Comments by "Glamdolly" (@glamdolly30) on "What TOXIC Body Language u0026 Behavioral Red Flags Did Johnny Depp Ignore With Amber Heard?" video.
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Great video DVS! The Australia video apologising for sneaking their dogs into the country by private plane without declaring them is interesting, and reveals a lot about both Amber Heard and Johnny Depp and their relationship - which at this point was very close to breaking point (he ended the marriage 2 weeks later).
Johnny Depp had to be in Australia to make his 5th and likely his final 'Pirates' movie, since Amber Heard's false abuse allegations subsequently destroyed the relationship between Depp and Disney.
So his reasons for being in Australia were important, business ones - he was the star of a major movie being filmed there. Amber merely flew out later to join him, as his wife. She had mentioned to both Johnny and their PA, her intention to smuggle the two tiny teacup Yorkshire Terriers with her into the country, without doing it legally.
Both Johnny and the PA advised her against, knowing it meant breaking Australia's strict laws - and the risk of public censure/negative publicity for such high profile people as her and Depp. But she went ahead and did it anyway.
Her actions in deliberately breaking Australian law showed disrespect not only for the country but also for the dogs, which Australia could have legally euthanised as a direct result of her actions. But in the context of the Depps' marriage, her decision to break the law is very telling. She told the jury she was scared of her husband - but would she really have shown contempt for his wishes and brought the dogs into Australia, if she was some terrified domestic abuse victim? Hardly!
It showed a staggering disregard for Depp's status and image. One could interpret her actions as an active, conscious attempt to sabotage him. He had made it clear to her he didn't want her to bring the dogs into Australia without proper paperwork - but she went ahead and did it anyway.
Johnny Depp was always by far the bigger star out of the two of them. She knew that - Hell, it's almost certainly the reason she married him, against a history of lesbian, same sex relationships. There are many examples of her hostile treatment of Depp that indicate she resented his greater fame and talent. There are also grounds to believe she was so envious, she wanted to BE Johnny Depp - even during the recent libel trial, she turned up to court wearing strikingly similar outfits to his! This trolling or 'mirroring' was noticed by many serious media commentators.
We often see this weird, envious dynamic in relationships between narcissistic abusers like Amber Heard and their chosen victim/partner, who is typically an Empath ie the opposite of a Narcissist. The abuser latches onto the Empath victim like a parasite, and enjoys all the social advantages of their close association with a more well-adjusted, generous, warm-hearted and popular person. The Narcissist is incapable of loving anyone (other than themselves), so they choose an Empath partner who absolutely DOES love, deeply and genuinely - and is socially successful and widely loved in return because of it. We saw this in all the people, friends, family and employees of 30 years, who came to court and spoke movingly of Johnny's kindness and generosity to them. All but Amber's sister stayed away from the court, and instead gave evidence by Zoom.
The special qualities the victim possesses that first attracted the abuser to them, are the same qualities they envy and resent. In the early, 'love bombing' stage of the relationship, the abuser praises and compliments the victim to win their love and loyalty. But once they have the victim hooked, the 'de-valuing' stage starts, and insults fly in which the abuser tries to destroy the victim's self-esteem. One example of the many insults Heard threw at Depp were that he was an "Old, fat, washed-up actor". At the time he was arguably the world's biggest movie star commanding up to $20 million a movie. She was a supporting actor not a headlining one, and best known for no other role than her romantic relationship with megastar Johnny Depp.
Another time on hearing that global couture house Dior were interested in hiring Depp, Heard responded "Why Dior want to do business with you? They are about class and style and you do not have style". Obvious jealousy!
Depp's reactions to Heard's multiple abuses was to be overly passive. He even supported her when the shit hit the fan over her smuggling the dogs, by making that ill-advised, parody apology video with her - which only made the insult to the country worse. That video was made 2 weeks before Depp finally called time on the 15 month marriage and told her he was ending it. It's powerful proof of how overly tolerant of her abuse he was - even when he'd had a bellyful of her verbal and physical assaults, he was so supportive of his wife he made a video backing her up ovr her abuse of Australian laws!
