Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "How to date without going crazy: walking the razor's edge" video.

  1. "High hopes, and low expectations." Bad way to go. If you expect for things not to work out, your actions will align with this limiting belief, and you will inadvertently act in ways that make you less attractive. This belief enables low confidence. Its a self-fulfilling prophecy motivated by fear of rejection and pain. You should go in expecting that things will work out, and be ok if it doesn't. THAT is the mindset that is the true confidence maker. This allows you to be ok with any outcome, but with a belief of confidence in yourself. Also, being in the present moment is not about avoiding potential pain. That would actually discourage vulnerability, which allows no confidence. The present moment is about not being worried about potential pain by staying in the present moment when you are on a date, and not letting your mind wonder to the future about how your date might react to something you say, which would stop you from being yourself, which stops you from being confident. This is the true wisdom doc. This way, its not a strategy, its literally just changing your mindset of who you are as a person to a mindset of a confident person. So you can just be your natural attractive self without being strategic.
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