Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "The essence of GAME" video.

"Game" is disingenuous. It suggests you have to put on a fake personality in order to get what you want. Its manipulative and fake. He even compared it to being a conman. If this is what you have to resort to, then you are giving up your masculinity and your genuineness. If you really want to be successful, then learn to be more of your genuine self. This is an experience a person you're with won't get anywhere else. Do not be approval seeking and know your values and your boundaries, and stick to them no matter what. Know who you are so you won't be moved emotionally so easily or feel the need to control an outcome. Also, genuinely being interested in a person without wanting something in return goes extremely far.
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This is called being genuine and kind. You aren't running "game". You are literally being yourself and not needing anything from them. Just being genuinely interested in them. This is basically showing general love. Many people are not use to this and it makes them uncomfortable even though its upbuilding, which explains the people's negative reactions you get.
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@HelloWorld-cq1sq So you're talking about flirting, but knowing how to do it in a way that isn't creepy and knowing when it's appropriate to flirt, but you're still being honest with your words. Basically, being smooth. Yeah, I get that. I can see how one can call that game, but I think a more appropriate word for that is sociable. Someone who has gone out of their way to learn social skills, because thats basically what that is.
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@HelloWorld-cq1sq Good point. That does explain the heavy usage of that word.
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@allenlin7333 I've always known game to be a set of rules people go by. "Do this in order to get that." Even if what you have to do is not congruent with who you are. It's approval seeking. Your definition of game is basically my definition of being genuine. Showing one's true intent in general. Honesty.
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@psychacks I get what you're saying, but don't you think it would be better to be your full authentic self from the start in personal relationships? Not being yourself is a result of fear, and being what you think someone else wants is approval seeking behavior, which is ultimately unattractive.
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