Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "The trap of understanding: considerations are concessions" video.

  1. A man that shows up correctly in his relationship is going to have a woman that wants more sex than him. Changing one's behavior is good, but telling a man that he doesn't have to understand is going to lead to even less sex and probably a break up. A woman needs to be heard and understood by her man. Thats part of love, thats part of taking the lead, and thats part of masculinity. You can try to convince women they should just forget about being heard and understood all you want, but that isn't going to change them because that isn't how they are designed, and you'll only end up chasing away the woman you truly want by ignoring the issue. Sure they can always improve their behavior and self-reflect, and them being understanding too helps immensely, but so should the man. And the man MUST learn to be understanding for things to work. The men that "logically" put it solely on the woman like you mention here are the men that experience basically no sex. That's what happens when sex is your ONLY focus. Thats a problem. The men that take responsibility and seek to help their woman feel heard and understood and don't focus on sex are the ones that get more sex than they could ever even want. In other words, you're going to have to learn to show genuine love. And focusing only on sex all the time and having sex be your main end goal is not genuine love.
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  2. It's always better to try to understand people. It makes you more likable, and you have a better idea of who you are dealing with. You can listen to people's agendas and ideas, but you don't have to participate in it or agree to it.
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