Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "How women make it difficult to love them: make it easy to get what you want" video.

  1. You described this so well. This video basically shows how the doc doesn't understand women. And instead of accepting them for who they are and trying to understand them and WHY they might do what they do and say what they say, he tries to change them by convincing them to be how he wants them to be. That's a guaranteed way to make yourself more and more frustrated, which is what motivated this venting video.
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  2. You're just hanging around the toxic places. Dr. Orion doesn't realize it, but he has a toxic belief system around romance, which attracts men with toxic and negative views that they want validated. So you are just going to the wrong places if you are looking for emotionally healthy men.
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  3. That principle goes against healthy romantic relationships. A woman wants romantic love from her man, not just any kind of love that she can also get from her child. If you encourage her to accept any kind of love from her man like she does her child, she will lose romantic attraction to her man because she begins to see him as her child, and not her man. If a woman tells you to please listen for a bit without offering solutions, that means she acknowledges you as her MAN and she is only trying to help YOU help her feel heard, understood, and safe like her man should help her feel. A good mother will NEVER ask this of her child, but instead, will actually help her child feel heard, understood, and safe, because the mother is the leader and protector of the child. You see how the design works? This is showing love. So the original comment was right. The doc just doesn't understand women yet or how to properly show a woman love as the leader of the relationship.
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  4. @IfSemper  It's ok if a woman WANTS to help her man feel like that once in a while, but not too often and if he keeps seeking those things from his woman, he would basically be painting himself as her child and making her his mother, and she would experience a loss of attraction. That's just a fact. Then she wouldn't come to you for feeling heard and understood anymore, just like she wouldn't go to her child for that. As a man, if you seek to feel heard, understood and safe, thats normal, but you are much better off going to a good friend you can trust, or your father or your actual mother, or God. Or even a therapist. Basically, just someone that knows how to actually listen.
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