Comments by "Glamdolly" (@glamdolly30) on "Bathtub Murder Trial | Prosecution Closing Argument" video.
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Ladies - pay close attention to how a man treats you as you move out of the early honeymoon stage, and really get to know him. Financial meanness is a huge red flag you should not ignore!
Shanti was a beautiful, successful, intelligent and much-loved woman - she was highly eligible, for many reasons. But this parasite (as her first husband rightly called Tronnes), was primarily after her money only.
Shanti was a smart woman, but she was not wise to this creep's true intentions - he didn't love her. Sadly the smartest women can miss, or wilfully ignore many red flags in a man's behaviour, because they don't want to face the disappointing reality of who that man is. Far too often women think they can/should fix everything that's wrong in a toxic relationship, and take far too much responsibility for the fact it's failing.
After one year of marriage, she was living like a squatter in a house her husband had gutted and made uninhabitable. It didn't even have a working kitchen! What's more, Tronnes owned the house outright, and never added her name to the property as co-owner. If that wasn't bad enough, he never worked a single day throughout their union - and despite having persuaded her to marry him by falsely claiming to be a multi millionaire, she was the sole breadwinner.
Shanti began to notice every time groceries had to be paid for, or a restaurant bill arrived at the table, Tronnes took a step back, and it was always her credit card that came out. Why did she tolerate that? She even switched the beneficiary of her $350k life insurance policy from her beloved only son Jackson, to Tronnes - no doubt at his persuading. Total madness!
The relationship was so bad, they clearly weren't even having sex any more, living not just in separate beds, but in separate wings of the house. Police discovered Tronnes was a member of a same sex sauna/bath house, a fact his wife was unaware of. Poor Shanti must have been desperately lonely and unhappy with this man.
The trigger for the domestic murder is only too predictable - Tronnes knew Shanti would not tolerate the miserable life he had given her for much longer. On the day he brutally beat and strangled her to death, I suspect she told him of her intention to leave him. Divorce would have meant dividing their assets, but murder would get rid of the woman he'd never loved (narcissistic abusers care only for themselves), and get him a big pay-day.
Shanti made the fatal mistake of sleeping at the wheel, and clinging to an abusive relationship long past its expiration date. She's not the first woman to make that mistake and be killed because she stayed with her abuser too long, allowing him the access and opportunity to kill her - and sadly, she won't be the last.
I am so sick of hearing of domestic murders of fabulous women, by inadequate, toxic males. Please ladies, watch and learn from these tragedies, and don't let it happen to you. Pay close attention to how your partner treats you, and how the relationship makes you feel. Are you happy and secure, do you feel loved, valued and respected? Do you laugh together, talk together, enjoy simple shared pleasures like a walk in the park or a home cooked meal? Shanti was living with a lazy fantasist, who wouldn't share his one asset with her - the marital home - and expected her to fund his lifestyle. He didn't even provide a nice home for their married life - for the last 18 months of her life she was living in a building site.
If all that weren't bad enough, it appears the marriage was celibate, despite his lie to police that they had sex on the night before her murder. Forensics proved otherwise. Shanti was getting nothing out of that marriage but misery and expense - not even sex or affection. Don't make the same mistake girls - get out without delay, and never look back. Stay too long with such a man, and you may not live to tell the tale.
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