Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "Why people SELF-SABOTAGE, or: hold me back, bro" video.

  1. We definitely can mess ourselves up when we focus on our fears. I think in that scenario though with the guy picking a fight, the self-sabotage was the fact that he started a fight, because, he could have gotten jail time and lost his job and went downhill due to that one decision to start a fight, or gotten serious injuries or possibly death. The guys holding him back was his safety net, because he didn't really want to fight deep down, but that part wasn't the sabotage. Self-sabotage comes from our own fears, and we make the things we focus on comes true. So if we focus on our fear, we will make that fear come true. The solution would be to actively change our focus to something else or something upbuilding for ourselves when we notice ourselves focusing on our fears. So if the guy starting the fight would have decided to stop focusing on how weak he feels, or how he doesn't care about anything, and changed his focus to how strong he is for making it to where he is, or how there are still things worth caring about including himself, he wouldn't have started that fight. In other words, he would be ok if he stopped focusing on his insecurities and started focusing on the truth.
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