This strongly supports his own evidence that he was a victim of childhood abuse by his domineering and violent mother Betty-Sue. His response as a child when she geared up for a fight was to flee - and he did the same as a middle aged adult when Amber Heard flew into an abusive rage. I truly believe Heard was capable of killing him when he told her he wanted out of the marriage. In my view he's only alive today because he flew many miles away to Europe for a music tour, immediately after delivering the news. Narcissistic abusers as extreme as her often escalate their violence to murder, when the victim rejects them. We see this frequently in domestic homicide - the victim's decision to end the relationship, triggers their murder. Narcissistic abusers won't accept rejection, and won't allow the victim to leave the relationship alive - and be happy without them.
In Depp's absence, Heard could no longer physically assault him. So she did the next best thing to take her power back and hurt him - she launched divorce proceedings, and a restraining order, then got her staff to tip off the media when she went to the court with a fake bruise painted on her face (a bruise which would have faded had Depp inflicted it, since she hadn't seen him in 10 days). It was the publicity stunt that launched Heard's vendetta to ruin his image and career. And as Depp himself said, from that first big lie came all the other, escalating lies painting him as a wife beater and even a rapist.
We could very easily have been watching a murder trial, at which Amber Heard would have told exactly the same lies about Johnny Depp's supposed domestic and sexual violence to claim she killed him in self defence. Thank God he got out alive - and didn't make the mistake of getting her pregnant, so he was tied to her forever through a child. It seems likely Elon Musk is the idiot who donated sperm for her surrogate baby (perhaps her passive punching bag sister Whitney was the surrogate in question - she seems to do Amber's bidding, including her recent perjury).
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Narcissistic abusers are very smart. Amber Heard set her sights on Depp as a trophy partner who could further her acting career. He was the perfect victim for her - a mega rich and powerful movie star, who as a survivor of childhood abuse, was a major Empath. That meant when he encountered abusive, domineering women like his mother, he responded the same way he always had - with passive, non-resistance. Amber Heard will have tested his boundaries early on and discovered to her delight, he would be very easy to dominate and manipulate.
When they met Heard was in a relationship with a woman (she's a lesbian who was never into him). The relationship was marred by Heard's domestic abuse, and probably nearing its end (she spent a night in police cells for one physical assault on that woman in an airport). Depp was 14 years into his marriage to Vanessa Paradis.
Heard 'love bombed' Depp in the early stages, as narcissistic abusers do. She flattered him, slept with him and told him she loved him early on, and basically swept him off his feet. This is how they gain control over their intended victim. And once they've hooked the victim with all this good stuff and got them committed, the mask falls off and they begin the 'de-valuing stage', telling the victim they're nothing special, not good enough for them, insulting them, gas-lighting them, and in worst cases like this one, physically attacking them too.
By that time the victim is so in love with the abuser they blame themselves for the mistreatment and anger they're on the receiving end of. They are brainwashed into believing it's their fault, and they must do better to re-gain the loving, attentive partner the abuser once was. But that loving, attentive partner never existed - it was only ever an act. The abuser is the real person, and the sooner the victim realises that terrible truth and gets out, the safer they will be.
I hope Johnny Depp commits to long term psychotherapy, to address the demons that allowed him to tolerate Amber Heard's serious abuse for so long. We learned through the court case, he had allowed her sister and many of her friends to abuse his kind nature too, moving them rent-free into neighbouring penthouse apartments (that alone showed he was no abuser as Heard claimed, as abusers isolate victims from their friends & support networks, they don't invite them to live next door!)
Depp is said to have many hangers-on he thinks are friends, who he's given cash, homes and cars to, believing every hard luck story brought to him. He's naively trusted untrustworthy people to have free access to his homes. These people are parasites who have literally stolen from him - cash, jewellery, even his clothes. A few years ago this same legal team who represented him against Heard helped his sue a business manager who siphoned millions of dollars from him, without his knowledge.
