Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "Why successful men are jerks: no one wants to do the laundry" video.
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Definitely a rookie take. You basically make lame exuses for why you don't want to show vulnerability, which you need in order to be confident, which is essential for attracting a woman. This is why you still struggle. If you genuinely hate showing a woman you care, then you're most likely dating women you don't really like, or you are incredibly lazy and selfish and would rather always focus on yourself, OR you're making excuses for being rejected.
Also, its true that the woman you were on a date with said something ungrateful, but she might have just been having playful banter also. The fact that you called it "invalidating" and took it personal shows that you need a woman's validation in order to feel good about yourself. That's an insecurity that you need to do some INTROSPECTION about.
The truth is that you don't need a woman's validation, and if you knew that, you could have had some fun with it by saying something like, "ok, well lets see where this goes for now, but whats your favorite flower", or, "I'm busy enjoying the pretty flower in front of me at the moment". But instead, you make up this whole "romance is for broke people mentality", as a way to cover up your insecurity. Its an avoidant perspective and its self-sabotaging. And as a result of this perspective, you said something rude to your date.
I'm not trying to upset you. I'm just telling you the truth you need to hear, because you'll just receive validation for your avoidant outlook from most people, and you won't learn anything that way and you'll continue to have the same problems.
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