Comments by "Glamdolly" (@glamdolly30) on "The Puppetmaster – Someone They Knew with Tamron Hall" video.

  1. A magnificent woman, of whom her children can be so proud. Their father is a spineless, despicable coward, without sufficient decency or humanity to even own his crime - least of all apologise for it. You reap what you sow, and Ron will die in prison. Heather's survival as a quadriplegic is remarkable and inspiring. I'm thrilled she hung around for her loved-ones, and is doing good things in this world, publicising the scourge of domestic violence, which blights and ends the lives of so many women and children. Her story is a textbook tale, demonstrating the different stages of the 'Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse'. The way Ron and Heather met is the classic narcissists 'love bombing', that happens at the start of an abusive relationship. The narcissistic abuser pursues the victim, showers her with compliments and gifts, and persuades her to enter a committed relationship with him (through living together, or marriage and/or having children). Heather was a glamorous air stewardess, when she caught the eye of super-rich businessman and first class passenger Ron. And he made it his business to find out her phone number. She was flattered at the effort he went to to track her down, and agreed to date him - though she later admitted it was not love at first sight for her. He splashed the cash, took her on lavish vacations, and worked hard to impress her. She was hooked, and they were soon married. Once the victim is committed, the narc shows his true colours during the next, 'de-valuing stage', and his controlling, abusive ways emerge. For Heather, she said the catalyst was the birth of their first child, Ronnie Jr. That was when Ron's TRUE character emerged, and the charming mask came off - in Heather's words, he became "Scary and controlling". And the de-valuing meant his compliments turned to insults. This is the time when the narcissistic abuser exerts their power over the victim by telling them they are worthless, useless, and generally chips away relentlessly at their self esteem. Narcissists want to be in control, and what better way to achieve that, than to weaken their partner's self confidence and self belief? After the de-valuing stage - which can go on for many years - comes the narcissist's final discard. This is the rejection, and whatever form it takes, it is invariably brutal. This means a bitter split, an acrimonious divorce, or even murder. In Heather's case, Ron delivered all three - though thankfully, by a total fluke, she survived his hit man. And she got to have her day in court and see her would-be killer, the father of her three children, locked up for the rest of his life. Bravo Heather - your narcissistic abuser did you terrible harm. But you survived him, exposed his true, evil toxicity to the world, and had him locked up forevermore, so he can't hurt anyone else! An incredible true story.
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