door while I went to get the car, she had trouble walking without pain, and no joke every time I'd be gone a minute tops, I pull up she's met a stranger, bummed a smoke off him, they're laughing, and she's writing down the address of that persons kids to send them baked goods at the holidays because his son is deployed to Iraq right now...I don't think she ever met a stranger, and if she did, she'd be the type to be 'Hey, why are you avoiding me, you have a problem?'
If I had even 10% of the social magic my mom had, I'd probably be a Senator as a man, but no, socially awkward.
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That hit me first week of college, 2006. Wow, there's women EVERYWHERE...and they might as well not be there because they're all in earbuds, can headphones, sunglasses, I said hey, hi, hi, how are ya, great weather right? to dozens of people with no response before I gave up. It's the Midwest, I'm used to it being way more friendly, welcome to the Big City I thought.
But yeah, I wonder that myself a lot, I spend all this time in the gym closed off, I'm in my own world with noise cancelling headphones, you could be screaming in my face you want to do whatever I want, I won't hear you.
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And at least one of them will be from a gay man hitting on you.
For me, it was a younger black man cashier at Walmart, ringing my stuff and he stopped, looked me up and down, loooked me DEAD in the eyes and said 'Honey, you're WAY too cute to be lookin' THAT sad, what's wrong? You can tell me..."
And proceeded to have a few minutes of actual open and honest talk about the bad place I was in, and I felt better leaving.
I never felt like he was trying to bang me, it was a rare moment of being genuinely CARED for, he saw another person visibly hurting and thought no, I have to do something, even if it's just asking.
It worked because that was over a decade ago and it instantly returns to mind.
You have the ability to make noises with your mouth that causes other people to have different chemical reactions happen in them and change their whole state, if that's not magic I don't know what is.
Use your spells for good.
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It's also a skewing depending on what environment you work in. In my workplace, it's 101%+ male, having a bachelor's AND an industry cert it takes a decade to get is the NORM, that's entry level...when you're constantly surrounded by competent, accomplished people, you tend to assume people around you are competent and accomplished.
So when I go on dating apps and see the single moms my age struggling, I just can't relate.
What do you mean you're 30, have a MBA from a good school, but you're bankrupt and working part time at a wine store, living at home?
I guess I'm spoiled by my siblings, 4 sisters, all very accomplished, strong people I'm always trying to keep up with.
Just expect more.
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