Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "What men and women look for in sexual partners: we want different things and that's okay" video.

  1. He doesn't fully understand attraction. He mentioned how a woman pretends to have a "headache", but never stated the reason why, which means he doesn't know. You are no less valuable of a person at 40, and the man that truly likes you will notice you, because he will see you as different from other women. Initial superficial attraction is based on looks, but LIKING someone with romantic attraction is based on getting to know them, even for a man, whether they know it or not. This is not to say we shouldn't take care of our bodies, because we absolutely need to for ourselves. Its just that there is more to attraction than age and looks. Just like a woman can be attracted to a broke dude due to non-superficial reasons. Until he factually understands why this can happen, you cannot take his opinions as wisdom. He is too focused on superficiality. The truth would never be so superficial. So take heart, because you are more free than you think. You are 40, not 90. Get yourself together, be your authentic self, seek truth, be humble, strive for healthy perspectives, and keep your chin up. Don't give up, even when you feel down. It's going to be ok.
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  2. @Quincy  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This means that, where you cannot see her value, someone else absolutely will. Her age doesn't matter to someone that meets her and likes her. If your only focus for romance is on the superficial things and youth, you'll always go for the younger one and look past her, but not everyone has those same values. Those with different values will notice her. I got nothing against looksmaxx. Sounds like an awesome way to live to me. I strive to do those things, and when I meet a woman that has the same mindset, it definitely intrigues me. It'll definitely help, and she'll likely attract someone with a similar lifestyle if she does that, but there is still more to a person than that, and a man that likes her will notice that. It's possible. You say she can't have "the one", but that's really another way of saying that she must be with someone she has no romantic interest in. She'd be better off staying single if that's the case, because that defeats the whole purpose of a romantic relationship. It's also really messed up and basically an offense to the partner who is being settled for. It would be wrong. No one has to settle for what they don't want. That's a limiting belief. Although, she should never try to rush into anything, because that creates unnecessary problems. You mention the word bargain as if she'll have to bargain for what she wants like she is a business trying to profit. This is the wrong way to look at things, because relationships are not transactions. The purpose of a relationship is to give FREELY, because you want to do that out of loving or caring for someone. This might sound like a fairy tale to you, but it's actually how healthy relationships work. There is no bargain or transactions involved in genuine relationships. Granted, it's hard to find genuine people who are not trying to "profit" in a sense, so I can see why you'd feel like it's a fairy tale, but genuine people are out there. If you look at relationships as if it's a bargain, you'll likely attract someone who views relationships in the same way, and while you may get your desired bargain, you'll miss out on a true connection that way. A fairy tale would be something like the popular romantic movies of today, where the woman rejects the man, and he does something nice or brings her flowers, and suddenly she realizes she loves him. This doesn't happen in reality. Actually, that sounds like a transaction, too. THATS the true fairy tale, because life doesn't work that way. Movies and TV shows like that mislead us since childhood, and it teaches us things that don't work that we need to unlearn.
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