Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "The three phases of relationships: the reward of success is more work" video.

"What works to maintain won't work to attract." This statement of yours defies common sense. If you attract her from the beginning with who you are, you will UNNATTRACT her by not MAINTAINING who you are. So, in other words, if you stop maintaining the person you are from the beginning in which she had attraction for, you'll obviously lose her attraction. Also, you FINALLY are understanding how masculinity and femininity create romantic attraction. It's refreshing. Now what you DON'T understand yet is that these things are due to BEHAVIOR. NOT superficiality. The more feminine a man acts, the more he loses her attraction, but that can be turned around with a BEHAVIORAL adjustment. Its that easy. Also, you've spoken out against boundaries before which is why you are wrong so often. Well part of that "negotiation" is for a man to HAVE PROPER BOUNDARIES and maintain them. This makes him attractive. This takes self-reflection and humility. When you finally eventually talk about this, I'll believe you finally FULLY know what you're talking about. Because i can really see you learning and slowly changing your mindset, and it's so nice to see it happen.
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@rayrwyr The doc doesn't understand how women work either. At least not yet. And he basically said that romance is for broke dudes, not betas, and rich guys don't need to engage in romance because they got more money and less time. That's a foolish mindset because it's not true. That's like a lame excuse to not have to put in effort in one's relationship. And making excuses to do nothing and blame the woman for the problem is the true beta mindset. Which is what Orion does a lot. Romance is required. It let's the woman know you care. And it's what most of us guys do in the beginning, and get complacent and stop doing sometimes. No one is perfect, but we need to recognize it and jump back on it if we want to maintain a good relationship and keep her turned on. Take the lead, show caring love, be interested in her and have fun with her and be humble.
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He meant that as a way of explaining that even though you have a lot more wisdom than others, random bad things in this world can still happen to you like anyone else, like death for example. We're all headed there. Solomon was noticing that having all the wisdom in the world and even attracting all the women in the world could not make you truly happy and didn't actually matter at all IF you do not fear the true God and keep his commandments, because thats where we find true happiness and fulfillment. So we remain unhappy and experience sorrow if we acquire lots of wisdom, yet still don't follow God's commandments, because following God's commandments is what ultimately matters in life. All the other stuff is just a "chasing after the wind" as Solomon puts it. And from my experience, that is absolutely the truth.
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They are not children, but similar to them in a sense that you need to TAKE THE LEAD with them just as a parent leads, but you still have to acknowledge and respect their adult agency. You don't have to keep her emotionally stimulated, but just keep being the more masculine one by taking the lead and going FIRST to take care of things around the home and being willing to help her feel heard and understood. Those simple things are enough to keep her emotionally stimulated on her own. You don't have to overcompensate for that. Spinning plates (having multiple women) is a fool's philosophy. The one's who think they have to do this just don't know what they are doing and are overcompensating in a toxic way in order to protect their hearts.
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