Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "Saying the quiet part loud: emperors must wear clothes" video.

  1. You don't have to lie and pretend doc. Thats a weak mindset. Be genuine about what you want, especially when called out. Being honest and genuine makes you 50x more attractive as a man, it keeps you from acting like an akward little boy, AND you have a much better chance of finding a woman that shares your same values. You'll speed up the process of finding a woman like that, actually.
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  2. Secretly only caring about sex is only a quiet part for YOU, because thats your worldview. Having to pretend to care isn't necessary if you have a true interest in the woman. Make no mistake, you aren't the only man out there that cares only for sex, but thats just not a healthy mindset to have. In order to believe this is normal, you have to believe that all people are just pretending to have dignity. Your problem is that, to literally quote you from this video "you've bought your own BS." That was a projection, man. You're avoiding the fact that the relationshipy stuff might just be genuine, and not a cover-up. Lots of men out there want more than sex and lots of women out there want more than resources. That's the truth, but your chosen worldview won't allow you to reconcile this. When someone says that they are giving more than they are getting, this is because the other person stopped putting forth effort in the relationship, and effort shows that a person CARES. You can't just throw resources and sex at that kind of problem. You have to actually care about the person so you can show love. Like spending time with them. That could be something as simple as planning a walk in the park together or showing more affection or doing a chore she normally would do because you see that shes tired. You might call those things transactions because that inspires her to do more for you, but if you really cared, you would do them for FREE, which means without expecting anything in return. Thats how relationships thrive. A business would fall apart if you always gave away your product for free. Thats why business and relationships are not the same. Even if you look at the effort you put in as a long term investment, this is still expecting something in return, which will make you bitter and angry when you don't see the results you were expecting, which will cause you to sabotage things further. People can generally feel when something is expected of them, whether you say it or not, and that turns them off, makes them feel bad, and makes them want to distance themselves from you. Also, you should know that the term "romantic relationship" implies a sexual relationship. It just means it's the opposite of a platonic relationship.
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