Comments by "Glamdolly" (@glamdolly30) on "What Gabby Petito LIED To Police About To Save Brian Laundrie From Going To Jail – Body Language" video.

Law enforcement above all should know that domestic violence victims protect their abuser! Those cops should never have taken Gabby Petito's self blame and denials of her boyfriend's abuse at face value. She was bound to react like that - it was textbook and totally predictable, and only confirmed her status as a vulnerable victim in need of their support. Yet the two bodycam perspectives reveal without question, those cops identified Gabby as the perpetrator and her abuser as the victim. They never once confronted or questioned Brian about the two independent witness reports of him assaulting her on the roadside. Detective work doesn't get worse or more incompetent than that! The police have no excuse for their victim-blaming and their duping by a soon-to-be killer. They did not meet this couple cold, they stopped the vehicle due to not one but two members of the public calling 911 on him. They knew Brian Laundrie was the villain here! Why were cops so easily taken in by the abuser's nice guy act, and so quick to accept Gabby's low estimation of herself? She was not the aggressor. She'd been worn down and gaslit, by an arch manipulator playing controlling mind-games in that confined van. Brian even admitted locking her out of the vehicle - it was clearly his sadistic punishment to deprive her of their only source of safety and shelter, when she said or did something that displeased him. That's outrageous! Yet police never picked up on the significance of it. Brian had no right to assume control of the keys and lock her out, it was her frigging van - though we note he was careful never to admit that to police! His defensive statements and body language showed he knew full well he was the guilty party and the abuser. He checked his words constantly to disguise his guilt. He said things like "I pushed her away... I know I shouldn't push her but..." and "I shut her out of the van so she'd cool down", he's presenting himself as a decent, reasonable man, dealing with an unhinged, volatile woman. It's the abuser's usual 'black is white' inversion of reality, accusing Gabby of nasty conduct and character flaws that are actually his! A classic abuser, he's incredibly sly and manipulative - and cops fell for it hook, line and sinker! Gabby was extremely distressed, Brian was not, another red flag for HIS abuse. Yet cops obsessively focused on scratches on his face - the typical marks sustained by abusive males, as the woman tries to defend herself - and interpreted them as a strike against her. Men who just murdered their partner typically have those same facial scratches, they are a red flag to the man's violence, not the woman's! Brian's facial marks were a chilling portent of his horrific murder to come. Accurately identifying red flags for male abuse is very basic stuff, and it's astonishing these officers were so shockingly ignorant of them. Worse, the second bodycam showed cops 'debriefing' together after Gabby and Brian's departure, and the lead cop concluded he could have arrested Gabby (WTF?!) but decided not to because they were so clearly a young couple in love. If that chump gets to keep his job after this total disaster, he must be sent on a full domestic abuse course to correct his shocking ignorance. He and his colleagues missed a golden opportunity to arrest a cowardly abuser, and give him a clear message his mistreatment of Gabby would not be tolerated. Instead they fell over themselves to be nice to him, repeatedly telling him "You're not in any trouble", when he damn well should have been after not one but two witness reports of him assaulting a woman! Women are overwhelmingly the main victims of domestic abuse, and domestic homicide victims are almost exclusively female. Therefore police should have known it was Gabby, not Brian, who was at risk of serious harm, and who deserved to be prioritised and supported by them. Two weeks after their brush with the law, Gabby lay dead, a homicide victim, and Brian was on the run from justice. How much worse could these bozos in uniform have called this? Gabby and all women, deserve better from law enforcement professionals!
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Brian's a coward so he won't kill himself, and he won't survive much longer without people to help him. Which makes me think there must be someone harbouring him - most likely a relative. The police have performed abominably so far, so we cannot assume they are diligently checking out any family members who might be hiding him! A neighbouring sheriff criticised cops for failing to arrest Brian for domestic abuse when the van was pulled over, and later for letting him flee his parents' house and go on the run after Gabby was reported missing. Sheriff, Grady Judd, said he would have put handcuffs on Brian for suspected domestic abuse when he pulled them over after two 911 reports of him assaulting her on the roadside. He also said when he returned from the trip in her van without her, he'd have taken him into custody and he'd have had no opportunity to escape. I hope the lousy cops in this case have to answer for their terrible judgements, which only put Gabby in a worse, more vulnerable situation, and further empowered her abuser and finally her killer Brian. Have cops brought Momma and Dadda Laundry in for questioning? If not, why not? They need to put pressure on those two, their weird behaviour to date and total disrespect for the Petito family indicates he disappeared with their full support. It also suggests he's told them he killed Gabby, and they think he has nothing to lose by fleeing justice for her murder. Get the thumbscrews on those scumbags! They are so blindly loyal to their only son, their daughter revealed today they are no longer speaking to her. That's a huge clue as to the dangerously spoiled and entitled narcissist Brian Laundry became under their over-indulgent parenting. I don't think he's smart or resourceful enough to evade police for even another week. When the rat is dragged from his hole, may justice be as swift and merciless as the violence he meted out on that beautiful and much-loved young woman.
