Comments by "Glamdolly" (@glamdolly30) on "What the cameras didn't show at Depp v. Heard | COURT TV" video.
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Thank you for taking the time to write such a powerful and authentic account of this infamous domestic abuse case - and your very personal perspective and insights on the subject.
I'm so sorry to hear of your childhood suffering, due to your abusive father. As you demonstrate, being an abuse survivor can give you highly developed empathy and a radar for the silent suffering and vulnerabilities of others, which I have no doubt you possess in spades. That's why you have called this situation so accurately, and correctly identified that the real domestic abuse victim is not Amber Heard but Johnny Depp.
I believe anyone who has had the misfortune to be on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse, is likely to recognise it in Amber Heard's independently reported abusive (and in her general) behaviour.
Victimhood is a favourite assumed identity of covert narcissists. Covert narcs are the most dangerous variety of narcissist IMO, as they can be very plausible and exploit a false victim status to great effect in order to wield power over others. They are control freaks who seek to possess their intimate partner, and resent sharing them with others.
For the narcissistic Amber Heard, marrying superstar Johnny Depp was a trophy. But as a narcissist at the extreme end of the spectrum, she would/could not adapt to the limitations his VIP status inevitably put on her exclusive access to him. An obvious example of this was her rage that her physical and emotional abuses were frequently witnessed (and thwarted), by the intervention one of his security staff.
According to psychologists, a classic tactic of narcissistic abusers is to isolate the victim from their family and friends to maximum their personal control - something Heard couldn't achieve with Depp whose status required a large number of staff pretty much 24-7. Thankfully these staff afforded him some protection from her assaults, helped him to physically escape her when she was kicking off at him, and would ultimately be invaluable witnesses to his abuse by her.
As you probably know, Depp grew up with a mother who was physically and emotionally abusive to him and his 3 siblings (as the youngest, he undoubtedly suffered her wrath the most). His coping mechanism was to flee when he sensed his mother's rage building - he said her kids all knew to 'get out of the way' before something came flying at you - a fist, a kick or a flying telephone.
They were copying their father's example, as he too tried to get away whenever their mom physically assaulted him, never retaliating (Depp said he twice witnessed his dad punch a wall in frustration, breaking his hand on one occasion). This is exactly the strategy Depp used with Amber Heard, taking evasive action as her anger built - typically locking himself in the bathroom, sleeping in one of his neighbouring apartments, or if they were travelling, escaping to another hotel room that had been booked especially for that purpose.
Clearly this is not the default reaction to conflict of an abuser, but a victim. We've heard on the audio tapes that SHE secretly recorded, how verbally aggressive, belligerent and insulting she was with him at such times, knowing exactly how to inflict the worst emotional pain by calling him a lousy father to his kids, or a quote:"Fat, washed up actor". Her professional jealousy of Depp's success was frequently obvious in her verbal tirades. Again this is a narcissistic abuser's usual M.O., designed to erode the victim's confidence and self esteem, and heighten their own status.
I believe Johnny Depp's traumatic, insecure childhood helped to make him a fantastic actor, as it equipped him with heightened empathy - the hallmark of the greatest stars, as empathy lets them access the authentic emotions and reactions of the characters they play. Unfortunately however, childhood abuse has many more negative repercussions for its adult survivors, one of which can be their subconscious attraction to abusers in romantic relationships. People may not know why they go through life with a series of broken relationships behind them. They are repeating old, familiar habits - namely doomed relationships with 'bad news' people like their abusive parent/parents!
I hope when Depp has won this trial he will take some time out to see a great psychotherapist and work through the reasons he chose Amber Heard and even agreed to marry her after experiencing several serious incidents of abuse by her. At 58 he does not have a successful romantic track record behind him. As he approaches his 'golden years', it would be sad if that pattern of volatile, failed relationships were to continue.
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@GRMLS5 I don't remember her, but I can well imagine the BS she came out with, to support narcissistic psycho killer Jodi Arias. I'm British and it stuns me that the defence and prosecution in America hire 'professional witnesses' to essentially prop up their client's story and help them win.
It feels very contrived to me. I hope juries approach their evidence with caution, and bear in mind they are being paid to present a narrative brief which is clearly explained to them in advance, by the lawyers who hire them!
Dr Hughes' testimony that Depp was a domestic abuser was an utter farce. Not only had she never met him, she could support her 'conclusion' with no evidence whatsoever, beyond Amber Heard's wholly unproven and questionable claims!
As has become abundantly clear in court over the last 2 weeks, all the evidence points to Amber Heard being the violent, out-of-control abuser. She put Depp in hospital and crapped in his bed - and that's just for starters, before we discuss her physical and verbal assaults on him. Assaults she stupidly, secretly recorded, that now backfire on her, as they reveal exactly how vile and abusive she is when her mask comes off.
Dr Hughes also laughably quoted Heard's psychotherapist as some sort of 'independent, impartial' corroborating witness - when a therapist is anything but objective. Therapists are not trained to contradict their clients, but to blindly accept everything they tell them!
So Dr Hughes' testimony was blatantly biased for Amber Heard, and had zero evidentiary value, despite vilely slandering Johnny Depp as a rapist. Dr Hughes presented as an arrogant know-all with a big chip on her shoulder - and not even half as professional, insightful and generally impressive as Dr Curry, the psychologist who did Heard's damning psychiatric testing for Depp's team.
Frankly Dr Hughes' cynical character assassination on Johnny Depp utterly sickened me and I'm sure ALL decent people watching. It's more than ironic as an expert (and expensive) witness for Amber Turd, Dr Hughes ended up performing way better for Johnny Depp! 🤣🤣🤣
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