It's said many of Depp's supposed friends deliberately keep him drunk and drugged to facilitate their thefts from him. Abusers come in many guises, not only partners - now he's kicked the toxic ex-wife to the kerb with this court case, I hope he'll take a long hard look at the other people in his life who benefit from his patronage, and clear out the rest of the trash.
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Yes, it's especially sad he didn't listen to his older sister Christi Dembrowski, who he's always been close to and who works for him, he generally respects her judgement. She was very worried about his relationship with Amber Heard - she could see she was mentally unstable and abusive. When he told Christi they were getting married she asked him not to rush into it. But sadly he allowed himself to be rushed by Heard - and no wonder she rushed him, she didn't want to leave time for a pre-nup!
And in the absence of a pre-nup, Heard was confident she could blackmail Depp into a massive divorce settlement when they (inevitably) split, by falsely alleging he beat her up. He walked right into that trap. Her divorce lawyers' early letters to him are blatant blackmail demands, basically saying "give our client multiple millions of dollars, plus three penthouse apartments and the top-of-the-range Range Rover she drives, and she won't go to the media with outrageous negative stories about you". And she pretends she's not a gold digger - she's the worst kind of gold digger!
Depp was stupid to get entangled with such a woman, but people who understand the cycle of narcissistic abuse recognise this doomed relationship was a textbook example. As a survivor of childhood narcissistic abuse by his mother, Depp was the perfect victim for another female narcissistic abuser to target him as an adult. Amber Heard was that narcissistic abuser. When they met, he was in a failing, 14 year marriage to Vanessa Paradis. They would almost certainly have split soon, regardless of Heard. The point is, he was ripe to fall in love with another women.
Heard was in a relationship with a woman (surprise surprise - she's a lesbian, which should have been another red flag for Johnny), and that same-sex relationship was also in trouble. Heard's violent domestic abuse was a serious issue (as we heard in court, it once landed her in police cells for a night, when she had one of her rages and hit her girlfriend in an airport). Heard saw that global superstar Depp could further her acting ambitions, and set about seducing him with flattery, sex and all the good stuff that happens when narcissistic abusers 'love bomb' their victim in the first stages of the relationship. That's how they ensnare the victim, and get power over them.
Once they've hooked the victim, their mask comes off and the abuse begins. And by that time, the victim is in love with their abuser and blames themselves for upsetting them - aided by their gas-lighting and brain washing of course. They feel if only they could keep the abuser happy, they'd go back to being the wonderful partner they were at the start of the relationship, during the 'love bombing' phase. But of course that wonderful partner never existed. The real person is the abuser, and always will be.
As a kid he would rub his mom's feet when she came home tired and bad-tempered from working as a waitress, and in the same way he'd try to placate Amber and calm her rages with love. But it never works - these abusers are a bottomless pit, and nothing the victim says or does for them is ever enough to win their love or approval.
I'm just glad Johnny Depp escaped that toxic relationship with his life, and I believe the only reason he did is he flew to Europe right after telling her the marriage was over. If he'd stayed anywhere near her after rejecting her, I'm of the view she may have literally killed him. Narcissistic abusers as extreme as her won't accept rejection. When the victim rejects them by telling them they no longer want to be with them, their violence can escalate to murder. With Johnny out of the country, an enraged Amber Heard could not physically attack him. So instead she launched divorce proceedings and took out a restraining order to support false claims he beat her up. That was how she took her power back, and was the start of her cruel vendetta against him for daring to end their marriage.
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Agreed, I think the recent libel case will help men and women recognise sinister narcissistic traits in potential partners, and escape the relationship before they get seriously hurt - or even killed.
I am glad for Johnny Depp that he stuck to his guns and sued evil Amber Heard - she was telling such horrific lies about him 5 years after their divorce, he could no longer stay silent. It was clear she intended to continue milking their historic, failed 15-month marriage indefinitely, by destroying his good name for her own self-promotion.