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@BC-lo7kv Yep, the cops who pulled the van over could have helped Gabby - instead they treated her as the villain and her abuser as the victim. They sent her off to spend the night alone in the van, further isolating her - and making her more vulnerable to Brian reuniting with her next morning, totally on his terms. He's a bully, and by failing to confront him over his independently reported abuse, police in effect endorsed it. Their ignorance of domestic abuse is frightening - and the consequences for Gabby were her homicide just 2 weeks later.
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Agreed and I totally understand why Gabby's heartbroken family have started a charitable foundation for abuse victims like her - they have lost her, but desperately need some good to come from that tragedy. One of the critical changes her homicide needs to trigger is better domestic abuse training for law enforcement, so they never again mishandle an abuse situation as they totally messed this one up. It's devastating that cops squandered a golden opportunity to give this story a different outcome. I believe Gabby could be alive today if they had received proper training in domestic abuse, and taken appropriate actions that day. They were so utterly clueless about the red flags, they misidentified Gabby as the perpetrator and Brian as the victim. At the conclusion of the second bodycam after the couple have left the scene, cops de-brief together and one actually says he could have arrested Gabby but decided not to because they were obviously a couple 'in love'. He seriously thought Gabby was the villain and deserved to be locked up, and that this was a healthy relationship. How totally, outrageously wrong can you call it! Had those officers been trained to recognise the reality - a female victim and a male abuser (as previously confirmed by not one but two independent 911 witness reports) - they'd have identified and prioritised her as the victim, and come down hard on Brian as the abuser. Florida Sheriff Grady Judge has slammed his police colleagues, saying there's no question they should have arrested Brian Laundrie for domestic abuse that day. By sending Gabby off to sleep in the van alone overnight and treating Brian Laundrie with kid gloves, cops made her more isolated and vulnerable and him more entitled and empowered. Far from punishing his nasty, bullying behaviour, police in effect endorsed it and there's little doubt this fuelled the horrific and rapid escalation in his violence to homicide, just two weeks later. Lessons must be learned from this domestic crime and the police failings that preceded it. But it will take repeated, determined campaigns by victim advocates like the Petito family, before we see any meaningful change. Police attitudes and misogyny are deep rooted, and inevitably reflect the society they serve. Better training for police raising their awareness and knowledge of the typical conduct of perpetrators and victims, could have fantastic knock-on effects for the scourge of domestic abuse. How wonderful if law enforcement led the way in educating society on domestic abuse, which ends the lives of an estimated 150 women worldwide every single day. Home is not 'where the heart is' - it's the place a woman is most likely to be murdered, by a man she knows well. The late Gabby Petito, and all women, deserve so much better from the police, whose job it is to protect and serve victims - not their abusers/killers!
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Too right! This week a Florida sheriff Grady Judd said his colleagues called it all wrong and should have arrested Brian Laundrie for domestic abuse after not one but two independent 911 reports of him assaulting her. These cops called it so wrong, it makes you wonder if they had a hidden agenda - maybe they are abusive themselves?
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@RunninQHsRock And a man jumps onto the thread and makes it all about him - how predictable! Dunderhead only proved every single point I made in my original post. Thanks!
