Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "The two relationships: marriage does not get you love" video.

Hang out and have fun. Plan dates once a week or once every two weeks. Something small. Doesn't have to be expensive. Also, just talking. Asking her about her opinion on things or asking her what type of stuff she likes to watch on the internet. Like what type of stuff she subscribes to on youtube. Overall, just be interested in her, and let her tell you and listen without being judgemental so that she feels comfortable being herself around you. And don't force any answers out. It's ok if she doesn't feel like answering at the moment.
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So true. He basically makes up what he WISHES counts as psychology. All so that he doesn't have to actually examine his own actions and take responsibility for his decisions in life. Its avoidant behavior. Then, he uses his intelligence to over complicate it so it sounds smart and legitimate. It's like hiding the truth in a maze.
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It depends on if that person has integrity. The commitment is generally made when the feelings and connections feel strong. Sometimes, those feelings may fade a little due to complacency and imperfections. Those are the bad times, but they can always return upon making the effort. Proper commitment means the couple stays together and makes the effort toward one another in order to maintain those feelings or get them to return. Now, those who get involved in a commitment with someone they have no interest in are just doing it wrong from the beginning. There is a scripture in the bible that says, "The heart is treacherous, who can know it?". This basically means that it's not always good to follow our hearts because sometimes it can lead us to something unhealthy or something we regret. In regards to relationships, it means don't leave your partner immediately simply because the feelings are not as strong as they used to be.
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So, in other words, don't be with someone you aren't truly interested in. Also, love can fade due to our imperfections and mistakes, but having the humility to notice those things within ourselves helps to get the love back. And having the integrity to stick to your commitment, even when you feel unnattracted to them for a time, is also a part of being loving. The feelings are amazing, but love goes beyond just a feeling. Love is ultimately shown in our actions. Also, acknowledging boundaries is always important in a loving relationship. Someone that does not respect boundaries is not showing love.
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True. He has given at least two examples of how his dates went bad on this channel. He thinks he was making good points about the women, but in reality, when you listen to the stories, he was the one that messed up the dates. He definitely over analyzed their actions like you said and he refused to analyze his own actions. Thats how he keeps himself from learning to show up correctly. A person can't improve if they refuse to self-reflect on their own behavior.
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@roses6564 Well, you don't have to follow any particular religion, but the things that work as far as having a healthy relationship remain the same. Religion or not. Since forever. The 21st century and everything before and after. It hasn't changed. People doing it wrong throughout the years doesn't change that. I'm not saying an emotional connection is needed for marriage because people do that all the time, but that doesn't make it healthy. If you want to have a fulfilling relationship and you know better, you aren't going to commit yourself to someone that you have no interest in. Would you ever do that? And regarding following your heart, it's not necessarily a bad thing. It's ok. We have a heart for a reason, and we get enjoyment from following it many times. That scripture is only referring to people who love someone or something that might be bad for you. For example, if a woman feels lots of love for someone who is always abusive to her, and continues following her heart in that case and being with him, then she'll be subjecting herself to more hurt and trauma. Whereas if she resisted her heart in that case, she could free herself of all the hurt, and as a result, she could return to a healthier and happier state.
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