Comments by "" (@BasementEngineer) on "Better Bachelor"
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@EightFrancs Since I have no first hand experience in these matters, I really do not know.
From what I read, and reading msm opinions with a large dose of salt, I concluded that family law is strongly biased towards mothers, and perhaps women also.
But then, I realized as a young man that life was unfair and that I better do my darnedest to bend things in my favour.
To wit, in my long life I bought very few cars. The last two were used cars. That saved me a ton of money that I invested.
I was widowed and am now remarried.
The media was, and is, full of tales of horror regarding marriage.
Believe me when I state that I took the choosing of a lifelong mate to be a most serious business.
When I came to the conclusion that "she may be THE one", I became hyper critical in an observant way and orchestrated a number of harmless scenarios to gain deeper insight into psychological make-up of my intended.
Only then did I propose in a matter of fact manner. There were no expensive dinners, no engagement rings, nothing frivolous like that. I wanted the woman to want me for what I am.
Seemed to have worked for me twice.
BTW I met my second wife via a dating site on the internet.
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When I was widowed after 35 years of the happiest years of my life, I had to wait two years to realize that I didn't want to be alone for the rest of my life. Sooo, what to do? How does one go about meeting a mate nowadays (this was 12 years ago)? I met my first wife in a dance hall she frequented with friends. None of our friends or acquaintances turned my crank except one, but she was happily married. I contemplated looking up old girlfriends, but the one I remembered most fondly I could not locate.
Well, I'd heard of on-line dating sites. I poked around on a number of them until I found one that suited my disposition. I signed up, paid my fee, and went wild! No, not really. I thought long and hard about the information I was going to put into my biography. Especially the financial status I pondered extensively.
Since I was seriously interested in meeting someone for the long haul, I was truthful in my biography and even avoiding permitted advertising exaggerations. I also posted 3 recent pictures of myself in various surroundings.
Under the headings "must have" and "deal breakers" I was as blunt as a hammer and spelled out what I required.
The fifth woman I contacted anonymously through this site I met. I took a fancy chocolate along as a present. We agreed to meet in a coffee shop in her local shopping mall.
The tap dancing we did on that dating site, all anonymously of course, is an interesting story in itself. It certainly taught me an interesting method of interrogation. This went on for more than a month before we finally agreed to meet in that coffee shop. Our second date was to visit a new local museum. The third date probably was a short road trip.
To cut a long story short, we were married about 2 years later and have been married now for 8 years and still going strong. I must admit that the first year was a little rocky and we had to learn how to talk to each other, all over again. Why? Because each of us had a professional career, were set in our ways, and we wanted what we wanted.
After that break-in period we quickly settled down into a new and very loving marriage; much better that I had hoped in my dreams.
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