Comments by "Glamdolly" (@glamdolly30) on "TikTok Star Faces Life Without Parole for Double Murder: Ali Abulaban Sentencing" video.

  1. Exactly! This sicko wanted to own his wife, to him she was merely a possession to be used and abused. Typical double standards of the narcissistic abuser, it's fine for him to disrespect her and have affairs, but he demands total obedience and devotion from her. A woman is at highest risk of being murdered by her abuser, when she ends or threatens to end the relationship. This removes his power at a stroke, and the worst abusers may decide to take back their power in the ultimate, twisted way, by ending her life. It's the age-old 'If I can't have you, no one else will'. How many more Anas out there right now as I type this, living miserable, frightened lives with abusers who will some day kill them? Far too many. In the UK alone, two women are killed every week by an abusive partner/ex partner. More must be done to keep women safe, and to educate men about respectful relationships (these crimes are almost exclusively male perpetrated). I believe children/teens should learn about this stuff at school, knowledge is power.
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  2. Vile, pitiful excuse for a man. Same old story - it's OK for him to cheat, disrespect his wife and do whatever the hell he likes, but he thinks he owns her, and demands total control of her. After Ana dumped the bum and blocked him on social media, he started stalking her through her friends' online accounts, and bugged her home to spy on her through an app he activated on their daughter's ipad. He was climbing the walls with frustrated rage, because she ended their romantic relationship and wanted a divorce, as she was fully entitled to do. She took away his power. Abusive males like him refuse to accept rejection, it bruises their fragile egos, and they cannot bear having losing their power over the victim. She has effectively pulled the plug on him and his abuse. The most extreme abusers will take back their power in the most barbaric way possible, by ending the victim's life. Ladies, be alert that after you end a relationship with an abuser, the chances of his violence escalating to murder multiply many times. Stay safe, get yourself to a secret address and end it by phone. Take steps to ensure you are never alone with him again, however briefly. If you must have ongoing contact due to kids, finances etc, enlist the help of third parties, family and friends, to act as go-betweens. If you have to meet face to face, choose a busy, public location where there are lots of people around, and bring supporters with you. Unfortunately Ana could not cut all contact with her abusive husband, because he was also the father of her kids. Many women have died due to access visits over children shared with their abuser. More must be done to protect women out there in Ana's situation. She and her friend should not have died at the hands of her estranged husband. Two vibrant, much-loved young people brutally executed, and a little girl left motherless, thanks to one man who refused to accept rejection, or hear the word 'No'. Rejection is one of the hardest things human beings have to deal with in life. But deal with it we must! No one owes you love or devotion, people only stick around because they want to. As we go through our first teen break ups, and suffer this uniquely painful hurt for the first time, we learn that you do get over it, life moves on, and other people and experiences lie ahead. You cannot lasso the Moon, nor can, or should you try to put chains on another human being. If a love ends, then it simply was not meant to be. Respect the other person's right to not love you, and move on, with acceptance and gratitude for what was good in that relationship., and what it taught you. We are all changed, even slightly by our relationships, make it a change for the better. Take time to be alone, reflect and get to know yourself. Don't bounce from one affair to the next, using sex like sticking plaster. There is strength and peace in solitude. He who binds to himself a joy Does the winged life destroy. He who kisses the joy as it flies Lives in eternity's sunrise. WILLIAM BLAKE
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