Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "The COMPLAINT of modern WOMEN: the downside of being high-value" video.

  1. You can't do anything about that. All you can do is make yourself more attractive. Not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. Get back to the man you were that she was attracted to at first. Plan dates, have fun with her, be playful, open her up with conversation showing that you care. Do not be perturbed if she doesn't respond favorably sometimes. Set goals for yourself and have things to work toward. Do not be complacent and lazy. Make sure your words ALWAYS match your actions. Make sure you keep all of your promises. Keep your household up on your own, and let your wife help as she pleases. Be consistent. Make sure your words to your wife are often upbuilding. Don't be afraid to respectfully, but firmly tell her when something is inappropriate. Take the lead and get stuff done. Don't seek her approval or commendation when you do things you know she'll like. Just take the lead. Lead by your own example. Keep your emotional center. These are all masculine traits that will cause feminine women to be attracted to you and feel safe with you. This can make things easier on her. Love in a way that allows her to feel free.
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  2. Hang out and have fun. Thats it. "Status" and money doesn't matter. Your comment is proof of that. You aren't being judged by the way. They are being honest. Honesty helps you. If they are saying you are too boring, this generally means that you aren't being fully yourself with them.
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  3. ​@Dale Redpath That's not it. His professor treated women differently than he treated people in general. He put them on a pedestal no matter what and without even knowing them. Men like this have no boundaries and get taken advantage of by women very easily. That professor had no self-respect, which is why he had no true standard or empathy across the board. He was basically selfishly following his libido, and cared for nothing else. It's a feral way to live.
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  4. ​​ @goa93  Money doesn't matter. As long as the man is masculine enough to help her stay in her feminine during personal time, things can work out. Only men who have a major insecurity within themselves will have an issue with a woman making more money. These are the ones also focusing on money constantly. There are some men out there that don't have an insecurity like that. They are just hard to find. The insecure ones just try to normalize and validate their insecurity in order to make them feel better about having that insecurity, rather than actually trying to CONQUER that insecurity born from fear. That is why superficiality becomes increasingly popular and why you got the results you got when you searched it. Its ultimately a "I'm not good enough" type of insecurity. In reality they are good enough, they just have trouble seeing it due to how they were raised or even just misled. Anyway, so the solution for you is to find a man that likes you, and can actually be happy for you in what you do no matter how much he makes and that shares your values. You just have to be patient enough to find one.
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  5. He only ever has complaints. No different than red pill people. He doesn't mention solutions, because he doesn't know any. He won't be able to find any solutions as long as he keeps thinking in such a haughty and superficial manner.
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  6. @John S. ジョン・サラ  He isn't dealing in only appearances. He is dealing in only status and money and transactions. This is superficiality. Superficiality literally cannot create true attraction. There are no true answers in this. Focusing on superficial things is also a good way to attract other superficial people like gold diggers. The haughtiness is how he just absolutely focuses on the superficiality, believes all the answers lie in that, and goes on to teach everyone this is how things work. Also, he is trying to tell women how things should be, while not taking the time to understand women and why a woman may have made the choices that she may have made. Ultimately, he leaves no room to learn anything new, because he prefers his superficial answers, and that is the opposite of humble, which is haughty. The truth tends to escape haughty ones. His biggest shortcomings were not only focusing on superficial things and equating them with high value, but also focusing on the initial two complaints that he says some women have. Thats a bad place to start, because the women that complain about that don't understand what truly attracts them, or don't care about actual attraction and focuses on superficial things like money and status just like he does. The solution is to first understand how attraction actually works if one is going to teach it, learn and apply healthy boundaries for ourselves, and learn to vet individuals so that we can find someone that actually shares our values and goals and that actually cares about us. Also, focusing on learning how to make the proper choices for ourselves, rather than telling people how they need to behave to suit us or make society better.
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  7. @John S. ジョン・サラ  It's definitely reasonable to want a woman to commit and put her full effort into the relationship like yourself. That is the only way a relationship can actually work in a healthy way. That is part of having the same values. That's where we have to learn how to vet properly. We can't go into a relationship expecting to be benefited, though. That would be transactional, and love isn't transactional. We go to relationships to give, and if we find that other person doesn't have the same mentality, then that person doesn't share our values in that way and we can move on from them. No need to change them or convince them to be different. Just accept how they are and make our choice to move on from them. This "modern woman" you speak of that won't invest in the relationship is not exclusive to modern times, and it isn't just exclusive to women. There have always been women AND men that use people and don't completely commit their all to the relationship. That selfishly take, but refuse to give. Frankly, some just don't know how to give. These men and women that go around breaking hearts and using people are low integrity people with a very different set of values than you. You cannot ever expect these type of people to all of a sudden be reformed and start behaving with maturity. That's like trying to move a mountain. You'll always be frustrated by focusing on these types of people. Switch your focus to learning how to find decent people and learning how to filter out the low integrity ones. And don't go into it expecting certain behaviors to be traded for certain things from you. That isn't loving and thats a good way to find someone that isn't loving in return. It's basically a bribe for sex. It's unattractive and genuine feelings do not work that way. Love isn't transactional. Love is giving without expectation. We just have to find someone that also understands that fact and holds that value. Granted, it's not easy to find people like that in this world, but it is possible. The doc is stuck on bargaining and transactions. He completely disregards or doesn't understand the things that spark genuine feelings, and he doesn't even consider what love actually is. He has clearly been consuming all types of misleading content.
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  8. There are no solutions in the red pill stuff. It's basically a place to seek validation for limiting beliefs. The actual solution is to become the type of people we want to attract and focus on learning how to properly vet. This makes us more attractive to those we like. Red pill enables self-fulfilling prophecies, because they tend to focus on all the personality types that they don't like and ultimately just complain.
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