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@CrystallynRose I think you nailed it - there was clearly an innate reluctance on the part of the male officers to condemn Brian. The more I've watched this bodycam, the more obvious their wish to protect him from the consequences of his independently confirmed domestic violence becomes. To any decent person their approach is baffling - it certainly warrants further analysis. Brian was in a very strong position here - neither his victim Gabby nor the cops wanted to blow the whistle on him for his abuse! His relief at the end of the video is obvious - he totally got away with it. He must have checked into the hotel that night (on Gabby's credit card), feeling so massively entitled he was pretty much untouchable. Police refusal to confront him over his 911 witnessed domestic abuse only gave him a green light to escalate it. Two weeks later that escalation in violence reached its final, horrible conclusion - he killed her. I agree, the high rates of domestic abuse among policemen are extremely concerning. You made some very insightful points. I guess cops are also men, and as the statistics so powerfully show, sadly a cross section of men from all walks of life, cultures and classes abuse their female partner behind closed doors. There's no typical domestic abuser - the one big factor they share in common is that they are male. I think the predominantly masculine nature/demographic of law enforcement has to be significant. When men get together (or chat online), they can fast wander into 'locker room' territory from which females and their values are disrespected. Here in the UK, the recent shocking rape and murder of Sarah Everard as she walked home by a serving policeman, has uncovered ugly misogyny within the Metropolitan Police Force. The killer Wayne Couzens was exchanging misogynist chat and pictures with five police colleagues on 'Whatsapp'. When men get together the 'macho' comes out - and this can mean the disrespect, humiliation, persecution - and worse - of women. Even more shocking, is that it's come to light Couzens was reported to police at least twice for exposing his genitals to women, most recently a few days before the murder. Yet no action was taken against him - he wasn't even spoken to. Why not? Was this really an oversight as they claim - or do men protect other men, even those guilty of crimes against women? The Brian Laundrie bodycam, and the case of killer policeman Wayne Couzens, would support that view. There's every reason to believe there is institutionalised misogyny within the British police force. There is now a huge crisis of confidence in the police by women, 50% of the public. The murder of Sarah Everard has left most females feeling they cannot trust the police. If ever a case warranted a full and transparent public inquiry, it's this one, just as 20 years ago there was such an inquiry into racism in the force following Stephen Lawrence's murder by a white gang. Yet no such inquiry has been launched by a government whose priority is not females, but keeping the police on side. In 2021 racism is rightly classed a hate crime, but misogyny which kills many more people each year is not. Women and girls are always society's lowest possible priority. Abusive men have a public persona (the 'nice guy' we see Brian playing in this bodycam footage), and a private face their intimate partner knows is starkly different - and fears! Gabby's terror of Brian being sent to jail for even one night, reveals her fear of consequences from him. He isn't the passive, smiling, unassuming guy he's showing to police. In reality he's a violent, vicious, hair-trigger tempered, manipulative bully - and police should never have taken him at face value! The bodycam in this case is invaluable as an educational tool both for the public and for law enforcement around the world. It's a textbook lesson to police in how NOT to handle an abuser and his victim. I sincerely hope lessons will be learned by the police, and far better education and training given to them as a direct result of Gabby Petito's homicide. But clearly the assumptions, prejudices and misogyny that made cops mishandle this so badly, are widespread and deep-rooted within society as a whole. Femicide is a worldwide pandemic killing more women and girls than Covid. It must be prioritised globally, if the horrifying statistics are ever to improve. Clearly the way children are raised, is a critical part of the puzzle. The anti-social, over-protective conduct of Brian Laundrie's mom and dad provides some clue as to how he became so dangerously entitled and abusive that he killed his girlfriend. Parents must raise their sons to be loving and respectful boyfriends, fiances and husbands, and to treat all females with consideration.There is much to be gained across the board, from improving the lot of females. Studies have shown, when women are respected and their situation improves, there are positive knock on effects for all of society. Alas improvements in human rights are always slow progress, and in the meantime fabulous, much-loved women like Gabby Petito are being lost to the world, suffering cruel, and totally unnecessary deaths.
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@whitewabbitward Old girlfriends? That would be a very short list! If Brian hadn't had the massive good fortune that Gabby looked twice at his ugly mug, he'd be a virgin, no question. The loser has Incel written all over him!
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@tortoiseloverboy Gabby is dead and Brian is on the run from justice - yet you still claim SHE is the villain. Don't ever harbour ambitions to become a detective - you'll be horribly disappointed!
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@RunninQHsRock Lol! The Incels are obviously bored - reckon they must have punctured their inflatable girlfriends!