He could not continue to tolerate that. And in confronting her lies in this very public court case, I'm convinced he's made a valuable contribution to our understanding of domestic abuse, whatever the sex of victim and perpetrator.
It's mostly women who are victims of domestic abuse and they are almost exclusively the victims of domestic homicide. However the Depp vs Heard case has publicised the fact women can be heinous domestic abusers too. And men should follow Johnny Depp's example and not be ashamed to tell the truth about the abuse they suffered from a woman.
The rules are the same, regardless of sex. Abusers never change, and abuse only ever gets worse - if they hit you once, don't stick around to find out if they are true to their promise not to hit you again. They won't be. You have been given a sample of things to come, and if you remain with that person you may not live to tell the tale. I believe Amber Heard was capable of killing Johnny Depp, and the only reason he's alive today is that he left the US for a European tour right after telling her the relationship was over. If he had not, he may well have wound up with the large knife she gifted him (inscribed 'TILL DEATH') sticking out of his heart.
Narcissistic abusers won't accept rejection, and their violence can escalate to murder when the victim takes away their power and ends the relationship. When you hear about yet another woman murdered by a man she was in an intimate relationship with, chances are he killed her soon after she dumped him.
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100% agree! In courageously coming out as a male victim of female domestic abuse, Johnny Depp has performed a great public service in educating other victims (and potential future victims), about the M.O. of vile narcissistic abusers like Amber Heard. God bless him, he deserves an award for that IMO.
Sadly there are many more abusers out there just like her, and the cycle of narcissistic abuse is all too predictable. That's why it's crucial people are educated to recognise the red flags in an abuser's behaviour, that indicate they need to escape that relationship sooner rather than later!
You can waste many precious years being made miserable by one of these toxic, vindictive parasites - trust me, I've done the homework! After the early, romantic 'love-bombing' phase in which they are devoted and attentive, can't do enough for you, and get you hooked, the abusive 'de-valuing' stage begins, when they turn on you and start to criticise the qualities in you they used to praise.
Amber Heard knew exactly how to hurt Depp, challenging his credentials as a top movie star with insults like "Old, fat, washed-up actor" - the guy who, unlike her, commanded $20 million a movie!
Johnny Depp adores his children, so of course she knew that was another soft spot. She criticised his parenting and dismissed him as a 'Deadbeat dad'. The CONCEIT of a childless woman who didn't even get along with Depp's children (and aggressively fought with him in front of them) attacking his parenting skills, is off the frigging scale!
Amber Heard is a vile, manipulative and supremely self-serving excuse for a human being, a violent thug posing as a humanitarian, a champion of women, and most outrageously of all, as an abuse victim. What a sick joke - talk about a wolf in sheep's clothing! The Depp vs Heard trial fully exposed who Amber Heard really is - and she fully deserved to be 'outed' as an abuser and pathological liar. Today she's finished as an actor and a public figure. Her sins have come back to bite her, and all because six years after they split, she could not quit abusing her more famous and popular ex husband with heinous lies designed to destroy him!
I'm grateful to Johnny Depp for his moral courage in confronting her through the courts, and showing the world how easy it is for a decent, intelligent person to be taken in by a narcissistic abuser like her. As a victim of childhood domestic abuse at the hands of his sadistic mother, Depp was pretty much the perfect, tailor-made victim for Amber Heard. And she brought him low enough to self harm, as we heard in the heartbreaking audio recording of him after they'd split, telling her to cut him with his own knife. "She had taken everything from me, so I offered her my blood", he told the shocked court. The physical deterioration in Johnny Depp from the start to the bitter end of his relationship with Heard, should serve as a stark warning to us all of how destructive such abusers can be if you let them into your life and give them power over you. The 6-week trial must have been quite an ordeal for him.
