Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "Who has more POWER in a RELATIONSHIP: three easy ways to make the determination" video.

  1. "Behind every proposal is an ultimatum." This is a limiting belief and a projection of those beliefs. Everyone will act according to what they believe to be true, whether that belief is actually true or not. So if you think this is how life is, this is what you will do, and it is what you will attract. It limits you from the fulfilling experience of what life can really be. Overall, ultimatums are toxic, because it is an attempt to force a decision, therefore taking away a person's freedom. Its manipulative. Only one may take the lead, but both are still equals. Options don't matter either. It's not the same as getting a job or a business deal. A person with self-respect cannot be moved by another's "options", and will stick to their principles and won't be manipulated by the showing of these "options". That goes for men and women both. I can get behind your comments about competence being more attractive, but that won't cause a person with self-respect and principles to be controlled or overpowered in any way. Being less committed also has no effect on men and women with self-respect, because a self-respecting person will notice the lack of commitment and will walk away from and not settle for someone who isn't truly excited about them. So, what you say about these things can only be true IF the other person WILLINGLY gives their power away. And a person only gives their power away and allows these things when they suffer from fear and insecurity, which improperly dealt with can lead to limiting beliefs. Granted, most people are suffering from these things, but you'd basically be taking advantage of people with these things or victimizing yourself because of them. Also, everyone has the power to decide what they will and won't allow into their lives. That is true for us all. We all have the power to decide to walk away, or accept.
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