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@Simply_Helen Your comment about Gabby touching her throat as she recalled their fight was very insightful - the coroner has confirmed Gabby Petito was strangled. I would bet Brian Laundrie had throttled her before, but this time took it to the worst conclusion, didn't release his grip on her neck, and murdered her. Domestic violence experts have identified that if an abuser grabs at or squeezes a partner's neck, even as a supposed joke, there is a massive increase in the chances of him killing her by that method some day. A woman is never strangled without there having been several prior 'practice runs'. The advice to women is clear - if a man touches your neck like that, leave him. Stay, and you might not survive the relationship. I think Gabby was murdered on 27th August, after Brian Laundrie's restaurant meltdown at waitresses, which was witnessed by many people. It's said Gabby apologised to staff for his nasty behaviour. A narcissist like him cannot handle public embarrassment which for them is an unbearable humiliation. I think Brian was enraged about losing face in that restaurant, through his own ugly, hysterical behaviour - and when they were alone in the van later, he strangled her to death. Poor Gabby, I so wish she had escaped this toxic loser long before he decided to murder her. She deserved so much better than that hideous, spoiled mommy's boy!
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Bravo Derek! It's reassuring to see a young man calling out Brian Laundry's appalling domestic abuse. Abuse we now know escalated to Gabby Petito's homicide at his hands, just two weeks later. It breaks my heart to see that lovely young woman so distressed and desperately covering-up for that evil, manipulative shit-bag! Bizarrely, this bodycam which exposed shocking mishandling of a domestic abuse situation by police, attracted a lot of online victim-blaming. Who were the culprits calling Gabby, not Brian, the abuser? Young single males of course, who don't want to see another inadequate man-child like Brian Laundrie have his abuse called out! It's become clear Brian is some kind of 'hero' to the Incel brigade. These guys, watching the bodycam from their momma's basement, love Brian Laundrie. He's their hero! They can't believe a guy as desperately unattractive as him pulled a woman like Gabby. Not only did he pull her, he abused and gaslit her so she was totally under his control. That's a wet dream to an Incel. If fuckwit Brian can wield power over an attractive, eligible young woman, it gives them hope they might some day do the same, and ditch their inflatable girlfriend. Incels idolise peanut-head - that's why they victim-blame, and try to find excuses for his abuse in Gabby's behaviour. The scratches on his face show she was abusive, they say - when in fact such scratches are typically seen on males who abuse females. Those scratches were evidence of his abuse and her attempts to defend herself. He probably received a few more of those marks two weeks later, when he killed her. If only such idiocy were solely the work of Incels. But as this video so powerfully shows, police are guilty of victim-blaming in domestic cases too. The way cops accepted Gabby's self-blame at face value, and were totally taken in by Brian's 'nice guy' act, shows officers desperately need better training on domestic abuse. It is staggering after two independent witnesses reported Brian assaulting her that morning, they never once confronted him over those serious allegations! Nor did they prioritise Gabby's safety, as a woman. While men can be victims of domestic abuse, its victims are overwhelmingly women, and murder victims are almost exclusively female. So it was Gabby, not Brian, at potential risk of serious harm. Police should know this! Law enforcement more than anyone, should be fully aware of the statistics: Domestic violence is a global pandemic far more deadly for women than Covid! Gabby's care and safety should have been the police priority, not Brian's. Instead they sent her off alone and distraught, at the wheel of a van she'd told them she wasn't confident driving. Cops instructed her to sleep alone in the vehicle that night, telling her as an afterthought where she could get a shower. Meanwhile they chauffeured her abuser Brian to a comfortable hotel, to enjoy a night of home comforts on Gabby's credit card. Unbelievable! This is what two public spirited guys called 911 on Brian for, after seeing him slapping a woman around??? Police did everything but kiss his ass! Those cops should face serious consequences for their appalling judgement. No wonder Brian looked so smug at the end of the video. He knew the next morning his girlfriend would be more emotional than ever after a night alone in the van - and willing to reconcile with him totally on his terms. Police actions isolated Gabby, making her more vulnerable, and in effect endorsed Brian's abuse, feeding his feelings of entitlement to not only continue mistreating her but to escalate his violence. Two weeks later he killed her. To say those police officers let Gabby down is a massive understatement. They are a disgrace to their uniform, and to all the women they are paid to serve and protect. Excellent video, superb analysis - thank you!
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@supergristmill6195 You nailed it, could not have said it better. The Keystone Cops are a total disgrace.
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@Simply_Helen Spot on - that was Brian shutting the van door, and Gabby was almost certainly dead as that dash cam was recorded. It is chilling evidence. The police bodycam footage is also chilling. I'm shocked and angry at the terrible mistakes made by those officers - the most heinous of which was misidentifying Gabby as the perpetrator and her abuser (and soon to be killer), as the victim. Unbelievable!
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Rain Dog Brian Laundrie is ugly inside and out, but the darkness of his soul is his biggest issue.
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