Knowledge is power, and I believe his historic legal victory will literally save the lives of people who would otherwise have been ensnared by another male or female 'Amber Heard'. She is far from the only one - sadly, there are many more abusers out there, just like her. Be careful friends - protect your heart and soul!
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Do you find Amber Heard attractive then? I really don't see it, even when she was younger and not as haggered as now - physically and charisma-wise, she's nothing special in my view. I admire good looking, magnetic people of both sexes and readily praise where it's due. But I cannot see what Depp saw in her - she's no Grace Kelly, Ava Gardner, Marilyn Monroe or even Scarlett Johansson! Frankly it's no surprise to me she's a lesbian - it's pretty obvious. There are umpteen way better looking, more intriguing and far sexier women than her around, and he could take his pick.
The answer to why he was so drawn to toxic Amber Heard, lies not in her decidedly average physical appeal, but in her narcissistic abuser credentials. Because sadly he was drawn to her toxicity, as a survivor of childhood narcissistic abuse by his mother. The roots of such toxic relationships go deep!
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@arlettearlette9282 Agreed, I thought Amber Heard's make up at trial was quite extreme with all that light, shimmering highlighter on her cheekbones. Heavy make up like that is ageing too!
Heard has also clearly had surgical intervention at some point, with cheek implants (a cosmetic surgeon did an excellent YT video expose with 'Before' and 'After' pictures which told the story clearly).
The cheek implants were a terrible mistake. They didn't give her the beautiful, natural-looking high cheekbones of Johnny Depp (whose fine features are down to his native American blood), but instead look artificial and cast strange shadows under her eyes. That's the danger when you begin irreversible surgical adjustments to your face - it's like pulling a loose thread on a sweater, you may find that the whole damn thing comes apart!
Amber Heard is no longer the fresh-faced, pretty blonde who turned a superstar's head. She is 35 but in my view looks 10 years older and is pretty ravaged from her booze and drug habits (the hypocrisy of her crucifying Depp, when she has her own addictions!) Plus the toxic violence of her narcissistic abusive personality is emerging on her face, as a nasty character like hers always becomes visible in time.
The future looks bleak for A Turd - and she brought it all on herself. She has trashed her public image, become box office poison and effectively ended her future as a model or any kind of public 'influencer'. Many narcissistic abusers get away with their crimes, it's good to see one who finally got her comeuppance. In trying to destroy Johnny Depp with vile, malicious lies, Heard ultimately pushed the self-destruct button.
It's such sweet irony that she lost every dollar of the staggering $7 million payout she got from Depp for a 15 month, childless marriage - and has to pay him a couple more million, on top of handing that divorce settlement right back to him! All because years after they split she could not stop publicly slagging him off, to promote herself off his more famous and popular name. So as a result of her spiteful vendetta against the ex husband she'd treated like a punchbag, she wound up making no money from her divorce (cash was clearly her priority in bouncing Depp into a fast beach wedding with no pre nup agreement in place).
The British judge in Depp's failed libel trial of 2020 was fooled by her lies that she's no gold digger (perjury, anyone?), but the longer and far more thorough US trial of 6 weeks duration finally and fully nailed that lie. Amber Heard is a BLATANT gold digger of the lowest kind, who greedily pushed for millions from Depp in their divorce, pocketed all that cash, then heinously and repeatedly LIED to the media that she'd gifted it all to charity. And wasn't it fun watching her squirm on the witness stand when forced to admit her duplicity, with her dumb, "I use the terms 'Pledge' and 'Donate' interchangeably", BS! (Camille Vasquez' withering response: "I don't, Miss Heard!")
Johnny Depp has fully exposed the real Amber Heard on the world stage - a toxic, violent narcissistic abuser and pathological liar - in simple terms, a violent thug and a serial domestic abuser. Good for Johnny, his triumph is a triumph for ALL domestic abuse victims of both sexes, and was a disaster for bad lawyers and bad liars!
