Comments by "Ellie" (@ellie698) on "Do Women Benefit From Therapy More Than Men?" video.

  1. ​ @nekemli2622  Men: let's behave like children and ignore it Women: let's behave like adults, face it and WORK through it so that we can move on past it instead of tiptoeing around it forever
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  2. She's alive isn't she. She might not be if she hadn't been in therapy. Working through trauma or difficulties can take a long long time. It's a process. I'm not saying all therapists are good. Far from it. And it's important to get a therapist that you can really work with. It can take a long time to find a good one. And once you do, it's still a long process of internal work.
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  3.  @nekemli2622  "Allowed"? "Not allowed"? By who? Says who?
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  4.  @nekemli2622  Depends on the society. There's nothing inherently wrong with men crying. We all have emotions. And we're all, men and women alike, capable of feeling the whole range of them. To stifle or favour any of them over the others becomes toxic.
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  6.  @nekemli2622  I'm not at all woke. But I dislike many of Matt Walsh's views. And especially his attitudes about male and female "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts"
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  7.  @ProfessionalCleancutguy  There are a lot of terrible therapists out there. You have to be very discerning to find one you can genuinely work with.
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  8.  @darklordsauron3415  That's not true in my experience. Having been around many men in my long life, both as partners, friends, partners of friends, family members, work colleagues etc. I have seen how many men operate. Their are several different approaches. There are those who act without thinking through the consequences of their actions it decisions then wonder why things don't work. There are those who unable to make a decision so prevaricate and ruminate rather than be able to work through options and make a decision. There are those who think they know more than they do and don't feel that they need to learn from others and their ego went let them accept that their decision making isn't the best. I've seen and worked with many men like this. The ones that I admire are the ones who take time to take stock of a situation, do their research, objectively weigh up potential and consequences then act having arrived at a workable, pragmatic and effective solution. This saves time and effort in the long run while the other strategies I've mentioned result in wasted time and resources. When it comes to emergency situations where action needs to be taken immediately I've been surrounded by men who either fall to pieces or deny that anything needs to be done, favouring a watch and wait approach. I needed to step in and get someone emergency medical care whilst the men around me were like headless chickens. I had to take control of the situation. One of my previous job roles involved me working as a troubleshooter helping teams of engineers who had been unable to achieve anything because of the different decision making styles meaning that everyone pulled in different directions. I helped teams work out how to work together, have productive discussions and reach decisions, making their team more effective moving forward. It took my outside objective perspective of where their points of contention were and helping them to see how to talk their issues through in a neutral space that helped them when they went back into their work environment. The teams began to function AS a team to get things done, not a number of headstrong individuals who didn't.
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