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@amberparker9883 Very insightful analysis of Amber Heard's sister Whitney's evidence. I thought it was truly pitiful to see her supporting her abusive older sister through perjury like that, particularly when it was obvious she did not hate her former brother-in-law Johnny Depp at all, and had no reason to.
He had always been good to her, just as he was good to his wife and everyone Amber wanted close to her (even moving them into neighbouring penthouse apartments, rent-free - the polar opposite conduct of an abuser, who seeks to isolate their victim from their support network. Johnny literally surrounded his wife with hers!)
Had Johnny Depp been the violent monster Amber and her (coached) sister claimed, her attitude towards him in her evidence would have been very different. It was clear she was not talking about a man who had tried to push her down a flight of stairs, or indeed ever been violent or abusive to her. On the contrary, Depp welcomed Whitney into his privileged world with open arms, and treated her like she was his sister too.
It is a measure of how much abusive control Amber maintains over Whitney, that she was willing to betray and defame a decent man like that under oath - particularly in view of his many kindnesses to her over the years. Shameful behaviour, and like Amber, Whitney has brought a shit-ton of bad karma onto her own head!
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Absolutely right, narcissistic abusers like Amber Heard are pathologically self-serving parasites, who will drain the life-blood from you, if you are conned by one into letting him/her into your heart.
The Depp vs Heard trial was a salutary lesson to us all, in the destructive power of narcissistic domestic abuse. Thank God Johnny finally got that cruel, gold-digging vampire off his back. I pray he'll now focus on getting healthy and kicking the addictive substances - and hangers on - who are subtracting from, not adding to, his life.
I would love to see him clean and sober, surrounded by people who genuinely love him and deserve his trust, and focusing on doing some of his best acting work, as he enters the last 10-20 years of his career.
Johnny Depp is one of the finest actors of all time, how wonderful if he were to land a fantastic role and win the Oscar that has so far eluded him. Millions of people like myself who only got to 'know' him through the recent, high-profile trial, will be rooting for him all the way.
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Amber Heard has a documented history of using her younger sister Whitney as a punchbag. It is a measure of the abusive control she continues wield over her, that Whitney was willing to betray Depp, a man who has only ever treated her with kindness, committing perjury with false allegations of violence against him that echoed her sister's lies.
Whitney knows the truth better than most people, that the violent half of that partnership was not Johnny Depp, but her vile, abusive sibling Amber Heard!
Her evidence on the stand was wholly unconvincing. It was obvious she bore no real ill will against Depp, and that he had never tried to physically assault her, as they both claimed. Whitney may be another victim of Amber Heard's abuse, but she is also a grown adult, who knows right from wrong. She deserves no sympathy, as a spineless enabler who would have happily helped ruin a good man with heinous lies. Shame on her!
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Yes - narcissistic abusers like Amber Heard are VAMPIRES who suck the very life blood, joy and spirit from you. Johnny's courageous court case will help educate other victims and would-be victims of vile abusers like Heard of both sexes, and for that we should all be grateful to him.
On audio recording, Amber Heard smugly goaded Johnny Depp to take her to court and tell the world he's a victim of female abuse. She thought she was such a skilled liar/con artist and wonderful actress (HA!), she could fool any judge and jury that HE was the abuser and she was the victim.
And after the idiot UK judge in Depp's 2020 UK libel case against the Sun newspaper outrageously swallowed her lies hook, line and sinker, Heard must have really believed she was untouchable.
Boy did Johnny call her bluff and show her, with his triumphant 2022 US defamation case! He told the world exactly how his poisonous ex-wife had abused him, producing a mountain of compelling evidence and witnesses - and the world listened, and believed him.
He spoke his truth with quiet dignity, and represented ALL victims of domestic abuse, of both sexes. He has done a power of good in publicising the ugly realities of domestic abuse and the tell-tale red flags to look out for in the M.O. of its practitioners. Knowledge is power, and I believe his honesty and courage will literally save the lives of future would-be victims of dangerous abusers like Amber Heard. Forewarned is forearmed! God bless you Johnny.
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